You don't know me very well, but I wanted to add my prayers too. I have been in the same spot and it is hard to pull yourself out of it.
I am so glad you're feeling better today.
Crystal
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You don't know me very well, but I wanted to add my prayers too. I have been in the same spot and it is hard to pull yourself out of it.
I am so glad you're feeling better today.
Crystal
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Originally Posted by RobiLee
No, Robin, that's NOT TRUE. What your husband is saying/doing is because of the type of person he is. You thought he was one thing and it turned out he was not. You know in your heart that you do not deserve the type of things he is apparently dishing out. Once you come to accept that you are not the bad guy here, you will feel a relief to be out of a partnership that is destructive. Please don't help him in his attempts to put you down.
Living well is the best revenge and you have the capacity for a good life, but only if you want it. I hope that you can want it as badly for yourself as so many of us here want it for you.
Your son is young and has not had enough of life's experiences to understand your needs. Maybe he has not been able to completely understand and meet his own needs and all this is overwhelming for him.
Many loving hugs and prayers for you Robin.
What Staci said is quoted for truth. LIVE to spite them. LIVE because WE love you. LIVE because your girls love you and NEED you.
*HUGS*
4:00 PM Sunday ...
Robin is watching the Daytona 500 (wrog guy leading :p ) and
still has Norma for company.
She sounded pretty *chipper*!
YAAY! Glad you are feeling chipper, Robin. Keep it up - could get to be a habit! ;) :D
MAJOR LES now.Quote:
Originally Posted by RobiLee
love ya too!
I don't post often, but I had to let you know I am thinking of you and praying for you every day.
Years ago, my ex-husband did the same thing to me. It took a long time and quite a bit of therapy for me to understand that the only way he could feel better was to make me feel worse. I remember finally understanding that I couldn't do day to day coping - sometimes I had to do minute to minute. I repeated it over and over, "I'm OK right now and I'm working on being OK for the next minute."
At that time, he had separated me from all my friends and I felt so alone. Please know that there are many people here that are praying for you and are willing to talk anytime you need a friend. You are NOT alone. You need only reach out and someone will reach back.
Many hugs go to you and the furkids.
Robin
Sweet Robin, who by the way, has the best name on earth ;)
I think more people than would let on, have been thru very similar situations to what you are having to go through...and they were doing it alone. You have such an outlet of people here that I REALLY FEEL legitimately care and love you, really!!! My hear aches for you. My prayers go out to you.
Why in the world people have the power and ability to hurt other people is beyond me...it makes me angry to know that you are hurting because someone made some pretty bad choices and you're being affected by them. Well, you are so much better than that, such an important lady!! Look into those beautiful green eyes that you have and know that the face looking back at you is LOVED and prayed for by many many people. I know you might think, yeah right, you are not in my situation, but you will get thru this. One day, you are going to look BACK at this....YOU WILL LOOK BACK AT THIS!
Life can get real dark and thoughts that overwhelm us can haunt us when we want most to not think about them, I know...that's when you can call or email one of us. You have to at times like those....I know in my past, and hard trying times in my life, that I have gone thru...if it were not for my family and friends to talk to, to cry to, I wouldn't have made it thru those times. I think that is why God gave us shoulders :p ....really....when you can't stand on your own, it's time for you to lean on someone else and rest that weary head on someones shoulders...please know that your life is WAY too precious!!!! You can get through this,I know you can. (((HUGS))) girl.
Here is my shoulder if you need it.... :)
Love,
Robyn
Robin,
Staci's post is right on. It says it all so well. I'm so glad you're putting it on the fridge. Read it over and over.
You're acting as if you're not worth it because of other toxic people in your life. This is where you're wrong.......you are so worth it!!! I hope and pray you stay cheerful and are able to pull yourself out of this. YOU ARE THE BETTER PERSON HERE!!!! - BELIEVE IT!!! There is a better life out there for you. Leave the toxicity behind and stay with people that know what a wonderful lady you are. Break away, you deserve to have a better life!!
I've also been there, done that. I told you about it in PM several months ago. Please PM me if I can do anything. {{{{{GIANT HUGS}}}}}
Love, Terry
please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Robin. ((((HUGS)))) we love you!
Sending some Florida sunshine your way.
Exactly! I hope I never let anyone have that much power over my happiness again. Having said that, it was a dark place and hard to pull myself out of it. One day I woke up and it was like something smacked me in the head and I thought, "No more." That very day I started telling myself that I was a good person and that I could do anything I set my mind to. Positive reinforcement works. Tell yourself you're the best you that you can be, even if you don't believe it. You will.Quote:
Originally Posted by robinh
Robin, I'm so sorry to hear that you're not feeling well. I know I don't come around much anymore but I think about PT and my favorite PTers (one of them is you!) all the time.
I know we don't know each other very well and I'm not familiar with your situation to give you many words of encouragement, but I do hope you find the right medications to give you the boost you need to get back on the road to recovery. God doesn't give you what you can't handle. And if He brought you to it, He'll bring you through it. That which does not kill us only makes us stronger.
Keep your chin up, girl!
XOXOX
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Originally Posted by Christiansmommy
Robin I really liked what Robyn said. Our pastor recently preached a sermon and it dealt with "wounded healers." A wounded healer is someone who has gone through a dark time or trial in their lives and has made their way to the other side. We are often put in these situations so that we may be of help to others and offer them encouragement at just the right time. I see many wounded healers right here in our own Pet Talk family. I would like to offer you my shoulder right along with Robyn's and everyone else's. We love you Robin and just know that you will come out of this stronger and someday might even be used to help someone else.
(((((((hugs)))))))
I chatted with Robin today - for about 15 minutes. She sounded ok. She laughed at my silliness (long story). She was on her way to an appt with her therapist.
That's good to see. This thread has been playing on my mind all day and I wanted to check in before heading for bed.
Keep smiling Robin - it will come good :D
Let me tell you there has been nothing to smile about here. I absolutely just can't stand another minute. It has been phone games all day. I have been behaving terribly right along with the rest of my family. I've been up all night and worked myself up into a rage. By morning I was sitting in my son's driveway and my dad told him to call the sheriff on me. Really nice getting a phone from the sheriffs office. So since they wanted to play that way I decided to press charges against Brandon for when he dragged me into his house and hit me several months ago. Things have just gotten worse. Now he has informed me that he wants his furniture back, so I guess I will take it outside and let it sit in the rain. Therapy session didn't go well because at this point what else do I have to say. I have the worst headache ever and a nasty cough. Does anyone understand why I absolutely can't stand my life and wish I were dead? I mean what is the point. I'm trying to hang in there but it hurts when your son and husband think you are just a piece of sh*t. Oh wait that isn't what they said. They said I was a "pyscho b*tch". Then when I find out that it is my FATHER who told Brandon to call the sheriff boy talk about being hurt. When Brandon hit me I should have presses charges right then but I didn't because daddy dearest didn't want the family to be embarrassed.
Yep, my motto is....Die Bitch Die!
Sweetheart, I don't know what to say to make things better for you. I do understand why you feel like you do but without stating the bleedin' obvious, death is permanent - you can't change your mind or watch the reactions of your non-loved ones.Quote:
Yep, my motto is....Die Bitch Die!
Please, please call one of the PTers who have offered their shoulders right now!
I'll be alright. I'm heading off to bed now. I have this awful headache and I've been awake since 1:30am. I just needed to vent.
Thanks for listening.
Try to get some sleep - can't promise that things will be any better in the morning but you have a hell of a lot of people who care about you. Check in tomorrow if you can, or just give one of us a call ok???
I wish there was some magical thing we could do to make it all better. Don't think it can't get worse. That will hinder any help you're seeking. You've got to find some hope, no matter how small, and hang onto it for dear life. Lean on Anna. She's close enough to help when we can't. Remember what I said about this taking a long time. You won't get better overnight but you must be open to healing and progressing. It's a huge adjustment and it won't be easy. Just live moment to moment and try not to think long term. Big PT hugs from all of us.
Robin, I'm sorry your day didn't go well. :( I really, really don't know what to say. I want to make you feel better but I can't find the words. I just wish your life would get back in order. ((hugs)) to you.
6:15 pm - I just called and talked to #1 Son Brandon ...
He said Robin didn't really want to talk , so I bent HIS ear.
I gave him some of our contact numbers, and also asked HIM to call the
local "Help Hotline" folks and introduce himself.
We never talked about "the furniture" - he mentioned he wasn't sure what had Robin upset.
He assured me THEY (the Family) were dong everything they could to improve the situation.
Hope Robin gets some needed rest.
phred, you're a good friend. thank you for letting us know. prayers for robin, and i hope she sleeps well, deep and long
So sad, such as very sad situation.:( God I wish I could help you out in some small way. All I can do is offer up more prayers.
Robin, lack of sleep can reek havoc on one's body and one's attitude and temperment. Rest as much as you can sweetie.
Phred and Stace - thanks for keeping us updated. Has anyone heard from Anna??? How is she coping?
Robin - just vent here whenever you need to.
That's horrid that the Sheriff was called on you. I hope your dad and son learn about other ways to help so they don't resort to desperate measures and name-calling.
{{{HUGS}}} to you.
THANK YOU Phred and Staci for the updates.
Did #1 son sound like he was going to introduce himself to the other options???
Robin - you have taken a couple of good steps forward, and then it seems like a fall back - but the forward will overtake the backwards stuff, believe me.
Hope you had a good sleep. HUGS!
Hold that thought! It is a TRUTH that will help you pull through all this craziness. It's always darkest before the dawn. :) Still praying for you, darlin'.Quote:
Originally Posted by RobiLee
more good thoughts coming your way
More good thoughts on their way from Colorado. I've been thinking about you a lot lately and hoping your situation gets better.
Along with everyone else, I am worried sick about you, Robin. Who wouldn't think a person could get so upset and worried about a person they've never met? Believe me, that's exactly how I feel right now. I'm looking forward to hearing good news soon. Hang in there please, honey!! We love you and we're here for you. :(
Oh, Robin. I don't have anything to say that will take your pain away, or that will solve your problems but it's not for lack of want, that's for darn sure.
I don't know if you remember this, but my father and uncle both committed suicide within 2 years of each other. I am, to this day still going to therapy trying to cope with their deaths. I can totally understand that you're in pain, both physically and mentally, but it will get better. Please let your medication kick in. It seems terribly cruel that it takes so long for you to feel better, but you will. I know it's hard to think of your family when your hurting the way you are, but they love you. If you were to hurt yourself permanently (I don't want to use the "s" word again), your family would be devastated. And that's putting it lightly. They love you and only want to see you get well.
Secondly, again, easier said than done, but try not to react out of emotion. When you work yourself into a rage (which I'm sure we all do), try not to act on it. Count to 100, take deep breaths, hug the doggies, etc., just to get your mind off the rage for the moment. If you still feel the need to act after all that, then at least you know that you are either more calm, or at least thinking more clearly. I know I'm terribly emotional and can say/do very stupid things when I don't stop and think first.
I'm no therapist, by any stretch of the imagination. I am just a survivor of what my father and uncle have left us to deal with. It hurts and it hurts bad. Please take GOOD care of yourself. Vent here as often as you need to. You know we're here for you!
((((HUGS))))) Robin, I truly hope things start looking up for you soon and they will - I promise. hang in there - we love you. :)
I SLEPT!!
I fell asleep right before Brandon left and I just woke up a little bit ago. I feel as if I could go right back to sleep also. I still have a killer headache. I have an appt. with my lawyer today at 3:15. I hope it goes well but I'm not looking for much to happen.
I also want to add that my family loves me and are trying very hard to help me. They may not always do the right thing but my therapist told me yesterday that it is very hard to know what to do and how to deal with a loved one that is suffering so deeply and is dealing with a mental illness. I also want to let you all know that I have not been the easiest person to be around. I am full of rage and it manifests itself in such an awful way. In the past 1 1/2 years I have not been able to get angry and my therapist seems to think that it is coming out in a big way now. Not exactly in a positive way either.
I have lots of people who love me and want to see me win this battle. When my son left he gave me a huge hug and begged me to fight hard and to get better. He told me to do it for him because he wants his mother back.
This is not an easy thing for me. I am trying so hard to hang on each and every day. I have so many people who care about me. I read through this thread every day so that I can remind myself that people care about me. I also know that I want to stay around for my parents, my son, my best friend Anna (definitely want to prove that girl wrong and let her know that I'm not ever going to leave her ;)) and my wonderful friends Norma and Linda. You guys have been so great to check in every day and let me know that you are thinking of me. It is hard to find the strength to not give in each day.
When Brandon hugged me before he left we were both wishing that our family could somehow come back together. It is just as hard on him as it is for me. I wish that asshole knew the pain that he has caused for both me and his son. He is selfish though and doesn't care about us. That is something that I have to learn and give up on.
Thanks for letting me ramble on again. Thanks for all the support. I think I will try to catch a few more winks of sleep.
{{{HUGS}}}
Awww, I love you so much Katie Girl!Quote:
Originally Posted by Kfamr
Thanks, Kay!
{{HUGS}}
LOL...Katie girl, I look at this picture and all I can think is that your white coat is looking so dingy and you and your little sister are in desperate need of a bath...LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by RobiLee
I need to take pictures of my 3 new pups that Phred, Amy and Jess got me...LOL. I love them!
Phred got me a cute little gray and white husky with blue eyes that I call Smokey ;)
Amy got me a red and white husky with blue eyes that I can't seem to come up with a permanent name for. I seem to keep calling him Shermbo for Sherman and Nebo, but that just doesn't really sound right. Any suggestions?
AND Jess found me a gorgeous stuffed Akita! I have never seen a stuffed Akita before. She is so cute and I call her Little Kate.
I will try to get pictures of them all for you to see!
Not worth another thought then is he? Its YOU and your son that are important.Quote:
He is selfish though and doesn't care about us.
Glad you managed to get some sleep sweetie
Still keeping you close in my prayers Robin. {{{hugs}}}
Robin, {{{Hugs}}}. I had LES reading your posts this morning. First, I am glad to hear that you have gotten a good night's sleep. I know how lack of sleep can effect our emotional and physical well-being. I was also very pleased to see that you came back every time you thought of something else to add. :) That is the way it should be. There are many of us waiting to have any kind of conversation with you that you want to have. We are here, let's talk. It sounds like you are getting quite a lovely collection of pups there, I can't wait to see pictures (I have never seen a stuffed Akita, either).