What's the one thing, you can't accept in a person....

.....No matter how nice they are? besides abuse/neglect to pets. I assume we all can't accept that, Right?

Those things that once you find out or see in a person, that after that you just can't look at them the same way again, no matter how good the rest of them is.

Example, we when out to dinner with another couple the other night and up in till then I really liked the girlfriend. Till, she did one of those things that I just can't get over.

People at another table had some children and one was crying about something. So this woman says to her, "Why don't you keep those things of yours locked up at home" :eek:

I can understand people not liking children and that the crying was getting on her nerves....but to say that, to the parents. Even if she had said something more like, "We are trying to enjoy our dinner here, maybe you could take him outside till he calms down" That I can deal will.............but to call them "things" and say they should be locked up!!!

I now can't look at this person the same way, no matter how nice I though she was before.

So is there anything like this for the rest of you, that you just can't over look and it effects your views on that person? Or am I just not normal and to much of a "B"? :D

My mom said on several different occasions with me in the roomand she knew I was, "I think she should just drop them off at a shelter while Lisa is at work, they are too much for her right now" about my aunt's cats who she loves only slightly less than her own children, who she would do anything for. (who are all staying at my grandma's house(she))
After this, I have honestly not ever been able to look at my own mother the same way again.

I guess that is the one thing you wouldn't like in me ;) I don't hate children but they do get annoying :p

One thing I cannot stand in a person is dishonesty. I like people to be truthful.

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Originally posted by luvofallhorses
I guess that is the one thing you wouldn't like in me ;) I don't hate children but they do get annoying :p .

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That's not true. It not if someone likes children or not, it was her lack of respect and tact to those parents that I had the problem with.

Just as if we wouldn't want someone to tell us to lock our "THING" of a pet up, because they don't like them. The same should be true of people's children.

And BTW: I love children, but they do get annoying to me too and I do wish a lot of time, some parents would take a little bit more control of them when they are in public.

Yeah, true. :)

I don't care for anyone who thinks they are better than someone else! ;)

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Originally posted by chocolatepuppy
I don't care for anyone who thinks they are better than someone else! ;)

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same here

Thats the one thing that bothers me real bad too.

People that think they are better than anyone else. Noone is better than anyone. Everyone should be treated equal.

If you're reading this, I sent you a pm about tomorrow. I'd about forgotten to contact you.

I have two. Ignorance and lying.

If there not honest I can not take being around them.

One thing I can't accept in a person is when they cheat on their husband/wife. All I can think is that person is so selfish and how does the spouse left behind feel? The marriage bond is so important, family is so important, and how can you break it for something so selfish?

I cannot tolerate racism or homophobia. Well, basically intolerance and ignorance of any kind.

People who feel it's necessary to talk down to other people to try to get their point across. Once they do that, they lose all my respect.

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Originally posted by Twisterdog
I cannot tolerate racism or homophobia. Well, basically intolerance and ignorance of any kind.

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AMEN. I agree with all of you guys, but in particular, I do not appreciate it when parents set a horrible example for their children in public (especially through loudness, rudeness, cursing -loudly- in public, showing disrespect in general). I also have to agree with PJ's Mom. People who talk down their debate "opponent" obviously have little to no tactic and don't deserve access to healthy debates/forums.

ignorance or an unwillingness to at least try to accept, understand, or learn something new (ie another person's point of view or different lifestyle), stereotyping (racism, breedism, homophobia, etc), dishonesty, and complete tactlessness.

Stereotyping and everthing in the parentheses following it are basically all included in the ignorance part, because that's pretty much what it is, in my opinion, those are almost all deal breakers for me. Dishonesty and tactlessness are more just things where I may still hang out with a person, but, will never fully trust them or really consider them a friend. I cannot consider someone a friend who has no control over the things they say to someone else, even if the other person is in the wrong. There are ways of being honest and blunt without being downright ugly. (like the girl in the first post said, I've gotten up and left a restaurant because someone has said something like that in public).

Racism here too... How anyone in they're right mind can think they're better than anyone else due to the colour of their skin is beoynd me...

Nor do I approve of homophobia, but I know that a lot of people can't accept homosexuals due to their religion, so I have to take homophobics with a pinch of salt.

People who pick they're nose in public! I can't stand it! It's the most vile thing ever!

As for the girl who commented on the children... That's what I would THINK, but never say out loud! I know how annoying children can be, but as the couple with the child, obviously loved their kid (loved it enough to bring it into the world, anyway! ;) ), it would not be up to me to tell them how to handle it. I do not approve of screaming children in a restaurant, but I belive in peoples right to take their screaming children into a restaurant! Ergo, if the kiddy-wink was annoying me that much, I'd either ask to change table, or call it a night!

Sylvie, KS' mom

I don't know about one thing, but these are a couple things I can not stand in people...
backstabing
lying

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Originally posted by King Spartacus
As for the girl who commented on the children... That's what I would THINK, but never say out loud!

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Exactly. I may have even asked the waiter to say something to the manager or something, depending on the restaurant. I mean, if it's a denny's or something, oh, well. ;) But, if it's a nice restaurant where I'm spending $30 or more on food, I wouldn't return there if the manager didn't at least make an obvious attempt at controlling the atmosphere within their walls.

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Originally posted by anna_66
I don't know about one thing, but these are a couple things I can not stand in people...
backstabing
lying

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I agree 100%.:) Once you catch someone lying, they can
never again be fully trusted to tell the truth about anything.
Back stabing is also a form of dishonesty & is a deal breaker
for me too. I can't understand people with these traits and I
stay far away from them.

Fox-Gal good idea for a thread! I think if I only have one choice, lying would be what I would say too. There are many reasons why people lie and some of those reasons really irritate me to (cheating on a spouse, as Cookiebaker said, is all about lies.) So many things spring off from lies. I also can't stand to be around boastful people or fake people. I also can't stand to be around people who have had too much to drink or people who use foul language. But all in all, it is lying. If I catch someone in a lie I can never trust them again. :(

I can't tolerate lots that have been mentioned... especially lying! Tell me the truth and I'll deal with it, whatever it is. Tell me a lie... and when I find out the truth, its ten times the trouble it'd have been if the truth was told first. And the funny things about lies... they always are exposed sooner or later.

The second thing: Rude cigarette smokers. All of my friends who smoke are very polite about it - they know I am allergic and it sends my brain into orbit, so they either smoke in their own cars & homes or not at all. Then they mask their breath by popping a mint. They are very aware how their smoking affects everyone else. Even if we're outside, they know their smoke will eventually blow onto someone just like myself and they refrain form smoking until they know it won't affect others. As my SIL say "Hey, why should others pay the price of MY addiction?"

Once, I was eating dinner at TGIFridays. It was bad enough that my "non-smoking" table was right next to the bar, separated by a little wooden half wall, but some idiot in the bar thought he was funny and kept purposefully poking his head up over the divider and blowing smoke into the non-smoking booths. Oh yeah, dude you were soooo cool :rolleyes:

I love when I'm out and meet new people who are polite smokers. They won't know how I am about smoking, and they'll ask if I mind. I almost want to kiss them! I politely tell them I am allergic and they understand, they tell me thats why they asked.

I read this thread yesterday and was having a hard time coming up with something. There's quite a few things that I don't like in a person, but a lot of the time i'll overlook them if I consider someone a friend, which has now changed because it's gotten me nothing but heartache in the past.

Backstabbing is something I won't put up with.
While most of the time i'm really trusting towards a majority of people, the second that trust is broken it's really hard for me to ever trust them again.

Another thing is fake people. I don't like when people pretend to be something when they're not. Don't pretend to be friendly towards me if you don't really feel that way. I can sense things like that from people. There's only a few, and I guess that's why I'm not really friends with those people.

The one thing I will NOT tolerate in a person is lying. Once they lie, you can never trust them again.

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Originally posted by Kfamr
Don't pretend to be friendly towards me if you don't really feel that way. I can sense things like that from people.

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I know exactly what you mean. I'd rather have someone just tell me they don't like me. It's all about chemistry, when someone says they don't like me, I don't even ask why anymore. It's just not important! But, I'm the same way, I usually sense it even if they don't say it, and, tend to steer clear of those folks. ;)

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Originally posted by Kfamr
Another thing is fake people. I don't like when people pretend to be something when they're not. Don't pretend to be friendly towards me if you don't really feel that way. I can sense things like that from people. There's only a few, and I guess that's why I'm not really friends with those people.

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BOY do I agree with you on that one. I can tell from a mile away. It bothers me so much when people are fake.

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Originally posted by catnapper
The second thing: Rude cigarette smokers.

Once, I was eating dinner at TGIFridays. It was bad enough that my "non-smoking" table was right next to the bar, separated by a little wooden half wall, but some idiot in the bar thought he was funny and kept purposefully poking his head up over the divider and blowing smoke into the non-smoking booths. Oh yeah, dude you were soooo cool :rolleyes:

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I had a friend like that, who thought that it was his "right" to smoke and if someone didn't like it....to bad! :rolleyes: We fought about that till I was blue in the face, but he was a jerk about it. Our friendship slowly can to an end, not as much over the smoking thing, sence I smoked too.

But because anyone who thinks their rights/needs out weighs another person, I can't deal with. I smoke, but I have enough respect for those that don't, to not do it around them. They too have rights and my don't out weigh theirs.

So I guess that's another one of my things. Respect :D

Don't be fake and don't think you are superior to anyone else .

If you cannot say something nice, rather keep your mouth shut!!!

Good Thread!!!
I agree with everyone else too tho .....:D

I can't stand or accept people being cocky and overconfident about themselves in life.

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Originally posted by lizbud
I agree 100%.:) Once you catch someone lying, they can
never again be fully trusted to tell the truth about anything.
Back stabing is also a form of dishonesty & is a deal breaker
for me too. I can't understand people with these traits and I
stay far away from them.

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Agreed 100 % too!!

I also cannot stand people with 2 faces: they are friendly and nice to you; but once you turned your back, they say bad things about you.... :mad:

In fact I also have problems withy people who never say "hi" to anyone. They walk through life with eye-clips on !!