about cokatials being shy about being held
i think its because it could be needing to be used to it and it will not be shy :rolleyes:
Spike may or may not be a Spikette!
All cockatiels look the same until they go through their first molt. Any reputable breeder will not even guess as to the sex of a tiel until the molt. So, if you have a baby, you can't be sure of the sex. The only way to find out is to either 1) call the place where Spike was purchased; or 2)Wait for Spike to molt.
Fruits and veggies may take dozens of exposures before your tiel will even try them. One of my birds' favorites is the tops of carrots. They love them!
A lot of nervous behavior at first is very normal. Spike is getting used to a new house with new sounds and smells, and new people, too. Give him/her time to adjust.
The only way to get a tiel to enjoy handling is by handling them. Don't be too forceful, but try to spend as much time with Spike as possible. At first you may want to spend time with Spike just near her cage, then putting your hand in, then taking Spike out.
Keep us updated with pictures and let us know how the two of you are doing!