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Ramanth, I completely agree, I feel the same way. I just can't figure out how these activities are so much more important than a pet that you loved! How did the interest in the pet die, and go to "things"?
Yes, Ozzie deserve better, and hopefully he will get a family that will love him and not just be a phase for them to go through. Pets are not phases, they deserve to be loved forever, until they make the trip to the bridge! I know I am not making much sense here, but it just confuses me to see a sweetheart like Ozzie to be classified lower than "activities".
Enough said, I agree with Ramath, and that is that! There is more, but I won't say it.
Ozzy, may you find a home that deserves you, and loves you enough to keep you forever! We are going to miss you sweet Ozzy, be happy...
Willie:(
Thank you Kimmy! I have been wanting to say just that since I first seen this thread, my exact thoughts also.Quote:
Originally posted by ramanth
I'm sorry but I echo this statement. I hope Ozzy finds a new home that DESERVES him. You obviously like to keep yourself busy with after school activities and while that is great, I think you jumped in over your head with getting Ozzy. Before I would EVER give up a living breathing animal (correction), member of the family, I'd quit one of the other after school activities.
You raised him and put so much time, effort, and work into him and you decided he was the 'after school activity' worth giving up.
Ugh.
I'm sorry... but this just really upsets me.
Im sorry Cayter, but I really agree with Kimmy. Im so sorry you had to give up Ozzy. But why couldn't you just give up some activitys? Ozzy was a full commitment that you wanted. all I know is that I'm never giving up my dogs so I can stay in activities. But maybe it was for the best. I hope ozzy finds a good home.:( All I know is hat im gonna miss ozzy pictures.Quote:
Originally posted by ramanth
I'm sorry but I echo this statement. I hope Ozzy finds a new home that DESERVES him. You obviously like to keep yourself busy with after school activities and while that is great, I think you jumped in over your head with getting Ozzy. Before I would EVER give up a living breathing animal (correction), member of the family, I'd quit one of the other after school activities.
You raised him and put so much time, effort, and work into him and you decided he was the 'after school activity' worth giving up.
Ugh.
I'm sorry... but this just really upsets me.
I was very hesitant to say anything... but now that Kimmy's put my thoughts into the exact words.... DITTO DITTO DITTO!!!
I couldn't even imagine giving up one of my dogs up before sports, music, friends...etc. I'd even think of giving up school before them. May not be the smartest of choices, but they're living breathing animals, with emotions and feelings... and i'd give up every minute of my relaxation time to spend with them.
*sigh*
I just read this story. I don't come over to the Dog side as often. My heart is just breaking for Ozzie. While I despair for the immaturity of Foam...I am even more disgusted with her parents. How could they allow her to do this. *shaking my head* How could they have raised a child to feel that "relaxation time" and her afterschool activities are more important than a living, breathing, feeling emotional animal that doesn't understand why he is being sent away.:mad: :mad:
WHAT IS WRONG WITH PARENTS THESE DAYS!!!!!!
I grew up as an only child. My parents bought me an absolutely beautiful sable and white collie pup when I was 3 years old. She was my everything. She was my best friend, my sister, my confidant and my protector. As I grew she was ALWAYS there with me. As I got older and purchased my first horse at the age of 14 I still never abandoned Lassie. As I got even older and was showing my horse and racing motorcycles in the Mojave I STILL never abandoned my Lassie. If I was gone on the weekend I couldn't wait to get home to her...she was the first member of my family I hugged and greeted. She died when I was 17 years old. I was so devastated I had to be put on medication to just survive the first week. I am now 42 years old and last night I was with friends at dinner and we were talking about pets that had gone to the RB. I almost cried as I talked about Lassie as I am now.
Foam...I am sorry...but your parents have raised you to be a shallow, selfish young lady. I am sorry you were crying at the thought of giving up Ozzie. But apparently he wasn't important enough to you. Your relaxation time was much more important I am sure.
So I am sure that you have done the right thing for Ozzie. I hope he goes to the right people now and that you have learned a very valuable lesson from this. I hope that you don't even consider getting another pet until you realize how much Ozzie is hurt and confused by your actions and you mature to the point that a wonderful pet like Ozzie is more important than lying about on your rear end.
I am sorry if I am harsh but someone needs to be because it is MY belief that your values are not what they should be. And to your parents
SHAME SHAME SHAME!!!
Denyce
Thank God someone finally said it!!! I wasn't going to respond because I didn't want to be the first naysayer.
This young lady didn't learn anything about life from this experience other than being selfish. I don't understand how she was doing agility with Ozzy but that just didn't matter anymore- other activities were more important. My heart goes out to Ozzy, I just wanted to reach through the screen and bring him here with me.Heaven only knows what my husband and I have given up for our furbabies! As well as all of you have,I'm sure, I'm sorry I just don't get it :mad:
Bless your beautiful, gentle soul, Ozzy. I wish for you many years of unconditional love and happiness with your new family
Chocolatepuppy, none of us have given up anything because our animals have given us something very special. I know you know what I mean.
Corinna(pardon my error) Denyce, I know how you feel about your special Lassie. That's how I feel about Duke and I swear, I don't know how I'll function without him.
I, too, wish I could have given Ozzy his forever home. I've had cats and dogs all my life and it's been a much better one because of it. I just don't understand this at all. Very disappointed.
Edited to add that it sounds like it was her decision because she states at the very beginning "I've made up my mind". And, even at her young age, she knows the importance of this. I've said all I'm going to say on the subject.
I agree with everyone else.. I'm so sorry you've decided to give Ozzy away.. It always looked like you two were so happy together.. :(
I used to do sports in my K-8 school (I played sports on teams from 4th grade to 8th grade), but once I got into high school I didn't do any sports.. You can live without them ;) Besides, if you had kept Ozzy, you could have done agility with him and agility is a sport!! ^_- Oh well.. I'm sorry you decided you couldn't keep him.. :( I hope he finds a new, good home that will give him the attention and love he deserves..
I guess I'll be the 'odd-ball' in this.
While it's very saddening to hear that Ozzy won't be with her anymore, I think she made the right decision. If she was being selfish, she would continue to keep Ozzy, knowing that he wasn't getting the proper care he deserves. She had his BEST INTEREST in mind. Also, he is going back to the breeder-- not the animal shelter. I've talked to his breeder, Kristen, and I'm positive she will make sure he goes to the best home she can find for him.
She thought about this for a long time, and is hurting, but she made the right decision.
Chocolatepuppy- She never started doing agility with Ozzy. He was a prospect, and later in life they were going to take classes and hopefully compete.
Things happen, and I think it's just sad to see all these hurtful remarks. Remember, she's a child. I don't know about the rest of you, but I know, still being a child myself, I don't have control with what my parents say will happen. It's not her fault, and I'm sure she will take this as a lesson to learn in the future.
I have to say I really admire Kay for the words she spoke! Kay, you go girl!!!!!
dukedogsmom Yes I know what you mean. I was just making a point ,the money, the up all night , the times I stayed home becuase I didn't want my babies left home too much. Never mind the clean house I will never have, no more lamps,etc....
The months of agony we have endured worrying about Mandy's bad heart and will she still be alive when I get home each day?
And we do not regret it one bit, no one could give me a million dollars for any of my babies!
God what I would give for Mandy to have a healthy heart and here's someone giving up their dog because she's too busy?
GoldenRetrLuver So sorry for the mistake. On the one picture it shows Ozzy doing agility and says 'doing agility' so I don't know where I would have got that from???
I think Sandra has taken the correct approach in this whole thing, while I have been pondering how to respond. Let's keep focused on Ozzy, and hope that a perfect, new home, will be found!!!!! God bless you, Ozzy. :)Quote:
Originally posted by tatsxxx11
Bless your beautiful, gentle soul, Ozzy. I wish for you many years of unconditional love and happiness with your new family
Yes Logan you're probably right, sometimes anger gets the best of us. I certainly wish the best for Ozzy.:)
A few thoughts to share, having read more responses... and I do not know if further responding is a wise thing to do on my part but hopefully I'll convey what I am feeling without fumbling my words up and confusing everyone (not that I don't feel confused and torn on this whole thing).
First of all, I believe we on Pet Talk actually form attachments to each other and our fur/feathered friends. I think it is natural that this news will be more upsetting to people here than perhaps hearing a story from a friend about a friend's friend who is getting rid of their dog. Many of us consider our dogs to be our "kids" and it is just as unthinkable to rehome them, for most..
I believe, to put it bluntly, that getting Oz was a mistake, if other activities were going to be a priority. I also don't really think the action can be excused by age. I was 13 when I got my RB Cody, and I well understood the time and devotion involved. If it were sudden financial hardship, the loss of a family member, or something to that degree, I think people would feel more compassion with this choice. I do believe this was Cayter's choice, as it was never indicated or even implied that this was her parents' choice.
However, I think it is also hurtful and a bit harsh to say she is shallow/lazy. The reason I had such a hard time coming up with what to say the first time was because I truly don't want to pass judgement on someone else. There may be other things, personal issues, that she did not want to disclose to everyone. I don't know, and really.. it's just not for me to try to form a judgement. I do strongly agree with a lot of the sentiments of others as far as how important a pet should be, but in the end, the decision is made, and all we can do is pray and wish for Oz to get the wonderful forever home he deserves.
Well said, K9soul.
I hate hate hate the words "she's just a child". That means NOTHING.
From what i've read, it seem's to me it was "just the child's" decision to give Ozzy up... it was her decision to put other things before him.
I really do hope a family comes along his way, one that deserves him, and one that he truely deserves.
Very well said, Jessica.
My thoughts and prayers are with Ozzy. We love you Ozzy and we care about you.
Robin :(
Having now read the story of why ozzy is being given up, I do indeed feel very sad for this precious furbaby, but I still believe it is for the best, if he cannot be given the time of day, then he does need to be in a more loving, home with the care, play and attention he requires, so even though alot of you feel she is being selfish, I see it more like goldenretriever, it would be more selfish of her to keep him.
yes I Have to wonder where are the parents in all of this?
I understand everyones, anguish over this, and emotions, and hopefully Foam will have learn't a very valuable lesson in all this, its a shame its at ozz'ys expense, but I am sure he will be happier in his new home.
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Originally posted by tatsxxx11
Bless your beautiful, gentle soul, Ozzy. I wish for you many years of unconditional love and happiness with your new family
I wish this too, with all my heart..... Liz & Smokey.
Okay, I'm sorry but I need to say something here. I've been trying to keep a 'low-profile,' but I can't handle reading this thread anymore unless I throw in a few words.
While yes, I feel terrible that Ozzy has to go through this, it is much better that he is given back to his breeder [rather than a shelter] and will go to a responsible, loving home where he will be a devoted family member until the day he dies. I'm not saying he couldn't do that in Cayter's family, but I can't imagine he would have been happy. If he's not going to be provided with the attention he needs and deserves, then good for Cayter for at least doing the right thing and giving him a chance to be placed into a home that will.
On the other side of things, I can't handle hearing all this bashing on Cayter and her decision. She did what she felt was right for her situation ... none of you are currently in her position, and therefore cannot assume you know the whole story or what is best. I know she loved Ozzy, which leads me to believe that she is doing this not only for herself ... but for her dear Ozzy boy as well. What good would it do to keep Ozzy and leave him to live his life unhappily or deprived of the proper attention??
Am I wrong to feel that it is better to find a new home for him now, when he is still somewhat young, rather than waiting it out only to find out that they still can't keep him months or even years later when his bond has grown even more????
I honestly feel disgusted with this thread. Everyone knows that Cayter feels awful, and for people to just continue to 'rub salt on open wounds' is really just depressing. :(
Now I'm sorry ... but I have sympathy for both Cayter and Ozzy here. It wasn't the right thing for either one of them, but at least Cayter is mature enough and unselfish enough to realize that Ozzy can't be truly happy with her and her family.
Cayter -- I'm so sorry to hear of all of this and I know you are doing what you feel is best for the both of you. If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me ... I'll be here. :) And please, don't let anyone here break you down. You're a great girl, and if people can't see through their own deals with you ... forget them. Best wishes and deepest condolences.
Goldretiver lover you arn't alone I feel she has done a very good thing for Oz.
Also I didn't tell the story of Lassie it was Denyce Please quote the proper sources.
I think that we all should be nice. She is feeling very bad now I thought we were to be a SUPPORTIVE family here. PM each other don't vent here at least she told us didn't just not ever mention him again. I think she did for some support for here decsion. Where are your hearts. Shame on you all.
I echo everything that Brooke mentioned. Good post.
I agree we were posting at the same time.
:(
Ok, here's how I see the situation.
Foam got Ozzy, to love, to care for, to raise as her pet..........same reasons anyone would have to get a pet. Unfortunately, I feel she and her family didn't think deeply enough about their decision when they got him. As it often happens, when you don't think deeply enough before making such big decisions, the outcome turns out for the worst.
I know Foam didn't want this to happen, but unfortunately, it did happen. It could definitely be the result of a decision that was not well thought out, ahead of time.
Now, in the current situation, Ozzy is a growing and active pup who needs LOTS of attention. His family should have known ahead of time that when pups grow, they need more attention and time. They now realize they DON'T have enough time for this puppy. They cannot give him the time and attention he needs and deserves. If they keep him, while acknowledging the fact that they're not going to give him enough time, I feel that is a MORE selfish thing to do, than to return him to his breeder. Considering he will now go to a new home where he will get enough attention, I feel they have made the best decision, in the best interest of Ozzy. No, they shouldn't have gotten Ozzy if they weren't going to have the time for him, but now that they did, I do feel the best decision they could make is to rehome him. Its a better decision to give him to someone else who will have time for him, than to keep him and let him suffer from boredom, or sadness.
Yes we all know that pets are a big responsibilty........a responsibility that isn't to be taken lightly. I know Foam knows that too, and I'm sure this will be a lesson for her to take along with her in life. What's happened has happened. It is sad, it is unfortunate, and I wish the best for Ozzy in his future life. Still, there is no reason to put someone who is already feeling so down, in an even worse situation by saying her parents raised her to be a very selfish girl, etc. Please don't get so personal. I do agree with you all, but it would be nice if a few of you could state certain things in a more appropriate, and less hurtful way. I hate to see people hurt others and unfortunately, some of you are getting very hurtful. :(
Very well said, Pops ... and I completely agree, 110%. :)
Amen Popcorn
Just out of curiousity... What's happening with Darlin?
She maybe be older than Oz but she still need attention, exercise, love and so on.
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Originally posted by Corinna
Goldretiver lover you arn't alone I feel she has done a very good thing for Oz.
Also I didn't tell the story of Lassie it was Denyce Please quote the proper sources.
I think that we all should be nice. She is feeling very bad now I thought we were to be a SUPPORTIVE family here. PM each other don't vent here at least she told us didn't just not ever mention him again. I think she did for some support for here decsion. Where are your hearts. Shame on you all.
Sorry, my heart & focus is on the animal, not a youngster's
angst. If she's doing the right thing for her dog, she should
be happy & the original post was just a FYI.
I do believe Ozzy will find a loving family, whether in a Shelter
or with a breeder. I hope the breeder takes the dog's history
into consideration before selling him to anyone else.
I'm not sure if it's a good idea to bring this up or not, but..
I've recentely read some posts where people had to rehome their birds, because they felt they couldn't do their best to take care of them, didn't get along with their other pets, or have enough time for them, etc. and yet they were supported by EVERYONE. Why than is Cayter treated 'differently' when she posts that she had to rehome Ozzy? Like I, and some others have said, it was in his best interest (just like the birds), and she was not being selfish.
This is not meant to target anyone, I just felt the need to bring it up.
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Originally posted by ramanth
Before I would EVER give up a living breathing animal (correction), member of the family, I'd quit one of the other after school activities.
I agree 150% and couldn't of said it better.
Ash
The way I see it, it's all about choices. The family CHOSE to get Ozzy, they also CHOSE to give him back to the breeder. We all know having pets is all about responsibility. Personally, I don't approve of anyone getting a pet, whether it's a dog, cat, bird or fish, and then getting rid of it because it's too much to handle, or they're too busy, etc. While I think everyone agrees that Cayter's returning Ozzy is the best decision for him, it still bothers most of us who would never consider getting rid of any of our furbabies unless it was a matter of life or death, and even then I'm sure things can be negotiated. :)
I don't think we mean to be so mean, but to so many of us it's just an unfathomable act. When any of us get puppies we know how much time they take. We know they go thru their terrible teens. We know how much time and money have to be invested. Within a month of getting Arthur we had to take him to the emergency room because Katie attacked him. Both myself and my gf work a lot of hours, but we still find time to take all the mutts to the park, and we'll be putting Arthur into school soon.
My point is, i don't think a lot of us understand why Ozzy wasn't important enough to give up some activities for, which may not be the case but it's what it seems. I feel bad for Cayter, but I feel worse for Ozzy who I'm sure doesn't understand why his furmom doesn't want him anymore. I guess I just wish Cayter and her family would have thought it out more before getting Ozzy in the first place. :(
This will all blow over eventually, but for now I think everyone needs to get everything off their chest. Best of luck to Cayter and especially to Ozzy!
heinz57_79, I could not have said it better than you just did.
This is so sad. I can't even begin to relate since I have never been in this situation. Each time I have adopted an animal he/she was mine until the day they left for the Rainbow Bridge. My hope is that Ozzy's next home will be his forever home so that he doesn't ever have to go through this again. My wish for Cayter is that she might be able to get past this. I know if I ever had to do such a thing I would wonder each day for the rest of my life how my dog was doing. I suspect there will be some gut-wrenching and soul searching days ahead for Cayter. :(
I'd like to say a few other things...
*TO ME* it did not seem like she was doing this for Ozzy, she seemed as if she wanted to do "other things", because she told us a little while ago she was going to wait until after summer to see how it goes, and *to me* it seemed like she had more important things to do when school was out...
I also think that her age doesn't matter, I got my RB black lab when I was just 7 or so, and I still knew he was mine for life, and that when friends would ask me to come places, birthday parties..etc, if Shadow hadn't been played with much that day or anything like that, I would give up things, even at that age.
And Im still, what you all call, a child(17) and I would glady give up anything for my pups, people my age usually like new clothes and stuff, I haven't had new clothes since Christmas, and I also wanted my hair cut and highlighted for months, but Jasper comes first.
And IMO if Ozzy is not her first priority now, maybe he never was? How do we know that he ever came first?
Just my opinions, I dont think its fair to hold back on what we think just because of her age, shes probably not much younger than I am...
Completely agreed.Quote:
Originally posted by GoldenRetrLuver
I'm not sure if it's a good idea to bring this up or not, but..
I've recentely read some posts where people had to rehome their birds, because they felt they couldn't do their best to take care of them, didn't get along with their other pets, or have enough time for them, etc. and yet they were supported by EVERYONE. Why than is Cayter treated 'differently' when she posts that she had to rehome Ozzy? Like I, and some others have said, it was in his best interest (just like the birds), and she was not being selfish.
This is not meant to target anyone, I just felt the need to bring it up.
If someone can give me a perfectly liable, understandable response to this, then I'll drop my issue with this ... but until then, I'm still pretty disheartened by the responses to this thread.
I'm not sure which birds or animals you're speaking of, or if you're even talking about me, but the thing that got me most upset is the fact that she put her activities before her dog. One or two of those activities could have easily, in my opinion only, been dropped before getting rid of a beloved pet.
exactlyQuote:
Originally posted by Kfamr
I'm not sure which birds or animals you're speaking of, or if you're even talking about me, but the thing that got me most upset is the fact that she put her activities before her dog. One or two of those activities could have easily, in my opinion only, been dropped before getting rid of a beloved pet.
and I have no clue what happened that their were birds rehomed, so I can't comment on that at all.