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Wow! That is a huge surprise. I had noticed that you hadn't been around but I thought maybe you were busy with school. I think its a wonderful surprise, Poppy! You sound very excited and happy. I wish you and your fiance a happy engagement and a wonderful future together. CONGRATS!
Congratulations :)
Congratulations to you both. :) This is such an exciting time for you. :)
Are you going to continue your education after you're married? I do hope
you get to live in California, since you like it so much.
Congratulations, PCB!:D What joyful, blessed news:) You certianly sound like you're on cloud 9! I'm so happy for you!
Love, Sandra
omg a big congrats to you!!! Maybe we might have another pet talker in the future????
What lovely news. I wish you much happiness.
Congrats! How exciting. :) I'm very happy for you!
Does he have a name?
How wonderful! Very best wishes to you both. You told me your brother was thinking about getting married. You too? Are you going to have a double ceremony???? ;) ;) :D ;)
i am so happy for you!!!
How about "the Muffin man"? or "Muffy"Quote:
Originally Posted by Samantha Puppy
Then we'll have Popcorn & Muffin the birds AND Popcorn & Muffin the people. ;)
Congratulations! I wish you both every happiness. :)
CONGRATULATIONS TO BOTH OF YOU!! I hope you have a life of great happiness!! :D
Wow such great news!! Congrats!! :D
Congratulations! I am so happy for you and a man that likes cats...thats all we need to know...he must be nice :D
OMG! This is definitely surprising news! People are getting hitched so young these days! :p *chuckles*
What an exciting time for you. Sounds like you found a gem...a man who admits to liking cats and birds...you can't go wrong! ;)
Yes, it's about time we see the happy couple! :p
**hugs**
Karen
Congrats Poppy so glad to see a good reason to leave us so much. Glad to hear your being sensible and waiting until he is through with his education so he can provide for you better. Big HUg to you.
Congratulations Popcornbird :) A pity you won't send us wedding pictures as I am sure this will be one of the most colourful weddings ever :)
He sounds really nice- maybe you should look for a rather floorbound kitty like Persians ;) not for a flying kitty like an Aby ;)
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT!!!!!!! ;)
GREAT NEWS!!!! :D
Thank you so much everyone! I am beyond happy, as you can probably all tell. :D
Just thought I would tell you all a bit more about my marriage situation. As I am a Muslim, for religious reasons, we do not 'date', or get involved with any non-relative of the opposite gender outside the frame of marriage. My process of marriage, the proposal, etc...some of the things you all may have wondered about would thus be somewhat different to the way most Westerners do things. When we meet/get to know someone for the purpose of marriage, it is always in front of a third person. That does not mean the third person is listening to what we're saying...more of, we talk but someone is around...in the room/area. We cannot be ALONE together before we are 'married'. For this reason, normally, most Muslims 'marry' legally almost immediately after getting to know the person, and feeling content about things, but many don't start life together until they are ready for the responsibility that comes with it. Once we are married legally, we 'can' spend time together, but we won't start life together. It is KIND OF like dating a spouse, as some people call it. He he he.
Now...as I said earlier, we're having our 'wedding' in summer 2006 (hopefully), BUT...my fiancee is coming here from Massachusetts this Friday. We are going to have a little marriage ceremony at the mosque with just a few of our closest friends this Sunday, and will also get married legally at the court. We will NOT be starting life together until he finishes his education...he will return to Massachusetts after staying 8 days with us, and we'll have our wedding party later on...before we start life together. This means, we will legally be married this Sunday :eek::D, but will not be together until later on, and will thus have the wedding party before we start life together. Does that make sense? I am still living at home with my parents until the wedding in the summer, and he will still be studying in MA, so our lives won't be changing till then. I do intend to continue my education after marriage. My fiancee is actually encouraging me to do so...which is a good thing. I am currently studying online (doing Graphic Design), so even IF I have to move out of the state, continuing my education won't be an issue.
I wasn't going to tell PT about us legally getting married this soon as I didn't want to confuse you, but because Sunday is going to be SUCH a special day in my life, I thought I would explain a bit of the situation. It is just the way we do things...legally marry ahead of time so that we can grow closer and more comfortable with each other before the 'real thing' (as in having to live together/start life together)...which would not be allowed for us before 'marriage'. That just makes things easier for us. My parents actually got married legally two years before they had the 'wedding,' and started life together. Some people start life together immediately after the civil marriage, but in my case, because he's still studying, it would be best for both of us if we wait. We feel we should both be ready for responsibility (job/possibility of kids/etc.) before we start life together, so we need some time for that. Hope this all makes some sense and gives you a bit of a 'clearer' idea of how things are going to work for us. Basically...legally married Sunday, but living away from each other until the wedding in 7-9 months or so. Its good for us...we get two parties. ;) A small one now, and the big one later. He he he. I can hardly believe I am getting married...I never thought things would happen this fast, but it seems God had His plans. He did answer my prayers for a companion in life pretty fast. :D I guess that is enough of an explanation for PT. If any of you have any questions regarding this, feel free to ask me in a PM. I know it is very different for all of you.
Funny you mentioned this. My dad said the exact same thing!!! It really depends on how things work out with my brother, but in case he's ready by then, we could possibly have a 'double wedding'. That would be kinda cool...I think. We'll see. Thanks again everyone for your well wishes and kind posts. Ahhh...I am SOOO excited...:DQuote:
Originally Posted by Edwina's Secretary
Wow, that is different! But, interesting! Thank you very much for the detailed description...I'm so happy for you, and, I hope all works out well for the both of you and your families...
Can you imagine that in my parents' generation it was similar: my parents could not rent an apartment together before they were married but they felt they could not start a marriage before having a common place. So they married in 1952 legally and still lived with their parents, looked for their own apartment and then married in church :)
Pops, that is very different and very interesting way of marrying, and in my opinion a fine one. :) May much love and happiness be with you both on Sunday as you take those first steps on the path of life together.
{{hugs}}
Chris
I will be thinking about you Sunday and wishing you all the happiness in the world :)
Poppy, I think that is a wonderful way to start a marriage! I am really very happy for you. He sounds like a wonderful man, and you were both very lucky to find each other. I wish you the very best in your life and the future of your marriage.
Willie :)
He's in Massachusetts? Where's he studying? Bet it's close by us! (We are in Education Central here!) How exciting that he loves your tiels, and is an animal person, too! Sounds good to us, and you sound excited and in love!
Okay, if, in the intervening time between the marriage and the wedding, (or any other time) you end up visiting him in Massachusetts, and have a moment to spare, we'd love to meet you - one or both!
I am HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY for you!!!!! :) :) :)
Can't wait to catch up on the details soon!!!! :D
Wow, that is so interesting! I can't believe that you're actually going to be legally married so soon, but still be apart and getting to know each other! :eek: LOL I really think it's a great way to start a relationship/marriage, though. It's no wonder that muslim marriages like yours must last a lifetime. Too bad more americans aren't that way. LOL :o
So, when will we finally be able to see a picture of the happy couple?! :p
**hugs**
Congrats! I guess after Sunday we'll have to start calling you Mrs. Pops :D When you have the big ceremony I hope we get to see some pictures. You have to at least show a few pictures of the decorations and such, I know you don't post pictures of yourself but I'm sure we'd even settle for a picture of you and your hubby with some blurred out faces! I bet the wedding is going to be beautiful.
Congrats!
CONGRATULATIONS GIRL!
Wishing you lots of happiness! May God bless your union. :)
Congratulations and may God bless you both and your marriage for many years to come!
Kim :)
Congrats to you both.
What a nice surprise! Congrats!!!
I'm sooo sooo happy for you, Poppy! :D http://www.smileys.ws/smls/grinning/00000009.gif Your fiance is a very lucky guy. :)
I will be thinking of you Sunday! :)
Wow!!! Another shocker since I've been away from PT! :eek: ;) :D
Congratulations, Pops! I'm so excited for you!
Thanks for explaining how all the details. I was wondering how it all worked with Muslims since I had heard that most Muslim marriages are "arranged" and a lot of times the husband and wife don't even know each other before they meet during the ceremony. However, those are probably starting to be dated customs (meaning they're not followed much anymore) so it was interesting to read how things work now with the legal ceremony and then the actual wedding where you start your life together. Learning about others' customs is always interesting to me.
And he's a cat lover to boot! Way to go Pops! :D Can't wait to hear more details about the wedding, and of course pictures would be way too awesome, but I won't hold my breath.... ;)
That is actually a big misconception people have, as it isn't true at all. ;) Its actually against the laws of Islam for a man and woman to be forced into marriage, or not be allowed to see/get to know each other before marriage. If a girl is forced to marry someone she doesn't wish to marry, the marriage contract is considered invalid. Both the guy and the girl have to want it. There are people who arrange marriages and force it on their kids, but that's not from Islam...its more a cultural thing, and done by people who are ignorant about their faith's teachings. It works more like...the parents help their kids find someone, or someone in the family/circle of friends refers someone to someone else. Then, the girl/guy get to know each other in an appropriate setting (in front of a third person...not alone), and if both wish to get married, they get married. If not, either man or woman is free to reject the 'marriage candidate'. I don't know why people think Muslims have their daughters marry anyone THEY want, without her consent, because that isn't true. That is a cultural thing that is done by SOME people in Asia, Africa, the Middle East, etc. despite their religion. It truly depends on the family, but when going by religious rules, the guy and girl have to get to know each other/make the decision for themselves, though the family helps/supports/plays a role in having a part in their kids' marriages. We have parental guidance, love, and support throughout the process. I personally 'like' having their guidance/advice in this, as they have more of a life experience than me, and thus, have more wisdom on what is better for me. He and I totally got to know each other well enough/made the decision without pressure from anyone else. ;) I can't imagine marrying someone I didn't know or have feelings for...:eek: That's freaky. LOL! It doesn't work that way, unless the marriage is being done by people with WEIRD cultural traditions that are not derived from religion. There's no room for forced marriages in Islam. Its not allowed.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tubby & Peanut's Mom
BTW...the marrying legally before living together is not a necessity. We'd be 'married' once we have the contract and can be together. Its just that some people feel more comfortable doing it this way, and in our case, its best that he finishes studying/has a job before we're together and ready to handle all the responsibilities that come with married life. It works both ways.
Oh. My. Gosh. This is such a HUGE shocker! I am so blown away by this! Words can't describe how SHOCKED I am. My gosh, I am SO happy for you! Congratulations!
Popcornbird, I'm glad that you explained this more thoroughly because I also thought that most marriages were arranged. I think that the way you're doing it is a wonderful way to meet the right person and you also have your family helping you at the same time. :) I hope that you have a wonderful wedding this Sunday and that you and your fiance will have a great life together. :) Congrats!!! :D
This is exciting news. Very exciting! To think, in less than 5 days you will be a married woman- :eek:
It is kind of funny to me that anyone would ever believe Pops could be forced to marry, or even have a marriage 'arranged'. Knowing her how I do for these last 3 years- No one could make this Pops do anything! I know, I have tried...he he he.
Congrats, and blessings for eternity.
:D :D He he he. That is true. I think everyone on PT should be aware of that. They have yet to get my name out of me. :D :D He he heQuote:
Originally Posted by Cataholic