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Originally Posted by king2005
Ok, that's good, and it's nice that your not alone and to know that people are working to help you :) . With other people on the case it sould be a little bit easier to find solutions.
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Originally Posted by king2005
Ok, that's good, and it's nice that your not alone and to know that people are working to help you :) . With other people on the case it sould be a little bit easier to find solutions.
My dad asked me to call him so we could talk, as he wants to know everything & I cannot lie (I've lied to him before to protect him from my poor quality of life. I didn't want him to worry about me, he already has my sister to help care for).Quote:
Originally Posted by sweetpatata6
Hes going to pay for my first & last months of my new place.. But there are hefty strings attached :( I cannot fight to get Bear, I cannot obtain anymore pets, have to live alone (no roomates), I have until Aug 1st to find a place or I have to get rid of Mango & LIlly (he knows the legal issues with Axle & I'm stuck with him for life)...
I have to obey, because in reality I cannot survive anyother way.
I was suprised when dad didn't get upset with me when I told him I filed bankruptcy. He said he knew it was coming the day I was out on my own. He said it was only a matter of time until I couldn't handle it anymore & was forced into bankruptcy by him... He was happy that I spent 2 months working on filing & not just rushing into it & then getting more screwed.
Telling dad was a huge weight off my chest. But loosing Bear is like the end of the world :( It hurts bad, real bad... real real bad :( I'm not even allowed to fight for her...
Dad said I have to walk away as I have to be #1 at some point in my life, cause look where I am now. I put everything & everyone before me & here I am hungry & homeless. He said once I'm established & can care for myself 100% & not have to worry about my next meal, or where I'm going to sleep tomorrow.. then & only then can I get back into rescuing animals in need...
He knows how this is killing me, as hes watched me raise sick & hurt animals all my life & I have always fought tooth & nail for them. He rarely ever got in the middle of me & an animal because he knew I was always right... He knows I'm right in fighting for Bear, but hes worried I'll loose everything which is already happening.
Sadly yes Bear is stuck with Chad, it makes no sence why he wants her so bad, he hates her... I do know that he seems to like her when guests are over & he says, hey look I rescued a dog! *I want to rip that smirk off his face everytime I hear it*.. then the second they leave, he goes back to ignoring her :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Kfamr
I don't even know where she is :(
& I cannot get her, as I don't even have a home of my own. I cannot take any time off of work, or I'll get fired, as I'm on super thin glass (I missed a lot of time with the bankruptcy & other stress issues).
I really am homeless.. The only difference between me & someone who sleeps on the streets, is that I have a job.
The place with my friend in Toronto fell through.. I can stay a couple days, but thats it.. :(
I know I didn't mention this as it was kinda embarassing, but Chad told the police I did a B&E to his place! They called me at 2:30 am & asked where I was & if I'd meet with them.. of course I said YES & obeyed with NO delay... at 3:30am they were infront of the building I was at & called & woke me up again... I spoke to them until 4am... They are on my side cause I didn't do a B&E into my OWN home... I can do without last night happening... thats mostly why dad wants me to leave Bear. If Chad will make up a BS story like that, then it could get worse... Who knows what he'll do... 2 of my LARGE male friends are coming to my old place to get my things, as they don't trust Chad, & neither do I
Big prayers for you. And for Bear.
Would Andrew look out for Bear?
I realize it is killing you...but I see where your dad is coming from. You gotta be first, just for a while. Focus on you, and you do have good friends to help you.
In a way, I admire your dad - he could see this coming, and it must have hurt and been SO hard for him to not 'warn' you, but I guess he realized you would have to learn for yourself.
Of course, love your animals. But love yourself first - with all the determination you have shown, and strength, you will work wonders getting your stuff together.
HUGS! :)
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Originally Posted by Catty1
Andrew is a useless tit :mad: I tried to explain to him what they are doing will effect their bankruptcy.. He said well Chad said otherwise... Thats great, but the Agency prob. knows more then Chad don't ya think?? SO Andrew is putting himself into thousands of $$ in debt & there is no hope for him to claim that.. as you cannot create debt like that KNOWINGLY going into a bankruptcy... they did this after they had a few meeting with the bankruptcy agency... *smacks forehead*
Dad wanted me to see what the real world is all about while I'm young & hes still around.. he said its better learning this lesson NOW, then later in life like he did after him & mom divorced. its almost going on 13years now & hes STILL paying for the debt. He'll be 59 in Oct, & said its no life to live to only pay debt... So learning this lesson now, with him around is a healthy lesson... Dad had help from his younger brother when the divorce first happend... Dad no longer does anything with his credit cards & doesn't buy useless junk anymore.. unless its from his savings account.
Dad has always ALWAYS let me get myself into trouble, but was always nearby making sure it didn't get out of control. He would help just enough to get me onto my feet & thats it... Now I'm getting a bigger hand, as well its going to take a lot to get me off my feet.
I am who I am, cause of my dad. Thats why I have so much respect for him. He wants nothing but the best for his kids & refuses to spoil them.. he teaches them with love & wisdom & reality.. nothing is sugar coated, but hes not mean either.
What a great dad - kind of like mine!
Your getting things together for yourself would be wonderful for you - and a great Father's Day tribute for him. :)
You can't worry about Andrew...is he a twit, or just blind? He will find out one day. Prayers for that fellow... :(
I bought my dad a 10.00 Wendy's gift card. I'm going to mail it to him with a copy of my bankruptcy papers (he asked for a copy).Quote:
Originally Posted by Catty1
So it'll be 2 good things that hes receiving int he mail at once :)
I know I know, I shouldn't have bought the gift card, but I bought it a few days ago, before WW3 broke out.
Hey - this is for your DAD! :D Totally allowed!Quote:
I shouldn't have bought the gift card
could you tell the place you got Bear from how she is treated?
Just a thought
good luck....
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Originally Posted by Catty1
Agreed-- Hey, sorry if some of my comments earlier sounded rude, after I was reading over the thread I realized that they didn't come out how they ment to come out and I was like :eek: about how I sounded, sorry.
And I'm sooo glad to hear the police are on your side about the B&E... I can't believe chad would do that!!!
Your dad sounds like he has a good head on him and is trying to do his best for you to try and get your life back straight...
Praying for you and Bear and for you to get your life restored. :)
I was thinking of writting them an email, once I'm 100% moved out... But the problem is, if Chad goes ape, he can easily find me as he knows my car & can follow me home... I'm scared what he'll do to my car... no car=no workQuote:
Originally Posted by shais_mom
And the police can be called on Chad IF he does that! An arrest might be the only chance of him getting the help he needs. You could always talk to the cops again - and tell them you are contacting the original owner of Bear. That you are worried...
Do you think he would really do that?
But would you be living that close to him that he would find your car?
Can you trade cars with someone for a while?
Ok, i am seriousely confused here. :confused: You own the house, but chad is throwing you out of it, even though you own it? :confused:
They're rentingQuote:
Originally Posted by Reggie
Is chad the landlord, too? Because, if he's not, then he has no right to throw her out of her house.