Marriage name changes.
Year 0-1
Honey, sweetie and darling.
years 1-5
Honey and sweetie.
years 5-10
Hon.
years 10-?
You SOB, I told you to take out the &*#$! trash a half hour ago!
Are you gonna sit there and watch &*#$! sports all day long?
Marriage name changes.
Year 0-1
Honey, sweetie and darling.
years 1-5
Honey and sweetie.
years 5-10
Hon.
years 10-?
You SOB, I told you to take out the &*#$! trash a half hour ago!
Are you gonna sit there and watch &*#$! sports all day long?
I plan on taking my future husband's last name and am excited about it. Jessica put it well when she said it is a symbol of "two becoming one". My marriage will be special and I do look forward to that tradition. It doesn't mean I want to be away from my father at all though. I'll still feel just as close to my family as ever. I also don't feel I'll be my husband's property. I'm way too independent and stubborn to ever be anyone's property!
My mom kept her married name after the divorce. They were married for 17 years, so by that time, it's the name she knew. Also she had a horrible father and did not want to go back to his name. Does anyone know, can you take your maiden name as a second last middle name? That was something I was thinking about - it would never really be used, but it would still be there.
I was excited to take on hubby's name after we got married, and proud too. Even though, the first 3 letters of my maiden name are the same as the first 3 letters of his last name :) So it didn't change too much. I agree too, with what Jessica said. It makes me feel like we are "one" and we are a family that shares everything. JMO.
I feel the same way as Jessica. :)
Plus, I'm a Smith so.... *laughs* Of course I'm marrying a 'Miller' and my sister is marrying a 'Jones'. :D
Perhaps if I had a more unique name I'd be more apt to want to keep it... or maybe not if it was hard to pronounce and spell.
I took both of my husbands names, out of respect for them and our marriage. I kept the first husbands name after our divorce more out of spite than anything else but ditched it when I got married the second time.
LOL!!!! Sort of my train of thought, too! :oQuote:
Originally posted by Queen of Poop
I took both of my husbands names, out of respect for them and our marriage. I kept the first husbands name after our divorce more out of spite than anything else but ditched it when I got married the second time.
I took my first husbands last name when I married young, 4 years later I found my self divorced, so I changed my name back to my maiden name. 17 years later I remarried and although I took Tim's last name, I hyphenated with my maiden name.
Now to make this even more complicated, I was named after my father's mother. I was the first girl born after her 8 boys so I HAD to have her name (old school type thing). Nobody ever called me that name because everyone hated it (except my grandmother and I had an aunt with the same name). I was given the nickname "Bunny" and that has stuck ever since. Growing up I used my middle name, which is also my mother's first name (confused yet?!) So when I married Tim my legal name was XXXX Jeanette "Smith-Jones"......I started getting writers cramp! My parents then got divorced and my father wanted me on all his bank accounts etc, but since I basically had the same name as my mother, everyone was getting confused, and yes my mother took advantage of that situation ! (another long story)
Just this last year I legally had my name changed to Bunny and now have my maiden name as my middle name and Tim's last name. Let me tell you what a pain in the butt it has now become to change your name!!!! And to have it changed on all the legal and none legal papers!! I don't think I'm ever going to change my name again!!
I have a few friends that never changed their names when they got married and their children use both of their parents name as a last name ( Tommy Miller-Jones) It is no big deal any more to change your last name.
My husband and I have the same last name (his) because we're a team and as we like to say to each other "we have a contract of love" (we're really sappy by the way).
I didn't get married until I was 35. That might have something to do with it - it just wasn't important to me to keep my old name. Hyphenating was out of the question because I personally think its a waste of time and makes writing checks and signing documents that much more tedious.;) (and in my case, it sounded really, really dumb) I'm guessing that people who go the hyphenating route have never bought a home and had to sign the zillion documtents required at closinig.
Finally, my husband is the most important person in my life and I plan on keeping him for a very long time.:D :D Having the same last name for me is a sense of unity. I didn't "lose" anything by shedding my former name.
I took my husbands name the first time. My kids have his last name and I kept it once we divorced. So, my kids and I had the same last name for a long time...until I got married again. Now we have different last names (something I didn't think about at the time) but in time, that will change.
I think for most of my generation , it was just the done thing, no-one questioned it, and maybe only professional people kept their maiden name.
For me it simply is not an issue, I agree with Jessica, and feel as she does, I am proud to have my husbands last name, although originally I thought it rather strange to have a girls first name as my last, but I have become used to it now, but of course people still call me by my surname instead of Carole because of it.
PCB in Scotland it is quite common for a middle name to be a family surname, for instance my sister's middle name is Ferris, which is my grandmother's maiden name, luckily I escaped tradition and got Anne for my middle name, my mother's middle name is Clarke, again her mother's maiden name.
This is how it works in Mexico....as in many hispanic cultures.
Sara Smith marries Tom Jones
Children are:
Mary Jones Smith
Don Jones Smith
Mary marries Fred Anders Wilde
child is - Sue Anders Jones
Don marries Edna Port Wight
child is Ron Jones Port
Often only the initial of the second last name is used.
Some woman use the "de" or "of" As in Sara Smith de Jones.
A friend of mine said the only time she did this was at the hospital when she was givng birth....;) :D
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Originally posted by Edwina's Secretary
This is how it works in Mexico....as in many hispanic cultures.
Sara Smith marries Tom Jones
Children are:
Mary Jones Smith
Don Jones Smith
Mary marries Fred Anders Wilde
child is - Sue Anders Jones
Don marries Edna Port Wight
child is Ron Jones Port
Often only the initial of the second last name is used.
Some woman use the "de" or "of" As in Sara Smith de Jones.
A friend of mine said the only time she did this was at the hospital when she was givng birth....;) :D
Talk about confusing!!!
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Originally posted by Edwina's Secretary
This is how it works in Mexico....as in many hispanic cultures.
Sara Smith marries Tom Jones
It's not unusual.......
OH, OH!!!
That explains CHICO AND DE MANN!!!!
:confused:
That's what I think about my situation. My last name is very irish and in the past few years I have learned a lot about my personal family history/culture, so I think it would be hard for me to give it up in that sense. Then again, I agree, it all depends on your personal situation/preference. If my last name was common and didn't have much cultural significance to me, I probably wouldn't care about changing it. Then again, I am pretty far off from getting married right now, so maybe I'll totally change what I think about this subject in 10 years or so :pQuote:
Originally posted by Fox-Gal
This is who I was born and this is who I will be till the day I die. There's a lot of history and pride behind my last name. For that reason I will keep it, family pride.
I've never really given this much thought...hmmm. I guess it would depend.
I like my last name, but I'd take his if my first name sounded better with it. ;) If I was already an established veterinarian with my family name, I would keep it. As for the kids, I think hyphenated names are just too long, so they would take their fathers last name whether or not I kept my maiden name.
My sister-in-law and sister both took their husband's last names. My mother did also, and replaced her middle name with her maiden name.
I guess I'll worry about this when I'm actually engaged…and that is NOT now! :p
Confused!!! LOL .That's me after reading all this post!!!:rolleyes:Quote:
Originally posted by Tubby & Peanut's Mom
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Talk about confusing!!!
Is as simple as that: If you are born p.e. Teresa Perez or Jose Gonzalez, you are Teresa Perez or Jose Gonzalez all your life- Plain and easy! Esay to keep track of you, medical records, and administrative stuff.
If you have kids, they have firts the last name of the father and second the last name of the mother.And going on....for the following generation!
Now, there is a law that you can choose if the name of the mother came firt instead of the father name. But if you choose that option all of your kids must follow the same rule. But I'm not sure about that.:confused:
As Sara has stated :
"Some woman use the "de" or "of" As in Sara Smith de Jones." Is used socialy and "de bon ton". But does not have any legal effect.
My boyfriend asked me if I would keep my name or change it when we marry and then said: please keep it, you're such a Casian :D
Probably I am going to keep it or hiphenate, at almost 30 years old I am so used to it.
lol very true my best friend has a hyphenated name "bjorinson-tancrede" for legal things she uses her full hyphenated name but otherwise she goes simply by "tancrede" lol her first name being "stephanie" is long enugh that combined with her middle name, and her hyphenated last name.... :eek:Quote:
As for the kids, I think hyphenated names are just too long, so they would take their fathers last name whether or not I kept my maiden name.
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Originally posted by catland
My husband and I have the same last name (his) because we're a team and as we like to say to each other "we have a contract of love" (we're really sappy by the way).
Finally, my husband is the most important person in my life and I plan on keeping him for a very long time.:D :D Having the same last name for me is a sense of unity. I didn't "lose" anything by shedding my former name.
I couldn't agree with you more:)
I was very proud to take on my husband's name, and I don't feel as though I lost anything by giving up my father's name.
Marriage is a unity of two people, bringing us together as one. Having the same last name is important to me.
I have no problem with women who do not change their names, it is strictly a personal choice.
One warning about a hypenated name.
The hyphen drops your name to the bottom of list as far as your name goes.
Companies do not put a space between the names and hyphens, a computer sees the hypenated name as one long name.
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When you change your name CHANGE YOUR NAME ON EVERYTHING and do it the SAME WAY, EVERYTIME.
I had some knucklehead yelling and screaming at me once-she was lost in the system.
She called to have a medical record release form filled out and I couldn't find her on the computer.
Janet Doe-Smith was Janet Smith-Doe in my computer- She was 'experimenting' with her last name and decided to take a few years off of her age to boot.
:rolleyes:
I'm planning on changing my name when my boyfriend and I get married. I like his last name much better than mine. My new name will be Elizabeth Morgan....I think it sounds beautiful. I can't wait!
And no, we're not engaged...yet ;)
richard is right, be consistant about your hypenated name usage. all the time i've spent searching in the filmroom stacks or the hospital computer for a on/off hypenated name could have been put to better use (like giving alex the wonder dog tummy rubs or magic the meow-king ear skritchies);)Quote:
Originally posted by RICHARD
One warning about a hypenated name.
The hyphen drops your name to the bottom of list as far as your name goes.
Companies do not put a space between the names and hyphens, a computer sees the hypenated name as one long name.
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When you change your name CHANGE YOUR NAME ON EVERYTHING and do it the SAME WAY, EVERYTIME.
I had some knucklehead yelling and screaming at me once-she was lost in the system.
She called to have a medical record release form filled out and I couldn't find her on the computer.
Janet Doe-Smith was Janet Smith-Doe in my computer- She was 'experimenting' with her last name and decided to take a few years off of her age to boot.
:rolleyes:
Hey, nothing wrong with planning ahead :)Quote:
Originally posted by lizzielou742
I'm planning on changing my name when my boyfriend and I get married. I like his last name much better than mine. My new name will be Elizabeth Morgan....I think it sounds beautiful. I can't wait!
And no, we're not engaged...yet ;)
And the future name is beautiful!
I took my husband's name when I got married. Back then, I thought that was the only way to do it.
I kept my married name after we divorced. Because my brother had married someone with the same first name as mine.
Well, my response is somewhat humorous. My husband said, Honey, you can keep your married name if you wish, and I said, oh, no, Darling, I love you SOOO much that I would be proud to have your last name
so I went from Taylor to Helmstetler.
I do still love and adore my husband (and his family) but damn that name is hard for so many people!!!!
:D
One thing I don't understand is so many women (here and outside PetTalk) say they want to keep their own "family" names. Well, isn't your family name actually your Dad's family name? Where does your Mom's family come into play :confused: Not to start anything weird or anything but, think about it...what's in a name really "a rose by any other name...."
Maybe I'm just old fashioned, but I just love my husband so much, I was proud to take his name. I have an excellent relationship with my parents, so it wasn't that I wanted to get rid of my maiden name . . . I still use my maiden name as my middle initial . . . I couldn't imagine not taking his name.
Marriage name changes.
Year 0-1
Honey, sweetie and darling.
years 1-5
Honey and sweetie.
years 5-10
Hon.
years 10-?
You SOB, I told you to take out the &*#$! trash a half hour ago!
Are you gonna sit there and watch &*#$! sports all day long?
LOL RICHARD!!!!!!!!!!
My husbands last name is hypanated already thanks to his moms divorce. He said he didn't want me taking his last name until he changed it lol!
I have too many things under my last name. I'd have to fill out an entire forrest of paper to change things. Thats prolly why I will never do it.
Even before I was this high-powered lawyer (LOL, honest), I never wanted to change my name. I liked my name, and really didn't like the thought of changing it "just because". I never thought down the line to what name the child would have. But, in reflection, that child doesn't know any other name but the one you bestow upon him/her at birth. That is different than someone that was brought up as Smith, and will now become Jones at marriage.
So, fast forward to Jonah...welllll...he has my last name. I wouldn't dream of having him with another name. He carries with him some of my mom, as Jonah's middle name is her maiden name. That to me, is the wonderful part of not being bound by tradition. Jonah's name is HIS name. Created by yours truly.
I never thought that a child having another name than that of his mommy was much of a deal. In 2005, it is VERY common (sadly or not) to have the child have a different name that that of his parent. Hopefully the teachers that are educating the child are quick-witted enough to overcome the hurdle of last names, and still know that Bobby Smith's mom is Jeannie Jones. Hopefully. If that is still a concern, you might want to investigate other school districts. :D
To be honest, I never even thought about it. I was 18 when I got married and at that time I never even thought about keeping my own name.
I just think it is whatever a person is comfortable with and wants.
Johanna....what if Jonah's father wanted his son to have his last name. Would you have considered it? I'm just curious. I don't know the situation and if Jonah's father is around.
lbaker...I really like what you had to say..lol. That is one of those things that make you go hmmmm.....you have a very good point!
Robin :)
Hee hee hee, thanks!!! :D :D :DQuote:
Originally posted by aly
Hey, nothing wrong with planning ahead :)
And the future name is beautiful!
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Originally posted by RobiLee
Johanna....what if Jonah's father wanted his son to have his last name. Would you have considered it? I'm just curious. I don't know the situation and if Jonah's father is around.
Robin :)
I considered it, and flatly rejected it. It is an incredibly difficult name to pronounce and spell. He isn't around, and this was ONE of the things we fought about hotly. I wasn't so sure of WHY it was so important to him, in the scheme of things. He argued long and tiringly so about 'pride', 'heritage', 'tradition'. Odd, for many reasons. We weren't married, and I had no intention of marrying him. I wanted Jonah to have my last name. In Ohio, the mommy makes the decision. Thankfully.
I never considered not changing my name, and I'm happy with it. My maiden name was Buchholz... so I married a Harris! Not a single person has asked me how to spell my last name since the wedding! My sister married a Brown, and my aunt married a Smith. I guess with a name like Buchholz hanging over your head for so long you are glad to put it behind you!
I think it signifies the two of you becoming one family. I've heard of some couples that pick last name together. I've always thought that was cool, but could never do it! I'm a "go with the flow" type.
I'm glad things worked out for you and I didn't know that mommy had that option in the state of Ohio. Thats pretty cool. I can tell you after having raised my son (he is 21 now) and running him around to all of his different activities and hanging out with the other parents at those activities that it could be kind of confusing if the main parent didn't have the same last name. It is usually the mommy who is with the child and I can't tell you how many times the mom would explain why her last name was different and that she was little Billy's mother. There was one sports mom who had divorced and remarried and then divorced again and she took back her first ex's name so that it would be the same as her childerns. She said it was so much easier for her kids and her to have the same last name. I thought it was great that she realized that and cared more about her kids then the name.Quote:
Originally posted by Cataholic
I considered it, and flatly rejected it. It is an incredibly difficult name to pronounce and spell. He isn't around, and this was ONE of the things we fought about hotly. I wasn't so sure of WHY it was so important to him, in the scheme of things. He argued long and tiringly so about 'pride', 'heritage', 'tradition'. Odd, for many reasons. We weren't married, and I had no intention of marrying him. I wanted Jonah to have my last name. In Ohio, the mommy makes the decision. Thankfully.
I don't know. I personally don't think I would care either way. To me, it's just a name..but then again I don't/haven't really thought of marriage at all and doubt I will for quite a while ;) I'm sure I would change my name though...but, you never know.
Keeping my birth name had nothing to do with my father... it had to do with ME.Quote:
One thing I don't understand is so many women (here and outside PetTalk) say they want to keep their own "family" names. Well, isn't your family name actually your Dad's family name? Where does your Mom's family come into play
Shortly after we were married we visited an accountant to discuss some financial matters. I had an account that wasn't wisely invested. We discussed alternative investments and selected one. He completed the paperwork and passed it to me to sign. As I was about to sign he told me to sign on the next line instead. The reason why? I would be co-tenant...the account... MY ACCOUNT... would be in my husband's name. We did not open the account.
On the way home I asked my husband if he now understood WHY I did not change my name. I am willing to share all that I own with him but I am NOT willing to become invisible...merely an extension of him.
Plus... I like being able to say that both my names are four letter words....;) ;)
It works out fine between Wonder Woman and her airplane.:confused:Quote:
Originally posted by Edwina's Secretary
I am willing to share all that I own with him but I am NOT willing to become invisible...merely an extension of him.
I really could care less. It's not a big deal to me. If I were to marry someone to whom it was very important that I take his last name, I would ... unless it was something horrible. :p I have two friends who married brothers. The brothers' last name is Barney. Neither of my friends took that last name, they both said they just couldn't deal with it. LOL
It's just a name. It's not who I am.