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Does your mom have friends that could visit and perhaps get her out of the house for a while? If they could get her interested in something or if she could look forward to an event of some type, perhaps she'd feel better.

Good luck w/the job, Bri. You're young and can handle a job and school. My son went to college full time and worked 3 part time jobs to pay his tuition so that he wouldn't be saddled w/student loan debt. At that time, my husband and I couldn't help him financially and he said that he's happy that we couldn't b/c it made him stronger. You sound like a tough cookie (in a good way) and I think a new job and your mom getting out of the house w/friends and activities would turn this whole situation around. Keep the faythe. :)

I know it's tough to go to college and have a job at the same time, but you gotta do what you gotta do... this way I can at least support myself and continue to help my mom and take care of the animals.

My mom does have friends, but she won't ever call them and go do anything. She has one friend who she's known since she loved around here before, and I found her online and they reconnected. I seriously think they need to hang out, but it hasn't happened yet.

Congrats, Bri!! I hope you get it, you really deserve it after all this crap.

And sorry, I didn't mean permanent rehoming, I meant more or less finding a foster home for now but hopefully you're mom won't do anything rash to Brennan. :D

Going through college with a job is tough, but it really isn't to bad. I'm doing it now. It's alot of work, it does get stressful as hell, and annoying, but it really does teach you ALOT. Good luck!

Roxyluvsme13,

Well, menopause can be tricky. My symptoms lasted over 9 years!!! You guys are so lucky to have each other. I hope it all works out for you.

Cataholic,

Hit a raw nerve, did I????? ARE you a REAL lawyer, or do you just play one????

Moosmom, what, you just couldn't deal with the fact that I ignored your "apology", so you want to goad me into getting into it here?

Just go adjust your medication. It makes everyone happier.

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Moosmom, what, you just couldn't deal with the fact that I ignored your "apology", so you want to goad me into getting into it here?

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Guess, what??? I just did, cuz you responded!! Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I think YOU are the one who needs meds.

A BIGGER person would have accepted my apology and moved on. KMA And don't bother posting again cuz I've blocked your sorry @##.

Not sure whats going on but your two of my favorite people so you have that in common...now get along...

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Bri,

You're young and although it will be tiring, you'll survive working and college at the same time. I wish you luck in your endeavors. And I hope your mother can start caring for herself. Just hang in there.

I've got to get out of this house... we argue all the time and it's so frustrating. I'm going to go somewhere tonight and hang out with some friends for a little while or something, but I'm kind of afraid to leave. She just almost threw Bella out the front door and is threatening to throw them all out when I'm gone... I don't know what to do.

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I've got to get out of this house... we argue all the time and it's so frustrating. I'm going to go somewhere tonight and hang out with some friends for a little while or something, but I'm kind of afraid to leave. She just almost threw Bella out the front door and is threatening to throw them all out when I'm gone... I don't know what to do.

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Only you know if she is capable of that but it does sound like you both need a break from each other.Years ago a man was at the shelter saying goodbye to his two dogs because his wife threw them out on the street why he was gone and he was giving them up because he knew she would do it again, I hope you mom isn't that cruel.

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Only you know if she is capable of that but it does sound like you both need a break from each other.Years ago a man was at the shelter saying goodbye to his two dogs because his wife threw them out on the street why he was gone and he was giving them up because he knew she would do it again, I hope you mom isn't that cruel.

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That's horrible :(. I don't know if she'd be that cruel. I don't think she'd do that to Domino or Lily, or hopefully not Brennan but I worry about Tallulah and Bella because they're the troublemaker cats and Bella came from outside so in my mom's opinion I'm sure she could go back.

My mom and I have been arguing over money and the animals a lot lately, I just actually tried to do something nice for her and she's like "I'm a bad mom, I'm not worth any of this, etc. etc." So now I feel horrible. I just think I need to go spend some time away from her for a few hours. Being on spring break isn't easy with all of this going on and most of my friends being at home hours away.

couple of thoughts....

I realize I don't know you and your situation very well but a few things pop in to mind....

Are these her pets or yours? If they are yours, then you don't have a right to force her to care for your pets - so as hard as the idea may be, rehoming might be the best plan for one or more of them. Being a young adult, going to school, working, and supporting so many animals might be overdoing it.

There's a book called "Boundries" (sorry, don't know the author), that might be a good book to read.

You're only 19 but have been forced to grow up too quickly becuase of your home life. Don't let your mom drag you down. You can be kind and respectful, but you don't have to get sucked into the drama.

I wish you the very best of luck during this difficult time.

Bri i am with catland on this one, and i have to say if they are your animals, and you took them on, then they are your responsibility not your mother's.

You know it could well be your mother has just had enough of responsibility, and wants a complete break from it, i can relate to that myself,you are the same age as my youngest, who is at university , and living at home, i do a lot for my girl, but she does appreciate it.

Sometimes i feel all i ever do is look after everyone and sometimes one likes to feel maybe someone can look after me for a change, maybe your mother feels a bit like that.

I would have to say if she is going through menopause,(you don't say how old your mother is)then for some woman it is extremely difficult time in their life, and everything can just seem to much to deal with.

i have empathy for you both, and i think you have to think about how it is for your mother too,not just yourself,some of her threats are probably just that threats, and her only way of coping.

She could well indeed be suffering from depression,meds are not always the answer,that is just my opinion,you can get through it without it, if it is not too severe.

I think you should just try and be supportive to your mother, understand that life is not that great for her right now, and she probably does not need an extra responsibility right now.

you know mothers and daughters often have rough patches, but in the end she is the person who loves you more than anyone ever will, believe me when you become a mother yourself you will completely understand that.

I wish you both well and hope you can get along better, try seeing things from your mothers perspective ,it might just help...GOOD LUCK...:love:

Bri, I'm sorry to read of the rough patches you're going through. You are a good person, and of course you love your mom and want to help her.

IMO, however, it's best if you go on your own. I don't think at this age you should be supporting your mother. She's obviously going through a rough patch and it's understandable if you feel like you should support yourself more- but supporting her is going over the line IMO.
It's hard to go to college and support yourself, but in all honesty it is do-able. At 19 we're technically adults and physically able to support ourselves, which may be easier for you to do than what your dealing with living at home. And as horrible it is to think to rehome those animals she is unwilling to care for- it may be the best option, if just temporarily. Have you thought about finding an apartment with friends or in a craigslist type ad for roommates that you could take Brennan with? (When you get a job anyway) If your loans cover the rent and food, and you can care for yourself and Brennan with whatever job you get, this may be worth it.

Good luck to you, Bri, we all care about you!! :love: Your welcome to FB anytime for advice or if you need to talk.