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Jen, not a coincidence. Your higher power wanted you to be in church to see that presentation. God does work in mysterious ways.
AMEN to that RedHedd.
Jen, today is a new and better beginning.:)
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Originally posted by RedHedd
Jen, not a coincidence. Your higher power wanted you to be in church to see that presentation. God does work in mysterious ways.
AMEN to that RedHedd.
Jen, today is a new and better beginning.:)
Jen,just look at all the Cast Lives,that you have saved,and all The Foster Cats,and Your Cats,and last,but not least Charles,and all The Pet Talkers,who appreciate,and love you,so very ,very much.The Found Cats,and I send extra Hugs,and Kitty Kissies.
Jen, I am glad that you are starting to feel not quite so "down". As someone who is on medication for depression I can sympathize with your emotions and thoughts. Remember that you are well loved by your husband, furkids, and everyone here. There was a specific reason the adoption day was cancelled, so please remember someone else loves you and wants to help you.
Going to see a counsellor will help work out this experience, but they will also provide you with the ability to deal with future situations.
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Jen, Although I'm coming to this thread a little late, I'm so glad to hear that you're feeling better.:) I hope that you'll be able to get the right kind of medication that you need and also the right kind of counseling. Please hang in there. I think you're a wondeful person. Take care.{{{{HUGS}}}:)
Jen sweetheart as you know there will be no quick fix, and you will have your bad and good moments, just want you to know we all understand and are here for both of those moments that you wish to share with us.
I am so happy to hear you sounding more positive, but sad to hear how unhappy this has made you, it is the old vicious cycle, when things or events come into our lives that make us feel as you are now, the old depression hits bigtime.
Hopefully Jen with all the love and support from hubby Charlie and the kitties and your close friends here on PT, we can help pull you through this black moment in your life.
Just take one day at a time Jen, and although I know your heart is heavy right now, with loosing someone you considered a very special person and who you loved, time is a great healer.
One never knows why these things befall us in life, and right now I am sure you are bewildered, but maybe in time things will seem clearer, they always say there is a reason for everything, but truthfully I cannot always see it myself and wonder why you, a very caring and loving person, should have to endure such emotional pain.
HUGS Jen and always here for you ok.:)
This thing really IS an emotional roller coaster, isn't it?
All I want is to be able to get through life without thinking that I ruin everything I touch.
For my own sake, I took the initiative and decided to cut ties with this person. I wish I did not have to do this, but I was told that I tell lies and that I am not rational.
This is the hardest thing I ever had to do, and it is not helping me get out of the deep dark place that I am in. But when my mind finally moves forward from this incident, maybe I can be happy again. Maybe I can look back at the friendship and realize that it was only meant to last a short time. Maybe I am needed someplace else.
Your words will always be a place that I can come back for to get support and warm feelings.
Thanks.
Know that we love you, okay?
To give yourself a grin, remember you and I realizing that *must* have been Ashley and dad and friend who passed us, then you and I running and shouting "Ashley!!!" probably confusing half the people around us. We didn't care then if people thought we were strange, it was worth it. Then think of that goofy yarn cow ...
Consider yourself hugged again.
Jen:
WARM HUGS FROM ALASKA
I'm so sorry that you're in such pain right now. It will pass once you get some time to heal. The end of a friendship is much like a death. It must be grieved. Please be kind to yourself and your loved ones while you're going through this.
I don't believe in coincidences either. You were meant to be at the services this morning. Perhaps you were meant to experience this loss also. Who knows what lessons you will learn from this experience?
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
How could anyone ever tell you
You were anything less than beautiful.
How could anyone ever tell you
You were less than whole.
How could anyone fail to notice
That your loving is a miracle.
How deeply you're connected to my soul.
Jen,
It took me about two weeks after my "incident" to feel better but I think that's because I tried to deal with it on my own first. The "so-called" friend in my case I think wanted to stay just casual friends (as opposed to friends you actually socialize with) but I made the same decision as you. I decided that the friendship was over and done with. The worst part for me is that I have to see this person everyday at work. We remain civil and smile at each other, make casual conversation, but I'll never let her into my life again. Yes, it hurts, but if I'm going to move on, it's the only option.
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but I was told that I tell lies and that I am not rational.
Did this so-called friend say this to you? Talk about a stab in the heart!!! How on earth could this be true?? My response to this? Consider the source.
More {{{BIG HUGS}}} coming your way. If I lived in your town, I'd be honoured to have you as a close friend.
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I'm so sorry you are going thru this. Life does get tough sometimes. Just hug all your precious furbabies and I'm sure you will feel much better!:) Please take care of yourself.
Jen Luckenbach, you are friend to so many, both human and furry. I hate that any person could make you feel less that totally worthwhile!!!
Take care of you, first, and know that your friends are here for you. I am very grateful that you have received the warm feelings that you so much deserve from your Pet Talk friends.
Anything you need, I am here to try and help.
Logan
Jen, I 'swiped' this post from another board; one for weight loss. It hit me between the eyes, and I thought it might be good for you, too. It was titled "I took my best friend out to lunch". {{{hugs}}} and hope this helps you, too.
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Very often, I don't consider myself my best friend. I beat up on me, because I fail, because I don't loose what I think I should loose, I ridcule myself because I didn't exercise this week, because I didn't follow up on my diabetic plan. I poke myself because I lost my temper, basically I don't treat me as I would a best friend. Well, it dawned on me, an "ah ha" moment. That in order to make any of this healthy living stuff work, you have to have a little bit, if not more of a love of self.
So after, errands, I took my best friend out to lunch. Two meals for one price --- actually -- one meal, one price. I just sat there and enjoyed my Mexican meal with me. It was the best 45 minutes of a very long week. I like eating alone. I guess that comes from doing it so much in the restaruant business. Now don't ask me to go to a movie, but eating I can do.
Take your best friend for coffee, lunch, a coke this week. Learn to love you for you, no matter what you've done, not done, should have done. Love you up, as you would a best friend. I am thinking that once that real relationship is established, you won't do anything to hurt her/him and you'll give that person better treatment...yourself. I am thinking that's how it is going to work for me anyway.
Just a thought
Cathy
Jen,
I'm sorry to come late to this thread, but its good to see you feeling better. :)
Don't let anyone make you feel you aren't the best Jen you can be. I'm sorry you are not always able to see what others see in you. I guess that's what we're here for, to remind you why we all love you.
For next time, when you're feeling a bit down, this is why I personally like you:
*You love cats and always put their needs before your own
*You are a good friend. I can see through your relationship with Jenny and Kim, you are indeed a good friend.
*You are kind and willing to offer support when needed. Remember all you did for Naomi's Bassett?
*You are forgiving. When you and I had a bit of a disagreement, you forgave my unkind words. It takes a bigger person to do that. :o
We love you. That "friend" didn't deserve you and sure as heck wont ever deserve all those tears.
I know God wanted you to know He's here for you and feels your current pain. That performance showed that.
Jen, you're loved. :) Hugs from my kitties and I.