I've been hiding... Here's my story.

I'm glad you were saved from some very nasty possible scenarios involving this looser. You must think of this all it the proper frame of mind. YOU didn't ruin his life. He did that all on his own. YOU shouldn't be questioned for going out with a 27 year old...HE should be questioning why he needs to be with someone clearly out of appropriate age range. Even if he WAS 27, most 27 year old men don't date teenagers. Clearly he's looking for someone young that he can control. Onyl YOU can give him that control. It belongs to you!
I think you explained everything fine in your first post. Stay safe and don't let him take away the loving person you are.
Claudia

omg Ilovemyabbygirl i feel so bad for you!!
you should not be ashamed of yourself
that man lied to you and its not your fault.
i hope you feel better and if you need someone to
listen to you, im all ears :)

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Originally Posted by buttercup132

I'm not.
I didn't know she had known him for a year and when you see a teenager (I don't know her exact age) dating a 27yr old it's a bit shocking.

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You were brusque in your statements. But maybe that's how you phrase your words since they do come out like this many times. Trying to see a positive there, instead of saying it was purposefully mean. Maybe you just need to try to phrase things a little more delicately, diplomatically, or with some tact?

As for the other comment about a teen dating an older person....
A teen dating a 27 year old is not any more shocking in this day and age, especially now in the cities where you see teen girls dressed up like they're 25, clothes and makeup and all that (and who buys it for them???). Many times the guys have no clue the girls are so young. No one tells their real ages any longer. Younger girls say they're older, older guys say they're younger cause they like the sweet young things at Junior and Senior High. It's all a game. Look at all the shows on TV now. I mean, look at Gossip Girl, or back to Buffy or the 90210 days. Those girls were NOT actiing like teenagers. The roles that girls see set for them these days on TV and movies have them believing that at 14 years old they are adult and can take care of themselves and make all their own decision.

I'm glad that this girl was able to see that the guy was a bag of pond scum, and a manipulator and got the heck away from him. Those types prey on girls like that, girls who don't think enough of them selves.

You've got to value yourself, otherwise, others will think nothing of devaluing you in any way they can. Be strong and believe in yourself. You have to.

Thanks everyone. I think, in a way, this has opened my eyes a little. I'm seeing how bad my trust issues are/were. Since this has all happened, I've been hanging out at the Union in my school (where everyone hangs out, tv, pool table, tons of great food!), talking to people, making new friends and just trying to get myself out there. I'm usually a very quiet person, but I'm learning to open up.

It can only get betterrrr...