Boo Bear and Coco Puff; update 1/2; a weird update; post #41

When I went to bed last night, Boo was asleep on the back of the sofa and I said 'goodnight' to him and he stayed there. Coco Puff went to bed w/me. A few minutes later, Boo started wailing so loudly that I ran downstairs thinking that something had happened to him. I turned on the light and there he was, sitting in the middle of the throw rug where he and Pidge used to sleep together, just wailing. He ran over to me, I picked him up and he wrapped his arms around my neck so tightly. I think this boy is afraid. I'm not sure of what but that's the impression I got. Maybe he's still worried that something bad happened to Pidge or maybe he's afraid for himself, I don't know. I've had several "talks" w/him explaining what happened to Pidgie, that she's safe and misses him, too, etc. I just don't know what else to do for my poor boy. :(

This is so heartbreaking and they do grieve like humans do. I have no advice to ideas on what you could do other than to pay far more attention to them than ever.

Just a thought here and maybe it is a way out thought.. You took Pidge out of the house and she never came back.. Could they be afraid you will take them away and never bring them back?

I would contact Nancy and see if there is anything you or she can do to help. We never had any idea how bad Mama's death traumatized Boo until she told me that. Pidge being taken out and never brought back has surely traumatized them. Maybe they need to know YOU miss her too and are grieving just as bad as they are. Nancy said Boo just wanted to be heard and have her feelings known so we would understand HER feelings and that made all the difference in the world for me and for Boo. I think Nancy could help! It is worth a shot if it could help them and YOU! Maybe Pidge might even come through and talk to them and let them see she is alright now. I would do it in a heartbeat.

I know you have talked to Boo and Coco Puff - if you haven't, add that YOU wanted to bring her home too, and were as broken-hearted as they are that she didn't come back.

I don't know if Boo would "get" visiting her grave with you holding him.

Poor dear baby...hugs and loves to him. At least you are there for him to hug tightly when his poor heart hurts so bad. :(

Prayers for the kitty hearts to heal - and yours too!:love::love::love::love:

I've sat w/Boo on my lap and I've also held him and rocked him while standing. That's his favorite; he loves it when I throw him over my shoulder and he lets his legs hang down, secure knowing that I'm holding his little butt. I've told him that I cried, too, b/c I miss Pidgie so much, I've told him that she misses us as well but that she's happy now and not sick or old or in pain. I've told him that he doesn't need to be afraid, that I'll always take care of him, that I'll never leave him and that he will see Pidgie again one day. I've said it all, talking to him as I would a dear child. For a while I thought I had gotten through to him b/c he was acting closer to normal but last night was so sad. He actually trembled when I picked him up and held him close. Tonight, though, he wanted to go downstairs to sleep instead of going to bed w/me so I let him. I don't want to force him to do something he doesn't want to do even though I'll worry about him b/c I won't be able to reach out and pet him to reassure him. I sure hope his little broken heart mends soon b/c this is really breaking mine.

As if your pain is not enough to bear, you have to witness Boo's pain, also! Sometimes life is very cruel. My prayers are going up the Big Guy to heal both of your hearts!:love:

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Originally Posted by katladyd

As if your pain is not enough to bear, you have to witness Boo's pain, also! Sometimes life is very cruel. My prayers are going up the Big Guy to heal both of your hearts!:love:

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Thank you. :) I'll get over it b/c I have reasoning. Boo Bear, on the other hand, worries me. He's on my lap right now and he's purring so I guess he's doing ok right now. :)

Just keep talking to him and loving him. Maybe hold him while you cry and let him see your tears and hear your pain too. This is just so heartybreaking and sad...

Mary-

I'm so sorry to hear about Boo Bear wailing now. I remember when Anika passed and I took her out of the house but no one seemed too upset. Maybe because I have too many? Not sure why, some seemed semi-sad but nothing else. My prays that Boo Bear heals soon and comes to you for some comfort.

Melissa

Oh, Mary, I am so very sorry for all of you in your grief. I lit candles for Boo and you both:
http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/...g&cid=10002940
and
http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/...g&cid=10002969

Love, {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} and ~~~~~PURRS~~~~~,
Pat, Sydney, Poppy, Elmer, Bob, and Sparkler

Boo Bear and meowmie, how are you today? I lit another candle for you.

Scritchies and lovies,
Elyse

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Originally Posted by cassiesmom

Boo Bear and meowmie, how are you today? I lit another candle for you.

Scritchies and lovies,
Elyse

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Boo bear did something strange last night. He and Coco Puff slept w/me and in the middle of the night I heard Coco cry but it was so weak that I didn't get up to check b/c it sounded like a meow when he's dreaming. Then I heard him hiss and cry and this boy isn't a hisser so that time I got up to see what was going on. Boo had mounted Coco and had his neck in his teeth just like he used to do w/Pidgie! I said "Boo Bear! I can't believe you!" and I had to pull him off Coco who was stunned. I picked him up and held him for a few minutes and he kind of whimpered. Boo just calmly walked into the guest room where the food, fountain and litterbox are, ate a little, then hopped back up into bed. He had done that to Pidge just a couple of days before she died. Then this morning, as soon as I got up, Specs attacked Boo Bear! Yet Specs was in the basement when all that transpired between Boo and Coco. Honestly, this place is a nut house right now! Thank you for the candle, Elyse. We definitely need it. :confused:

I hope your furkids get this sorted out. I feel for both Coco and Boo.:(

I sure hope that things settle back down to some reasonable normalcy very soon. All of this must be maddening. :(

Have things settled down yet Mary???

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Originally Posted by slick

Have things settled down yet Mary???

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Kinda sorta. Boo and Coco both want to sleep w/me; all the Fur Posse do but I can't have 5 cats in bed w/me. It's all I can do to get any shut eye as it is. I caught Boo ready to bite Coco on the back of the neck again and I put a stop to it. Boo has always been a needy cat but he's uber needy now so I just give him as much lovin' as he can stand. LOL He just seems so lost. I talk to him every day but I know myself that when people keep talking to me and I don't want to hear it, it's irritating and I think sometimes that I irritate him, so if I see his body go rigid, then I know he's heard enough. He just wants to be held so he's usually either on my lap or I toss him over my shoulder and I stand while I rock him back and forth. He loves that.