lol @ the golf thing :D
ash, maybe if you take sheeba to classes and you bring along your brother? that way, she'll be obediant to men also. sorry if this won't work...i've never been to puppy classes before :rolleyes:
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lol @ the golf thing :D
ash, maybe if you take sheeba to classes and you bring along your brother? that way, she'll be obediant to men also. sorry if this won't work...i've never been to puppy classes before :rolleyes:
When we got Simba, he bit my mom twice. He'd growl when she came near or when anyone beside me came near. He doesn't like men either. But you know what? Did that stop us from keeping him? No. WE worked with him. WE got him over it. Let your brothers feed her, let your brothers walk her, let your brothers give her treats. That's what we did with my mom and Simba. A dog is not something to just get and then throw away the next day. You know how confused she's going to be? And I know it's not all your fault, maybe you should let your parents read theese posts instead of you and taking them personally. Maybe befor getting another dog, go to the pound 3 or more times a week like i do, looking petting, hugging, playing with all of the dogs. Maybe if you're old enough you could volunteer there and help out with them too. That way you'll get to know the dog befor getting it and having to take it back the next day.
I agree with KayAnn...
I do also--we worked with a neighbor who was willing to help out with Kito's "man hating" He bought treats and kept them at his apt, and every time he saw us out, he came and gave some to Kito--at first he didn't want them, but by the time they moved out, he was willingly going up to him and sitting for him and taking the treats. As for my dad, we did the same thing, but Kito only sees him about once a month--but he doesn't bark at him anymore!! Our patience really paid off in that situation.Quote:
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I agree with KayAnn...
Volunteering at the shelter is a great idea--look into it!!
I know that you are hurting from your parents deciding that Chewey had to be PTS, but it seems to me that with this new dog coming into your life with issues, you are just giving up way too soon. Her problem is SO fixable with the right training. It sounds like she just had a bit of baggage, and you and your family added to that by inviting her into your life, and giving up so quickly. Having a label of "not good with men" does not look good to people adopting full grown dogs. That might be the ticket that will end up causing her ultimate euthinasia by the shelter. Honestly, when you mix in her breeding, with the fact that she's full grown or nearly full grown, and then having a label such as "not good with men" placed on her, her odds are not likely that she'll get adopted in my opinion and experience with shelters. I am not sure how the shelters work in your state, but here in Michigan, she'd be PTS if she was returned with "not good with men" labeling.
I think it's best that you don't get another dog until you are out of your house at least. It's not fair for the dog. You can't expect them to be the perfect companion right after they come out of a shelter, especially when they had an abusive background, which many shelter dogs unfortunately have. I feel very sorry for Chewey and for that poor dog who was adopted, given a home, given some time to bond, and then taken back to the shelter because of a very fixable problem.
Please don't ask your parents to get another dog. Think about the dog. That's two now that you and/or your family have given up on, and too soon in my opinion. Refraining from getting another dog until you are grown up would be a mature thing to do. Please don't get another one.
Sorry for sounding harsh, but in my opinion, giving up on Sheeba so soon was just terrible and I truly feel sorry for the dog. It hurts to hear of dogs going through things like this.
Lolly also had men issues when I got her. Who could blame her after being abused for 5 years by some disgruntled lunatic. Anyway, I was fortunate to have a sweet male neighbor and a sweet dad who helped Lolly understand that men are not a bad thing (well MOST men anyway, hehe). A little work, love, and patience can go a long way. She still doens't completely love strangers but she allows them to pet her and does absolutely fine :)
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Didn't the shelter require all people in the family to meet the dog before adopting? I would suggest your brothers going with you next time so that this won't happen again. Its very confusing for dogs to get adopted then go back to the shelter so fast. Please tell the shelter everything that happened so that they will have the information and perhaps not send her home to young kids.
I was going to make this comment but you beat me to the punch! I too am wondering why the whole family did not go to help pick out a dog. When we were looking for dogs, we took Dylan and all of us went! If the dog will be a family dog, the family must go and make the decision as a whole.
Dogs can sense fear also, she may have knew your brother way afraid.
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Thats the weird thing. we did all go and see her? And she was sooo sweet to the whole family?? I don't understand? My little brother went with us and my dad went with us, my older brother didn't because he had to work but my sister and my mom were there, she did get to meet the whole family but one person?
Lalania- I thought the same thing to, but I found that getting Sheeba really helped me, although I will never get over the loss of my sweet baby, I loved him, even though you might think diffrently. I know many of you are upset about my decision, but I really did try to convince my parents so please do not yell at me, the only thing I could of done was set him loose and hoped he didn't get hit or picked up by the wrong person. Today, I felt I needed a new dog in my life and that was my decision and I made one that best fitted me. Although, the decsion for you might be not to look at another dog for a couple of weeks I really felt that I needed something there for me while I was hurting and she has helped me.
Ash
I don't get it??? In some posts you talk as if your parents are divorced? For instance you mentioned you stayed over at your dad place with your sister. Do you have a step dad or something who you call "dad"? :confused:
So...what's happening with Sheeba?
I have to agree with the others. I think you need to have your dad/brothers spend some time giving Sheeba some treats and things like that. The way I see it is, she was in a shelter, which means she was abandoned, so if you were to give her back right away, wouldn't she be hurt? She is just a puppy and won't understand what is going on. And as KayAnn said before, she will probably be very confused. Please, I beg of you, don't give up so soon on her. Or if you do, I agree with Adoremydogs, I wouldn't consider another dog for a long time. Best of luck to you on your decision. I hope it is the right one. (And if this is about your parents, I think you should show them these posts. I mean, look how many people are against giving Sheeba back.)
P.S.--I'm not trying to be mean, and nobody else is either, so please do not think that.
Ash, animals, like people, feel and react to stressful environments. Like chewy, any dog coming into a home (or two homes?) where there is dissagreement or any tense vibes will absorb these and they will become part of their personalities. You mentioned a divorce, which is very hard on a family (especially when there are several children involved), and that includes the animals. As much as you want a dog for your needs, consider the dogs needs as well. My heart goes out to you to be in this situation. But my heart goes out to the animals that get PTS because they don't fit in even more. It's hard to have a functional animal in a dysfunctional family. If you and your family are willing to accept that possiblity, maybe (as others have said) you could go together to obedience school, and work lovingly with the dog. Then you can make it work!! Good luck!!
When a dog is adopted, they go through a "honeymoon period" where they are adjusting to the new environment. It lasts about 2 weeks until they finally realize they live there and you will see a change it behavior - it could be for the better or for the worse. I think with consistent training and work with Sheeba, she would settle down and learn some manners. She needs to have a firm, loving hand and know a routine. I honestly don't feel it would take too much time to turn her around. She's still so young and as you say, she's sweet. I don't think she's been given enough adjustment time.
Ash,
I was just wondering, why did you have to give Tiffany up after 2 months.
Katz
Who is Tiffany?
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Who is Tiffany?
what i was wondering.
p.s. love the sig.
I searched and I believe this is the dog she's talking about...but I didn't know she took the dog in for 2 months? Wasn't there another dog her friend had also that wasn't taking care of the dog? :confused:
p.s. thanks about my siggy :)