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Originally posted by RICHARD
getting your ass kicked by your parents isn't the 'crime' that people make it out to be...I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT ABUSE...
am i stuttering again?????
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Originally posted by RICHARD
getting your ass kicked by your parents isn't the 'crime' that people make it out to be...I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT ABUSE...
am i stuttering again?????
No, not stuttering. But I think using the phrase "getting your ass kicked" to be synonymous with reasonable discipline is a bit misleading.
Trust me, start now. DO NOT wait until "he knows." Kids learn real quick even when they're babies, and the earlier you start the easier it will be all around.Quote:
Originally posted by luckies4me
I can't be mad at him because he doesn'tknow what he is doing yet. Once he knows I will start showing my "rath" lol. :p
Ok, so I'm not a parent, but I've got nephews and a niece and I've seen the results of waiting. Not a pretty site. :(
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Originally posted by RICHARD
am i stuttering again?????
rich
remember when you write things use grammar and terms to keep the reader interested in the topic, you have no control over the literal intrepretation or reaction that the reader may attach to your comments. Should the reader make assumptions or is
unable to detect sarcasm or hidden meanings in the topic,
write at their level next time.
Oh how I remember this! I married a guy who had already had his kids and was not interested in more. That would be one of my questions if I ever went on the Dating Game. Would you have the Big Snip for me? :D :DQuote:
And guys were ok with it when we were 1st dating, but when it got serious, then it changed to maybe we should think about it. NO! My husband and I had to completely agree on this before I would agree to marry him and we've no regrets.
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Originally posted by Edwina's Secretary
That would be one of my questions if I ever went on the Dating Game. Would you have the Big Snip for me? :D :D
BIG SNIP?:eek:
the secret to getting a man to agree to having sharp objects around the area of his genitalia is to make it sound like fun or a sport......
when the doctors explain it they say 'We are going to make two small incisions........." See, small incisions!!!!!! that shames us into
saying, "Small incisions? yea, no problem.....":confused:
we don't want to look like wusses in the dr.s office!
rich
remember when you write things use grammar and terms to keep the reader interested in the topic, you have no control over the literal intrepretation or reaction that the reader may attach to your comments. Should the reader make assumptions or is
unable to detect sarcasm or hidden meanings in the topic,
write at their level next time.
Now, if all that were true, would I have been able to laugh at that post! :)
RICHARD your posts crack me up! Love your sarcasam and quick wit!
My husband and I are CBC. I raised somone else's children for several years. 5 children including a set of twins all UNDER the age of 7yr :eek:!
As far as "Discipline" goes, I was raised by a WONDERFUL Nanny who used the 3 Strike rule with me: 1) I warn you. 2) I warn you again, AND you lose something (i.e., toy, dessert...etc.) 3) Since you didn't get it in the "EAR" (you didn't listen) now you get it on "THE REAR"!
I'm fine with spanking (open hand on butt), but I think it's KEY that the parent not do it while in a rage.
hat's off to you (5 kids? you know 4 gets you sainthood!!!)Quote:
Originally posted by LoudLou
My husband and I are CBC. I raised somone else's children for several years. 5 children including a set of twins all UNDER the age of 7yr :eek:!
As far as "Discipline" goes, I was raised by a WONDERFUL Nanny who used the 3 Strike rule with me: 1) I warn you. 2) I warn you again, AND you lose something (i.e., toy, dessert...etc.) 3) Since you didn't get it in the "EAR" (you didn't listen) now you get it on "THE REAR"!
let's review.
your getting YAK'ed ruined you in what way??
my dad was great (god bless him) he KOA (kicked our ass) with a
belt, and we deserved it when it came our way....funny, Nanny hit you yet you still call her WONDERFUL, are you sure it's not the STOCKHOLM SYNDROME? you know when the hostages start to identify with the hostage takers???;) i have no kids either (can't find a woman crazy or drunk enough to have a go at it...), but i find that people who can't trust or control their emotions should
be CBL (childless by law-sarcasm engaged).........
here's a good one......my nephew was raised by the 'BOARD OF EDUCATION' a long handled pine swatter............
far more frightening when mom has you by the arm and you are on your toes waiting for the smack (psychological threats!) that never comes.
(nobody's listening, how many third strikes did you get? not many, i bet.........)
this kid finished high school, became a marine, got married and
is currently working and taking his last 4 classes, soon to be certified as an EMT.
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Originally posted by LoudLou
Since you didn't get it in the "EAR" now you get it on "THE REAR"!
check it out- A RAPPING NANNY!!!!!!
now i'm scared!
:eek:
I *SO* agree with you...so many times I have witnessed spanking done in anger. What is left behind is a bewildered kid that is filled with anger. That starts a vicious cycle.Quote:
Originally posted by Soledad
I'm fine with spanking (open hand on butt), but I think it's KEY that the parent not do it while in a rage.
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Originally posted by RICHARD
rich
remember when you write things use grammar and terms to keep the reader interested in the topic, you have no control over the literal intrepretation or reaction that the reader may attach to your comments. Should the reader make assumptions or is
unable to detect sarcasm or hidden meanings in the topic,
write at their level next time.
p.s. people with no sense of humor, wit or any of the tools
that allow them latitude in comprehension, can never be changed.
:confused:
I really like this thread
first I want to say..
Sara-whoever asks you when you are having kids, tell them "just as soon as you learn to mind your own business"!
2nd- as far as hitting or discipline, I think there is a difference, and some parents let it go till the kid goes too far then they really lose their temper...my parents were good at discipline(aside from the 2 or 3 provoked moments with my mom) there was a certain way we were expected to act. thats it, no room for misunderstanding, thats just the way it was. naps were a fact too, not something to be argued with. mymom would say if you arent tired then just rest. because she needed her quiet time for her sanity! (5 kids in my family) if I was being too loud and my dad was on the phone he would snap his fingers, just to signal me, it was not done mean, there was no hint of getting in trouble, just that I had to tone it down.it was just alot of things like that. I broke a window once, by mistake, and was so scared, that the next day when my mother asked me about it I told her what happend but I was really scared, I told her what happend then asked her will it cost alot to replace? she said no(insurance)
and I was not in trouble as long as I admitted it.(oh good lets do it again haha..j/k)
now, 3rd...Richard you really are a riot, I love your humor!:D
and to answer your question, no that is not entirely what made me the mean person I am today... it helped b LOL but I had to learn the lesson again as a teen, 16, I mouthed off to my dad, when he was trying to help me with my homework, then walked down the hall, well I did not see my mother, and as I turned the corner, wham! hard slap to the face!"don't you EVER talk to your father like that again" she was right of course.
Ihave 4 older brothers and they got more discipline from my father, but not daddys little girl and being so much younger...can you say B-R-A-T?
I did , however, get threatend with the BELT several times, but never actually saw THE BELT.
my brothers did a time or two, mostly on vacation when were on car trips and they just got to be too much for my dad, ( long drive, no AC, and 4 loud boys, gee wonder why he got mad...
of course the little darling was up front with mom and dad !
:D :cool:
I also want to say, (whew long winded )
that I think when I kid is like , 2 ,3 or 4 maybe and they say or do something wrong, the I thinnk a light slap on the mouth, or hand, or bottom, depending on what the kid did.. and I mean just a light tap, just to make the point, I think that is enough.
also, you can tell when kid knows it is doing wrong, when they look to see if you are looking, and then do whatever it is. then you know they know its wrong.
times out and being sent to the room is good too for young children.
oh boy I remember one time I was baby sitting my nephew and he had a friend over, and unfortunately he got his aunts mouth, well I was looking for something, said where is it? and he thought he was so funny, he said, maybe its up your....! and then they laughed, they were about 8 or 9, oh he saw his aunts wrath for the first time that day. I froze in place and looked at him, did I hear right? I said UP, in your room NOW (had he been mine he was old enough for hitting) and told the friend to call his mom to pick him up, Daniel is no longer allowed company right now. I made him stay in his room wondering what was going to happen then I told him to call his mother and tell her what he had said to me! so then he had his parents coming home to think about and wait. hehe
I was a "nanny" (though we didn't call it that) for two years when I was in college. The little girl was just about to turn 4 when I started, and was almost 6 when she was the flower girl at Paul's and my wedding. She was a very smart child, and knew the rules. Her bedtime routine always consisted of two stories and three songs. If she was naughty, I'd cancel one story, then the second, and so on ... She valued her stories/songs so much that she was never bad enough to jeapordize them TOOO badly. I remember only one day that she got NO stories, but she was never naughty enough for no stories AND no songs! :)Quote:
As far as "Discipline" goes, I was raised by a WONDERFUL Nanny who used the 3 Strike rule with me: 1) I warn you. 2) I warn you again, AND you lose something (i.e., toy, dessert...etc.) 3) Since you didn't get it in the "EAR" (you didn't listen) now you get it on "THE REAR"!
Karen
wow, what a nice nammy you were, 2 stories and 3 songs!
"p.s. people with no sense of humor, wit or any of the tools
that allow them latitude in comprehension, can never be changed."
I don't really think this is necessary, Richard. I was just trying to elaborate on a point, not attack your sense of humour.
So who spanks while everybody's happy? I got spanked a few times while my mother was mad at me. I deserved it, and I probably never did whatever it was I did in the first place again. Huh?:confused: I lost myself there. :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally posted by Soledad
I'm fine with spanking (open hand on butt), but I think it's KEY that the parent not do it while in a rage.
Richard is not being nice!
(Soledad, I'm not making fun of you..)
Not happy, Micki, just not out of control.
I don't have fond memories of being hunted down by my dad as he ran with a belt (buckle side awaiting my ass, thank you). And I don't think anyone can benefit from that.
Thanks, Mary.
She was a nice kid, and I haven't to this day met a child I couldn't sing to sleep, so the songs worked in my favor as well as made her happy!Quote:
Originally posted by marysmerrycats
Karen
wow, what a nice nanny you were, 2 stories and 3 songs!
Well, I don't think I'd have fond memories of that either.:(Quote:
Originally posted by Soledad
Not happy, Micki, just not out of control.
I don't have fond memories of being hunted down by my dad as he ran with a belt (buckle side awaiting my ass, thank you). And I don't think anyone can benefit from that.
Thanks, Mary.
Soledad
I understand what you are saying.
the parent should wait til they are in control of their emotions, so as to not overdue the punishment. right?
I also undertand that sometimes a parent will spank a kid while the parent is mad, at the moment so the kid knows what it is for.younger kids tend to forget later on...but Soledad I know what point you are trying to make. each case is different also the age of the child makes a big difference. I would spank a , say 5 year old, 8 year old, but not not a 13 yr old. or a baby. there are just different ways of discipline.
Karen
if I had tried to sing to any of the kids I babysat, it would have scared the wits out of them haha
I used to like the babies, because I could sit down and rock them to sleep, the older ones keep trying to make excuses to stay up LOL but I had fun with them too.:)
Yes, Mary, that was EXACTLY what I was saying. :D
I was spanked when I was little. My mom's phrase was "if you don't smarten up I'm gonna spank your butt in front of God and everybody!" The potential embarassment always calmed me down. The threat "wait till dad comes home" always worked, because he was the one who did the spanking. But, the reason I didn't want to get spanked wasn't because of the pain, but because I knew that if I was spanked it meant that I had disappointed my parents and deserved a punishment. When I got older and I had done something bad (don't even remember what it was) I asked if I could create my own punishment. I ended up going to bed at like 8pm (regular bed time was 9pm), no after dinner snack (which was tradition), no bed time reading and no TV until the next day. My dad thought I was too hard on myself, but it sure worked better than whatever they would have given me, because I took responsibility.
As for having kids.. at this point in my life having a kid would drive me insane. I'm too focused on what I want.. basically too selfish to have a kid at this time. It's a future thing.. I doubt I will have kids until I'm at LEAST 30.
I'm sure I went on too much in my posts, and probably went off the subject, but come on you guys, I could not have been the only bratty kid, lets hear some stories??
i have written my local paper, specifically the sports section,
and asked them not to use the word 'beat' or any derivative
there of....
i think it is a problem when the headline says something like,
'the bucs beat the colts' or 'arsenal beats liverpool' .
kids read the sports section and listen to the news broadcasts.
what good does it do to hear that 'tiger woods was badly beaten today at the open'
it serves no purpose for our children to be exposed to such a violent society.
p.s.s. always go under the impression that the reader has taken a small part of your post, usually one that happens to hit that nerve that makes them go crazy, and will turn it into a huge point of contention. By taking your words out of context with editing or the inability to comprehend the complete text of the message you run the risk of having the respondent become angry, opposed to your point of view, or sadly enough, have their head explode.Quote:
Originally posted by RICHARD
p.s. people with no sense of humor, wit or any of the tools
that allow them latitude in comprehension, can never be changed.
:confused:
For all of us that are tired of people asking "when are you going to have children?"
The last time someone asked me that I said "My husband and I are too ugly, we're not allowed to have children" :D :D :D
the problem my parents had was i was so ugly the doctor punched my mom, dad, grandparents AND the nurses assisting him......Quote:
Originally posted by Tanya&Fritz
For all of us that are tired of people asking "when are you going to have children?"
The last time someone asked me that I said "My husband and I are too ugly, we're not allowed to have children" :D :D :D
LOL I'm definately gonna use that one next time!Quote:
Originally posted by Tanya&Fritz
For all of us that are tired of people asking "when are you going to have children?"
The last time someone asked me that I said "My husband and I are too ugly, we're not allowed to have children" :D :D :D
Last time someone asked me when we were going to have kids, I told him that "we'd have kids but we can't figure out where babies come from"! That shut him up!!:D :D :D
hee hee! Too funny!!Quote:
Originally posted by Tanya&Fritz
For all of us that are tired of people asking "when are you going to have children?"
The last time someone asked me that I said "My husband and I are too ugly, we're not allowed to have children" :D :D :D
I'm so SICK of hearing this question...that I've told everyone we aren't having any, just to shut them up. Do you know that my hubby thought I was serious??? Poor thing!
My hubby and I took a Child Psychology class together last summer and our teacher (PhD, etc, ect) said that every parent is a potential child abuser. He said that sometimes they can make you so mad...Quote:
Originally posted by Soledad
I'm fine with spanking (open hand on butt), but I think it's KEY that the parent not do it while in a rage.
We don't have any experience with that personally, but I can imagine...he made it a HUGE point to tell people to CALM DOWN before discaplining.
I was spanked when I was little, and believe you me, I sure learned my lessons!! But then, I was the type of kid that if you showed any disappointment in me, I'd cry and do anything to make you not mad at me. :rolleyes:
*lol*Quote:
For all of us that are tired of people asking "when are you going to have children?"
The last time someone asked me that I said "My husband and I are too ugly, we're not allowed to have children"
Me and my sister were terrors... to my parents at least. We DID NOT get along when we were younger and got many a spankings for arguing (I am also fine with spanking as discipline I was spanked and not scarred at all from it)Quote:
I'm sure I went on too much in my posts, and probably went off the subject, but come on you guys, I could not have been the only bratty kid, lets hear some stories??
One day me and my mom and sister were driving down the road (my mom made us both sit in the back seat) and we were arguing and my mom got sick of it and pulled over to spank us. We all got out of the car and my mom forgot to put it in park so the car started rolling down the hill... she had to chase the car ... so needless to say we didn't get that spanking! ;)
well,
here we go,
dad loved and collected guns.
he loved to shoot and hunt.
he taught all the kids to shoot and respect guns.
he never taught us to pull the bullets off the casings
spill the gunpowder on a brick and put a match to it..
we kinda figured it out for ourselves.
then one day he caught wind of it and pounded the living crap out of me cause i was the oldest.
( in case you are wondering i use "pounding the living crap out of me" because...
a) it makes my dad seem like he was pure evil
b) come on, we were just playing with live ammunition!
c) no one had their eye put out
d) since we were behaving lately, he needed a chance to
vent some male hormones and show us he was boss.)
the lesson he taught me, my brothers got to watch my dad abuse me so the lesson was not lost on them!!!!
needless to say, we learned our lessons
and all my brothers are very good marksmen!
Sara
LOL I can just picture that, someone running after the car and the kids standing there!
anyone else have funny stories to share? or things you got away with, etc, as a kid or teen? anyone ever sneak out of the house?.......ever make any prank phone calls?( I KNOW there has to be some stories out there?..)
just curious..
o.k..... I gotta funny story about this one too...:oQuote:
anyone ever sneak out of the house?.......
The first time I ever snuck(sp?!!??!?!) out of the house.....
My friend was going to pick me up with her boyfriend and some guy she wanted me to meet... they said they would ride by my house in (I forget what kind of car) and then they would drive one street over and pick me up there.... well I saw them ride by and I SLOWLY opened my window and crawled out and then SLOWLY closed it back... I went to the next street over... they weren't there and I waited about 5 minutes and finally went back home... when I got back I SLOWLY opened the window and SLOWLY closed it and I heard someone scream at the top of thier lungs..... IT WAS MY MOM.... supposedly my friends got tired of waiting for me and called my mom and asked her if I got home o.k....... well of course my mom did not know I was out ... so she sat in my room in the dark and scared the mess out of me when I got back home... :eek:
Sara
LOL oh no, talk about getting caught! :eek:
I never snuck out or anything, but a party at my friends house did have the police show up to "break us up".. but I use the quotes for a reason...
My friend lived in an apartment building. She was on the third floor, and the building was fairly old. The woman who lived below her was a paranoid whacko. Sometimes she would call their house when there was NO ONE home and leave messages on their answering machine like "I know you are home and I know you can hear this message and you better stop stomping around up there!" or when my friend was doing homework at her desk, her sister was laying on the bed reading and their mom was napping, the woman would call and accuse them of making all kind of racket. Anyway, we were having this party, and we were listening to music and laughing and stuff. Then at 11pm, my friend was like "oh we gotta be quiet because of the witch downstairs (her nickname)" so we all sat down and turned on some classical music very quietly. A couple of people had to go home, so we all decided to walk them out to their car, which was parked on the street about half a block away. We all left the apratment (quietly - my friends mom had gone to bed and we didn't want to wake her because her bedroom door was near the front door) and we ALL left the aprtment. We took about 15-20 mins laughing and talking around the car and saying bye, and then the last four of us (who were all sleeping over) went back to her building. We got to the door of the building, and there was a police car.. we said good evening to them and stuff (it was only about 11:45pm) and we asked if there was a problem in the building. They then said, "Yeah we are here to shut down a rowdy party in 302" We looked at them and said, "WE are 302!! And we haven't been in the apt for about 25mins!" So we walked upstairs with the police, and when we walked in the apratment the look on the police officers' faces was priceless.. it was fairly dark, there was soft classical music still playing in the background, and we had to wake my friend's mom up to come talk to the police. The officer says to her mom "you've been here all night??" and she kinda mumbles.. "Yeah.. but I went to bed around 10pm or so" It was hilarious. That's the extent of my badness :rolleyes: :p :D