I'm glad that you got her help. That was a very good thing to do. :)
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I'm glad that you got her help. That was a very good thing to do. :)
~UPDATE!~
I just wanted to let you all know, that even after this huge incident, my friend and I are friends again. We are still trying to build up our relationship to what it was before, and we both know that its going to take a LONG time, but we overcame the worst with amazing outcomes...and in a short amount of time. She does seem happier every day, and I think shes glad that I got her help. We had the BEST time at lunch today, we were laughing and talking and overall, having a very good time!
I also found out that I am very bad with social interaction, this is why it was a huge thing for me. What I found out is that I have a "phobia" of being in crowds, such as clics of 5 or 10 people. I am very quiet in a group and that is why I don't make friends very easily. I am a very nice, kind & funny person one on one or with 2 or 3 people. But once the numbers start adding up, I get scared and I shy away. I am trying to fix this by getting myself used to other people(kinda like a dog being socialized;)). Thats why it took SO much for me to get used to it...I cried myself to sleep at nights after and since then have been writing things on my arm at night on how I felt, some being quite serious that Mrs.Larose told me I should get help with...unless everything takes a turn(which it did) and I'm happy now! I couldn't thank God enough...all I could do was pray!
Just thought I would let you all know how both of us are doing:D
I forot to post this, so here it is, LOL!
Does anybody else know how I could somehow clean up my "fear" of being in crowds? Anything is appreciated.
And as for my friend, do you guys think this is a little fishy to you because she made up with me so fast? I do trust her, but I think for something that happened at this state that it could be a way to set me up? :confused: I just hope she won't do it anymore
Lexi,
As someone who cut herself and is still getting over all self harming behaviors, here's my two cents.
Your friend needs ALL the help and support you can give her right now. Give her the benefit of the doubt and assume that she's forgiven you so fast (for doing the noble and RIGHT thing, kudos to you!) because she knows that you have done right and because she NEEDS you.
As for your sociophobia (been there too), could you get counselling? It's helpful to talk over and analyze your feelings -- maybe there's a hidden reason why you're not comfortable in crowds and you can overcome that with some help.
Oh, and if you need to write how you feel, I'd suggest doing it on paper next time. Ink poisoning is not cool. :D
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Does anybody else know how I could somehow clean up my "fear" of being in crowds? Anything is appreciated.
I used to have a fear of being in crowds but I had to stick it out because I like shopping and going other places. I used to sit at home and do nothing but I hated it. I did go to counseling and it helped. Now I can go anywhere. It takes time to get over it. My suggestion is to go to a counselor and ask them if you could work your way up to not be afraid in crowds. Then praise yourself when you work up to it. Hang in there.
Krista
Glad your friends again Lexi, good stuff mate. :)
As far as the other thing, you could have a go at toastmasters. The training classes they do are great for building up confidence etc.