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i recieved a PM about the poll and thread i made about if any members have children or not. don't bother karen, i deleted it. :) i am sorry if it offended anybody. i didn't even get a chance to read the last few posts so i apologize if anyone's feelings were hurt. this is personal info even though you had the choice to give it out or not. anyways, just thought i'd let you know in case you were planning on making a reply or just reading the thread. sorry again
What a shame. :( I thought your poll was fine and that you were getting good answers. I'm sorry if someone mistook your intentions. It seems to happen a lot around here these days. :(
What the....
Why was it deleted???
i find the practice of making thread from kids rather repulsive and cruel.
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Originally posted by RICHARD
i find the practice of making thread from kids rather repulsive and cruel.
funny one Richard:p !!! LOL
Primabella did you delete the whole thread yourself or did they delete it? The only reason I ask is, I didn't think you could delete other peoples posts. Just wondering is all
:confused:
I had PM'd her to say that the poll could be very sensitive for some people to answer. I didn't mean she should delete it, I just told her to consider it for the future, as whether or not people have children is just about the most personal decision anyone can make. She decided on her own to delete the poll. Anyone who starts a thread can delete it, and that's what she chose to do.
soledad - i was told that maybe people don't want to give out that information cause its personal stuff. oh well.
richard - are you saying that my thread was cruel and repulsive? all i did was ask a simple question because i was curious. :confused: i was asking people to start arguing about the goods and bads about kids.
No. LOL read it again. He ment Thread, like Yarn, not thread like a post. :D So He thinks that Making Yarn from Kids is Rather Repulsive and Cruel.Quote:
Originally posted by primabella
richard - are you saying that my thread was cruel and repulsive? all i did was ask a simple question because i was curious. :confused: i was asking people to start arguing about the goods and bads about kids.
Understand?
Ash :D
Primabella, I had found the cutiest dog picture to send you of an angel just like yours. Now I have lost it in 'my favorites'. I will keep looking and PM it to you. Your new sig. is great.
NO----the title of the thread was KID THREAD.......Quote:
Originally posted by primabella
richard - are you saying that my thread was cruel and repulsive? all i did was ask a simple question because i was curious. :confused: i was asking people to start arguing about the goods and bads about kids.
like the old joke...if olive oil comes from olives, where does baby oil come from???
oh okay, sorry richard. i'm a little not there now. i get it :p
karen - yeah, sorry. i didn't want to be the cause of any fights or anything on the board. that's why i deleted it and...
you know what, i think i'll just stop now because everything i say comes from me misunderstanding what soemone else is saying and that just makes me look dumb. :D
Well..that explains why I couldn't post my response!
tomkatzkid - thanks :D if you find the pic please send it to me :D :)
thanks :)
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Originally posted by primabella
you know what, i think i'll just stop now because everything i say comes from me misunderstanding what soemone else is saying and that just makes me look dumb. :D
Oh no you don't.......
don't be so quick to discount your opinions and postings.
I look in the mirror every morning and WHOA- talk about LOOKING dumb!!!!
but that's my parents fault -i have my dad's eyes my mom's hair....they both let me pick my nose........
;)
If someone found the topic difficult they could always choose not to answer....
Sheesh!
silly Richard!!!!
Yeah....since I spent time writing my response...I think I'll post it anyway!
I am CBC....childless by choice. Many of you have made the points I would on this...it is a HUGE decision that should be made with great deliberateness and thought. All too often it is an accident, or because everyone else is doing it, etc. I knew it wasn't for me a long time ago.
During my "dating years" I was always upfront about that so not to waste anyone's time. And it ran some men off.
To be a good parent requires a level of selflessness that I am not sure I am willing or able to achieve.
But here's my question...what with "Do you want to hold the baby?" Frankly, no. It makes me nervous. (and....I have changed one diaper and that was enough!)
And one more thing....I do NOT think it is cute when your child runs into me while you are paying absolutely NO attention to him/her and snatching food from my plate in a restaurant is simply uncivilized.
lol :DQuote:
Originally posted by RICHARD
Oh no you don't.......
don't be so quick to discount your opinions and postings.
I look in the mirror every morning and WHOA- talk about LOOKING dumb!!!!
but that's my parents fault -i have my dad's eyes my mom's hair....they both let me pick my nose........
;)
I saw ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with posting a poll about whether people have kids or not. You are correct..........Some people could have simply chosen not to answer it !!!! Why is everything always such a big deal??!?? If I read a thread and I do not prefer the topic I just move on to the next one. So don't let it bother you, I'll bet more people are with you than against you. So stay happy, OK?
when my brother was a baby and my mom was changing his diaper, he peed on his himself. :eek: tramautized me...i stay away from babies who need a diapey change :pQuote:
Originally posted by Edwina's Secretary
But here's my question...what with "Do you want to hold the baby?" Frankly, no. It makes me nervous. (and....I have changed one diaper and that was enough!)
lol, okay :D well, i'm perfectly fine with what happened. i needed to have had a PM sent to me, deleted it cause i'm too "jumpy to conclusions", and have people tell me that it was perfectly fine for me to count this as an experience to learn by :) i don't blame karen for what she said and she was just letting me know. i took the next step and maybe it was the wrong one. oh well :)Quote:
Originally posted by jenluckenbach
I saw ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with posting a poll about whether people have kids or not. You are correct..........Some people could have simply chosen not to answer it !!!! Why is everything always such a big deal??!?? If I read a thread and I do not prefer the topic I just move on to the next one. So don't let it bother you, I'll bet more people are with you than against you. So stay happy, OK?
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Originally posted by Edwina's Secretary
But here's my question...what with "Do you want to hold the baby?" Frankly, no. It makes me nervous. (and....I have changed one diaper and that was enough!)
babies are particulary vicious when they launch a biological attack! ;)
with tons of nieces and nephews it got easier, never pleasant but easier......i ruined the collars on quite a few t shirts changing diapers.
I think people are absolutely dead frightened about any kind of controversy or confrontation. I mean, it wasn't like things had even gotten out of hand. It was a perfectly civilised discussion and it seems bizarre that anyone would be offended by it.
Edwina's Sec - Interesting post. I really admire couples who choose to be childless especially in a society and culture that expects it out of couples. And I do get really aggravated when parents think their child misbehaving in public should somehow be regarded as cute to everyone else.
aww, you guys are making me feel bad. :(
it wasn't karen's fault my post is deleted. i thought i would get rid of it before it became an UNcivilized discussion. please understand. :) if you want, you can contiue the discussion here :p
Now you KNOW we did not want to make you feel badly!
But, you know, I for one think that I will keep my mouth shut from now on................cant' have anyone thinking I am controversial. (please read with appropriate sarcasm!)
Which is why I always say that every new parent should invest in a pair of goggles! Hey, beleive it or not GIRLS can shoot pretty far too!
Uh hum, anyways I too saw nothing wrong with the thread. If it bugs someone they simply don't post..which I don't know why it would bother anyone and I have had a lot of problems conceiving etc, miscarriages whatever. I very much enjoyed having a place to brag about how cute my son is, hahahaheheheh!:p
:D hehe and we enjoyed reading about it :p
Primabella,
Does this mean that I won't be able to brag about my two
wonderful children? LOL. Well...for what it's worth I'm going
to do it anyway. They were planned, they were wanted &
they are my very best contribution to civilization.:D :D :D
Same here!:pQuote:
Originally posted by lizbud
Primabella,
Does this mean that I won't be able to brag about my two
wonderful children? LOL. Well...for what it's worth I'm going
to do it anyway. They were planned, they were wanted &
they are my very best contribution to civilization.:D :D :D
That's a really sweet thing of you to say about your kids, Lizbud.:)
Soledad,
My husband & I were believers in the zero population growth
idea, ie, replace yourself in the world, but not add to the already
crowded earth. Without sounding too sappy, they are very
bright, funny, & a pleasure to be with. I love being a Mom.:)
geez I wasn't offended in the least, you shouldn't have deleted the thread sweetie ;). no worries.
Well said! I completely agree with this! There was nothing wrong, touchy, personal or controversial about your poll or your question! You just asked if people had kids, it's just a fact - you either do or you don't. You didn't ask if we hated kids, or hated people who had kids, for gosh sakes ... that would be a different story.Quote:
I saw ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with posting a poll about whether people have kids or not. You are correct..........Some people could have simply chosen not to answer it !!!! Why is everything always such a big deal??!?? If I read a thread and I do not prefer the topic I just move on to the next one.
I know I haven't been posting too terribly long here, but I'm going to give my two cents worth anyway. Guess everyone can just not read it if it offends them. ;) IMO, if we only talked about subjects that were 100% neutral and cheery all the time, and never, ever brought up a subject that might possibly be even remotely controversial, personal, touchy or lead to any type of debate .... we would all be bored out of minds and soon move on to another board!
We learn by hearing the opinions and experiences of others, by talking about and debating issues and by broadening our horizons to include opinions different from our own. Otherwise, we all might as well just talk to the mirror. Boooorrrrrriiiiing. I personally would like to see a little less worrying and a little more honest conversation. JMHO.
I saw absolutely nothing wrong with the thread. If we are scared to talk about children worried we will offend somebody....?? I didn't see anything controversial about it, and there was no fighting (at least that I saw).
I didn't either....there have been much more controversial subjects here...this one what just an innocent question.
I think I know better than anyone that there have been FAR more controversial threads on here than the kids one. But she chose to delete it herself, so there's not much we can do.
Lizbud - You sound like you have the kind of relationship with your kids that I look forward to. I'm sure your kids think just as highly of you as you do of them. You seem to relish in their personalities. Do you still believe in zero population growth?
Twisterdog - Your post was brilliant. Said everything that I wanted to.
Just to make sure : NO OFFENCE from me too !! I even liked the thread ! All opinions on this must be possible , positive AND negative . I hope I didn't hurt anybody by telling that this was a sensitive object for those who WANT , but CANNOT get any kids ..!
I want to say too I do absolutely like Lizbud's reply about her kids :cool: :cool: ;. Me too , even if the fact that my kids are adopted , I wanted my kids , I love them , and I couldn't imagine my life without it !!
To those who choose NOT to have any : you have my ABSOLUTE respect !!!:)
LOVE YE ALL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This explains why I've been searching all over for the Thread - thought I'd gone completly loopy and imagined it!!
Shame Primabella - I was really interested in it - and it looked like it was going to go for quite a bit.
Lizbud - I so agree with your lovely comments about your children - in this world of so much negativity it's refreshing to hear another Mum admitting to liking and loving her children - me too!
Lynne
Hmmm... I posted that my husband and I were unable to have children. Maybe because I posted that Karen thought it was a sensitive subject. It IS a sensitive subject, but I don't mind talking about it:D There are other options for us so you never know :D
I was looking for the tread, now I understand why I couldn't find it! it may have been a sensitive topic to some, but I agree with the others, no one HAD to reply to it. I don't know who it was that objected to it, but possibly it was someone that the topic is a new, or sore subject, and they may have over reacted about it?
maybe they did not understand that this can be more than a pet board?
anyway, it was just an innocent thread, only meant to ask an innocent question.
yes there has been conflict on here before but I think we have settled it in a nice manner most times?