I hate my MIL!!!!

Jaime - 1
MIL - 0

Well, we met last night. She still resisted the idea of a coed party, saying that "your friends just aren't going to understand that it isn't a baby shower". I'm mean, so I let her present her whole basis for that argument before telling her that I'd spoken with Erika, she had been under the assumption it was a traditional baby shower, so that I contacted each of my friends to let them know that it was actually just a regular party. That shut her up and she asked for the addresses of the guest list.

She wants to label it as an "open house" so people don't feel the necessity to be at the party at a certain time - they can drop by whenever. I think that's a little dumb, to label it on the invites as an open house, but whatever. It's a minor detail.

So there we go. The party's back on, albeit a week later than originally planned, but still - it's happening. I am relieved!!

Glad your having what you want Jamie. ;)

I hate being the center of attention. But I adore my MIL.
Sometimes I don't want the traditional things, and they are forced upon me.
Such as, we didn't want a cake at our wedding, and surprise! At the reception (very low key in a B&B) there was a cake! I was told: 'you gotta have cake!' No, if I wanted cake, I would have arranged to have it...

I have been forced to participate in other peoples events, like watching them birth babies, even though I would have just rather receive a phone call about it. As if, I am missing out by not having kids myself....

I would grin and bear your situation, because a party is just one day but the relationship with your relatives is ongoing.
Some people just don't understand the introverted nature of people who don't like parties or attention, they think; Who wouldn't like a party?!?

Your problem lies in a personality clash, I believe between introvertism and extravertism. It is usually the extravert that infringes on the introverts sensibilities, and not the other way round. This leaves the introvert, feeling
uncomfortable.

Whew! Glad it was worked out!

To be honest, hubby has never gone to any co-ed shower with me. Even the ones listed as open house (yes, a few were) ;)

I know you'll have a great time now! Kudos Jaime!

No matter how I try to word this, it comes out wrong. I will just say this, "remember, this is your husband's mother, and more your child's grandmother". Unless there is some safety issue, there isn't any reason why two mature adults can't get along.

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Originally Posted by Cataholic

No matter how I try to word this, it comes out wrong. I will just say this, "remember, this is your husband's mother, and more your child's grandmother". Unless there is some safety issue, there isn't any reason why two mature adults can't get along.

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I know that, and we usually do get along. I do not, however, appreciate being lied to and my friends manipulated so that she can have her way. I have given in to her plenty - thinking exactly what you said above - but I'm sorry, this time in my life is about ME and JOSH and our new family unit. I had to stand up for myself in this case.

i also have this kind of issue we do get along, but somethimes she gets to my nerves, because she wants to be in charge of everything and say when, what, and how to do things, and her opinion is the only one that´s right and counts. i really get pissed when this happens because as Samantha said it is now about ME my HUSBAND and OUR family, i do value their opinions but it´s our bussiness and no one elses. so we should do what is best for USnot for THEM.