Same here Melissa. If you want you can give my address and I'll send them to you. Just PM me if you want to do it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Karen
Same here Melissa. If you want you can give my address and I'll send them to you. Just PM me if you want to do it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Karen
For anyone reading this thread, and feeling the pinch in their own household (and, really, who isn't), please note that working a second job(or more hours at your first job) IS the only way to bring more money into your household.Quote:
Originally Posted by pomtzu
Getting more or less money back from the government is not a 'working 2 jobs' problem, it is not taking enough (or too many) deductions on the form (W-4)you fill out. I have heard that it is recommended that for for your second job, you claim 0 exemptions/dependents so that the highest amount of tax is taken out. That will cover you at the end of the year, and you will still get a refund. (Getting a refund, or a large refund, is a whole 'nother financial discussion).
Melissa- I am not encouraging YOU to get a second job...just don't want anyone that reads this to think there isn't any benefit to getting a second job to help you get out from under.
I never meant to imply to anyone that there was no benefit to working a second job, but you need to be careful how you go about it. The income can throw you into a higher tax bracket, and in some instances, employers won't have state tax deducted unless you work a specific number of hours, and therefore you end up paying what is owed at tax time. Been there - done that - it's not something I'm making up for the sake of conversation! :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Cataholic
I've looked at the resuls for your back and I would suggest forgetting about cleaning jobs. My friend cleans houses , paid under the table and it does help but she has no back issues and she still comes home ready to pass out. But if you could get offices to clean those are a lot easier. No heavy work, no floors or windows to wash. Mostly dusting, placing things, and emptying the garbages in the bins. Could you do some baby sitting on your days off? Or dog sitting...we have a lot of people looking for someone to type resumes and such out here, maybe you could try doing that from home? Money under the table is always better than a second job to throw you in a higher tax bracket.
Adult Children of Alcoholic is something I have never heard of. Could you explain please. My dad is an Alcoholic, I made sure I did not marry one.
Here's a link, Marigold: http://alcoholism.about.com/cs/adult/a/aa073097.htm
Thank you, I didn't know that you were allergic to kitties. Thank you, I will keep that in mind. I did max out my mom's address and so I'll try my sisters, thanks!Quote:
Originally Posted by Karen
Melissa
Wow! I would just like to give everyone who has responded on this thread a HUGE group hug!!! Your warmth, generosity with advice and genuine concern for the original poster is really what makes PT the best in the world.
Thank you for restoring my faith in human nature :love:
Thanks Catty for posting the other link :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Marigold2
I found out about this from my shrink that I see. I've been having so many issues with my husband and just started to see a new lady in the beginning of Feb. and about 2 sessions ago she brought me an information packet just 2 page (pm me and I can send you the PDF, it's on my work computer but I can send it to you on Monday)
Anyway when I read the 2 pages she gave me it made me cry so bad. I felt that I had every single one.
I read a little more online about this and I did find the website that Catty posted.
here was another article I went to and I took the quiz yesterday. I scored 90% 18 out of 20 questions were and yes and they said I did seem like I was affected by his drinking. It's always been hard to talk about because he would hit my sister and brother but I learned to keep my mouth shut so I wouldn't have to get hit but I feel terribly guilty now for not being able to stop him and protect my brother and sister, yet I'm the youngest and I'm trying to realize that I was just a child and that I couldn't of done anything to prevent that but still it does hurt some.
Anyway here are the other 2 articles.
http://alcoholism.about.com/cs/adult/a/aa110597.htm
http://alcoholism.about.com/od/adult/a/quiz_adult.htm
I know you weren't encouraging me to get another job, I've worked 2 jobs in the past just not recently due to the back pain and I just felt like I needed to explain what was going on with my back because anyone and I'm sure a lot of people have back pain and abuse the "government system" because of pain and what not but I guess I just wanted people to know I'm not like that and I'm a hard worker and if need be I will find another job but right now with my back I'm going to look into some other assistance.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cataholic
Thank you though for your posts and I hope I didn't upset you or anything.
Melissa
Thanks for the tip, I will look into that. Thanks so much again for your suggestion.Quote:
Originally Posted by Asiel
Melissa
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) is a wonderful group of people who don't have a drinking problem, but live with people who do.
I attended MANY ACOA meetings in my day, along with AA meetings for myself. If you can't afford a therapist, this is one way to help. My Dad was a 24/7 drunk (mellow not abusive). I was his primary care giver after my stepmonster died of alcoholic complications. It took it's toll on me. Especially since I was in recovery myself, it was difficult to see him drink himself to death every day of the week.
Call information and ask for the toll free number of AA. They can refer you to meetings in your area.
Good luck and you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
Thank you Donna for posting that.
Yesterday at 9 a.m. I arrived for my test and I was stressed a little about it first and I did tell the guy that was going to be testing me that I was a little stressed but he just told me to try to relax and I'm not going to get a grade on this or anything like this.
So we went through several tests some I seemed to do really well on and others not so well.
We started the testing around 9:15 a.m. or earlier and then he had me do a math test and that just sucked because I've always struggled in math and that made me feel semi-crapy that I didn't know some of the math things but I tried my best. Finally it was 11:15 a.m. or so and I was at the last part of my testing which is sitting in front of a computer with a black screen and a letter would pop up at you. The only things is, is when an "X" comes on the screen you are not supposed to hit the space bar, well when you are siting there watching all these numbers fly up and BAM an X shows up and you hit it, man I was so frustrated. I asked if I could redo the test of course not. I wish they would of let me take that test first but maybe there is a reason why they wait till the very end to do that. Needless to say they said that the computer test shows whether or not you have ADD or not. I'm just thinking I was paying attention and I was reading out each letter but yet my silly finger hit the space bar and I was just terribly frustrated by the end of the test.
Luckily I had about 30-45 mins. before I was supposed to get my injection so I came home and hugged some of my kitties trying to calm down after that exhausting morning.
I went for my injection and it was pretty painful but hopefully it will help because he told me that if this doesn't help this time he is not inclined to do another one and that surgery might be it but I'm only 30 years old and I really don't want to do that. I'm just going to hope that this will help and that I will be ok for a while. My knees have been bugging me like crazy though lately and I think it's my arthritis acting up but I have an appt. this coming Wed. to make sure it is just arthritis and not something else but I'm pretty sure it's just that.
I put in a call for some local assistance and hopefully I'll hear back from them on Monday. I'm going to call the landlord and see if we can pay rent on the 9th of April that way it might give us some more time to come up with the money that we need.
Thank you everyone for your suggestions and prays, they are very much appreciated.
Melissa
I know that you don't want to think about surgery, but they are starting to do some very innovative types of back surgery down here in Bethesda and up in Philly. You are fortunate right now, because you have time to investigate your options. Hopefully you will never have to make the decision, but at least you will know what the pros and cons are of the different types of surgery...
A prayer and a candle
http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/...g&cid=10483305