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I personally think some people (and I think we all know who we're really talking about here) do it because half the time when they read PM's their doing it in a hurry and don't have time to fully reply to a PM.
So no, I really don't think it's rude. Not what I do, but not rude either.
We all have different ways of doing things.
Sorry I'm just now getting back to this thread. But, the reason I even posted this to begin with was because I thought it was my messaging that was screwed up, maybe my tracking or just my settings or something. I didn't know to ask a particular person or people, because it had happened to me with a few people over the last couple weeks. If I'd thought it was the person on the other end doing anything at all, I would have asked privately. The question didn't become "why use deny receipt?" until after at least one person said that that was what was happening. I always thought Deny Receipt was like when you blocked emails from certain people, so, I never used it. I know what it is now and why some people use it. I've gone back to not even looking in the message tracking section. Even when I first realized what it was, I thought it was a bad idea.Quote:
Originally posted by Daisy and Delilah
Kari, You have really brought up a good point here. I think when each one of us sends someone a PM, we are making a special effort to be nice and thoughtful to someone. It does hurt when you don't get anything back or at least just an acknowledgement from someone. It's especially hurtful to see your PM "disappear" so to speak. You're left hanging and wondering what happened. If you've taken the time to PM someone, naturally you want to track it to check it's status. I don't think anything is wrong with you being concerned about this and again, thanks for starting this thread.
Terry
And, Terry, I'm sorry that you have felt hurt by the use of that particular feature. I remember when the rating stars were removed, I think it would be a good idea to remove that feature, too. I've had a lot of people tell me it's hurt their feelings. It just always weirded me out, like what the heck? Didn't I just send one?! I was too naive as to what was actually happening for it to hurt my feelings. ;) That's why I asked, I felt stupid that I didn't know! But, at least I know now. And, I hope no one really takes it too personally, as I don't think it's meant to be insulting.
I haven't had a pm on this forum yet but on a few others I find that if one skips to the end of the pm and clicks on the send receipt button that one really doesn't have to read the pm at all. I found that little piece of useless information while testing forum software, it's something I do because I just have to know how things work! I haven't had time to test this forum's software yet.
After re-reading my post, I really sounded kinda whiny. Sorry, I didn't mean to. Thanks for the response Kari. I had questions myself on previous occasions about the same circumstances mentioned by some people posting in this thread. I was curious too. Alot of questions of mine have been answered about this process now. I think it's always good to have open discussions about things like this. I can be pretty naive at times for sure(even at my age!) so I like to get an education on things I don't fully understand. Thanks for the info everybody.:D
Terry
carole, You're right that all PM's are not sent with good intentions. Thanks for pointing that out. I didn't even realize that until you said it.