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you have to learn to like yourself before you can be liked by others....
By changing yourself so 'someone will notice you'
you cheat yourself out of BEING YOURSELF.
look at it this way...
when you find out a guy is being 'phony' so he
can get to know you, what do you do????
put yourself in his shoes.....
there is nothing worse then finding out that a person is fake.
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Originally posted by tikeyas_mom
kayann at that age I bet you thoguht of guys ;) and not just school work ;). I know I did :p..
I never said I didn't. I didn't make it the main point in my life though. :rolleyes:
And micki, i'm not sure if you're talking aobut me -- But I just posted my opinions/advice -- and that's what she wanted so, Eh -- That's what she got.
No KayAnn, you thought she was interested in an older man and that isa sick situation. I was referring basically to anyone who thinks that thinking of, and being interested in boys is wrong, sick, weird, disgusting or nasty. It’s natural and you yourself have been interested so you’re normal. Well… :pQuote:
Originally posted by Kfamr
I never said I didn't. I didn't make it the main point in my life though. :rolleyes:
And micki, i'm not sure if you're talking aobut me -- But I just posted my opinions/advice -- and that's what she wanted so, Eh -- That's what she got.
I was, am, and will continue to be 'boy crazy'. It is natural. I silently laugh at everyone that says, "why do you want a boy/man to notice you"...PUH LEASE.
I demand that every one of you go back to your teenage years...while I know memories fade.....surely you remember how you were then....
And, if you ARE a teenager, and are not thinking of boys....WOW....you are unlike nearly EVERY girl I have ever known. More power to you, if that is what makes you go, but, sheesh-louise, give this 'normal' girl a big fat break.
boys learn how to disrespect women
while they are still young
Yes you want people/men to notice you-
but too many young ladies are being 'taught' that they have no self worth unless someone 'notices'
them...
there is NOTHING wrong with wanting to be 'noticed' but for pete's sake why is that tied to your being a total person??
LOL,
I had a friend who would tell me that she wanted to break off a relationship but she didn't want to be by herself....well, she broke it off, dated two other guys in between and ended up with her old boyfriend....AFTER she she badmouthed him in the first place.
If a guy can't look you in the face to notice you
he's probably not dating material.
I agree. It's wonderful to give this young lady constructive advice, like Richard and some others are doing. But it is not right to criticise her or make her feel somehow bad, because she wants a boy to notice her. We ALL want others to notice us, whether it be for our cute butts, brilliant minds or kind hearts. Wanting to be noticed, appreciated and liked is human nature, especially during the teen years, when we all tried to find our selves.Quote:
To the people who’ve responded so negatively in this thread. May I ask why you choose to make one of our fellow Pet Talkers feel dirty about her natural feelings for boys? I think it’s extremely normal to be interested. If you think it’s dirty, then you yourself may want to delve into that a little more deeply. Interest in the opposite sex after someone enters puberty is quite normal; it’s nature. IMHO to be disgusted by it or to think it’s wrong or not normal is something you should really examine within yourself.
Im 13 and Im not that interested in boys. I mean, there are some who are nice and funny to talk too. But I like my animals! lol. All I have to say is, I think it's a bit too young to be thinking about boys. and if you really really like him, just be your self!!Quote:
Originally posted by Soledad
[BI understand a lot of 13 year old girls are interested in boys, and that's fine and probably healthy.[/B]
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Funny Kay!!:D
I JUST LOVE YOU CAT!Quote:
Originally posted by Cataholic
I was, am, and will continue to be 'boy crazy'. It is natural. I silently laugh at everyone that says, "why do you want a boy/man to notice you"...PUH LEASE.
I demand that every one of you go back to your teenage years...while I know memories fade.....surely you remember how you were then....
And, if you ARE a teenager, and are not thinking of boys....WOW....you are unlike nearly EVERY girl I have ever known. More power to you, if that is what makes you go, but, sheesh-louise, give this 'normal' girl a big fat break.
posted by Cataholic:And, if you ARE a teenager, and are not thinking of boys....WOW....you are unlike nearly EVERY girl I have ever known. >>>>>
LOL! I must have been one of those late bloomers,
I did not start noticing boys that way, till I was 15.
(I did start wearing my jeans tighter and skirts a bit
shorter) lol
On a serious note, never do anything to be ashamed of.
You need to respect yourself, and never do anything that
makes you feel uncomfortable.
Hey! if they don't hang around just because you
don't put out, they were not worth it in the first place. Just my two sence! :rolleyes:
thanx for all of what u peeps have said. i mean it. ive been thinkin it over. im friends with this guy, i mean we talk on the internet and stuff, but we can never talk in school cause im in middle school and hes a high schooler. and i would never be able to talk to him in the halls when he is with his friends because his one friend (lets call him Will) always picks on me about what i look like. he says stuff like, "josh has a girlfriend already." "he already has a girlfriend" and "he doesnt like you." but i think that he is just sayin this stuff cause hes jeleous that girls like "Josh" more than him. i know that im over weight, that shouldnt be a problem b/c it should be whats on the inside that counts. right? right now me and "josh" are friends, but in some ways i wish we could be more than friends. in other ways im glad that we are at least friends. bein friends is better than not being anything at all.
don't sweat it Stormy. There are going to be at least 7,741 boys who you will like over the next 10 years. It wouldn't be fair to the rest of them for you to spend too much time on this one.;)
I think you have been offered some good advice by most people, the few negative comments that have been made, just don't take to heart, I think most people are just concerned about your well-being.
It is perfectly normal at your age to be interested in boys, heck I was at that age too, even though I am an oldie now, I can remember my teen years with a smile.
My daughter is 11 and she thinks certain boys are cute etc, but that is about as far as it goes for now, and I hope it stays that way for a couple of years, however at 13 I would expect her to start wanting boys to notice her.
Its a bit about self-esteem, feeling good and confident about yourself as a person, once you have that, I reckon all the boys you want will notice you.,its like this kinda aura you carry around with you.
Try to do well in your school work , and take your studies seriously, and keep those boy's a little at arms length for now, as there is plenty time for the more serious stuff.
Just remember your feelings are perfectly normal, and you should not be chatised for having them, here or anywhere.
Most of us are more than happy to share our opinion, give advice, especially if you find it difficult to speak to your mother, that is a little sad, I sure hope my girl will come to me , rather than PT, but knowing teenagers she probably won't.!!
For me PT is about sharing the love and bond with our pets, but its more than that, its sharing our lives, our feelings, our emotions, our worries, with a unique variety of people who care, and want to help.:) just MO:)
I totally agree with Richard here, if the guy is just checking your butt out, and other things below your face, then sweetie he is only interested in one thing. Right now at your age talking is great, but he should be looking you in the eyes, not just looking at your body, I know thats what they are going to look at, they should have enough respect for you to get to know you for who you are inside. Go to school, get more involved with your education, thats the payoff right there. Be Safe..:)