I am 42 years old, work full time, I have a child that I care for full time, 6 cats, trying to lose some 'baby' weight (hold the laughter, please), and cannot find the ENERGY to be so invested in someone else's life.
Why? Why? WHY? would someone care so much, Nicole, unless THEY had some underlying issue? Even if you are the world's biggest liar (and I am in no way suggesting this) WHY would someone care unless THEY have some issue? Can't you take YOU out of the equation and see that it isn't about YOU, it is about THEM?
If someone is happy with their life, their achievements, their family, etc., don't you notice how little time they spend bringing others down? It is only when someone is so disgusted with themselves that they need to spend time bringing others down. It takes the focus off of them.
Anyone over the age of, say, 14 or so, that plays in this drama time and again needs to spend some time on someone's couch. If that description fits you- spend some time trying to figure out why you need to play along, rather than let it roll off your back. You can't ever change another's character/conduct. You can only change your reaction to it.
Shepgirl, seriously, you have children? This suggests to me you have some age under your belt? WHY would you be like this to someone that seems to be a total stranger? Where do you find the energy? The desire? As someone else asked, why are you so heavily invested in this? It would be one thing if you were defending Nicole...but, to attack her? What gives with that? I shudder to think that your children might be teenagers...and be taken apart by their own "friends". Is this what you teach in your home?
