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I know this is prolly a touchy subject but I'm posting it anyhows.
I have been invited to a man/man wedding of a gay couple I know. Me personally don't have any problems with it, however the happy couple has been harassed by many in my town. I'm worried if i go, that my family will also be targeted. what do you think i should do? :confused:
Choose by the way YOU feel, not by the way you think others might react. If you want to go and support the couple, then do it.
My advice: if your good friends with them and want to go, then just go.
If you wanna go, you should go! They've probably suffered enough prejudice, they'd appreciate all the support they can get :)
I have never heard of anyone's family being targeted just because they attended a gay wedding. If you love and respect the people getting married, I'd go. I highly doubt the local conservatives will be staking out the wedding and taking down names and contact information for everyone who enters the building, unless you live in a far scarier time and place than I do. Granted, I do live in Massachusetts, where gay weddings are legal ... Are they legal in your province? I don't know the Canadian law in this matter.
I was just closing before hitting the sack when I saw your post.
I don't know how well you know this couple, but if you enjoy their company and are good friends, then I would attend the wedding . Not attending might make it seem like you're prejudiced like the others. Would your hubby be attending with you?
If it was me I would do what I felt like doing if hubby is ok with it.
Some people will probably harass you over it, but then, there's always biggots waiting to jump on the soapbox.
I wouldn't have a problem with it myself, they deserve happiness as much as anyone else.
Take a break and enjoy yourself, you deserve it....no drinking though....lol.
Karen, they are legal in Canada also, but you would be surprised at how some people can turn against you if you befriend gays. There are some very narrow minded people out there. If Romance had really young kids some people would let their own kids harass her kids. Maybe it's been legal in the states longer than in Canada, not sure.
My hubby will take me anywhere i want to go (he's a sweety) whether or not he agrees, if i want to go he will take me (yes i'm spoiled) and if hubby is busy his brother takes me. I'm never at a loss for a date lol.
Small minded people bother me.
If they are your friends and you want to go, don't worry about what other people think and GO!
Hopefully they have invited a few straight friends - if the straights show up and support them, that sends a really strong message.
People that harrass gays suddenly can become wimps if others "like them" support something they don't. Know what I mean?
Go and have fun! :)
Go and be glad that with the times love is scarce so celebrate all of it!
I would go to be supportive of my friends. :)
Hard to say without a clearer idea of what kind of harassment the couple's been subjected to. Graffiti, anonymous calls to their employers, insults shouted out of car windows - I wouldn't worry. Tire slashing, bricks through windows, or arson would make me nervous.Quote:
Originally Posted by Romance
But don't assume that the sort of cowards who'd break laws targeting the actual couple would be willing to vent their fear anywhere near as violently at someone who just went to their wedding. Remember that you're dealing with spineless people who'd probably be content to just start rumors about you. And as Oscar Wilde said, the only thing worse than being talked about is NOT being talked about!
Love, Columbine
I would definately go. Ignorance and prejudice is not eliminated in global ways, it is eliminated one small act at a time. One person doing one small thing, changing one mind.
I would be there in a heartbeat ;). If you want to go then go, i am sure your friends would be grateful of the support :).