Why I Have Deleted Posts and Threads

Is this why I began to begin my PT encounters? Maybe, maybe not. The friends I've made and kept.... I could not begin to start except to say all those and more I've met at PT Meetings.. (many, many, many) and haven't as yet but hope to (Logan et al) have been my salvation and cause for hope for bunches of years. I've grown close to Sara, RICHARD, Randi and John *always looks at the sky when I think of "Jonza"* :love:), Gini, Slick, Phred, CatLand, Aly, Stacy, Tracy, Karen, Jen, Cheryl .... nah _ no sense trying to continue. I have enough "Drama/Trama" on my own plate and just come here to get centered. Sometimes it's worth it and I still want to belong and occasionally drop by. Especially Thursdays where everybody leaves their attitudes at the door. It's always been one of Mario's favorite rules.

:love: Laurie

I just wish My HH Lady Edwina Rose would come back!!
I miss YOU!!!
Your Juke Joint Joseph!!!
Crying Canadian Cat :(:(:(

Oh boy.....this is just like the old days.

It IS the old days, Wom - she left and has not returned, and there is no sign that she will.

But if you have anything to post about Oz's National Parks, that would be spot on! :D

WOMB! *hugs* Ive missed ya! Do you happen to have a facebook? *srry for yet again another hijack*

to the original point...people disagree. If we all agreed nothing would get done! Dissagreements dont need to be hostile though. :( I dont think pt is getting more hostile per se but I do think people need to breathe before hitting the reply button,

If you dish it out in the dog house you have to be able to take it...thats all I have to say!

I don't see why someone has to come back to start a fight. He's been off PT for close to 2 years now and his one random post is to start an argument, just a bit suspicious, although I cannot say I am the least bit surprised.

Alysser, I don't think he realized that the OP has not been around for quite some time. He knows that now.

But yes, a short perusal of the thread would have shown the OP has not been around for some time.

I had sent him the link to slick's memorial post, and he posted there...then saw this. Human error.

Hey, Wom - we could use some new (or old) jokes in the joke thread! (Warning - he has some REALLY bad ones! :D )

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Originally Posted by Catty1

Alysser, I don't think he realized that the OP has not been around for quite some time. He knows that now.

But yes, a short perusal of the thread would have shown the OP has not been around for some time.

I had sent him the link to slick's memorial post, and he posted there...then saw this. Human error.

Hey, Wom - we could use some new (or old) jokes in the joke thread! (Warning - he has some REALLY bad ones! :D )

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Okay, I didn't realize I suppose. Thanks for pointing it out. But I still don't think it's appropriate to respond in such a manner, maybe it's just me. :p

^^, of course it is not appropriate to post in such a manner. It isn't just you thinking that, either. It is just one example of a silent double standard evident on this board.

No, there is no excuse for a rude reply...the only mitigating factor here was that Wom had not been a participant in this thread. And he should have checked instead of doing a knee-jerk response. I messaged him on FB and hope that will do it.

I say what I feel.....same as everyone else here does.
Ya don't like it.......don't read it.
To all my old friends.......hi....I still love ya all.
To all my old critics......go stick ya head in a bucket of sand.
Wom

Oh, Karen and Paul,
Thankyou so much for your wonderful Chrissy card, beautiful artwork, I loved it.
Wom

Rudeness is not acceptable. I did not take it that he was attempting to start an argument, just saw it as a comment, and knew he had been away for a while and didn't know much of what has recently transpired.

Never, ever post that you think someone is trying to start an argument. Even if that was not the poster's intent, that's a sure way to escalate the situation. The better thing, if you think someone HAS posted just to make trouble, is to PM me.

^^ Calling someone "Dragon Lady" is seen as just making a COMMENT?

I can call someone an AH, and it is "just making a comment?"

Come on. That is such baloney, and you know it.

No cussing is allowed on Pet Talk, you know that. And I think "AH" is much ruder than "Dragon Lady."

I think they are both offensive. Actually, Dragon Lady might be more so - it is a very personal comment/attack. AH is used so much in the world that it is impersonal.

JMHO, of course.

Oh. I see. Some people are allowed to call others names. Some people are allowed to say AH. Some people are allowed to post offensive posts.

It is just so hard to follow these rules.

No one is allowed to call names, really. "AH" spelled out is not allowed, and neither is the abbreviation, if I catch it. I try to keep the same rules for everyone. Yes, I sometimes make mistakes, but you can always PM me if you have a concern. I think that "AH" - although too commonly used, is far more offensive than "Dragon Lady." As I explained to the person who was called a "Dragon Lady," I have always seen it it as sort of a back-handed compliment, connoting a woman who is admirably strong, but with whose opinions you may disagree. I think Margaret Thatcher, for example, was often called a Dragon Lady in the press, again, particularly by those who disagreed with her.

When in doubt, PM me. Or use a word or phrase you know is less offensive. And of course, posting in anger is never a good thing. It's best to be avoided.

Oh, brother. Right, it is a backhanded compliment.

Good grief.

Don't post your problems with the moderators out in public. It seems like this is a discussion best left for PM. I don't see a double standard here...anyone who breaks the rules gets a PM and a chance to modify posts. The OP was not innocent and blameless. Posts directed at her just didn't materialize out of thin air. I agree she did it more elequently but she did dish out harsh opnions too. Thats my opnion.

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Originally Posted by DJFyrewolf36

The OP was not innocent and blameless. Posts directed at her just didn't materialize out of thin air. I agree she did it more elequently but she did dish out harsh opnions too. Thats my opnion.

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I couldn't agree more, like I said before if you can't take it don't keep dishing it out.

What the OP did or did not do is not the issue here. It is the post by Wom calling the OP a name. Without any provocation.

This was commented on by a poster that has no horse in this race, so to speak.

That any one can defend his uncalled for blatant violation of the "no name calling" rule is ridiculous.

Oh, and djfry? This is just my opinion. <wink>

While I agree with you somewhat pettalk is not a democracy its run by two individuals that give up a lot of their own time to keep it running so if they interpret something a certain way that I don't agree with it I guess I figure its their business and their forum.

CM, I do agree with that, too. Their forum, their rules.

Whether I like or agree with them or not. I will, however, continue to post my opinion-as others see fit to do- until I am booted off or prohibited from doing. By their directives, not some other posters.

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CM, I do agree with that, too. Their forum, their rules.

Whether I like or agree with them or not. I will, however, continue to post my opinion-as others see fit to do- until I am booted off or prohibited from doing. By their directives, not some other posters.

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We wouldn't want you any other way:D

Im so impressed that a thread posted by someone complaining about drama and name calling has gone on for several pages...and its mostly name calling and drama :D. /sarcasim. I wasnt refering to woms comment (somewhat uncalled for yes Ill admit) when I said the OP had to take the same lumps as the rest of us with an opinion. Altho by virtue of complaining about it she got us all to demonstrate what she was complaining about. Mission acomplished!
By the way, its Fyre not Fry...was that an intentional typo or an honest mistake *grins*

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As I explained to the person who was called a "Dragon Lady," I have always seen it it as sort of a back-handed compliment, connoting a woman who is admirably strong, but with whose opinions you may disagree. I think Margaret Thatcher, for example, was often called a Dragon Lady in the press, again, particularly by those who disagreed with her.

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PM Thatcher was referred to as the Iron Lady. The Dragon Lady of recent historical note would be Madame Chiang Kai Shek, or Madame Ngô Đình Nhu, First Lady of South Vietnam.

[quote By the way, its Fyre not Fry...was that an intentional typo or an honest mistake *grins*[/QUOTE]

I am typing on my blackberry, predictive text, many words are virtually impossible to type. I wasn't positive of your screen name, and did the best I could.

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I am typing on my blackberry, predictive text, many words are virtually impossible to type. I wasn't positive of your screen name, and did the best I could.

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Fair enough, I was posting from my Nokia so I understand! :D

No harm, no foul?

Well if someone called me a 'dragon lady' I'd be insulted, not complimented.

Dragon lady is by no means a compliment to anyone, and 'another' was typed in all capital letters meaning yelling in text land and emphasized in a negative way.

For backhanded compliments? Does anyone know what that actually means? There is no 'compliment' involved. It is simply an insult period.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Backhanded_compliment
A backhanded compliment or left-handed compliment or asteism is an insult disguised as a compliment. It is generally used to belittle or condescend, or often one uses a backhanded compliment when one wants to insult someone in a subtle way.

http://www.answers.com/topic/left-handed-compliment
backhanded compliment. An insult in the guise of an expression of praise. For example, She said she liked my hair, but it turned out to be a left-handed compliment when she asked how long I'd been dyeing it. This expression uses left-handed in the sense of "questionable or doubtful," a usage dating from about 1600.

Sorry but I do not agree with 'backhanded compliment' being nice in any way, but that's just my opinion, I'm sure others may dissagree.

I am glad others saw Wom's comment as a thinly guised slap in the
face to the OP. (My computer was down or I would have posted earlier)

Karen, I love you but, you have the soul of a poet and probably see the
human race through rose colored glasses.;) People can sometimes just
be total jerks and it's best to tell them so. Peace.:)

Gawd, I hate not being around that much lately.

Sara, I do hope that you haven't left the boards and are still following this thread. Rest assured that I always have the very deepest of respect for you.

In life, the only true opinions you take to heart are those of people you respect. The words of anyone other than those select few are just that, words.

I am akin to you, and a fair few others on this board, in that I stick up for myself and am fiercely defensive of anyone else I believe is being treated unfairly. That is a good quality to have even if it very often results in being the 'condemned', the 'accused', or any other silly synonym people come up with.

I'm always on the other end of a PM.

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I am glad others saw Wom's comment as a thinly guised slap in the
face to the OP. (My computer was down or I would have posted earlier)

Karen, I love you but, you have the soul of a poet and probably see the
human race through rose colored glasses.;) People can sometimes just
be total jerks and it's best to tell them so. Peace.:)

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JERK ????? JERK ????
You know, if those two tiny little neurons you have in your empty head ever manage to collide, you may come to the conclusion that name calling is a no no on this forum.
So Lizbud, if you don't have anything nice to say, then go suck eggs.

And you have just proven why she sometimes deletes threads. She being the E's secretary - not Karen. (but sometimes Karen too!):D

Let's see..........we have

Dragon Lady
Jerk
Suck Eggs:D:D:D

Nice, really nice!;)

enough already !!!!!

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And you have just proven why she sometimes deletes threads. She being the E's secretary - not Karen. (but sometimes Karen too!):D

Let's see..........we have

Dragon Lady
Jerk
Suck Eggs:D:D:D

Nice, really nice!;)

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Yeah, I like it to....hee hee

I'll repeat my mantra, if you can't take it don't dish it out.

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Originally Posted by gini

Dragon Lady
Jerk
Suck Eggs:D:D:D

Nice, really nice!;)

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I love the hypocrites too. Just love 'em.

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Originally Posted by Alysser

I love the hypocrites too. Just love 'em.

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Thank you Alysser.......it's lovely to read that you love me.
BUT, unfortunately I don't love you. So bad luck honey !!!!! I guess you'll have to find love elsewhere.