Have you tried approaching this kid and trying to befriend him and try and make him see the light?? I hate to see kids throw away their lives like that.
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Have you tried approaching this kid and trying to befriend him and try and make him see the light?? I hate to see kids throw away their lives like that.
I agree (again :) ), it only takes one person to care enough...I know it may not be "cool" at your age to befriend someone like this boy, but if it could make his life better...you have an amazing opportunity...especially being in 5 classes with him. You just may be a motivating factor in his life.Quote:
Originally posted by mugsy
Have you tried approaching this kid and trying to befriend him and try and make him see the light?? I hate to see kids throw away their lives like that.
Too true NM!! There is a story in Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul about a kid who was walking home and saw another kid (who was very unpopular) with all of his books and offered to help him (even though it wouldn't go over well with his football buddies) and ultimately befriended him. At graduation, the unpopular boy (who had since become pretty popular) was tops in his class and was giving a speech and revealed to everyone in attendance that the day the other boy had stopped to help him, he was planning on committing suicide, but that the boy's help made him change is mind. So, see....little things can make a huge difference. Also, if you do decide to take my advice (not that it's always very good!! ;) ) please realize that if he is going to change it will take awhile to happen.
I could try it...
You never know. You may make a huge difference in his life and actually come out of it with a new friend. Go into it with an open mind. Offer to meet in the library to study for the next test or something like that. Give him a reason to WANT to come to school. Maybe the fact that he's lonely is the reason for the drugs, alcohol, and truancy.
I know we stated that people who takes drugs have a choice to do so. Sometimes its different with children/young adults. They may feel it is their only option to get away from whatever horrible things are happening in their lives. These children/young adults are the ones that end up like the person referenced in the Chicken Soup story Mugsy talked about. (not all, of course)Quote:
Originally posted by mugsy
Maybe the fact that he's lonely is the reason for the drugs, alcohol, and truancy.
Please befriend this boy. You may never know the great impact you'll have on him. I mean, just imagine how his life is....you could be the ray of sunshine to brighten his day/week/month. Wouldn't that be great?
mugsy, that's my favorite story in that book. :)
YellowLabLover ... I don't know if you are a girl or a boy .... but if you are a girl and you decide to try to befriend this troubled boy, please remember to only meet him in public places at first, ok?
Sorry to sound paranoid, but I have seen some bad things happen to kids I know, in similar situations.
That's why I suggested the library to study for a test!! I'm definitely with you on the public places part.
Yes! I agree....good point.Quote:
Originally posted by mugsy
That's why I suggested the library to study for a test!! I'm definitely with you on the public places part.
little things would probally help!!
like saying hi when you pass him on the way to class, or talking to him about a bogus class assignment. he might start feeling like he is cared about and improve.
I am so slow and tired, that I had to read every post over and over again, before I finally understood them. :rolleyes: :p Yes, yes, I am friends with him (not too deep)...but I can tell you know matter how hard I try, there is no way under the sun, that I will ever get him to go to a public place to talk or to study for a test-he's never done that before!!! Just about everyone in the class encourage him to do better, especially the teachers. I am still learning some things about him, even tho we are in a lot of classes together, we hardly get to talk- since I am trying to learn (plus the teachers aren't the nicest when it comes to talking in class). Now that I recall it, I do believe he is in some kind of therapy type class for his drinking, I remember him telling me about that. Our vice-prinicpal (DEVIL!! :mad: ) is on his case too. The vice p. searches his locker everyday and once and a while he will get called down to the guidence office, and talks to his councelor. I think he might have some family issues that may be going on too, I am not 100% sure, but I think there might be. He's told me about his parents drinking problems, I think that's where he might be getting it from. Ok..too much thinking and typing, I'm pooped. (I saw The Towers today for the 4th time, I think that's what did it. lol). I'm sure I missed a lot, again, sorry...too pooped! :o *yawn*.
p.s. Twisterdog- I am a girl. LOL. :p :D
p.s. Yellowlablover ... me, too. :)
Give him some motivation to study for the test. Bake some cookies and tempt him with food. Guys NEVER turn down food ;) . Tell him you'll treat him to a movie or something that he likes (in a public place:) ) if he studies with you and gets a decent grade on the test. If his parents have drinking issues, they are probably NOT very interested in their kid's life.