Totally freaking out!! I'm HOMELESS!! Hes trying to steal all my belongings!!

I don't even know where to start, my Anxiety is trying to kill me right now.

Remember when I said I caught Chad in a whole wack of lied... Well he tried to give me more BS lies & well I calmly snapped & called him on them all... He hasn't tried to really defend his lies...

But today he is claiming that nothing of mine is in the storage unit or the apt!

I have access to the storage until, as my name is on it (not owner, but I have full access).. & the landlord gave all 3 of us to move into that Apt.. so I know I'll get my things...

Its just I soooo didn't need this...

My spider has a place to go, but so far my fish & turtle are homless along with me...

I have NO idea what I'm going to do with my fish... I'm trying to get a hold of friends, but they are still at work.

I know myself will be ok & I'll have many random places to safely sleep... But my pets come first, as they always have!

If ANYONE in the GTA can take in my Fish for a while, PLEASE PLEASE let me know!! If your further away I'll try to get there, but my funds are soo short :(

I'm opening a storage unit, & I'm putting everything I own into that... I'm packing some clothing into one of my bags & all my toiltrees... So I can still be clean & ready for work.

If worse comes to worse, I have a car to keep me safe, but I know non of my friends will have that, so I'm not worried at all.

Since I'm not paying for rent this month I have 400.00 to work with... But I cannot do much as I just went bankrupt, so I don't know what my limits are... I'm going to TRY to rent a van, but I'm just under 25 & I think thats posses an issue

Oh Gosh I'm so sorry you are dealing with this :( I wish there was something I could do to help you

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PT prayers will be good enough... I've seen those work in the past... Just not sure how well they work when rushed

I'm sooooo sorry to hear this! Yes, friends do come in handy in a time like this, and my suggestion would be to try and take it easy ((if your not busy)) and get most of your things, get situated, and if you have extra time, or just feel as if you need to chill, go to a park and either think about many possibilities of what you can do, or to think of something else totally off topic to get some release.

Your in my prayers, and I'm positive a bunch of other PTers too.

Please keep us posted.

*HUGS!* ((take as many as you need))

Jess you have my prayers.

Oh no how terrible! I've been busy as work so not able to get online quite as much as usual, so I haven't had a chance to hear about this yet. You are in my prayers, I wish there was more I could do. Is your name on the lease? Did he kick you out? What happened exactly?

Im sorry this is happening to you! I'll be praying for you!

I'm sorry you're having such a bad time. :( What about Bear? Will she
be able to stay?

I hope he calms down, and you two can work things out so that you can safely move. You will be in our prayers.

Well you definitely have my prayers and best wishes.

Jess, you will be in my prayers. Hope you can work it all out for you and your pets. I wish I were closer and I would try to help you.

Logan

I don't know where Bear is.. I had to break into my own house.. She wasn't here when I got here... I'll be calling the shelter to make sure she wasn't dumpped there

Omg, i'm so sorry he is doing this to you. :( I hope Bear is okay.

All of my prayers on the way that something very good happens soon for you. I'm so sorry you are going through this:( but I know if we all pray, god will find a way for you:)

prayers and best wishes for you and for bear

I hope you get in touch with the landlord and find out what your rights are...at least he could go with you, with a key...

I wonder what Andrew will do? It's pretty obvious who should be kicked out here.

At least talk to your landlord.

HUGS and prayers!

OMG!!! This is horrible! :eek: :( :mad:

* H U G S *

If you lived near me I'd offer you to stay here for a month. We don't have much physical room but my heart is big.

My prayers are with you and all of your pets. And OMGosh I am so worried about Bear.

The PT prayers are working! Keep them coming! I had some good luck last ngiht :)

I went to Public Storage & opened a 10x10 to store my things. Sadly I do not have access to Chad's unit so he ownes all that stuff in the eyes of Public Storage. :(

I picked up Dan & James after I opened my unit & drove to my place. Chad wasn't home so I went to open the door... The outside door was locked. That was an easy fix, I knocked at the door of the deople upstairs. they let me in like always... Soon learned that the apt. door was locked. That was an even easier fix... I pulled out a card & slid it into the broken part of the molding that Chad broke when we moved in cause we didn't have any keys.

I took all my $$ things... I took my computer, antique horse statue, coin collection & filled my 2 duffel bags with clothing for work & daily life, & took all my stuffies.

I had no place to put my pets last night, so I left them there as they would be safe as Chad cannot lock me out :p

I spent the night at Reno's last night.. I might be able to stay there for the next 2 months. Axle will fit in that room with me, but I still need to find a place for my for large fish... no one has that much space :(

Oh Jess, I am so relieved that you at least have a place to stay now. After all you have done for Chad, I just can't believe he's turning on you like this. Thank goodness you were able to get a lot of your things out. Did you ever find Bear?

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Oh Jess, I am so relieved that you at least have a place to stay now. After all you have done for Chad, I just can't believe he's turning on you like this. Thank goodness you were able to get a lot of your things out. Did you ever find Bear?

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No, no Bear :(

I checked the dogs on the Toronto HS & shes not there & its updated every 2hrs... They were closed yesterday so I couldn't do much.

Even if I get ownership of Bear, I'm still homeless, so I don't know what to do :(

Well you do have a place to stay now, so thats something. Hopefully out PT prayers will work and you'll find a place for your fish to stay. You said "even if I get ownership of bear", who owns him you or Chad? Or do you both own him, and Chad says he does? We'll keep the PT prayers going for you....

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No, no Bear :(

I checked the dogs on the Toronto HS & shes not there & its updated every 2hrs... They were closed yesterday so I couldn't do much.

Even if I get ownership of Bear, I'm still homeless, so I don't know what to do :(

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At least you didn't have to pay rent this month... I'm keeping up my prayers and that bear will be found. I'm trying to think up a solution to your fish tank, or at least a temporary one.

Best hopes and wishes going your way! Glad to hear things are ((Starting)) to get ((a little)) better

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At least you didn't have to pay rent this month... I'm keeping up my prayers and that bear will be found. I'm trying to think up a solution to your fish tank, or at least a temporary one.

Best hopes and wishes going your way! Glad to hear things are ((Starting)) to get ((a little)) better

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Thank You... I'm thinking of putting Mango's tank into storage & keeping him in a Tote. It'll be much small then hes use to, but it'll be a safe place for him & I'll be able to transport him anywhere I go...

I moved both Mango (fish) & Axle(turtle) 500km from Ottawa to Mississaugam so I know how to do it safely & I love them dearly... I never give up on my pets... I would just rather NOT put Mango into a tote, as it'll suck for him for a couple months, as it will for Axle... but I will be able to insure proper care & feedings. (I'm soooooooooooooooooooooo picky on feedings)

Who is Chad, someone that you are related to or your landlord?

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Thank You... I'm thinking of putting Mango's tank into storage & keeping him in a Tote. It'll be much small then hes use to, but it'll be a safe place for him & I'll be able to transport him anywhere I go...

I moved both Mango (fish) & Axle(turtle) 500km from Ottawa to Mississaugam so I know how to do it safely & I love them dearly... I never give up on my pets... I would just rather NOT put Mango into a tote, as it'll suck for him for a couple months, as it will for Mango... but I will be able to insure proper care & feedings. (I'm soooooooooooooooooooooo picky on feedings)

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Well, at least you have the good feeling of knowing that they're being well cared for!! And there's only a few friends I trust with my pets when I'm away.

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Who is Chad, someone that you are related to or your landlord?

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Chad is someone who I have lived with since Oct. He was my best friend, but went ubber nutty since Dec & now hes totally lost his mind!!

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Well, at least you have the good feeling of knowing that they're being well cared for!! And there's only a few friends I trust with my pets when I'm away.

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My pets are easy to care for & I told everyone, they just need a place to stay & I can come in once a week to feed, etc...

Lilly has a great home right now. I have NO worries leaving her in this persons full care, as Lilly needs water daily.

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My pets are easy to care for & I told everyone, they just need a place to stay & I can come in once a week to feed, etc...

Lilly has a great home right now. I have NO worries leaving her in this persons full care, as Lilly needs water daily.

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Well, that's good that Lilly has a good home to stay in. I can't believe no one can at least take them for a little while

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Well, that's good that Lilly has a good home to stay in. I can't believe no one can at least take them for a little while

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Many of my friends live with their parents as I have a couple years on them.. & the others live in small places are & 100% full.
Lilly is being squeezed in.

Joe wanted Lilly as he thinks shes cool & she easy to care for.. But his landlady doesn't like spiders, so he was forced to say no... ALL my friends are trying HARD to find a place for my pets, they really are.

Sorry you're in this situation currently, sending you lots of positive thoughts and prayers.

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I sure hope that's true and you'll do everything possible for Bear...wherever she is.
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Many of my friends live with their parents as I have a couple years on them.. & the others live in small places are & 100% full.
Lilly is being squeezed in.

Joe wanted Lilly as he thinks shes cool & she easy to care for.. But his landlady doesn't like spiders, so he was forced to say no... ALL my friends are trying HARD to find a place for my pets, they really are.

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Ok, that's good, and it's nice that your not alone and to know that people are working to help you :) . With other people on the case it sould be a little bit easier to find solutions.

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Ok, that's good, and it's nice that your not alone and to know that people are working to help you :) . With other people on the case it sould be a little bit easier to find solutions.

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My dad asked me to call him so we could talk, as he wants to know everything & I cannot lie (I've lied to him before to protect him from my poor quality of life. I didn't want him to worry about me, he already has my sister to help care for).

Hes going to pay for my first & last months of my new place.. But there are hefty strings attached :( I cannot fight to get Bear, I cannot obtain anymore pets, have to live alone (no roomates), I have until Aug 1st to find a place or I have to get rid of Mango & LIlly (he knows the legal issues with Axle & I'm stuck with him for life)...

I have to obey, because in reality I cannot survive anyother way.


I was suprised when dad didn't get upset with me when I told him I filed bankruptcy. He said he knew it was coming the day I was out on my own. He said it was only a matter of time until I couldn't handle it anymore & was forced into bankruptcy by him... He was happy that I spent 2 months working on filing & not just rushing into it & then getting more screwed.

Telling dad was a huge weight off my chest. But loosing Bear is like the end of the world :( It hurts bad, real bad... real real bad :( I'm not even allowed to fight for her...
Dad said I have to walk away as I have to be #1 at some point in my life, cause look where I am now. I put everything & everyone before me & here I am hungry & homeless. He said once I'm established & can care for myself 100% & not have to worry about my next meal, or where I'm going to sleep tomorrow.. then & only then can I get back into rescuing animals in need...

He knows how this is killing me, as hes watched me raise sick & hurt animals all my life & I have always fought tooth & nail for them. He rarely ever got in the middle of me & an animal because he knew I was always right... He knows I'm right in fighting for Bear, but hes worried I'll loose everything which is already happening.

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So Bear is stuck with the person that does not like her and does not care for her? :confused:

Is there anyway you can get her and rehome her with someone who actually deserves her?

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Sadly yes Bear is stuck with Chad, it makes no sence why he wants her so bad, he hates her... I do know that he seems to like her when guests are over & he says, hey look I rescued a dog! *I want to rip that smirk off his face everytime I hear it*.. then the second they leave, he goes back to ignoring her :(

I don't even know where she is :(
& I cannot get her, as I don't even have a home of my own. I cannot take any time off of work, or I'll get fired, as I'm on super thin glass (I missed a lot of time with the bankruptcy & other stress issues).

I really am homeless.. The only difference between me & someone who sleeps on the streets, is that I have a job.

The place with my friend in Toronto fell through.. I can stay a couple days, but thats it.. :(




I know I didn't mention this as it was kinda embarassing, but Chad told the police I did a B&E to his place! They called me at 2:30 am & asked where I was & if I'd meet with them.. of course I said YES & obeyed with NO delay... at 3:30am they were infront of the building I was at & called & woke me up again... I spoke to them until 4am... They are on my side cause I didn't do a B&E into my OWN home... I can do without last night happening... thats mostly why dad wants me to leave Bear. If Chad will make up a BS story like that, then it could get worse... Who knows what he'll do... 2 of my LARGE male friends are coming to my old place to get my things, as they don't trust Chad, & neither do I

Big prayers for you. And for Bear.

Would Andrew look out for Bear?

I realize it is killing you...but I see where your dad is coming from. You gotta be first, just for a while. Focus on you, and you do have good friends to help you.

In a way, I admire your dad - he could see this coming, and it must have hurt and been SO hard for him to not 'warn' you, but I guess he realized you would have to learn for yourself.

Of course, love your animals. But love yourself first - with all the determination you have shown, and strength, you will work wonders getting your stuff together.

HUGS! :)

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Big prayers for you. And for Bear.

Would Andrew look out for Bear?

I realize it is killing you...but I see where your dad is coming from. You gotta be first, just for a while. Focus on you, and you do have good friends to help you.

In a way, I admire your dad - he could see this coming, and it must have hurt and been SO hard for him to not 'warn' you, but I guess he realized you would have to learn for yourself.

Of course, love your animals. But love yourself first - with all the determination you have shown, and strength, you will work wonders getting your stuff together.

HUGS! :)

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Andrew is a useless tit :mad: I tried to explain to him what they are doing will effect their bankruptcy.. He said well Chad said otherwise... Thats great, but the Agency prob. knows more then Chad don't ya think?? SO Andrew is putting himself into thousands of $$ in debt & there is no hope for him to claim that.. as you cannot create debt like that KNOWINGLY going into a bankruptcy... they did this after they had a few meeting with the bankruptcy agency... *smacks forehead*


Dad wanted me to see what the real world is all about while I'm young & hes still around.. he said its better learning this lesson NOW, then later in life like he did after him & mom divorced. its almost going on 13years now & hes STILL paying for the debt. He'll be 59 in Oct, & said its no life to live to only pay debt... So learning this lesson now, with him around is a healthy lesson... Dad had help from his younger brother when the divorce first happend... Dad no longer does anything with his credit cards & doesn't buy useless junk anymore.. unless its from his savings account.

Dad has always ALWAYS let me get myself into trouble, but was always nearby making sure it didn't get out of control. He would help just enough to get me onto my feet & thats it... Now I'm getting a bigger hand, as well its going to take a lot to get me off my feet.

I am who I am, cause of my dad. Thats why I have so much respect for him. He wants nothing but the best for his kids & refuses to spoil them.. he teaches them with love & wisdom & reality.. nothing is sugar coated, but hes not mean either.

What a great dad - kind of like mine!

Your getting things together for yourself would be wonderful for you - and a great Father's Day tribute for him. :)

You can't worry about Andrew...is he a twit, or just blind? He will find out one day. Prayers for that fellow... :(

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What a great dad - kind of like mine!

Your getting things together for yourself would be wonderful for you - and a great Father's Day tribute for him. :)

You can't worry about Andrew...is he a twit, or just blind? He will find out one day. Prayers for that fellow... :(

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I bought my dad a 10.00 Wendy's gift card. I'm going to mail it to him with a copy of my bankruptcy papers (he asked for a copy).

So it'll be 2 good things that hes receiving int he mail at once :)

I know I know, I shouldn't have bought the gift card, but I bought it a few days ago, before WW3 broke out.

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Hey - this is for your DAD! :D Totally allowed!

could you tell the place you got Bear from how she is treated?

Just a thought


good luck....

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Hey - this is for your DAD! :D Totally allowed!

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Agreed-- Hey, sorry if some of my comments earlier sounded rude, after I was reading over the thread I realized that they didn't come out how they ment to come out and I was like :eek: about how I sounded, sorry.

And I'm sooo glad to hear the police are on your side about the B&E... I can't believe chad would do that!!!

Your dad sounds like he has a good head on him and is trying to do his best for you to try and get your life back straight...

Praying for you and Bear and for you to get your life restored. :)