It's about boyfriends/girlfriends because of the way it was started. Over the years it's spread to more of a holiday for love in general not just couples
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It's about boyfriends/girlfriends because of the way it was started. Over the years it's spread to more of a holiday for love in general not just couples
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Originally posted by G.P.girl
It's about boyfriends/girlfriends because of the way it was started. Over the years it's spread to more of a holiday for love in general not just couples
You mean from the time he was cannonized as a saint? I am not sure you are completely correct....I think St. Valentine's history is a little more involved than being about boyfriends/girlfriends.
However, I am not Catholic (not even a lapsed one!), so maybe one of our religously educated will chime in?
Actually it did originate as a boyfriend/girlfriend thing. :)
It says here that's it's all about choosing a "mate." :p
Think so? Read this one...
http://www.pictureframes.co.uk/pages..._valentine.htm
I think you will see there has always been a steady mix of 'love' in the history...both romantic and non-romantic. St. Valentine, on his death's bed left a note...and it is that note leaving that evolved into the traditional valentine cards.....
I sure didn't know about the web site or anything and I'm certainly not that much against it! And, I wasn't referring to social status when I was talking about gifts at work, I was referring as to how I felt when it happened. I couldn't care less about my social status at work. I'm not that type of person. But it makes we s.a.d. people a little blah to know that we don't have that someone special to enjoy the day with. Hope that explains it better.
LOL that's what I call it too. I usually have fun, a group of friends and I usually meet up at the local bar and enjoy being single :)Quote:
Originally posted by wolf_Q
I've always called it "Single Awareness Day." :p
I'm single, always have been single, and very aware of it. ;)
I don't think you ever get too old to celebrate a holiday. Holidays aren't for children..........they're for everyone. Its just this particular holiday that doesn't mean much to me. It doesn't make any sense to me. It just doesn't. Perhaps it is because I've always seen it as a *couple's day*, even though I know its used to celebrate your love for anyone as well.........but that is just how the day is celebrated by so many. Maybe not in your family, but around here, everyone sees it as a bf/gf day, and personally, I don't even see bf/gf's as a relationship. For me, V-Day is just any other day. I don't even remember it. Heck I don't even remember my birthday. My mom does. :o I forget it. Wierd? Definitely. But that's me! LOL!Quote:
Originally posted by Cataholic
AND, since when do we become too 'old' to celebrate holidays? It is a rememberance, a 'celebration', an honoring, whatever you want to call it. AND, if some people need an excuse to show their love (on any day), so what? I hope I am never too old to enjoy any holiday. For my family, it is an excuse to get together, a reason to call, a reason to send a card, when we might not otherwise. No one loves anyone any less if something doesn't happen, but, it is NICE! It feels GOOD! Enjoy it.
But then again, this really isn't a serious issue, and definitely isn't one to be argued upon, so let's all just agree to disagree. We all have our own views, and that is fine. Right Catapault? ;) He he he.
I always heard it was started by a P.O.W. and he was in some prison somewhere adn he wrote letters to his sweetheart everyday and stuff like that
I personally, don't see the point of Valentine's Day either. It just seems stupid...but maybe that's because I'm alone. :p
Love is a many splender thing, love lifts up where we belong, all we need is love...or so I've heard ;) :D
Honestly when I was younger, I enjoyed Valentines day mainly because my parents would give me candy and such. As I got odler like High school and just out of high school, I couldn't stand it. I thought it was the lamest day of the year. Now however it's a day, just another day.
Yes Valentines day represents love, but really why should we all just use the one day of the year to show someone how we care about them? If I want chocolate or something, I'll go out and buy it, if I want flowers (which I don't really enjoy, not a flower type person) I'll go and look at a garden, and if I want to tell someone that I love them well dag nab it I'll do it when ever I want.
I will however be spending Valentines day with the goonies, which is a darn good way to spend a day if you ask me.
Thank you for filling me in. Now I am very full with everyone's opinions.;)
Personally, I don't think that love it evil. I do think that BCBlondies signature is adorable though!
For those of you who said Valentine's Day should be focused on family and spending time with them and being nice to them and giving them gifts and stuff because you love them instead of the whole boyfriend/girlfriend relationship thing... shouldn't you do that every day anyway? Show appreciation to your family members? You don't need a special day dedicated to spending time with family! :p
Are you calling us immature? Have you ever been in a relationship? I've had negative experiences with relationships so I have a reason to be against the whole "love" thing. I really don't appreciate you calling something I started just for fun "stupid". I did it to start a group with other singles... to show people who are single that they're not the only ones, and so we can share our experiences and help each other deal with them and stuff. And then you call it stupid?? Excuse me, but I think that's a little immature...Quote:
Although, I think this "L.I.E" stuff is a bit stupid (No offense), just MHO. Especially since most of you are still in your teens.
In all honesty I have to agree. I'm not saying that YOU are immature, but I think the whole thing is rather silly. I remember that when I was in high school I thought I knew everything about love because I had been in a few relationships, but my views and opinions have changed now that I am older. I'm single and believe me I've had my share of bad relationships, but that doesn't mean I think love is evil. I know that when the time is right, and I am ready I will find that special person. But until then, I'm going to enjoy my single life.Quote:
Although, I think this "L.I.E" stuff is a bit stupid (No offense), just MHO. Especially since most of you are still in your teens
Let's not start anything here, please.:D
I don't think that any of us think love is evil. I know I don't. It was just a silly name. That's why it's fun.Quote:
Originally posted by Uabassoon
but that doesn't mean I think love is evil.
I agree.:)Quote:
Originally posted by wolfsoul
I don't think that any of us think love is evil. I know I don't. It was just a silly name. That's why it's fun.
I don't believe ALL love is evil.. I know that there are people that are truly in love, and I think that's wonderful! And the relationships I was talking wasn't JUST about me... It was about my friends too... and I have friends of many ages. I also come from a sort of dysfunctional family... My mom divorced when I was 3, re-married when I was 4 or 5, and my step-dad's an alcoholic. I have very valid reasons for starting this club lol. But like I said, if you're lucky enough to have found someone great that you know you'll end up spending the rest of your life with, that's wonderful and you're very lucky! And like I said before, this isn't a completely serious club lol, it's supposed to be fun, and so we can share experiences and whatnot. :)Quote:
I don't think that any of us think love is evil. I know I don't. It was just a silly name. That's why it's fun.
It's just a JOKE. Or at least I'm assuming it is...:p It's just a silly, fun thing that was started.
Ummm... No, I don't believe I even mentioned the word immature or referred to it.Quote:
Originally posted by BCBlondie
Are you calling us immature? Have you ever been in a relationship? I've had negative experiences with relationships so I have a reason to be against the whole "love" thing. I really don't appreciate you calling something I started just for fun "stupid". I did it to start a group with other singles... to show people who are single that they're not the only ones, and so we can share our experiences and help each other deal with them and stuff. And then you call it stupid?? Excuse me, but I think that's a little immature...
Yes, I have. Is it any of your business? No.
As I stated, I meant no offense.
And how come you blow up on me when I call it stupid yet when others did you said nothing?
Excuse me, If stating my opinion is immature, then hell, i'm immature. I never claimed to be mature.
And, if it's not serious, then why does it matter if I call it stupid or not?
It's kinda like I said earlier and as Cataholic put it. It's nice to sometimes have a day set aside to celebrate specific things, it's not saying we should only show love once a year on Valentine's Day :p. A lot of us here celebrate birthdays for those we love and it doesn't mean we only appreciate them on that day. Having an actual day set aside to celebrate something just means we especially gather and celebrate it as a community, at least I think that is the idea behind holidays. We also don't NEED Thanksgiving or Halloween or St. Patrick's day etc etc. Those days all mean something different to different individuals, but we share in common recognizing it as a community and as a society on that particular day.Quote:
Originally posted by BCBlondie
For those of you who said Valentine's Day should be focused on family and spending time with them and being nice to them and giving them gifts and stuff because you love them instead of the whole boyfriend/girlfriend relationship thing... shouldn't you do that every day anyway? Show appreciation to your family members? You don't need a special day dedicated to spending time with family! :p
Well, that was my attempt at explaining how I see it. Not sure whether it got my point across or not. :p.
I also understand feeling down on some holidays because of feeling lonely or feeling left out too, but that also doesn't make the holiday stupid or pointless, that's all I'm saying :)
i agree!:DQuote:
Originally posted by K9soul
It's kinda like I said earlier and as Cataholic put it. It's nice to sometimes have a day set aside to celebrate specific things, it's not saying we should only show love once a year on Valentine's Day :p. A lot of us here celebrate birthdays for those we love and it doesn't mean we only appreciate them on that day. Having an actual day set aside to celebrate something just means we especially gather and celebrate it as a community, at least I think that is the idea behind holidays. We also don't NEED Thanksgiving or Halloween or St. Patrick's day etc etc. Those days all mean something different to different individuals, but we share in common recognizing it as a community and as a society on that particular day.
I also understand feeling down on some holidays because of feeling lonely or feeling left out too, but that also doesn't make the holiday stupid or pointless, that's all I'm saying :)
EXCUSE ME?! See if you get any CHOC- O- LOTS for valentines young lady! ;) :pQuote:
Originally posted by GoldenRetrLuver
I personally, don't see the point of Valentine's Day either. It just seems stupid...but maybe that's because I'm alone. :p
I dont see a problem with it.. I mean, what ever floats your boat, you know? I think its cool, Lol! :p
Love really is Evil. hehehe ;)
It depends........it depends............(on the type of love he he he) :p ;)Quote:
Originally posted by Amber
Love really is Evil. hehehe ;)
Some are certainly evil, and some aren't.
Aw! :DQuote:
Originally posted by CamCamPup33
EXCUSE ME?! See if you get any CHOC- O- LOTS for valentines young lady! ;) :p
Right! I forgot about that, :p I loooove my pets and family. But the other love is evil! :pQuote:
Originally posted by popcornbird
It depends........it depends............(on the type of love he he he) :p ;)
Some are certainly evil, and some aren't.
Same here. I love my family, pets, friends, PT (he he he), so many other things................but those aren't *evil loves*. The other love is evil. He he he.............Even that depends. ;)Quote:
Originally posted by Amber
Right! I forgot about that, :p I loooove my pets and family. But the other love is evil! :p
lol, yeah. :p
and it does depend, because say you do like somone then that cant be evil....right? lol :p But then it just depends! lol
...and I thought it referred to the Long Island Expressway, aka the BIG LIE! :p
Cataholic, Edwina's Secretary, and K9Soul took the words out of my mouth. :) I don't go all out for V-Day, but I do like to buy cards for my family and friends. Cards from 'the dog' or 'the cat' are especially fun. :D
My mom still does this! :D Every year I get a little gift that's red or pink and some candy. :)Quote:
Originally posted by Edwina's Secretary
When I was a kid my mother would always give me a gift on Valentine's Day ....and it was always something pink or red. Sappy...I suppose....but a nice memory....and I always send a card to my parents!
Those are the ones I like to give and get the most! :DQuote:
Originally posted by ramanth
Cards from 'the dog' or 'the cat' are especially fun. :D
I agree micki! One year, I had an especially cute card and a heart shaped tin from Duke. Was very nice.
I always get a nice valentine's day care package from my mom. I love getting care packages plus they usually inclue a lit bit of extra money for me which I also love :)
That is how we celebrate Valentines Day. This year we are having Dylan "sign" Valentines cards for family and friends. :D I enjoy the time spent with family better than as a couple. Of course Dan and I will do something together, maybe cards of something dumb like that, but we are also spending the day going to his sisters basketball game. She is on the Cougar's basketball team and they will be playing the Duck's in Corvallis. So instead of celebrating all alone, the family will be celebrating Stephanie's game instead. :)Quote:
Originally posted by K9soul
I think Valentine's Day would be so much nicer if it was looked at as a celebration of love, not focusing on lovers or couples, but love overall, between family, friends, children, pets, and so on.
I also send things to my family. This year I am having a bouquet of flowers sent to my mother in California. I order them online, and since I can't be there in person, I will have them delivered to her door. :) I also bought my sister a really cute teddy bear with Hershey's kisses and the bear is wearing a leopard print dress. My sis LOVES leopard print!
I will be making something for Dan with Dylan, maybe give him a cute photo of the two of us or something like that. So it's not all about couples, it's more just about love, and the meaning of celebrating what you have. :)
Love is great! You just need to find it, and the right kind! Being in love is one of the most beautiful feelings you ever get to experience, and when you do, gosh, it's just undescribable. I too used to be single all the Valentines Days, but who cares? Celebrate your singleness! Because one day, you won't be single anymore. You have your freedom now, enjoy it!
Those that have found love, consider yourself extremely lucky! I never dreamed back in '93 that this is the way I'd be now. So, life's experiences do determine our views on this touchy day. I'll be celebrating my dog love(for which I'd never trade for a man) this valentine's.
Sorry, from the way you worded it, it sounded like you implied it. And I get offended very easily. I'm pretty sure you'd be offended too if I said something you made is stupid. And the reason I "blew up" on you was because you were the only person that I saw that said it in such a rude way... Other people were a lot more respectful about it. You just straight-out said it's stupid. Next time can you please keep negative things to yourself unless you can figure out a nicer way to say it? Sort of like from the children's movie, Bambi, "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all." That's all I ask... ThanksQuote:
Originally posted by Kfamr
Ummm... No, I don't believe I even mentioned the word immature or referred to it.
Yes, I have. Is it any of your business? No.
As I stated, I meant no offense.
And how come you blow up on me when I call it stupid yet when others did you said nothing?
Excuse me, If stating my opinion is immature, then hell, i'm immature. I never claimed to be mature.
And, if it's not serious, then why does it matter if I call it stupid or not?
As I said, NO OFFENSE.
Next time, read before blowing up. I meant no offense, meaning you shouldn't be offended. And as I said, i'm sorry you were.
If you want to think something I make is stupid -- then go straight ahead. It's your opinion and I can/would/could respect that.
Others stated it the same as me, but when I said it, you blew up at me and just me. Even those who did say it the same way wondered why you chose just me to blow up on. :p
Again, I meant NO OFFENSE.
I like Valentine's Day. :)
No, I don't go all out but I look at it as a day to remind your loved ones how much you appreciate them. Yes of course you should tell them every day but let's face it, we don't always have the time or energy to do that.
I like doing nice things for people I love and Valentine's Day is just another reminder to do so, IMHO.
Celebrating Valentines day has only been in NZ for around five years , so its a new experience for most of us,so in my younger days there was no such celebration.
Hubby and I celebrate it, but we donot go overboard, I have a card and we are going to the movies thats it, but its the quality time alone that we will have that is important and special, We don't need a certain day set aside to celebrate our love for one another, infact our anniversary means way more to me than some over-commercialised day.
I would like to share the words on my card with you.
A VALENTINE POEM FOR MY HUSBAND
For the man who took me as his bride,
whose kisses leave me starry-eyed,
who understands my every mood,
Whose patience rarely comes unglued,
The man who knows I'm not a saint,
(and lets me know he's glad I ain't).
Who shares my secret dreams and wishes,
And (sometimes) helps me do the dishes,
The man I fuss at now and then,
But love to make up with again.
My faithful friend and sympathiser,
My handyman and big supriser,
The one who makes my life complete,
Who warms my heart,
and my cold,cold feet,
'The man I love the whole year through,
THE WORLD'S BEST HUSBAND HONEY YOU.
These words really describe how I feel about my hubby and are so true. hope you don't mind me sharing.:)
P.S. Even though I think Valentines day is not really necessary and people just go over the top sometimes, its up to each individual what they do, and I respect that, and besides I am really just a hopeless Romantic at heart, Hubby is not really the Romantic type, but he will celebrate it because he knows it's something I like to do.(besides I have all those young year's I missed out to make up for) with the love of my life.
Thank you, Carole........my sentiment, exactly. :)