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    My 17-year-old son is in the hospital for depression......

    He got expelled from the residential treatment center he was in, after assaulting another youth there. We had to go pick him up last Wednesday night. He was making comments that he wished he were dead, or he wished he would fall off the face of the earth, so we took him to our counselor on Thursday. He wouldn't talk much with the counselor, but did admit that he'd made the statements to me. He also told the counselor that on a suicide risk scale of 1 to 10, with "1" being not at all and "10" being he'd already tried it, that he was probably at a "7". The counselor made some phone calls and got him admitted to the hospital yet that night. We weren't sure how long he would be there, but it looks like he will stay there until they can get him admitted to a longer-term treatment facility now. He's still extremely depressed, and they're watching him very closely. They started him on the antidepressant Effexor on Saturday. He won't talk to them much about any issues, but they said they can tell that he has a lot of anger inside and he has the potential to "explode", which is why they want him somewhere that he can be monitored 24 hours a day for now. He won't be able to come home for Christmas. He won't be able to come home at all now for awhile. He will probably be made a ward of the State at some point, due to the assault charges and the violation of probation associated with that. We know he is safe, and he is where he needs to be, but it is very difficult to go through all of this. Please keep him in your prayers, that God will put the right people in his path to steer him in a more positive direction in his life!

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    wow- you are in my prayers.
    I do not know why this type of thing happens with kids of this age. I do not understand where this anger comes from with normal parents. All I can say is be there for him, and let them try to help him with the medications etc. It's like at some point this switch comes on, and things change. I have a dear friend that has a similar problem with her son out of no where. Advanced in school and it changed in a year. Drugs had something to do with it, but no one knows.
    I will keep you and him in prayers as well as the family. It sounds like he is getting the help he needs.

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    My 17-year-old son is in the hospital for depression....

    I am so sorry & saddened for you & your family.. You are for sure in My Thoughts & Prayers..

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    Soapets,

    I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I've suffered from depression for years and it finally came to a head in September. I checked myself into the hospital and they changed my meds. It was the best move I ever made.

    Your son is in the right place. Hopefully they will help him get better through counseling and meds.

    You, your son and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers honey.

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    Quote Originally Posted by moosmom
    Soapets,

    I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I've suffered from depression for years and it finally came to a head in September. I checked myself into the hospital and they changed my meds. It was the best move I ever made.

    Your son is in the right place. Hopefully they will help him get better through counseling and meds.

    You, your son and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers honey.

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    Deb, I am so sorry to hear that Alex has taken another turn. The last update you gave me, it sounded like he was doing better.

    He is still young and how I pray that this time, being closely monitered and being put on new medication, will help him 100%.
    I can't even imagine what it must be like for you and your hubby to go through this. To see your son go through this. I pray that the both of you stay strong and continue with the "Tough Love" as I have heard it does help in the end. I also pray that the New Year will have a big turn around for everyone in the family and all this turmoil will be in the past.

    You, your hubby and Alex will be in my prayers.

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    Oh Deb I am soooo sorry. I know if love and devotion have anything to do with it your son will be put on the right track to getting his life back in no time. But I also know this is not a quick fix situation. Just be there for him. Tell him you love him often and that you will stand beside him. Tell him he always in your thoughts and if you could snap your fingers and make him feel good again you would do it. Just let him know in everyway possible you are there and are not going anywhere and will never give up on him. I know support is importand even when they don't see it. If you even need someone to talk to PM me ok.



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    Oh Deb, my heart aches along with yours! There is just so much pain and sadness in our world today, and so much pressure on our young adults. I just don't know where this world is heading.

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    Sorry to hear that.

    I think I can understand why he wouldn't want to talk to them though.
    My parents wanted to do the same thing but I said I would refuse to talk to them , I'm not going to spit out all my problems to some stranger who is just going to tell me what I already know.

    I hope he starts to get better though.
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    I'm so sorry your son is having such a diffuclt time. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayres. (((HUGS)))

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    You and your son are in my prayers.
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    Thanks so much for all your words of comfort, and prayers.

    Yes, Mugsy, there is a chance that he is bipolar. He also has ADHD, and has been on Adderall XR for that for awhile. He is on Depakote for possible bipolar mood swings---has been on that for a few years now. He had told his doctor in November that he was feeling more depressed, and his Depakote dose had been increased then. He has been on antidepressants before, with good effect, but that was stopped once he had been on the Depakote for awhile.

    He was on the honor roll in school the first quarter. After Thanksgiving he just stopped doing his school work, and his grades slipped, and he was extremely depressed, and nothing would motivate him. Things just kept getting worse. He hasn't been on any illegal drugs, because they test him for that routinely since he's on probation.

    I have been on antidepressants for years, so was able to recognize the symptoms and the seriousness of his words and expression and mood, etc. We know he is safe where he is, and he is being evaluated, and his medications are being monitored closely, and the people who are monitoring him are aware of all of the symptoms of various other disorders that he may have. They called me today and want to try the medication Seroquel, because he's been having problems getting to sleep at night. I told them he has ALWAYS had a problem getting to sleep at night, and that I am willing to let them try the Seroquel and monitor it's effects, etc.

    He still won't talk to me, and he's been there since Thursday night. But I told him before we took him there that it's OK if he gets angry with us for it. At least we know he's safe and being monitored. He did admit in a group session that he takes his anger out on me by trying to hurt me emotionally by not talking to me.

    My husband went to visit him yesterday, and he did talk to him a little bit. He wouldn't look him in the eye, though. My husband asked him how he was feeling re. the suicidal thoughts, and my son said that had been worse again yesterday after learning that he won't be allowed to come home any time soon.

    My husband and I have a lot of mixed thoughts and feelings associated with all of this. We have had to use "tough love" a lot with our son, because of the trouble he's been in. We keep telling him we love him and we will help him through it, but we won't bail him out of it. He'll have to do a lot of work on his own, but we'll be supportive of his efforts, all the way.

    I guess that's about all for now. Thanks again for your prayers, and please keep them coming, especially for my son, Alex. He needs them more than ever right now.............
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    Hope he'll do well,

    Yeah I say I'll kill my self to my parents & I wish I was dead but of course I never realy mean it, life can be so darn stupid sometimes .. it's ok to get mad as long as you don't realy think about suicide for real, maybe get him involved with something he like's ... like photography make's me feel so good inside, I just love seeing all the photo's I take of life after I load em up on the Pc.

    There's way too much presure in High school, that's another reason why I left the stupid place, are kids doing drugs there? sometimes even tho your not doing drugs & stupid things, seeing others do it can me hard .. you want to be bad sometimes but you know in your heart you have to be good & sometimes you'll just hate it .. but in the end .. you'll be thankfull.

    Hope your son finds some peace in his life ( In a different kinda way).

    Oh ya, I'll say a prayer for him.

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    Deb, I'm sorry to hear this. I also suffer from depression, though the doctors do not know what to diagnose me as since I have so many different problems (borderline personality is most likely in my case). I have been through almost everything (meds, hospitals, counselling, psychotic episodes, being suicidal, etc), and learnt to understand it and accept it, so if you need to talk to anyone or need to understand anything better, I will always be there for you.

    A product that I recently started is called Truehope EMPower Plus . It's alternative, but the research results are quite amazing as well as the success stories. I am on the message board on their website and alot of people have vastly improved since starting it. The website also has your own information, charts, etc.

    I was on Effexor XR for 10 months and I do not recommend it. Effexor withdrawal acts quickly and is horrible to experience. Coming off my meds was excruciating -- I stopped taking Effexor in September and I still have the "brain shivers" associated with Effexor withdrawal -- I will have them for life.

    Good luck with everything, I'm here if you need to talk! My worst year was last year, when I was 18. Those last few years of teenagehood can be tough.
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