Oh dear, you and your mom will be in our prayers still. But I'm a patient who asked "Can I go home now?" every time I see the doctor - or any doctor - when I ws in the hospital, so I can't criticize.
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Oh dear, you and your mom will be in our prayers still. But I'm a patient who asked "Can I go home now?" every time I see the doctor - or any doctor - when I ws in the hospital, so I can't criticize.
Even though you don't know all the specifics I'm glad to hear that your mother was well enough to go home.
I hope you can find something out, and I hope you and your mom have a good day at the spa:)
Debbie, I was away for a couple of hours and just saw this thread today.
Please know that you have my prayers for your Mom. I can understand how concerned and frightened you must be.
But, if they have released her - that has to be a good thing..............if they found anything really serious, they would be talking to your Mom and Dad right now - and she wouldn't have been released.
Isn't it interesting that this weekend is your Spa weekend? It will give you some quality time with your Mom and hopefully she can relax and have a good time too.
Big hugs to you Deb.........and know you will have all of our prayers.
OH, HOW TRUE!! :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally posted by Edwina's Secretary
... don't count on the doctor telling anything.
... due to HIPPA he isn't suppose to tell ANYONE anything...
"privacy act", you know. ...
Been There, Done That - MANY TIMES!! :mad:
Deb ~
Best thing to do is have a serious Family Discussion -
with Mom, Dad, Brothers and Sisters ALL together.
TRY to get Mom and Dad to BOTH sign "Medical Power of Attorney" to
name ALL the members of the family to participate in medical decisions.
The "Medical PoA" helps if Mom or Dad are incapicated and
can't make decisions - it doesn't help much if the Doctor feels
Mom or Dad and alert and capable of making their OWN decisions.
With my Mom - we had an additional written directive -
signed by MOM - instructing the Doctor to make ALL her medical records
available to Sis and I...
THAT Directive entitled us (and Allowed the Doc) to discuss her
medical conditions with us. Came in VERY Handy when Mom
hadn't paid attention to everything Doc had told her and was
confused about what she should do.
Here's an informative site by the Illinois Dept of Aging >>>
Illinois Dept of Aging - "Advance Directives"
Note the "Senior HelpLine @ 1-800-252-8966" -
give em a call and ask them for suggestions.
GLAD Mom is back HOME AGAIN!!
Pass her a {{{HUG}}}! :)
/s/ Phred
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Debbie,
I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. Thoughts and prayers coming your way from Michigan!
(((((hugs))))))) to you!
Debbie,
I'm just now reading this post for the first time tonight.
I sure wish you knew something definite from your mom's doctor, how very frustrating indeed!:(
My prayers will be added along with the others for a safe, healthy spa weekend and a good prognosis for your mother!
Hugs,
Kim:)
Prayers are being sent your way. I hope everything works out for your mom. Get Well Soon Debbie's mom.
aawww
You're mom will be in my thoughts Debbie.
Thanks for the tip Phred, but our entire family has had all these papers filled out ever since her heart attack 11 years ago. However, we should probably update everything since things might be different now with all the HIPPA rules like Sara mentions. I know who has the right to make decisions for my mom and dad, but how can we make the decisions if the doctors can't tell us what's going on? :confused: :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally posted by Cinder & Smoke
TRY to get Mom and Dad to BOTH sign "Medical Power of Attorney" to name ALL the members of the family to participate in medical decisions.
And thanks for the link on the Advanced Directives. I have all the necessary paperwork filled out, but Terry doesn't and since this is all over the news lately, he's been pushing to get his filled out. I also need to fill out State of Illinois paperwork since my paperwork is from Wisconsin. In theory Illinois should honor my wishes made in Wisconsin, but by law they don't have to because each state has different laws for this type of thing. So I do need to update everything.
Thanks so much everyone. I talked to her again last night and she seemed fine and probably just ready to put the whole thing behind her. She is the type to draw attention away from herself - and she is very good at it! - so next thing you know we're discussing what Terry and I did last weekend and such and I'm like "Wait a minute, I'm not done with you and what the doctor said!"
So, like everyone seems to think, they wouldn't have let her go if it was anything serious, so we'll just hope and pray that it really isn't anything serious and she'll be ok.
Doesn't help when I hear an ad on the TV this morning about how once every minute a woman dies from a stroke or heart related illness. They were advertising Bayer - give me a break! :rolleyes:
Thanks for the uppydate.....but.....
Is she going to follow up with the doctor and find out what it really was and get the test results? :confused:
That's what's so frustrating about the whole thing, Slick - I don't know! :confused: I bet if left up to her she won't talk to the doc again unless she continues to have problems. That's just the way she is and she just hates doctors and hospitals so much. :( :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally posted by slick
Is she going to follow up with the doctor and find out what it really was and get the test results? :confused:
Hopefully my Aunt and I can coerce her into following up this weekend. We'll tell her she can't have her massage until she promises to follow up! ;)
>> "Note the "Senior HelpLine @ 1-800-252-8966" -Quote:
Originally posted by Tubby & Peanut's Mom
... I know who has the right to make decisions for my mom and dad,
but how can we make the decisions
if the doctors can't tell us what's going on? :confused:
give em a call and ask them for suggestions."
We DID have that problem with Mom's Doctors when they felt
she was able to make her OWN decisions...
The "fix" was an additional directive - signed by Mom, Sis, and I -
that INSTRUCTED the Doctors to make all Mom's "Medical Records"
available to us upon OUR request.
Armed with THAT Directive, I was able to "ask" the Doctors exactly
WHAT they had suggested to Mom;
and the Docs were comfortable that they could repeat to me what
would otherwise have been a "confidential" Doctor-Patient conversation.
I'd call that "Senior HelpLine" and ask them what the Illinois policy
is that would allow "family members" to be given access to
your Mom's medical records.
I'm pretty sure your MOM will have to agree and sign a permission slip.
/s/ Phred
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