Another thing - Statistics show that girls who date do much worse in school than girls who wait ;)
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Another thing - Statistics show that girls who date do much worse in school than girls who wait ;)
I have to say, since i met you in person at the PA pet talk meeting...i know for sure you are a very pretty girl and if the guys arent asking you out right now...they are missing out. I'm serious...you are very pretty and have nothing to worry about...you will have a boyfriend, and if you dont have one right now...it just b/c God hasnt led you 2 together yet...someday you will and it will be the right time for he both of you. You are still young and have plenty of years ahead of you...but if you ever need to tlak about it, feel free to post away :)
Robyn
Thanks for the support & replies everyone. :)
Today, once again, everyone was talking to my friend about her new b/f, but I wasn't upset because I have something all those people who have b/fs don't have...Pet Talk! And no guy could replace that EVER!
And yes, I was very shy at the Pet Talk PA! I guess I should work on that a lot, for next year! ;)
I think that at my age, most boys (and some girls as well) are not mature enough to cherish a relationship the way it is supposed to be, not a petting zoo of some sort. :rolleyes:
Anyway, thanks for the support everyone!
{{{Hugs}}}
Well, as long as every one else is embarrassing Britt ;) , I can too. I can honestly say, meeting her in person, that she is a lovely girl. One that will probably end up being "the girl TOO PRETTY for the guys to ask out, for fear of rejection".
That is about the funniest thing said on this thred! I am going to incorporate the 'petting zoo' phrase into my vocabulary!!!!!:DQuote:
Originally posted by FloppsyLadySally89
... cherish a relationship the way it is supposed to be, not a petting zoo of some sort. :rolleyes:
So, when I see two teens mauling each other in public, I will say, "what do you think this is, some petting zoo?"!!! Isn't that funny?
LOL :D What a good idea :D
this is a little off the subject, but I just wanted to say that I LOVE your new signature FLS! :D
Thanks! Popcornbird made it for me. :)
Well here is another 'old lady' with a comment or two. :) I met you at Pet Talk and know for a fact that you are very pretty. Yes you were shy but so was I at your age. Over time as you feel more comfortable with yourself you will outgrow that. I think the circle of friends you have now may be contributing to that by making you feel that you are in some way inferior to them because of this boyfriend stuff. Nothing could be further from the truth!
You have gotten so much good advice that there's really not too much for me to add. Back when I was in school (back when the dinosaurs roamed the earth) we dated at a much later age. I think the media today, advertisers, sitcoms, etc. have all pushed girls into dating much too early. They make it seem like 'the thing to do.' When a girl has been 'kissing and cuddling' since 13, what's left to do but you know what. What kind of life is that? Lasting relationships are built on a mature respect for each other. Yes there is kidding and cuddling of course but that should come later. Today kids are pushed into being adults before they are ready. My advice is simple - concentrate on school, pets, family, etc. Some day these ditzy girls who kissed and cuddled all through school will be envious of you when you are a successful veterinarian. ;)
Britt, I can add only that the things you will miss when you'll be my age (28) or older is being a kid, just a kid. I remember my colleagues at school, same age as you, eager to date and cuddle and kiss. I was too, maybe a little, but I remember what my mom told me - when you'll be older and (believe me) wiser, you'll understand how DEEP a relation should be. A guy your age cannot give you that, nor you to him.
I am glad I listened and studied and found other interests. Now, I am a successful woman, and I can say men like me, from what I can say ;) because I have much more to give than my former friends, which are UNHAPPILY married (because they were too young to know what marriage really means), interested only in cooking dinner.
And anyway, the only one whom you owe explanations to re why you're not dating, is you :)
What great motherly and friendly advice you have gotten, Britt! :) I had one boyfriend in my life, and that was Helen's dad. We started dating when we were 15. We never really saw anyone else. I think we both can look back and see how we limited ourselves and wish maybe that we had followed a different path. Half my life was spent with that boy/man, and what a rude awakening to be out there "available" again at 30 years old!!! I was scared to death.
So, I learned my lesson at an older age, than most, and I had a two year old, so my focus was on her. My point is that I have spent the last ten years of my life, "catching up" on the things I should have been doing when I was younger, focusing on the things I enjoyed and the things my daughter enjoyed. It took ten years to find the perfect person to fill a missing gap, that I didn't even know I was missing!
You follow your heart. You are a beautiful, strong girl. And one day, when the time is right, then the right guy will probably sweep you off your feet! But I'm telling you now, that waiting is NOT a big deal, and I can say that easily, because my daughter is now 12 years old, and if she got "asked out", I would adimately be saying NO!!!! :)
Logan
I went out with my first REAL boyfriend when I was in grade 8.
then we broke up around 3 months later.
Then I found anohter guy i liked more then the first, and went out with him in grade 9, that relationship lasted almost 6 months.
then we broke up because I was going to a different school and all this other crud..
Dont worrie about guys, they are all immature at your age.
I am in grade 11 and I have only had 2 boyfriends.
Wow, thanks everyone. :)
I decided I'm not gunna go to the movies with my friends. I was talking to my other friends, and they said it was mean for her to invite me to the movies on her double-date. And then the best friend of her b/f asked her if she wanted to "make out" at the movies...gross! I really think that's disgusting. Yuck yuck yuck! 13??? OK I'll quit my panic attack.
Anyways, thanks again for all the help. I think I have chosen the friends I will still hang out with, and those aren't the ones hugging & kissing in front of me. :)
{{{Hugs}}}
Hey Britt :D Hope my advice aint to late! But I just wanted to tell you, and I may not be the best person to tell you this since I'm probly the "ugliest" person in the school (j/k) I'm telling you, thinking yourself as pretty helps alot. I know that most people think of me as over weight and ugly. Now me, I think I'm pretty and I could do much better then those guys at my school who are to shallow to date me because I'm not skinny enough or because of what there friends think. Look for a guy who is goign to date you ebcause of you, not because of your pretty Brown hair or your other good features.
I just hope that you see how pretty you really are and I have seen you in person and I know how pretty you are. you just keep telling yourself how pretty you are and soon everyone else will think so to.
Ash
ps: Britt, don't date till your 16, guys are age are...well...we won't go into it...but wait.
Hi there Britt,
Another one with motherly advice here, but first i want to say after reading your threads i think u have something those others probably dont MATURITY, honestly for a girl of is it 14 u sound like you have a good sensible head on your shoulders.
I can understand at 14 , if all your friends are dating, u would feel left out, but as everyone else has said there is plenty time in your life for that.
I had my first boyfriend at 16, he was a red headed Canadian actually and he dumped me because i would not sleep with him, he was at least three years older than me, but i stuck to my guns, it hurt like hell because i thought i really loved him, wow did i have lots to learn.
I have a daughter who is going on 11 and she has formed a friendship with a boy of 14 who lives about 2 hrs away from us, he is my neices , husbands brother and was at their wedding, both my daughter and he were in the wedding party, i let them be friends, they text message each other and talk online, and they will c each other this weekend as we are going there, and play ps2 together, but no way will they ever date, besides she is more interested in playing Barbie dolls with her friends, maybe when they are older if they like each other still we shall see. i think its ok to nuture the friendship, but dating not even a thought.
We in nz always thought americans started dating far too young, and were so grown up looking for their ages, but now it seems its the same here in nz.
Now i have not seen your pics, but from what everyone says u are a looker, no matter what always believe you are beautiful inside and out ok.
Now take care and have FUN FUN FUN without those boys ok cheers