Oh, I am so sorry. :( :( I just don't know what to say. I wish I could be there to give you a big hug. I will keep you in my prayers. Peanut is running around at the RB now with all the catnip he could want. :) {{{HUGS}}}
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Oh, I am so sorry. :( :( I just don't know what to say. I wish I could be there to give you a big hug. I will keep you in my prayers. Peanut is running around at the RB now with all the catnip he could want. :) {{{HUGS}}}
I am SO SORRY about Tubby! He was such a Pet Talk standard, being the chiefest among all the black cats here, with all his antics and his star quality. Now he is a different kind of star, and will shine in your heart.
{{{{HUGZ}}}} to you and Terry. Play hard at the Rainbow Bridge. Go find Smokey and see if she'll share her shoestring with you.
Debbie, I am sorry for your loss:(
Play hard Tubby!!
Thank you again everyone. This morning was very difficult having to get ready for work with no "help" from Tubby. I know I did the right thing, but I miss him so bad. Peanut is a great comfort, but she is not a snuggler like he was. Whenever I was having a bad day I knew I could count on Tubby to snuggle up with to make me feel better. I need him more than ever right now.
He is still with you Debbie. I know that he comes to you and Terry in the middle of the night and softly purrs in your ear just to let you know that he's doing OK.
Debbie,
I just had to come here again to read the posts. It is undoubtful that Tubby was a much loved member of our community, and of your lives. I am thinking of you three, and keeping you in my prayers. May the memories of that lovable boy keep you going.
Johanna
I have,it on Good Authority,that Tubby,has made it all right,to Jerusalem,where The Pet Talker angels,are vacationing,and that he is now an Official Pet Tlaker Angel,and has his wings.I was looking,at the Photos,of Tubby,and his history,with you,and he was such,a Very GOOD COMPANION,for all those years,and is so sadly missed.:( :( :( :( :(
Debbie,
I don't know what to say other than that my heart is aching for you and my face is covered in tears of sadness. :(
Honey, I'm so sorry. This is a horrible, horrible loss. I agree with whomever said Tubby was a HUGE part of PT and our special black kitties.
I haven't felt such a loss since our dear Sophie. I can't imagine how you feel, honey.
Please take care. :(
Love, Kelly
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I need him more than ever right now.
I know this feeling so well... I felt that way when I lost my Katz.
You're in my thoughts.
Kirsten
Hi Debbie,
I've been coming back to this thread twice daily to see how things are going. A loss is always difficult to accept and it's so hard to let go, especially if, as you say Tubby used to confort you.
I can only suggest you one thing, start thinking about getting a new fur baby, not to replace Tubby, that will never happen, just because you all need a lot of tenderness a kitten may bring. Just don't waste you love in vain, use it. This way Tubby will be much happier seeing you all in abetter shape.
Take care
Karenxx
R.I.P. Tubby. :(
Oh no! He was doing so well.
I'm sorry I missed this thread. I'm very, very sorry for the loss of your big boy, Tubby.
My thoughts are with you.
Debbie
I am so saddened at Tubby's passing.I'm so sorry Debbie.This is so unexpected,since I haven't been on Pettalk for a few days.I'm tearing up over this but I know this was his time to go.I just don't know what else to say except he was so loved by you.He was so grateful to have you in his life.You were the best mom to him.I know how much you'll miss him but he's resting now and watching over you.
Dear Debbie
I saw the title of this thread this morning at work and knew that I could not read it without breaking down in tears. I am now at home with tears streaming down my face for your loss.
Tubby was well loved not only by you, but by the people here at PT. May you find some solace with Peanut, Terry, and the knowledge that Tubby is now running around at the RB just waiting for you.
Cheryl
Rest in Peace Tubby.
You will be missed sweet boy.
Tubby is not in any discomfort now. You will meet again for sure. I am so sorry for your loss, we will all miss Tubby and all your stories! They don't have to stop yet! Please know that all is ok.
I'm also coming back so often! It will take time, time. And he never will be gone forever because there will be so many moments when you just look at one of his places and expect for a second to see him there . :(
We know we can't fill the gap but we're here for you.:)
Thank you all again. When I woke up this morning I thought it was going to be a better day, but it's not. He wasn't underfoot in the bathroom while I was getting ready. He wasn't begging for his morning treats, he wasn't there for his morning skritchies - those morning skritchies were always the best - he wasn't there to watch me get dressed, I didn't get any welcoming mrrt's when I entered a room where he was.
I have never lost anyone as close to me as he was that was such a big part of my daily routine. I've lost friends and family, but I didn't see them all that much so it didn't make that much of an impact on my daily life. But Tubby, as usual, he's a whole other story. He was always the type that had to be right in the middle of everything. He was a total attention monger and would follow me everywhere I went. I often called him my velcro kitty because I just couldn't detach him from me - especially after we'd get back from a vacation or something. Then there was no getting away from him. ;)
But like I was saying, he was always such a big presence in the house, and now he's gone and the house seems so empty and quiet. Peanut is becoming more of a snuggle bunny. I don't know if it's because she misses the attention from him, or if she's just glad because she doesn't have to compete with him for our attention anymore. ;) She has also become much more vocal and will walk around the house meowing. I think she is wondering where he is and why he doesn't answer. If he was laying in the living room, and she came down the steps, he would mrrt at her a few times, just to say hi. And even though she would swat him when he licked her, I think she is missing that attention as well.
Anyway, the stupid phone is ringing so I guess I better get to work. How am I supposed to work and don't these people understand that I could really care less about their electricity being out?! I haven't been able to stop thinking about him since the beginning of the "crisis" 3 weeks ago. I try and distract myself and it doesn't work.
I miss him so much. When does it start getting easier? :(
It not so much that it ever gets easier Debbie, it's more like you find yourself getting stronger - and able to cope with it... although it doesn't seem like it now. Such a huge whole in your life and I'm so very sorry you have to go through it. :(
Not for a little while. Keep on mourning as long as you see fit. Little by little, it will become a touch easier to distract yourself and every day from there on out will be a little better. You'll never forget him, you'll never stop missing him, but the pain dims and you are able to remember all the wonderful things and not concentrate on the last three weeks or the fact that he's not there.
It will get better, I promise. Just go slowly.
Just wanted you to know we are still thinking of you and feeling your loss. Unfortunately, only time will make it easier.
I'm so very sorry to hear about your loss.
{{{{Debbie}}}}
I can't believe I just found this. I'm so sorry to hear about Tubby. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, because it's not easy to lose a beloved family member like Tubby. Reading about how Peanut is going around meowing brought a tear to my eye. I think cats miss their "siblings" and don't know where they've gone or why. Hug her tightly and let her know that her "big" brother is now an angel looking over your family. :)
*****hugs*****
Karen
Debbie....I was just getting ready for work and Max kept getting under foot and meowing constantly for his morning tummy rub and all I could think of was you and Tubby. I admire you so much and you are a much stronger purrson than I'll ever be. When the time comes for Speckles I think I will have to take some time off work.
{{{HUGS}}} It's been said before but in time the pain will ease up.
Much love
slick
xo
It does take time. There are days, even now, when I miss Goldie coming to "help" me dry my hair, which was her "job" the last few years of her life. It does get easier with time, but we never forget our furry friends who have gone over the bridge.
Debbie, I agree with the others in that it does take time to heal. It may even take years. I know that I still think about my Pepper daily and still get tears in my eyes if I think about him too much. I don't think that we ever get over our loss but we do get stronger emotionally. The best thing that helped me was to let 2 more cats into my life. I know this isn't the right thing for everyone but it really helps to start being able to love another kitty even though you know in your heart that the kitty you lost can never be replaced. Please take care. Things will get better. {{{HUGS}}}
Someone else mentioned this and I was going to reply to them, but forgot, so here goes. There is no doubt in my mind that I will get another kitty, and I think I've even got Terry somewhat convinced I'll need 2. ;) The reason behind that is because I'm not sure how Peanut will take to another kitty, seeing as how she is such a queenie and all. And more importantly, no matter what kitty I get it will be younger than she is, and will more than likely want to play more, so to keep new kitty from terrorizing Peanut too much, he/she will need a playmate. I would really like to adopt 2 together - you know, you see them and hear about them all the time how they've been together since they were babies and the shelter really doesn't want to split them up.Quote:
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The best thing that helped me was to let 2 more cats into my life.
However, it's still too early for that, and the way I know that is because I was looking through petfinder yesterday and none of the kitties were good enough. There were some that looked like real sweethearts and even a black duo, 6 years old I think they were. But what I was looking for was Tubby. I don't want another cat, I want Tubby back. I know that's not possible, and I know the day will come when I'm ready for one (hopefully 2) more, but not just yet I guess....unless someone can bring Tubby back for me.....please? <weak smile>
My Marshall and Tucker are great together.No more upsets from the older boys and girls.They totally leave them alone.When I just had Marshall..the whole house was upset at him bugging everyone.All he needed was another playmate.So your right on that one Debbie.I really am so sorry for your greatest loss right now.I'm so attached to BooBoos it will be just as hard when his day comes..soon.
He follows me everywhere too.Constant snuggler like your Tubby,and talks all the time to me.I hope things look better with some new cats coming in.
When it's time for you to welcome another furbaby(ies) you will know. As a rescuer I see it a lot; someone lost their cat of many years and they're "just looking." Every once in a while some cat ends up being a "special delivery" for them. I think the RB cat pointed out the selection.
{{{Hugz}}} again, and give Peanut some extra lovin's.
;)
This *need* has Lucky & Louie written all over it!! :DQuote:
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... There is no doubt -
and I think I've even got Terry somewhat convinced I'll need 2. ;)
... I would really like to adopt 2 together -
... they've been together since they were babies and
the shelter really doesn't want to split them up.
And they're not Tubby BLACK - so you'd never be accused of
trying to replace your First :) Love - Tubby.
Luck & Louie - "Available" >>>
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v520/Skilesg/LL.jpg
Take all the time you need to Deb,
but I think I head Tubby say "Mrrrrt!" when he saw the L&L Portrait!
{{{HUGGS}}}
/s/ Phred
Debbie I keep returning - I can't seem to keep away. And each time - it hurts. I know it's nothing compared to your pain - but just so you know - you're not alone in this - we're all here with you. Trying to support you somehow...................................... anyhow.
I'm sure Peanut is asking you where Tubby is - it's been proved cats do mourn. As silly as it sounds - tell her whats happened and yes, she will need more cuddles and assurances. A big part of her life is missing too. Mourn the Tubster together Debbie - tears soften cat fur xxxxx
Love Lynne xxx
Debbie - I'm so sorry that I didn't see this sooner. Rest in peace dear Tubby.
As much as I know what you are going through, I also know that it doesn't make it any better. It can be almost an overwhelming feeling of sadness and grief.
All I do know is that it will get better over time. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but eventually. Then you'll be able to remember the good times with Tubby without feeling overwhelmed by sorrow.
We'll miss you Tubby.
Thanks Lynne. Last night Terry wasn't around so Peanut and I had a good snuggle session. I told her all what happened to Tubby and told her he won't be coming home, but that he is still looking out for her, and if she feels something licking on her when nobody is around - it's Tubby. After I got done telling her all about it, she stayed for about 5 minutes - without me petting her which is unusual because she will normally leave as soon as you stop petting her - but anyway, she stayed for about 5 minutes, sitting quietly, seeming to contemplate what I was saying. Then she looked up at me, gave me one of her tiny little squeak meows and jumped up to be under her "heat lamp." I could swear she understood what I was saying, but then later she was wandering the house meowing, so I don't think it sunk in.Quote:
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I'm sure Peanut is asking you where Tubby is - it's been proved cats do mourn. As silly as it sounds - tell her whats happened and yes, she will need more cuddles and assurances. A big part of her life is missing too. Mourn the Tubster together Debbie - tears soften cat fur xxxxx
Love Lynne xxx
I don't know if I've mentioned this already, but it does seem like she needs more attention now. I also noticed this when Tubby was really sick with the first "crisis." She seeks us out and will jump in our laps, which she very rarely ever did before. I don't know if it's because she is looking for more attention, or if it's because our laps are emptier. Tubby was always dominant and she would never jump up when he was there, so maybe it's just that he's not there to intimidate her anymore. We have been paying extra attention to her because she seems to be looking for it - and because we need it.
Debbie, when I lost my calico, Patches, Rascal hadn't been on the scene too long.
Patches always slept on my extra chair in my office. Two weeks after her passing, Rascal came into the office and walked right up to the chair and put his paws on the edge, looking for her.
I was on the phone and I had to hang up because I just burst into tears.
Magic my beautiful black kitty like Tubby and Patches lived together. I wouldn't exactly say they got along because Patches was a little stinker and Magic would only take so much from her and then they would get into it. Right at that time is when Rascal showed up and Magic was already very ill.
After Magic went to the R/B, Patches and Rascal became fast buddies. Even in that short time they lived together, he really missed her.
I just have to feel that telling Peanut all that has transpired is a good thing.........do they understand..........I would like to think so.
But it probably helped you the most.
We are all thinking of you Debbie..........the feelings are just so raw right now and we understand.
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but anyway, she stayed for about 5 minutes, sitting quietly, seeming to contemplate what I was saying. Then she looked up at me, gave me one of her tiny little squeak meows and jumped up to be under her "heat lamp." I could swear she understood what I was saying,
:( :( I'm really fighting back the tears. If I'm hurting like this I can only imagine how many more tears you have to cry before the pain stops. I'm positive she understands.
I'm sure learning alot from you Debbie. To be honest, I've never had to make "the decision" and when the time comes for Speckles (and I hope that isn't for a couple of years yet) I'll remember what you and other Pet Talkers went through and what they did to help them cope.
Slick, I sure hope that day doesn't come for a long long long time too. But I have to say that no matter how you prepare yourself, it's still going to hit you like a ton of bricks. I thought I had been preparing myself for the last 3 1/2 years - ever since I found out his kidneys were failing. I did the same like you and tried to learn from everyone here who lost a beloved pet. Ok, I have to admit that it does help somewhat, but having to deal day in and day out with not having him here is really hard - and that's what you can't prepare for. Even when he was sick I was worried and trying to prepare myself, but he was still here and I could still go down and snuggle with him, or smooch on him, so even that didn't help.Quote:
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I'm sure learning alot from you Debbie. To be honest, I've never had to make "the decision" and when the time comes for Speckles (and I hope that isn't for a couple of years yet) I'll remember what you and other Pet Talkers went through and what they did to help them cope.
I know you are strong and you will make it through that awful day when you have to, just like I have to make it through this, but like I say, I sure hope that day doesn't come for a looooong time.
{{{hugs}}} to you because I know what you're going through too.
I haven't been able to keep up with the threads; only posting now and then about the P,C,DOTD as time permits.
Oddly, I must have miss-clicked and cat memorial came up, and here was the sad news about dear Tubby . . . oh, gosh, I'm so sorry to learn of Tubby's passing and want to express my heartfelt condolences to you, your husband and Peanut.
I'm sorry I have not been able to keep up with the threads or I would have known he was ill and been better prepared (who ever is??!!) when I saw this, but please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and I am sure Tubby is looking down from RB with gratitude for having such a loving and devoted family, and is especially beholden to you for having shown the courage and strength to know when his time had come. [[[HUGS]]]
Your pictures of him are a beautiful tribute, and he reminds me of my TNR Jette, with the little white chest patch. RIP, beloved Tubby.
Terry just called and said the Vet's office called and Tubby's ashes are back. Terry is going to pick them up tomorrow and bring Tubby home. I'm glad they're back because now Tubby can still come on the trip with us. Some might think that is kind of morbid, but I would hate to leave him home all alone for two weeks....
Then sometime in spring I will take him up to my Mom's place in Wisconsin and spread him around in the woods behind her house. I never let him out without his leash, even though they're out in the country there because they live next to a busy highway, but he so loved it up there, out in the country, and in the woods, watching all the birds, squirrels and chipmunks. And then he can watch over Goofy too, so nothing bad happens to him since he is an outside only kitty.
This just makes it so final....not that it wasn't final before....:(
I'm glad that Tubby's final resting place will be a family location that he's loved so in the past. The continuity sounds healing to me. May this help you heal, too.
{{{gentle hugs}}}
Tubby will thank you for this.The country is beautiful:D