I am sure Johanna when bubs arrives and grows older you will know what is the right thing to do, one never knows for sure if you make the right decisions where your kids are concerned , but we can only do our best, parenting is the hardest job in the world, and there is no handbook unfortunately, but I can assure you its the most rewarding, even if those rewards are little and not too often lol.:)but when they come they are worth their weight in gold.