Dear Nancy -
I am so sorry for all your troubles. This has to be a very, very difficult time in your life, with so many problems to resolve. All I can say is that I care, and I will be glad for you when you have found some resolution that will bring you as much peace as possible. Peace is possible, once you have come to a decision that you know is the best you can possibly do, given the circumstances - and *that* is what I wish for you.