Sweet dreams, little boys. :(
My future identical twin nephews passed away. :(
Saturday or Sunday is when my dad got the terrible news through my brother-in-law. My sister was pregnant with two identical twin boys and they were due April 1, 2005 -- almost 6 months along. One of the boy's had a heart problem and from day one, his heart was not developing correctly. Around the 20th of this month my sister noticed the lack of movement in her stomach and that's when she noticed a problem. She got sent to the Vanderbelt hospital to be checked. It turns out she had too much amniotic fluid, but they did more tests and ultrasounds. They found out that the boy had a heart problem and had died. Since they were identical and were developing in the same sac with the same placenta, it was just a matter of a couple of days before the other passed away. And unfortunately, we heard word that they both did. :cry:
The doctors said eventually my sister's body would abort the babies naturally, but that it could take up to 3 months since they were so far along. So she had to be induced a few days ago to go into labour. She went through so much pain during the labour, and so much pain during these 6 months, and she doesn't even have her baby boys. :( She was so upset during the delivery that she couldn't even look. My brother-in-law, Steve, said he did and both of the boys looked exactly like their other son, Dylan, that'll be 5 in April. :*(
They had the choice of having a burial, having them cremated and bringing the ashes home, or having them cremated and leaving the ashes there with a memorial service every year. They chose to bring home the ashes so that everyone in the family could meet the boys and so that Debbie, my sister, could be with them anytime she wanted.
My whole family is upset. My dad is the worst I've seen, but I haven't seen my sister or her husband. Dylan, their son, doesn't know yet. He was looking forward to having two baby brothers. They don't know how they'll tell him, or how he'll react, but I have a feeling none of it will be pretty. :( Debbie is avoiding talking to anyone at the moment, but feels better about things now that she's coming to terms with what happened. Apparently, it's a pretty common.
I'm asking for some RP prayers and thoughts for my family during this time. Please help give my sister, my brother-in-law, my dad, and all of the many other people that were affected the strength and wisdom to understand what happened and the reasons behind it. And last, but not least, hope and pray that their 4 year old son can understand why he won't see his brothers. :(
RIP little guys. I heard you were absolute angels... now you can truly be angels. Watch after your mommy, your daddy, and your brother. Sweet dreams.
