Leaving..

Keep safe Foam.

Oh I am so sorry that happened tonight, I know you must of felt awful. I'm sorry your dad acted like that, even as adults we screw up and make mistakes. Slaping you was a mistake, a big mistake. That should have never happened no matter how you cused at him.

I understand that life gets really ruff sometimes and you want to just shut down for awhile. But trust me when I say that shuting down and turning away from your friends/family wont help. It just makes you feel even more lonely and helpless. You got to talk to people....vent yell do what ever makes you feel better. And if you talk to enough people....in time you will feel better. Just knowing that people care and belive in you and want to honestly help makes all the difference.

I assume from all the great reply's you got here.....that you have a lot of freinds here that care about what happens to you. Talk to them, post, pm them...pm me, we can help.....promise.

If you talk to some of us older guys here....maybe we can teach you a few tricks on how to handl your dad. Come on that should be worth you staying around if nothing else does. :D :D

You said "Pet Talk truley is my comfort" so why leave your comfort?

Feel free to Pm me any time and I'm sure everyone else here will say the say thing.

Yes..most of the time. He only hits me ocasionally, but he always yells at me and never listens.
I have a friend who is 20, and I trust him. I might to ask him next time we talk if he can pick me up sometime, and if I can stay at his place for a night, to get away.
I would stay at my friends' houses, that are my age, but their parents would call my mom and she would come get me, punish me and my dad would do this again...:(

Sweet girl, being 12 is just the pitts. I am sure I could easily be your Grandmother, but I do remember being 12 myself, and it just wasn't a good time in my life either.

Why don't you make some arrangements in advance to stay overnight at a friend's house and ask your Mom's permission - so she doesn't come running after you.

Be very careful around your Dad. Can you talk to your Mom about this? I am sure there are other things going on in your household that you haven't told us. Do you have any brothers or sisters?

Keep on posting and tell us how you are doing. Feel free to p/m me or use my email address anytime and I will respond immediately.

Some things are going to remain unmentioned.
I will ask my mom to spend the night at my friend's house tomorrow night, and hopefully she will say yes, because I just want to ge out...:(
And thank you, Geni for offering so much help...I really apprecaite it. :) **hugs**

Staying at a friends house sounds like a good idea, but you have to remember that your friend is 20 and he can get into trouble letting you stay there without your parents permission.

What your father did is abuse and I don't even want to get into how I feel about that. I want you to be safe and don't want you to do anything that will make him so upset that he would do it again. Remember that going to a friends will help for that day....but you will have to go home again and then what will happen?!! Don't make thinks worse for your self in the long run.

What ever you decide to do....think it out. Ask your self what going to happen later if I do this? Will I get in trouble? Etc.

The weekend is here....so spend the day with a friend, at their house if you can. Have some fun.

I will certainly try. Right now, I am just going to go to bed and gets a good long rest. I'll be back in the morning, hopefully feeling better.
Goodnight, everybody. Thanks again..:)

Good night, sleep tight, don't let the bed bugs bite:D

Oh Foam, I am so sorry to hear this. Sometimes parents can get out of control because of stress and other factors. Is this something that happens often or just a "heat of the moment" thing? Life as a teenager is hard for both you and your parents. Sometimes just swearing at them can really set them off. They probably both love you very much, but it can be hard for a Dad to show it. I hope you had a good nights sleep and things are looking up this morning! Remember that you have a great number of friends here to help you through anything! Hugs to you.

He slapped you? :mad: Even if he does have the right to tell you to get off the phone, he also needs to listen. Do you have a guidance counselor at school that could help you out? Stay safe and don't give up hope. Maybe you can talk to your mom about this, he'll probably listen to her more.

He calls you "daughter" What your not worthy of a name? :rolleyes: I'm sorry this is tough for you. *hugs* I'm glad you're sticking around. :)

Foam, this has touched me too. I am also one of the close-to grandmothers but I was 12 too and my father used to slap me. I think there is still a rest of hot lava in me -I was so upset and I am so upset that he could do it whenever he felt he had to keep me down.

But I got out there -some years later- and I had up to now a life that is much better than what my education had promised.

It will be the same for you. There are people who care and I agree with everyone: hugging Darlin must provide immediately good feelings. Both of you are so cute:)

Foam, I wanted to check in on you this morning.

This is a brand new day and a brand new chance.

I want you to do me a favor, if you can. Please do not swear at your parents. I know, I know, you kids today use swear words like candy. Even if your parents use swear words, please don't swear back at them. I am sure that it makes them angry when you do.

Also, I would love to hear that you are talking to a school counselor, a minister, priest or someone. The cycle of your Dad slapping you must be stopped.

Please give Darlin a hug - several hugs and try to have some fun today.

Foam,
I can understand what you are going through, and it is a very hard time.:( Good luck to you, and keep us updated. This is why I always come on Pet Talk, it just takes my mind off of everything else, and I think about my pets, other peoples pets, looking at pics.. getting advice.
*Hugs*
Emma, Digger, Chubby, Otis, Prince, and Nelly

Foam, I'm so sorry to hear what's going on in your life right now:( I just found out right now. I haven't read the entire thread yet, but I think I know a little about what's going on. Just 2 nights ago, I kept on crying in bed. There's so many things going on in my life right now too, and I just don't know what to do. But I know that you guys will always listen(:))
Well, anyways, I hope you feel better today. If you need to talk or just vent about anything, remember we're all here for you. and never think about leaving again! I know that this is the last place I want to leave if anything bad is happening.
I haven't read the whole thread, but I see in some posts above saying something about you being slapped by your dad?:eek: :mad: Parents should never slap their kids, isn't it against the law now?
((((((((hugs))))))))))
I hope you feel better soon, and please, stay safe:)

Oh Foam,

I can't believe what happend to you. Im 13 now and I know what it's like gettin the big slap. When-ever I got in trouble and stuff, I just stayed in my room which my pets until I cooled down and until my parents did too. Just give Darlin hugs. you can talk to darlin, she will listen to you. take care ~

~amber~