Leaving..

I just need some time to put up with all this **** going on in my life right now. My parents don't listen, my friends don't care, and I just don't wanna have to deal with anything anymore. I don't know when or if I'll be back..
I love you all so very much, and Pet Talk truley is my comfort. I'm sorry it all has to be this way..but I need time to think. Don't be surprised if you never hear from me again..It might all be over for me sometime soon.
I love you guys..
Goodbye, Pet Talk.

*cries*:(:(:( Nooooooo! Don't leave! :(

Hope whatever's bothering you gets solved quickly. I really hope that you change your mind and don't leave, but if you must, goodbye for now, and we'll miss you! :(:(

STOP!!!!!!!! If this is the place you find comfort and solace, then THIS is the last place you should leave! You don't even have to talk about what in particular is upsetting you so. Just keeping a link, to friends who love you open, will help you to cope. I'm so sad to hear how upset you are. We all have these trying times...talking is the best therapy; when you're ready. We're not hear to judge, just listen. You can't say "It might be all over for me sometime soon" and not except us to very concerned!! Please, if not here, please talk with someone! You know, we all say how pets are the best healers!! So where better to heal than with your pet loving pals at Pet Talk?? Please think about it, ok??? {{{HUGS}}}

The best thing you can do if you're feeling this down is be in a supportive, upbeat community like PetTalk. Really, there are a lot of people here who want to listen and help you out!! Don't give up.

I had wondered where you'd been as I hadn't seen many posts from you lately. Hope you don't stay away forever. I know being a teenager is hard. Hope you'll stick around so we can help you.

i sorry guys..but i just dont wanna try anymore..my friend Eric, and Darlin are the only ones who care. And you guys...I'm so sorry, but I just dont wanna try. I've never been a very strong person, and it's gotton the best of me.
I cant stop crying..but..I just don't knwo what to do..

Please Foam stay! We can help!! You can PM me anytime Im a good listener and I could help you. We all care about you.
please stay. we can halp you. :( :(

KEEP TALKING....Stay close to the people you care for and who care you (including us!) and of course, hug Darlin'!! You'll work through this. It's a bump in the road of life and there ARE people who care for you and love you, even if you don't feel it right now. You already mentioned Eric, Darlin and us!! And I'm sure you're parents love you dearly, too!! And you know, things ALWAYS seem worse at night. Hug your baby, wash those tears away, take a deep breath and try to focus on the positive things in your life. You've got a lifetime of happy days ahead of you...I promise!! Tomorrow you'll see things in a whole new light. You're a lovely, smart, caring and kind young woman. Don't let these people get you down! You are WOMAN!!!!:) Let's hear you roar!!! You're tough and strong and you can conquer anything!!! Don't let others get you down! Then THEY win!! Try and get a good night's sleep, ok, sweetie?? You'll see, tomorrow you'll feel tons better!:)

Very well said tatsxxx11 :)

Please, don't leave. My life is messed up a little as well...sometimes I even wish I wasn't alive, with all this 'stuff' thats happening and thats already happened. But nothings perfect. Life is hard. Like tats said, its just a bump in the road. We care about you. If you ever need anything, or just to talk or vent, you know im here.

Foam you are scareing me...:(

Please stay. I know there have been times when I wish I weren't even alive but then I remember all the things I have ahead of me. My family, my friends, my animals, and my life.

So go and hug Darlin and put on a Beatles record(j/k;) ) You'll feel better.

If you ever want to talk i am here for you.

AIM-beluga4321
Email:[email protected]
or PM me.

~Rachel

And if you ever need to be cheered up...Patrick is always willing to!

http://www.imagestation.com/picture/...e/fb2c64c5.jpg

:)

~Rachel

Foam,
I hope you don't leave, and I most certainly hope you don't do anything silly to yourself. Your first post concerned me. You sound pretty down right now, and things probably seem very bad, but, things change. People change. Sometimes the very thing you need in your life is right around the corner. If you are so deep in your misery that you can't see the good that I know must be around you, then, please talk to someone that cares about you. There is alot to be said for a good long cry, a nice hot shower,and a good night's sleep....please keep talking to someone

Please don't leave us, we all need you.
You have become a very important part of
our family.
When I am feeling down, I think of positive thoughts
like the love I get from my fur babies.

Be strong and don't let anybody have the power
to bring you down.

Hugs Karen

Foam your post concerned me too. I am always here if you want to rant without lookinf for some advice--or even if you are looking for advice. I remember in my early teen years I was deeply depressed. Sometimes I thought about jumping out of my bedroom window. Everything was going wrong. I felt so left out and alone, my friends had treated me terribly and I was fed up of school and life. One night I broke down and cried. I didn't have Mickey for comfort but I talked with my sister and then my parents. I hope you can work things out and clear up your mind. We are here for you. Don't do anything stupid. Just remember whatever is getting you down will be over soon. *hugs* Be careful and take care.

My PM box is always open to a letter. :)

Life can be so hard. :(

Foam, I hope you will stay with us. Talk to us individually, or as a group. I don't think there is a more loving, concerned group of people in the world, than right here.

Sometimes when I hear people say "I'll pray for you, or you are in my prayers", I think, yeah right. You know what, I think Pet Talk prayers and support mean more than that. I haven't met or become friends with a single insincere person on this board, which is why I talk so much and have been here so long. Karen and Paul will have to boot me out to make me leave.

You stay here, where your friends are. Sometimes, cyber friends can be our best friends. I know that my very best friends were met right here and those 5 know just who they are.

Logan

It just sounds like a normal teenage thing to me.

You'll get over it, just live with what you have. Sometimes one or two close friends is what's best.

Dont leave us. Both you and Darlin will me missed.

Hey, don't leave! If this is where you find solace stay!! Even if you do choose not to post as much, stay and know that we love ya! :)

Thank so much, you guys..I really deeply appreciate all of this. I really didn't think anyone would care about me so much...I didn't think you guys liked me this much!
I know I'm definetly not leaving now..mut I just need some time. I'll probably come and lurk around a bit every day, but most likley not post. I just need some time to think.
Thank guys..I really appreciate it..SO so much. :)

Yay!!! I'm glad you're not leaving... I would be so lonely!

Foam, I think we all care about each other here - it may not always show but when it gets rough we help each other out. Young or old! I care about you and I hope things get better. Life is tough sometimes esp. when your younger and can't do what you want.
Get a good nights sleep and keep in touch with us at least.

Seems like a lot of Rachels don't want you to go;) Count me as another one. All the people who have posted here are very sincere and have given you some good advice. If you get to feeling down, take another look at what they have said. You and Darlin make a terrific addition to Pet Talk. Lurk all you want. And then when you feel like it, post your little heart out. You don't see me posting too much, but sometimes, like right now, I am compelled to make my feelings known.

And thanks for sharing the picture. You are beautiful and of course Darlin is just DARLING!

I'm so glad you're not leaving! Don't worry, this is normal. I (and many others) have gone through some type of teenage depression. Mine lasted for a couple years and I'm still on the road to recovery. It gets better, trust me. Once you have time to think, everything seems not so bad. You've just got to see everything as a little thing and not a huge cluster. Just take your time...and go through all those tough things bothering you...you'll feel better eventually. And remember, hugging a nearby dog guarentees a smile. :D

Foam, your original post has upset me and as you can tell, all of us here are concerned about you.

Do you need some attention? Come to Pet Talk, we will all give it to you. Do you need some cyber hugs, we won't let you down.

Do we care about you - you betcha. Take one look at your beautiful picture and Darlin and you have us all in the palm of your hand.

Life can be very hard and all of us in one way or another, have been there and we understand.

Now you can't leave, because we will fill your in=box with plenty of messages asking where you are and how you are.

Everything about you has been a delight here on Pet Talk, keep it up = go ahead and lurk - but post once in a while because all of us care.

This is family = and don't you forget it!

Thank you everyone..but I think I'm back t where I was earlier.
I was on the phone after 10. It's the weekend, and I have nothing to do tomorrow, and my parents weren't even asleep yet. So, I was on the phone with my friend Amy and he came up and yelled at me for it. **Please excuse the laguage. but this is how it went**
"Get OFF the phone!"
"Dad, it's the weekend..Why can't I be on the phone?"
"Because you're 12, and it's after 10 o' clock GET OFF!"
"But-"
"OFF!"
"Dad, liste-"
"Get off the phone, daughter!"
So then I started yelling, because I couldn't take it any longer..
"Dad! LISTEN to me!"
So he sits himself down on the bed firmly, hardly and crosses his arms and sits straight up.
"Okay! I'm lsitening! Talk to me...verbalize!"
"Dad, why can't I-"
"This is our problem! You don't LISTEN!"
"No, dad, our problem is that YOU don't ****ing listen to ME!"
He makes an angry loud noise, gets up and smacks me over the head twice. He grabs the phone, ripping out the batteries, and turns it off.
"Don't TALK like that!"
So he stomps otu the door, as he does..I'm sorry I couldn't help but tel him how I felt..not like he cared, though. :rolleyes:
"Dad, **** you. I ****ing HATE you!"
He stomps over, and SLAPS the side of my head hard as he can and leaves..

Sorry, but I couldn't help but tell him how much I hate him. :(
I just don't want to have to put up with this anymore, guys...:(:(:(

I've learned that your chosen family is much better than your given family most of the time.

I think he had the right to tell you to get off the phone. But, that's just me.

I am glad you're sticking around.

He slapped you? :( This upsets me...You know it's very illegal for someone, even a father, to slap a child anywhere other than the hand (atleast here it is).

I know I'm not you, but if one of my parents slapped me I'd call the police and then get my way into a pet-friendly foster home. No matter what you do, it's not right to have to put up with this. Even if he was right about the phone (being a teenager myself, I would have done the same thing talking back, and so maybe that's why my point of veiw is somewhat clouded), it's still no reason to be physcially or emotionally abused. Think about it this way --- you would never want anyone to slap Darlin --- Well it's the same way here --- we don't want you to get slapped around. I know that most would be reluctant to do this, but I'd suggest getting some help. Whether this is the first time, or not, I don't know or care, it just doesn't seem right in my opinion. :( :( :(

Oh, you beautiful young girl. Let me wrap my arms around you and tell you how special you are and how very sorry that I am that you parents won't stop to listen to you.

Sometimes parents have their own stress, pressures, and they don't realize it, but they take it all out on you. And you don't deserve it.

Would it help you if you started a journal? Do you have a notebook handy that you could grab a pen or pencil and just start writing down everything that you feel right now? I have done this when I am very angry, and it has helped.

No child should ever be slapped......and I am not happy with your Dad for doing that to his beloved daughter. I am sure he doesn't mean to hurt you either.

Please, keep posting and telling us what is going on.

Foam, you cannot give up - you don't realize how very special you are........and I know how hurt and misunderstood you must feel right now.

Please post again and soon.

Stop and hug your beautiful dog, let him help you heal right now.

An additional thought........do you have anyone close to you that you could talk to........a relative......someone you can trust?
Are you a member of a church of any kind, where there is someone that you could feel safe with to talk?

Your father is out of line in slapping you. It is called simply -abuse! And in most states, it is against the law.

Now asking you to get off of the telephone is one thing........but slapping you around is a whole different matter. Is this the way your dad usually treats you?

Keep safe Foam.

Oh I am so sorry that happened tonight, I know you must of felt awful. I'm sorry your dad acted like that, even as adults we screw up and make mistakes. Slaping you was a mistake, a big mistake. That should have never happened no matter how you cused at him.

I understand that life gets really ruff sometimes and you want to just shut down for awhile. But trust me when I say that shuting down and turning away from your friends/family wont help. It just makes you feel even more lonely and helpless. You got to talk to people....vent yell do what ever makes you feel better. And if you talk to enough people....in time you will feel better. Just knowing that people care and belive in you and want to honestly help makes all the difference.

I assume from all the great reply's you got here.....that you have a lot of freinds here that care about what happens to you. Talk to them, post, pm them...pm me, we can help.....promise.

If you talk to some of us older guys here....maybe we can teach you a few tricks on how to handl your dad. Come on that should be worth you staying around if nothing else does. :D :D

You said "Pet Talk truley is my comfort" so why leave your comfort?

Feel free to Pm me any time and I'm sure everyone else here will say the say thing.

Yes..most of the time. He only hits me ocasionally, but he always yells at me and never listens.
I have a friend who is 20, and I trust him. I might to ask him next time we talk if he can pick me up sometime, and if I can stay at his place for a night, to get away.
I would stay at my friends' houses, that are my age, but their parents would call my mom and she would come get me, punish me and my dad would do this again...:(

Sweet girl, being 12 is just the pitts. I am sure I could easily be your Grandmother, but I do remember being 12 myself, and it just wasn't a good time in my life either.

Why don't you make some arrangements in advance to stay overnight at a friend's house and ask your Mom's permission - so she doesn't come running after you.

Be very careful around your Dad. Can you talk to your Mom about this? I am sure there are other things going on in your household that you haven't told us. Do you have any brothers or sisters?

Keep on posting and tell us how you are doing. Feel free to p/m me or use my email address anytime and I will respond immediately.

Some things are going to remain unmentioned.
I will ask my mom to spend the night at my friend's house tomorrow night, and hopefully she will say yes, because I just want to ge out...:(
And thank you, Geni for offering so much help...I really apprecaite it. :) **hugs**

Staying at a friends house sounds like a good idea, but you have to remember that your friend is 20 and he can get into trouble letting you stay there without your parents permission.

What your father did is abuse and I don't even want to get into how I feel about that. I want you to be safe and don't want you to do anything that will make him so upset that he would do it again. Remember that going to a friends will help for that day....but you will have to go home again and then what will happen?!! Don't make thinks worse for your self in the long run.

What ever you decide to do....think it out. Ask your self what going to happen later if I do this? Will I get in trouble? Etc.

The weekend is here....so spend the day with a friend, at their house if you can. Have some fun.

I will certainly try. Right now, I am just going to go to bed and gets a good long rest. I'll be back in the morning, hopefully feeling better.
Goodnight, everybody. Thanks again..:)

Good night, sleep tight, don't let the bed bugs bite:D

Oh Foam, I am so sorry to hear this. Sometimes parents can get out of control because of stress and other factors. Is this something that happens often or just a "heat of the moment" thing? Life as a teenager is hard for both you and your parents. Sometimes just swearing at them can really set them off. They probably both love you very much, but it can be hard for a Dad to show it. I hope you had a good nights sleep and things are looking up this morning! Remember that you have a great number of friends here to help you through anything! Hugs to you.

He slapped you? :mad: Even if he does have the right to tell you to get off the phone, he also needs to listen. Do you have a guidance counselor at school that could help you out? Stay safe and don't give up hope. Maybe you can talk to your mom about this, he'll probably listen to her more.

He calls you "daughter" What your not worthy of a name? :rolleyes: I'm sorry this is tough for you. *hugs* I'm glad you're sticking around. :)