does anyone know why??

I shouldn't have publicly posted my suspicions, but honestly I was frustrated and I didn't do my normal "give it time and then reply" self-policy. I posted my opinion on the Country situation way back when she brought it up, that people were questioning it, and she decided to delete that post. All that did was make me feel more wary. I don't know of all the events she posted about which are true and which aren't. I want to believe things people post and to trust them. To be honest I felt hurt, confused, frustrated, but too afraid of hurting anyone to say anything for months. I really don't feel she was truthful in all her threads, especially about Chiquita and Country, and she always chose to ignore questions about those things rather than provide an explanation.

My intention was never to be cruel or to hurt her. She sent me a PM when I was gone for awhile, asking if I was okay, and I was touched by that. I feel she is a kind person but has some problems, I just am not sure of what nature. Honestly I was very saddened to see her banned. If she asked to be banned, perhaps she just felt she couldn't explain to everyone's satisfaction. I don't want to bash her and I only feel sad to see her bashed. So I guess I am just stuck in a mixture of frustration, confusion, sadness and even worry for her over all of this. I was aggravated when I posted, and I should have just written her with my questions, but I was afraid she'd not be truthful with me or that I'd just not be able to trust her answers.

It's a shame, with all that's going on in the world, people losing their jobs, hurricanes, etc. that we have to waste our time and energy on something like this. :(

If she did it for attention, she got it.

:( How sad....

Facts:

1. Paula has been banned from Pet Talk.

2. Before she was officially banned, she typed the word "banned" as her Custom user text.

3. Paula asked me to ban her.

4. Publicly speculating about whether anyone or anything is real is never wise nor kind. If in the future you wonder about the veracity of any posts, PM me with your concerns, please.

5. Someone was lying to me, personally, over the last few days. I will never know whether is was Paula herself, or some relative or friend or intruder who had access to her account, her mother's account, her home computer, and passwords.

6. Between the time "Paula" had typed "banned" as her custom user text, and when I actually instituted the ban, someone was using her account to do unwise things.

7. People can be banned from Pet Talk. We - this being Paul and I - do not like to do so, but we also do not take kindly our community's trust being violated.

If you would like to discuss this further, please do so in Private messages or emails with me, or with Paul.

*bump* in case anyone didn't see this and was wondering.