I know. She is a wimp. :o
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I know. She is a wimp. :o
When I said- peaceful landscape thing
she was like u get that from a book? wth
I really don't think she care, that i'm saying thanks!! I'm get her tommorow on the bus!! :p
Tell her that the insult came all the way from England, and now there is someone in another country who despises her. I really wish i could speak to her face to face, i'd make her tie herself in knots <laughs evilly> seriously, i am EVIL when i am mad, my brother can confirm that!
Oh, and also, if you even did get it from a book, then you could say 'well at least i can read'.
I think you are wrong to antagonizing the situation and should let it be. All it does is make you the same as her. It may sound funny and fun but it's not and you are only furhter aggravating the situation. And don't bother telling me I don't know what it's like to be bullied, I was bullied a LOT in school, and sometimes even beaten up, so I know exactly what it's like. You are in the wrong to try to make it worse and I really wish you would rethink it beacuse as time goes by it will only make things worse and really could cause serious issues someday. You don't really know all that girl has gone through in her life to make her feel so crappy about herself she has to do that to others, so you would be better off feeling sorry for her that she feels so badly about herself, than to try to make it worse. Just think long and hard about what you say and do before you do it, it can have lasting consequences. You know what she's saying is stupid and not true so it shouldn't matter to you what she says. If she physically did anything then sure you could get adults involved and defend yourself, but you are better off being the bigger person than stooping to her level just to get her back. It makes YOU the better person not to do it.
I understand what you are saying, but this comes from my point of view, 'Why should you put up with it?' This girl is obviously being hurtful to others and whether or not her life is bad doesn't give her the excuse to make other people's lives miserable. If you don't deal with it then you might as well put a target on your head, as then you're identified as a weak link. Some people prefer to bring others into the matter, and yes, that would clear things up quickly. I have always been one to sort matters by myself and by my methods. I've been following this thread closely to see exactly what is happening about this. Also, if this girl is ignored, there's nothing to stop her getting worse. This hasn't happened in my school, but i've seen people who ignore their bullies have water poured over them, spat on, had their bags tipped out and strewn across land and even in dog muck, sorry to be scary but that can happen. And once you've backed yourself into a corner then it can be very difficult to come out when things have gone too far. I've found that a defensive comment here and there usually nips it in the bud, and also after that actually become on fairly good terms with these people because they realised that i wasn't a wet lemon after all. That's just what i think, and it's always worked for me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Vela
I realize every situation is different, but she even stated that ignoring her was helping, and that should always try to be the first recourse. IF that doesn't work and things escalate to causing real physical harm, and not just silly comments, I can see trying to do something about it but if ignoring this particular girl does help, it is a much better solution than the other options. There is just no reason to antagnoize it if the ignoring works. No that doesn't always work, and sometimes you need to try other things, but that should always be the first option to try, rather than inflaming the situation. No, what has happened in her life to make her behave in such a way is no excuse to do so, but it's better to try to be the better person and have pity on them that they treat others so poorly, since it will really only hurt themselves in the end. I know because you are younger you guys don't really understand that as much yet, I know it's hard to deal with, all us "old folks" were kids once too=)
Nowdays throwing a punch usually is not the best option, simply for the fact that you never know what that can bring on later on. There are way too many kids with weapons in schools nowdays or outside of schools looking to harm others and it's become much more frequent. Sometimes kids snap and do horrid things because they feel picked on or for whatever odd reason. No it doesn't happen every day, but it does happen with increasing frequency and I just think IF a peaceful solution can be found it's always the best option. But if someone puched me in the head I would probably punch them back as well. Of course these are all just my "old lady" opinions=) My kids, 13, 12, and 10 deal with much of the same types of things and at least for now ignoring it has worked better than anything else.