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    I'm almost at the end of my rope!!!! *Update 10/10/09*

    I may have to rehome Cami!

    I am running out of ideas. (major rant to follow)

    Cami has been marking around the house. I rent, I cannot have cats peeing in my house or we'll all get kicked out and no one will rent to someone with cats if the previous landlord gives a bad pet reference.

    This has been going on for a while now, pretty much since just before we lost Dusty (which will be a year ago tomorrow incidentally). Previously Cami, Jack, and Bear would pounce on and attack Dusty. Since Dusty has been gone; Jack, Bear, & Pooky now stalk and attack Cami and I'm constantly trying to protect her. I'm not sure if that is actually related to the urine marking but I wouldn't rule it out. I've done all the usual things including Feiliway. I've been following all the advice we give out to our own clients at work on this issue and still I'm hitting my head against a brick wall here.

    When this first started I didn't know who was actually doing the spraying, although I had my suspicions it was either Cami or Bear because they spray the inside of the litterboxes.

    I took in urine samples from all the cats, we gave antibiotics to the ones with signs of possible infections, and Cami was put on urinary PH food and Methioform tabs for her Ph balance.

    I have found that Cami is definately spraying (although I'm at a loss to be 100% sure she's the only one).

    I thought maybe I wasn't keeping the litterboxes clean enough so I've been cleaning the heck out of them. I thought maybe my housekeeping was slacking too much and made my house look like a potty to her so I've been cleaning the heck out of the house.

    I have a $1,300 sectional sofa that smells horrible and I may have to trash it. Mostly musty smelling from all the odor eliminators I've sprayed on it to get rid of the cat urine smell, but unfortunately for me, I didn't realize the cleaning instructions on the sofa until I'd already bought it. It says DO NOT CLEAN WITH WATER. HUH?? So I'm not sure which is ruining it more, the cat pee or the cleaning products.

    I've gotten so hyper sensitive to cat urine smells I swear my whole house smells like one giant litterbox even though honest and trusted people that come over tell me they don't smell it. I know these people would tell me if it did stink.

    Today while I was putting on my work shoes to head out the door I see Cami sniffing around in the bathroom, I knew what she was up to and hollared but she ignored me and before I could get up she marked the bathroom wall. This afternoon mom came over. I went into the kitchen to get her a drink and as I round the corner coming back Cami jumped on the sectional (same wedge piece that stinks) and sniffed. I screamed bloody murder at her but she went ahead and marked the couch before I could grab her, all while someone is sitting on the other side of the same couch!!!!! :

    I don't want to get rid of my cat, I don't want to get kicked out of my house, I don't want to have this cause me to lose all my cats, and I don't know anyone I trust to take Cami anyways (outside in my neighborhood is not a safe option) and I just can't take anymore.

    I've been under a ridiculous amount of stress in the last year, particularly since Dec. Let's see...

    Lost Dusty 1 year ago

    Had to have $700 worth of dental work done

    Got my ribs dislocated which hurt like the devil and cost $150

    Jack has megacolon, and requires medicine, special diet. We did lab work and xrays on him (I forget the cost on all that), and took him to a specialist for a consultation, that part was $120. He lost alot of weight and is still not putting it back on and has me worried. Oh and inbetween all that he got a resp. infection with a 104 degree temp that required 14 days of antibiotics, shots etc for $112.

    Got bit by a dog at work right before my vacation started, required 7 stitches and alot of needles (I HATE needles), the dr messed up taking stitches out and missed one. Had to wait for that to work out to get it pulled free, in the meantime my finger got infected. It's been about 2 months and it's still not completely healed right.

    I won't even get into the full novel of complaints I have about the enormous amount of stress at work and with my hubby to top things all off. Don't take this shorter combined complaint lightly, both are causing me to lose my mind.

    Because of all this stress I'm panic attacks, I have developed weird phobias, and Obsessive Compulsive behaviours. My dr several years back had already put me through all the major brands/types of antidepressants without any success and said he can do nothing further for me. He referred me to a specialist (read behavioural specialist) but my lousy insurance doesn't pay squat so I know there's no way I can afford that, I'm not going to bankrupt myself for sanity, and we make too much money to qualify for any type of assistance.

    Anyways I don't really know why I'm posting any of this, but I'm about to explode or have a nervous breakdown or something.
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    I really wish I knew something to tell you but I don't. I'm dealing with what I'm afraid is multiple cats marking and peeing in the house and I don't know what to do. About 30 minutes ago I cleaned up a pee puddle in the dining room. Luckily it was on the plastic carpet runner I've had to place all around the room just for that problem. It hasn't gotten as bad as what you described but any inappropriate peeing is bad, PERIOD! I'm also dealing with several of the cats picking on Scout and making her life miserable (she may be one of my peeing cats - who knows).

    I'm sure hearing me complain isn't helping you but I wanted you to know I understand and I offer my sympathy. (((HUGS)))

    One thought, have you tried Clomicalm? I tried it for Rocky and it didn't seem to work but several people here have had luck with it. Or maybe kitty prozac might be worth a try as a last resort.
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    awwwww! well first of all, you need to rest for a second.

    i think if cami is purposely (seems to be) doing this, and it's not to do with her health like a urine infection, it might just be attitude. and i know you love her, but you have to do what you have to do. and if that means re-homing her, so be it. what good would it be for you all to have to re-homed, yanno?

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    Hon - does your insurance cover ANY type of counselling? Venting here and also venting in person with someone will help.

    Some houses of worship have lay counsellors, usually the clergy - sensible ones are there to walk the walk, and not talk you into joining.

    Maybe there is a PT person who would take Cami. There have been transports done on PT before.

    I really pray the answers come through for you just as you need them - and they will. It's unfortunate - but work stress seems to hit those who are the best and do the most, and go out of their way for their job.

    I hope you can take a few days off and even go to a motel in another town for a couple of days. Doesn't have to be expensive - just a total change. Then you can come back with a clearer view of what's up and what you can do.

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    Oh dear...just try to breathe...a few deep breaths and just do that for a few minutes or so.

    I know what you mean, you sound a lot like me with OCD and being on antidepressents.

    As for the cat spraying, I'm not sure what to tell you, I've been through that just recently myself and found out I think it was using cheap cat litter because I've put several litter boxes around my house with the old stuff that I used to use and now Anika has finally stopped it (knock on wood).

    If I had a bigger place and didn't rent either I would take her.

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    Boy, I can feel the frustration and nerves as I read your post. I've been there, several of us on PT have, so I know how you feel about the peeing and not wanting to rehome Cami. As a vet asst., you probably know about Clomicalm but, in the off chance that you may not, I'll mention it. It's given to dogs for behavior problems but my vet, who has since retired, started some of my cats on it because he'd read and heard good reports of it being safe for cats. Some vets say that it takes 6-12 weeks before it starts to work but I was fortunate; it started working immediately. Before Clomicalm, I was ready to rehome Specs. That cat peed whenever and wherever he felt like it. He was an outdoor cat that I rescued and I got so mad at him one time that I tossed him out the door and yelled "You lived outside before, by God, you can do it again!" Of course, he hung around the door and cried but I didn't relent for 3 days. I tried ametryptilene, which worked for a while, but then he started peeing again. I tried buspar w/no effect whatsoever. Clomicalm started working immediately; there have been no side effects whatsoever. I give 4 of my cats 5 mg. each before bed and there have been no incidents since then. You truly are nearly at the end of your rope and I would say that, before you decide to rehome Cami, give Clomicalm a whirl. Ask your vet and see what s/he says. It's been a godsend to me and this household and I don't worry about people walking in my house and wrinkling up their noses due to the acrid urine smell. I sure hope things work out for you. I know it's maddening. I know. I do know.
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    The Clomicalm might work on the bullying behaviours of the other cats.

    HUGS and huge prayers to you...
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    Sounds like he needs to be an only cat. I'm sorry you have to rehome him, but it IS in his best interest.

    Good luck.

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    Thank you everyone for the support and suggestions.

    I have been having a very stressful time lately and her doing that right in front of me twice was just too much.

    I'm calmed down now. I cleaned up her marked spots (although couch still smells horribly musty) and scrubbed up all the sandboxes again. I think I'm gonna bring one more sandbox down in the dining room because that box seems to be everyone's favorite so it gets dirty very quickly compared to the others.

    So far since my post I've not found any other pee, and Cami has been using the sandbox. I praise her to death after I see her use it. I think she thinks I'm crazy for that, but if it works so be it.

    We're going away for the holiday weekend, and no one will be home to clean the boxes so we'll see what happens. With the added box in the dining room it might be good enough to hold her for the weekend. We free feed from many bowls through the house and have two water fountains so we don't have a pet sitter come by on long weekends. Although the cats usually over eat while we're gone because they're used to set meal times not freefeeding.

    I'll see what happens Sunday when we come home and I'll post an update then.

    Thanks again everyone, I'll keep this thread bookmarked for reference on the Calmacin stuff, we may have to give it a try.

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    Things are a bit better with the peeing outside the box, but not quite right yet.

    That weekend I didn't find any pee outside the box YAY. But we're still finding pee where it shouldn't be, just not as often as before.

    I bought some Cat Attract litter in addition to my normal litter. So far I've totally scrubbed down 2 cat boxes and completely replaced all the litter, one with the usual litter, and one with the Cat Attract.

    I will say the Cat Attract must be good stuff because I had TWO and THREE cats at a time using it, and I mean at the SAME time. Dunno how they fit in there. It's seriously more expensive litter than my usual though. Don't see how I can afford to replace all 7 boxes with that stuff, especially since they seem to prefer the two in the dining room since I moved some there.

    I'm planning on scrubbing down and changing litter on all the litterboxes in the house within the next week.

    I tried leaving the hood off the boxes but I have at least two cats that like to spray inside the cat box, practically standing on their heads to squirt as high as possible. Well needless to say they can squirt over the edge of the high sided bottom of the box so I had to put the lid back on. I do have one litterbox upstairs that is unhooded but I have to keep a piece of plexiglass and a rag behind the box to catch the spray. They don't tend to spray over that one so often, but unfortunately they don't make a box like that one anymore.

    I think we're making progress but it's still not right as I found cat pee on my stove this afternoon!

    Anyways just wanted to update everyone.

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    Thanks for the update.

    cat attract litter IS quite expensive, but I found some places offer it cheaper than others.

    Also, there is a product to add to regular UNSCENTED litter. http://www.preciouscat.com/attract-l...-your-p-7.html

    http://www.healthypets.com/catattract.html

    http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Elseys-Prec.../dp/B000IJ9MCU
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    I have no clue here.. but just thought something to add....

    have you tried litterboxes made for rabbits/ferrets.... they are built for corner and have a higher back side... that might work too....( to prevent spraying the wall while using the box)
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    This is such a familiar problem for me. I have been doing much the same with scrubbing, scrubbing, and scrubbing the boxes I have to get them as clean as possible and putting in all new litter.

    I had tried the Dr. Elsley's Senior Cat Attract litter, but it was so darn dusty, I couldn't stand it.

    What I'm using now is MIMI Crystals, which is a 4lb bag, and is about $4 from Walmart. I have those ginormous pans from PetSmart, and I put one bag in each box. I changed the entire contents of litter every 3-4 weeks. I've been finding as long as I keep the pans super clean, especially the one I have in the kitchen for Boris (my main pee-er outside the box), it's been much better. I thought I should have been buying stock in paper towels, as there had been pee on the stove and countertops at least 3-4 times a day. I was just so frustrated.

    SO, new box in kitchen. It gets totally washed down every 2-3 days, and since it is a sifter box, I can change the bottoms and let the one air out really good as well.

    Hope things will continue to improve on your front.
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    I'm glad to hear that things are starting to improve. When I tried the Cat Attract Litter, I just put some of it on top of the old litter that I was using. I also had to add 3 more litter boxes. Now I use Dr. Elsey's Precious Cat Litter For Muliple Cats and I only occasionally buy the Cat Attract Litter to put on top of it.

    Most of my cats also prefer not to have covers on their litter boxes so now I only have 2 with covers. Sometimes they will spray over them but not as often as on the ones with the covers. I've been putting the puppy training pads under the litter boxes and also in the back of them so that if they do spray over it will catch most of the pee. So far this has been working well for me. Maybe you could also tape some puppy training pads to the wall in back of the litter boxes. Good luck.
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