sad...

I was just in with the new cats, Henry and George.
they seem to both want my attention for themselves, I think they would both prefer to be an only cat. they both want me to pet just them, and both want to cuddle. I thought at first that they both cuddled next to each other, with no problem, but it seems there is a problem.

I think I might have to re-home them separately. they are never together when I go in there, and just now George slapped my nose and ran under the bed, then he came back up a couple minutes later, but looked buttfaced when he was not the only one getting attention. I was not bothered by the swat, thats no big deal, but I could really see that it will not work out, and I want them to be happy. I think they will be happy alone.

there are 3 or 4 people that live in my moms complex that have said they would like to get a cat... we are known as the cat ladies there! I think I will ask and see if they really want them and if they can care for them... and it is indoors, so they would not be outside at all, so thats good.

it just bothers me, they look at me with those eyes, as if to say, they need something they are not getting, they just love closeness and lots of attention.I try to give alot of attention, but I can't be in there all the time.

I started thinking about what will happen when I do introduce them to the others, and they are not going to like that. I think the other 5 will adjust, but I don't see it happening with these two, unless they eventually just stay to themsleves in a corner, or they push the others away. I don't know which would happen.

unless its because they are still in just one room and are needing more space? although I don't think that will help the cuddle problem.

I look in their eyes and i just feel bad, I really think it would be better for them to be the only cat, and have the attention to themselves.
they are the most loving, cuddly, gentle cats(when they arent scared, then watch out!) and they are pretty mild when it comes to playing, so I think an older person would do ok with them.
if they get around these 5, they are going to want them to play with them, and I think there will be trouble, they still fight amongst themselves if one touches the other and the first one didn't want to be bothered.

I am not just giving them away because I don't want them. I honestly feel this is for their best, when I look into their eyes, they need more attention.
but it hurts me because I love them already, and I would miss those eyes....this is really heartbreaking... I never look in the paper, I don't know what made me look that day, well at least they didn't end up at the humane society.
:( :( :(
am I making a mistake??:( :(

absolutely no more cats for me , ever, I love them too much and it just is too hard on me, I don't know if its the best for them or if I am giving up on them, and it hurts. alot.
whether I give them away or keep them I will never get another cat.:(

In the manner you're talking about the situation, it really looks like it doesn't work with your new 2 cats.

And I understand.

For both you and your cats, it would be better if they each get a new home. The faster you'll give them, the less it will be difficult.

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Originally posted by marysmerrycats

absolutely no more cats for me , ever, I love them too much and it just is too hard on me, I don't know if its the best for them or if I am giving up on them, and it hurts. alot.
whether I give them away or keep them I will never get another cat.:(

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Do you mean... even after your 5 cats, you'll never get another kitty ?? :(

:(

I think you are making the best decision. Don't say "never" about having more cats though! Maybe no more until after you have shared the lives of your 5 completely... then maybe you will be able to share again! ;)

yes I guess thats what I meant... I don't have anything against cats, how could I? but this is really hard. I just meant that I won't bring anymore into the house with these.

Mary,

As difficult as it is, sometimes it's just not meant to be. You gave it your best shot. Don't ever feel bad because you are doing what you think is in the best interest of the cats. They were probably thrown together by the previous owner and didn't get along then. So she gave them up.

I know they'll probably be much happier as only cats. Sometimes cats are like that. I had one cat, Tucker, who was like that. I was devastated because he kept torturing Casey. He is now in a wonderful home with two people who love him very much. And I get visitation everytime I go to CT.

Hang in there.

Awwww....I'm sorry it didn't work out Mary. :( Keep doing what you feel is best for the cats and you wont go wrong. :)

thanks. its pretty hard, I don't want to see them go, and I do think they are littermates, they look so much alike, the fluffy white fur...
I'm going to miss them. sometimes they lick each other, but still I think they would prefer being alone.
they are so sweet! I keep seeing their eyes and Im not even in the room with them. I don't know how I can give them away. I wish I knew how they would do with the other cats...
I don't even know if I can give them up, they are just too sweet.
well I will have to think about it and see who I could give them to.
but then I think if they were to be out with these it would not go well.
any advice from anyone?:(

Donna
tell me more about Tucker? what happend?

Poor you Mary! They are sweet boys. But you must do what you feel is right.
I would love to add another dog/cat to my entourage but I know that Keegan wouldn't mind being an only pet and Kylie wouldn't mind being an only pet, so they are together and I shouldn't upset the balance!
You will be in my thoughts

Mary, I'm sorry that it's not working out but as others have said you must do what's best for the cats. Some cats need to be an only cat. I'm sure you'll find very good homes for them. Please keep us updated.

Mary,

I can imagine how difficult this is for you, but I see some positives from this - maybe you could focus on them:

The two new kitties:
- You have helped socialise them so they will fit in better with a new owner who maybe would not have the skills you have used to such good effect in winning them over!
- You have an opportunity to find two beautiful kittens fantastic forever homes, you can check the owners before hand, and you know they will both be spoiled babies and will get all the attention they require
- You have given them such a good start in life - imagine where they could have ended up - being advertised in the paper like that!

Your five existing furkids:
- You can continue to provide them with all the love and care they alreay receive, without affecting the "balance of power" and maybe upsetting them


Try not to think of this as a failure - rather think of it as a SUCCESFUL FOSTER;)

Hope you feel better about this!

Ally sends Kitten Kisses and says you are wonderful for giving the little kittes such a positive start in life!

thanks ally.

Mary,

Tucker is a beautiful Korat that was rescued off the streets of New York City. He was one of MANY cats from the CACC (a kill shelter) at an adopt-a-thon at Madison Square Garden. He was neutered the day before the event and was sick. The people from CACC told us that if there were any cats left at the end of the day, they would be killed. There was a total of 6 cats that were to be euthanized. The rescue organization I was with brought empty carriers with us so we could bring back the unlucky ones. Tucker was one of them. I couldn't sit by and let that happen so I took him home. He was about 3 months old (I wish I had a picture of him).

I gradually introduced him to my other cats. It seemed he had a "thing" for Casey. He was always sabotaging him in the cat box, whenever he came out of a room. It got so bad that Casey was totally stressed out and started losing his fur. I knew it was time to rehome Tucker, as much as I loved the little dude.

I posted a notice on the newspaper bulletin board. A photographer friend and his wife said they were interested. They came over and fell in LOVE with him. He is now living happily ever after as an only cat in a 3 story, all window home. He has the run of the house and is allowed to go out into the garden supervised. I get visitation and weekly updates as to how he was doing.

I literally beat myself up over it, but I finally realized that he is MUCH better off where he is. Once he left, things at my house went back to normal.

So you see, sometimes it doesn't always work out. Cats are strange creatures of habit. That's just the way they are.

The way that shelter just said "if they are still here, they are getting killed," that is just awful! I just can't believe they would euthanize such young kittens - my Pixel was 3 months old when we adopted her :)

Moosmum and Mary - you've both done the right thing. Most people in that situation would just dump the unwanted cat out into the wildnerness or to a shelter. Your commitment to care for the cat(s) until they find furrever home is what makes the difference! Good luck Mary, in finding a furrever home for each of the new kitties :) you have definitely saved their lives, don't forget that! Ditto Moosmum with your little korat kitty!

What a tough decision... :( But it really sounds it's for the best. Some kitties just are like that, and it takes a lot of love and responsibility to do what you think is the best for them.

Kirsten

thanks everyone:)
thanks Donna:)

I was just a little emotional yesterday, but I know it's the right thing, though its still hard, its just best for them, I picture them in a house of their own and getting all the attention, and i know they will be happy. now I just have to find them the right owner.
I'm going to start looing into it today.
one question, should I take them in for their shots first? well I guess that depends on who takes them, maybe they will but maybe not. they're older people...

I have just seen this thread.

All the best rehoming those beautiful kitties.

That's so sad because its obvious that you care very much about these two guys.:(

Before you re-home them, do you want to at least try to see how they would react with the rest of your gang? Just because they don't bond with each other doesn't mean that one or both of them could bond with another of your gang.

Anyway, what ever you do, I'm sorry you're feeling so bad.