Oh, Charlie, you could be a sister to my kitty Pinot! You're a wonderful combination of Tabby with those caramel undertones - LOVE that (and yes I am biased). She's also skittish, but that has calmed over time. I imagine skittishness over loud noises, though, will always be with you.
In any case, sweetie, try to give a little love to your family. It would mean so much - they love you lots! You're a beautiful kitty and much deserve the COTD title! Have a SUPER day!