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true and if the person agrees what more needs to be said? they don't need to repeat the whole thing over again just cause you don't like that they only typed "I agree". there is nothing wrong with that imo. but hey to each his own.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cataholic
It is interesting to read how others see responses. I'm not talking about the silly and annoying stuff, which has happened in other forums I've belonged to and at the same time of year (I must admit I'm glad it's happening more often in the dog forums and less often in cat). I read far, far more often than respond in part because I keep the forum open as a tab on Firefox while I'm at work. I can read threads while I'm on the phone or waiting for an appointment, but I take my time when posting so usually wait until I'm home. However, I'm now socializing feral foster kittens, and find it hard to type then also. I didn't realize that there were posters who felt hurt or frustrated by seeing the number of views and receiving very few responses. I'd rather wait for people who really can help me with the question I posted than receive something I can't use, and if there are a lot of views then I assume I've started an interesting thread - I didn't realize I had a big head. :) Having said that, though, there are the times when you need to post in Cat Memorial, and then it's very supportive to have even the briefest response from lots of people.
The two things that frustrate me are the number of times I see an interesting thread buried by dozens of "picture only" threads, and the fact that Cat Health is rarely visited. I, and others, will post a thread in Cats General in order to move people's attention over to the Health forum when we see a question there that is being ignored. It's usually from a new poster who is trying to do the right thing and doesn't realize they've landed in Siberia.
So, yes, I agree (ooops!), let's encourage more in-depth responses.
Saying "I agree" is fine if you are someone who does it sometimes, or you really have input on a situation, but many many times I see, epseiclaly lately, that people don't even bother to read a thread bofore posting, one person in particular, but it happens often anyway. You can tell by the answers they didn't read it. I also notice one particular person in general posting every couple of minutes nearly every day, if you go look at the post history. It makes the board a mess for everyone else, and most of the time, or at least a LOT of the time, the posts actually say nothing. I work two jobs, I don't reply to every post. I enjoy people's pictures but I don't comment on every one. I try especially to comment on those who are having a hard time or with an ill or passed on pet, I feel it's important to let them know you care, but I don't have time to reply to every post so sometimes I don't reply to many at all because then there seems to cause a problem with people who don't feel like they are getting enough responses and get upset and angry. I personally cannot respond to every post, I know many who can't, so sometimes it causes me not to reply much at all. I do wish people would post thoughtful posts, not just one liners of aww cute, or yeah!, etc. Sometimes it's okay, but not every response just to up the post count.
Finns Mom brought up a very good point of people being hurt when nbody responds. Lately, for many reasons which don't pertain to this thread, I've been reading and not posting. I often forget who I wanted to go back and comment on -- often I forget I wanted to comment, or I thought I already commented when I didn't. I know it hurts when a lot of people looked but nobody posted. Can't win can you? ;)
As for the I agree thing - my point was that one "I agree" is normal and even expected (sorry if it sounded like I said all "I agrees" are bad - bad me for not making that clearer). Johanna, I personally love your "ditto" :D but when you see time after time the same response quoted with the same "I agree" after a handful of people already agreed, its get a little overwhelming to scroll past all the people agreeing with the first person. Its understood after a while that everyone agrees with the first person! Also, it seems after a while some people agree just to feel like they fit in with the crowd. A form of online peer pressure? Instead of wearing all the clothes like the in-crowd, they're adopting the popular opinion! LOL
PS: I know I'm guilty of bad spelling --- its less spelling and me being an awful typer. :o Sorry, I do try to edit my posts to cut down on the typos.
I don't want to hurt anyones feelings by not posting that there pets are cute and there colors are beautiful.Some people never get any post on there's and i feel bad so i post something.I fell a little rude sometimes because i can't post on everone's pics
I am sorry if I upset people with my "I agree" post. But it is hard going through like 5 post in a row that say I agree with this person.
Also like Vela posted it bugs me that people don't really read the post. I know there are a lot of people on here that are trying to score the their lovely pillarship thread. But I love reading long post about what you think and you earn my respect. OK there is my little vent. :) I love PT and there is just so many threads I can't keep up with. I just found out about Gina's horror story and I think I found out about it this late because all of the threads. Sorry to bring Gina into this.
I'll tell ya another thing that bothers me is that I rarely start many threads anymore especially in dog general b/c within an hour its on page 2 and I myself don't have time to go back page after page after page to look to see if I missed anything. (and I don't even have a busy life - let alone someone who has children and pets and a job). And why is my thread drowned out? b/c of the Fido walked, Fido peed, and Fido pooped threads. I know other's have said that their feelings are hurt when threads that they reply to the person doesn't reply to theirs, it isn't always b/c I don't like the person or don't care - its b/c I didn't ever see their thread!
quite honestly I don't mind whatsoever the "I agree" or the "well said" b/c that usually means that at least they READ the thread! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Flatcoatluver
It seems to me (this is just my opinion) that unless you posted a picture or a video on your thread you won't get any replies or very few. And yes it is nice to see pictures especially since this is the internet and we know nothing about each other but what about the people who can't post pictures or aren't allowed? That seems a bit rude to me. And also new people post about weird things cause they don't know how you will react or what to post about really. There are a lot of pointless threads but don't blame the new people just because they are new. A lot of the people who have been here longer seem stuck up and rude to some of the new people. I am not referring to all of you and I don't mean to make anyone mad but it is true. I understand that you have been lied to and screwed and swindled by newbies but not all of them are like that. I admit that maybe I do post to much but still. No need to be rude. I am not saying that any of you were. This is actually a very nice way of bringing the matter to attention. There are bigger things in life than Pet Talk. Pet Talk is big too but people come on to enjoy it after a hard day it is nice to sit down and read the comments and see the pictures and play the guessing games. Not to get told you are immature you don't belong here and get lost! That is mainly what bothers me. Why must a person be so rude on Pet Talk? :confused: Sorry to go on but just saying.
I guess what we are all just trying to get across is, will you please just watch how much you post and how often?Quote:
Originally Posted by shihtzulover850
I think it's a good thing that you're brave enough to post this, and, to admit to being a frequent poster, which is what this thread is about. I've noticed rudeness towards new people, and, even though there may have been tons of new people before who have been trolls or liars, it doesn't give anyone the right to be nasty. And, honestly, I don't think you'll make anyone mad, you're just stating your opinion. And, you're stating it in a mature way, which is more than can be said for a lot of people. Someone said this to me earlier, "you can't make everyone happy." And, it's true. There are people who think it's ridiculous to post more than ten pictures in a thread, there are some people who think it's annoying to post two picture threads in one day, but, there are plenty of people who think the more, the merrier. It can't ever be exactly what everyone deems appropriate, because everyone's tolerance for things is vastly different. You'll get the hang of Pet Talk, you're still very new to it. If you stick around, you'll either find your place here and enjoy it or you will find somewhere else that you feel at home.Quote:
Originally Posted by shihtzulover850
I understand that it is impossible to please everyone. I post because I enjoy it not to rack up posts. People jump to conclusions and don't get there facts straight. That is rude. I completely understand that it is hard to trust the new people but sometimes people take that to extreme lengths. You are going to scare a lot of people off that way. I have been accused of being rude and immature and frankly I don't appreciate that. Pet Talk is a community of people who enjoy talking about pets. Why can't we leave it at that?
A lot of times what is going on is that this is a relatively small, close knit community, at least as far as internet standards go. Some of these people are really close friends, on and off the computer. And, it's become a family for a lot of people here. Which is good. But, it can lead to a bit of animosity when other people try to join in. It's human nature to want to keep something to yourselves. Like your favorite local band, kinda. You want them to be bigger and make more money and be more famous, but, at the same time, you don't want to share with new fans. You were there first, you have known them longer, etc. But, this is a public forum, and, as long as it is a public forum, new people will find it and join. That's the appeal of a community like this. It's kindof a double-edged sword. Not everyone gets a great, warm welcome. I've seen people get scared off, definitely. And, a lot of times, it's better for the forum when that happens. Just like with anything else, not everyone is going to like it or feel at home or enjoy the way things are run. But, if you really like it here, and, you want to stick around, by all means...please do. Just like with anything else in life, though, you might have to go through some bumps in order to find your niche. I'll admit, some of the ways that people criticize is a little rough, but, for the most part, this thread has been very constructive. I hope you (being that you admitted that you frequently post...as i said earlier, i don't notice stuff like that, i am not that observant!) and anyone else who does any of the stuff that bothers multiple other users, can maybe take this constructive criticism and go with it. Anyway, I'm talking too dang much. Sorry. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by shihtzulover850
Sure, I apologize! :o Thank you for putting it kindly and not just turning around and saying shut up or something. Little things like that make pt a much more enjoyable place.Quote:
Originally Posted by CagneyDog
You added this while I was typing my other response. You're sounding a little testy, now, don't forget...this is all supposed to be for the good of the forum. No one is saying you can't post. And, I understand your confusion...if I got told that I posted pointless threads, even though they all meant something to me, I wouldn't have a clue which thread people thought was pointless, and, I'd probably just stop posting altogether. And, it may be pointless to one person, and, not to another...I do think it's kindof presumptive to say that someone is just trying to rack up posts, but, to a lot of people, that's all that it looks like because the posts seem completely unneccessary to them. But, then...that brings you back to square one...which ones are pointless? Yikes! ;) Just try to keep your chin up and not let it get you too down, like I said, you're new...you'll figure it out. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by shihtzulover850