HELP!! I am having problem to integrate my new cat with my 3 other cats

Hi,

I have 3 cats

1. Male / 12 years old
2. Female 1 year
3. Female 1 year

They are doing great together, playing and all... :-)
but I adopted a new cat 2 weeks ago ( male/1 year/operated)
This male is very gentil and gave us alot of affection, ect. but the first day I present it to the 3 other cats... ohhh my he started to go attacked right away and charge on everyone. I was freaking... so the first attempt was a disaster. For 2 weeks I kept him in a separate room, with toys, and everything... and every day I kept trying to integrate him in the big family. He doesn't stop charging at them and I don't know what to do know... please help.


I need everyone tips on this...

It's good that you have been keeping them separated.
However, to some degree I think they all need to work their own stuff out. Cats usually will do that in their own way, and their own time. :p

I found it helpful when I did this to pay a lot of extra attention to my older, established kitty(s).
If the new kitty is more the aggressor, then maybe he just needs to find out where his position is in the household, and I am sure your other kittys will let him know!
It may be that he is going to be the 'top cat'.........is there another cat that is challenging this?

Now that you have had them all separated for awhile, maybe it's time to let them be together and work it out (assuming it does not get too rough).

Actually he is very dominating around other cats... he instantly run after them... all the 3 of them fear him :-(

I tried one time to let it alone with one of them and he got in a rought fight with him ( no one got hurt at last :-) ). Maybe it will take more time?? :confused:

I just never experienced that kind of temper from a cat. When I first introduce my 2 youngs cats 2 the old one. It took like only 2 days and they almost start to play together but this new male... ackk he is very domininating.

I appreciate all your help :-)

thank you

What is the background of this male kitty? It sounds like he is very unsure of other cats. He is attacking ALL of your 3 cats? You said that he is very loving toward you. He may very well be afraid of your cats. I agree that some cats would be better as only cats. This could possibly be one but I would still try the seperation. He may need a little longer to adjust. After all, He has 2 young females to contend with :rolleyes: How are your other 3 kitties reacting to him?

When I adoped him, he's files says that he lived with 3 other cats and a dog.

My 2 younger females are very scared (one run and the other one is on protective mode but still ready to run). The older Male (12 years old) look at him for a moment but he is very old and prefare to run i guess. It looks like they smell big danger around him. :-(

Every day I put the new cat in a small cat cage and integrate him with the others (for couple of hours) so they could get used to him.

thank you
:-)

PS: Sorry for my mispell, i'm french :-(

I went through this problem just 2 weeks ago - although it wasn't quite as serious as your situation. I brought home a 4-month old stray female kitten that showed up at the school where I worked - I have two 2-year-old cats (male and female.) The problem was with the kitten - she would growl and hiss every time she saw Trixie and Bo. Apparently she had had problems with other cats when she was on her own. My two cats were, for the most part, just curious about the newcomer but would also growl when provoked.

During the first several days of introduction, Jazz (the kitten) was kept in a pet carrier while "out in public" and not in her separate room. Of course, there was a lot of growling going on but she couldn't actually get to Trixie and Bo or vice versa so I didn't have to worry about physical attacks. Then, for several evenings, I would allow Jazz out on her own and everytime she growled, she was sprayed with the water bottle. She cut down on the growling quickly because she didn't like the water, plus she found out that Bo and Trixie were not going to pick on her. Since she wasn't growling, the other cats didn't respond with growls either and life has calmed down considerably around my house.

Everyone is now happy again - well, Trixie and Bo both probably wish that annoying little bundle of energy would just go away and stop attacking their tails, but everything seems to be working out. Good luck with your growing family!!

Well Actually, the only thing I'm gonna do is be patient and wait maybe 1 or 2 weeks and when I will feel it's ready, I'll let him free with me near him to see what's he's reaction.

thankx everyone

I'll let you know what happen :-)

a+

Some cats just dominate over others. Just because they are cats, it doesnt mean they HAVE to get along. :rolleyes: He sounds like a 'toufh' cat, the others maybe just dont want to accept him for who he is. I had a female non spayed that didnt get along with a neutered male, there really was no friendship between them, i tried and tried to make them get along by putting them together but nothing changed. they just didnt like eachother. I got the female spayed, still no change. that ends my point.

HOPE THIS WILL HELP

céline

Quite a few years ago I brought home a stray cat ( 1 yr. old) and she and my 5 yr. old male hated each other.
They never did really "work it out", but did manage after some time to co-exist with their cat rules for each other.
The little female could not go in the living-room, and only in the bedroom with us at night after everyone was asleep. My boy had the run of the house. That was how THEY worked it out between the 2 of them.
It was okay but not ideal. We had a good sized house and they had access to the outdoors, so it was a situation that worked out well enough.

Not all cats are going to be buddies, but (most) of the time they will find a happy medium if left to their own to do so.
I don't mean to just throw them together- a gradual intro is best, but it sounds like you have already done that to some degree.
At some point they need to figure it out for themselves...........as long as no body gets too rough.

Edgardsilver,

Hi there. We got our now 8 month old a 3 month old friend in November. The new kitty was really dominate and hated Noah. It took 2 weeks to get them to tolerate each other so we could let them out in the house during the day alone. It just takes time, and lots of love to the resident kitties. You kitties may also need a "safe zone". Maybe have a place where the resident kitties are allowed only?


Good luck, tell us how it all works out.

What are the names of your kitties?

I agree with Noahsmommy-It took us that long for our two kitties to adjust too. Yum Yum was about 4 or 5 months old maybe older when we got Dutchess who is 5 years old. Dutchess would always his and sometimes still does when Yum Yum would be near other cats especially when she goes to the vets.
Good luck, and just remember that it will take time! :)

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It has been 4 months since we rescued Debra (about 1 year old), and Lily (about 15 years old) STILL will not be civil toward her . . . she doesn't seek Debra out, but if she catches sight of her she will hiss, growl and sometimes chase sweet Debra, who only wants to be friends and have a playmate.:( Luckily for Debra, Lily is in dreamland most of the time, so Debra goes about her merry way without being hassled . . . when Lily makes her rounds, Debra "hides" and Lily will walk right past her . . . it is sad for Lily, but funny at the same time . . . :p

Sorry, I forgot to mention my cats name:

- Xena (1 year old - Female)
- FIFI (1 year old - Female)
- BIBI (12 years old - Male)
- Pistache (1 year old - Male) <--- New one :-)

Are Xena, FIFI and BIBI operated (neutered/spayed)?

Yes they are

I just stumbled upon this discussion that's a year old now - but if you're still here - how did it work out?

Katti, welcome to pet talk, there are many great people here.

Of my 11 furkids that live inside with me, none of them fight nor do they attack each other. I have found a way to determine how well they will get along with other non-related furkids.

When I went to the shelter last Friday (Jan 31st), I had in mind to get a little black kitty that showed an interest in coming home with me. After I picked him up from his cage and began to walk next to the other cats in their cages, I felt him growl and hiss at them. It was then that I knew that he would have a difficult time integrating into my pride. So, I also remember holding a somewhat reticent kitty that previous Monday. When I identified him among the other 5, he passed the same test. This is the one that I adopeted.:) When I brought him home the others did not attempt to attack him, nor did he hiss and growl at them. Although I have 3 furkids who do not readily accept another pet into the pride, they still did not attack him. Now, he plays, sleeps, and is beginning to eat, with the others. It has been less that 5 days for them to accept him.:)

......wayne

Wayne, this post is over a year old. I suspect the author of the topic did not stick around. It is a good topic though, and maybe should be a permanent topic! :)

Wonder how this poor guy worked out? Sounds like a rehomer to me!

:eek:

SAS Vt. After I posted, it was noticed that the thread was dated last year!:rolleyes: So, it is conceiveable that someone would answer it, not realizing its age. How often do any of us check the year of a post, but rather only the day and month? If you check the member's list, there are myriads of folks who posted once to, maybe, 5 times and then left. I'd say about 20% of them actually stick around long enough for us to get to know them.

If they do not return, as you pointed out, that the problem has either corrected itself or has been taken care of. I wish some more of them would stay around longer, however. I am thinking that most of the Pet Talkers are not kids, but have families of their own,and/or are retired. If you scan many of the other cat message boards, many of them are frequented by kids -under 18 years of age. I suspect that some of them find the predominant age group here not to their liking. Those that do become part of our Pet Talk family, are certainly welcomed.

Perhaps we could start anoter thread-forum named "new cat integration problems" or some such title.

........wayne

I also am having difficulty integrating my newest cat into my cat family. My husband and I lost our only cat, Genevieve, to intestinal cancer in April 2000. We thought we'd wait til the end of summer to adopt another cat, since Genevieve's medicines had had to be given to her twice a day for the past year, so we couldn't ever leave home. Of course, we got so durn lonesome that this plan went by the boards before a month was up. We adopted three Siamese Crosses from local rescue organizations within the next two months and they blended without a hiss or a swat! We thought we were pretty amazing at this, but boy, we have found out differently since then. I took in a seven-year- old Siamese boycat, Mau, this past August as a foster, but fell in love with him and adopted him too. He is a very large cat who doesn't have a dominant personality, but who doesn't allow himself to be bullied either. The problem is my girlcat, Dinah Lee, who at first had a bit of a crush on him, but now wants to kill him and drink his blood. We keep him segregated during the day, except that we allow the two boys in to visit when we are there to supervise. Dinah lies in wait outside his room and if she can sneak in, she'll attack him on sight. Mau will retreat until he finds a good defensive position, then will growl and hiss menacingly until she backs off (he's twice her size). I have put Dinah into a cat carrier and brought her into Mau's room a couple of times. She sits quietly, but Mau hisses at her from across the room whenever she looks at him. At first, Mau seemed very rattled by Dinah's attacks, but it seems now like he finds them exhilarating! Is this a good sign? Is there hope? Please, any advice would be appreciated!

Sorry I can't help with the integrating problem, Kittykay, but I just wanted to say what beautiful kitties you have! They all look so soft and plush. And even plushier for Mau. ;) :D Seems they have the meezer coloring but not the small bone structure of a Siamese. They are beautiful and look utterly spoiled and pampered. And I really wish I could reach in and give that Mau a nice big tummy rub! ;) :D

Thank you for your compliments on my four bubelas. They are our joys. They're all Siamese crosses--evidently the coloration and personality transferred, but not the body structure. Love to Tubby and Peanut.