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Thanks Ash, it's never too late for advice. :) I probably won't date until 16 or later, cause nobody's mature enough in my grade to handle a relationship the way I think it should be cherished as.
Carole, thanks for the advice. :) Maybe I am a *bit* mature for my age... ;)
Since everyone is already saying how pretty you are, lol, I'll say again that you are pretty, and tell you how I finally stopped seeing myself as ugly :)
Well, when I look around, I see alot of people who are prettier than me. But I think about how lucky I am that atleast I'm healthy, I'm at a good weight, other people like my hair even if I hate it.. , and I pick certain features that I like about myself :)
Try it, you are so pretty, I'm sure if you just think about how lucky you are, and that others think you are good looking, that you will see yourself as pretty too! :D You aren't overweight, you have great hair, a very pretty face; try and think of more things; You'll see ;)
And although I don't think you are too young to date, I believe that you are very right that a relationship can't be cherished until someone is more mature. I mean the guys of course ;)
I use to get teased alot when I was in high school & back in elementary school. Everyone use to call me gay & ugly, & alot more mean things because I only hung ot with guys, but never dated one.
Then I turned 16 & met a really nice guy that didn't know my past & liked me for who I was. I'm now 20 & will be 21 on aug 23 & I'm still with him.
So doen't rush into it no matter how mean the other kids r, mr right will pop up in the future.
Over here, no one has a bf. Its considered VERY bad to have one. Only few girls have one and everyone knows them as bad girls, and street girls. Its not encouraged culture here. Only some people have them, but very few. If someone saw someone hugging a boy here in public, that would be SOOOOOOOOOO gross and I think everyone would be disgusted and make fun of them. Ewwww Ewwww Ewwww Like you feel sad and left out not to have one, here, its the opposite. You would feel strange and left out if you did have one. :eek:
And if you are only 13, well, I can't even believe girls in America that are 13 think they are so grown up like your friends. Over here, even 18 is just a little girl. :eek: My little sister is almost 12 and she is just my little baby sister still. ;)
GOSH isn't interesting to read about different cultures, maybe we could learn a valuable lesson here to let children be just that children, they are growing up way too fast these days.
I am now 22 years old, and I have had 3 serious relationships and 2 guys that I dated a couple times. My first boyfriend I had when I was just 14, and I was with him for over a year. Despite some feelings on here, there was nothing "disgusting" or immoral or hormonal about it. He was my first love (I always will consider him to be my first love - I loved him with all the knowledge and experience I had at the time, and just because I was young it DOES NOT mean it wasn't real) and we had a very sweet relationship. Just because a 14 year old has a boyfriend it doesn't automatically mean that they are being irresponsible and having sex any time an adult isn't looking. I had other friends at the time who also had boyfriends. None of the relationships at that age were sexual. Yes, we were young, but we weren't stupid. I don't think it's right to say that *just* because you are a certain age, that makes you too young to date. It totally depends on maturity level and on the maturity level of the guy/girl you go out with.
Britt, if you don't feel like you are ready to date, don't let yourself be pressured into it. It sounds like you know that your self worth comes from within and not from how many guys find you "hot" so I think you have a good head on your shoulders. Good for you for standing up for what you believe :)
Nomilyn u raised some very good points, and i totally agree with u, depends on the teenager,as a mum of a young daughter, i will remember your words when she reaches that age and take everything into account if she should want to start dating at that age.
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Originally posted by carole
Nomilyn u raised some very good points, and i totally agree with u, depends on the teenager,as a mum of a young daughter, i will remember your words when she reaches that age and take everything into account if she should want to start dating at that age.