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Foam, this has touched me too. I am also one of the close-to grandmothers but I was 12 too and my father used to slap me. I think there is still a rest of hot lava in me -I was so upset and I am so upset that he could do it whenever he felt he had to keep me down.

But I got out there -some years later- and I had up to now a life that is much better than what my education had promised.

It will be the same for you. There are people who care and I agree with everyone: hugging Darlin must provide immediately good feelings. Both of you are so cute:)

Foam, I wanted to check in on you this morning.

This is a brand new day and a brand new chance.

I want you to do me a favor, if you can. Please do not swear at your parents. I know, I know, you kids today use swear words like candy. Even if your parents use swear words, please don't swear back at them. I am sure that it makes them angry when you do.

Also, I would love to hear that you are talking to a school counselor, a minister, priest or someone. The cycle of your Dad slapping you must be stopped.

Please give Darlin a hug - several hugs and try to have some fun today.

Foam,
I can understand what you are going through, and it is a very hard time.:( Good luck to you, and keep us updated. This is why I always come on Pet Talk, it just takes my mind off of everything else, and I think about my pets, other peoples pets, looking at pics.. getting advice.
*Hugs*
Emma, Digger, Chubby, Otis, Prince, and Nelly

Foam, I'm so sorry to hear what's going on in your life right now:( I just found out right now. I haven't read the entire thread yet, but I think I know a little about what's going on. Just 2 nights ago, I kept on crying in bed. There's so many things going on in my life right now too, and I just don't know what to do. But I know that you guys will always listen(:))
Well, anyways, I hope you feel better today. If you need to talk or just vent about anything, remember we're all here for you. and never think about leaving again! I know that this is the last place I want to leave if anything bad is happening.
I haven't read the whole thread, but I see in some posts above saying something about you being slapped by your dad?:eek: :mad: Parents should never slap their kids, isn't it against the law now?
((((((((hugs))))))))))
I hope you feel better soon, and please, stay safe:)

Oh Foam,

I can't believe what happend to you. Im 13 now and I know what it's like gettin the big slap. When-ever I got in trouble and stuff, I just stayed in my room which my pets until I cooled down and until my parents did too. Just give Darlin hugs. you can talk to darlin, she will listen to you. take care ~

~amber~

How's things going today? I just wanted to say that your dad should have never have slapped you like that. He needs to remember how young you are and that he's the adult. I think what he did could be classified as abuse. And, there's also verbal abuse. I know a lot about that myself with my ex. Duke had the physical from him. Also, staying with the 20yr old male is not a good idea at all. That could only lead to trouble. Hope things are looking a lot better today for you.

I think you should have listened to him when he told you to get off the phone. But, he had NO RIGHT to slap you like that. I know what its like...but don't worry, just hug Darlin' and everything will be fine. :) Daisy, Molly, and I hope you feel better.

*hugs*

Julie

Good Morning, everyone! :)
Wow..you guys..You have brought me into tears. I really did not know you all cared this much. I understand what you all are saying, and wow. You guys really, truley do NOT know how much I appreciate it. You guys are my family. If I could, I would make a big private town somewhere beautiful just for Pet Talkers!
Gini, I usually don't swear. I certainly do not swear at my parents like that. I was just so angry at him for doing that to me, and so mad that he never listens, that I just had to let it slip.
So, things are going pretty good right now. I just woke up about 15 minutes ago. I guess right now I am going to just go downstairs, eat some breakfast, drink some OJ, and watch a little Animal Planet with Darlin.
My mom might even take me to the pound today! :)

Good Mornin! Im glad the day is goin good! Your going to the pound?! Gonna get a doggy?? lol:)

Great! Sometimes, parents get into these "moods" where they just blow up, teens as I know, do also. Glad to hear your feeling better now. :)

P.S. The pound?! Does this mean...new arrival?! :D

Julie

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Foam, there is a town!
PetTalkville

Foam, maybe you can take this opportunity to talk to your Mom today.

I would suggest that you start with "I should have hung up the phone" and "I shouldn't have sworn at Dad" but.........."Dad shouldn't be hitting me either".

Share with her that you don't feel your Dad listens to you and see what she has to say about it. But when she answers you.....you have to listen too.

Have a great day......tell us all about the pound if you go.

I probably will end up going to the pound, and yes, I am definetly goin totry to talk to my mother.
Yes! New arrival, possibly! I'm looking for an agility dog, and have been for a while! Yay, someone might be coming home with me!!! :):):)

Yay! Keep us updated! A lot of breeds are good at agility, not just border collies, aussies, and the normal. They are great, but I know a lot of breeds that are wonderful too!:D I am glad that you are going to rescue, congratulations!:)

Ah..I'm not going today, but I am going to the mall with my mom to get new shoes.
I might go tomorrow. :)
Bye for now, everyone!
BTW-Thanks again..I can't tell you how much you guys mean to me!!! :D

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Good Morning, everyone! :)
Wow..you guys..You have brought me into tears. I really did not know you all cared this much. I understand what you all are saying, and wow. You guys really, truley do NOT know how much I appreciate it. You guys are my family. If I could, I would make a big private town somewhere beautiful just for Pet Talkers!
Gini, I usually don't swear. I certainly do not swear at my parents like that. I was just so angry at him for doing that to me, and so mad that he never listens, that I just had to let it slip.
So, things are going pretty good right now. I just woke up about 15 minutes ago. I guess right now I am going to just go downstairs, eat some breakfast, drink some OJ, and watch a little Animal Planet with Darlin.
My mom might even take me to the pound today! :)

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Foam, I know you're a very sweet girl, and I know that age 12 is a hard age, with all those crazy hormones. :p I was 12 just a few years ago, and I know how bad it was. Even the smallest thing is very hurtful for a girl at that age, and for most of her teens, so I truely understand why you felt that why. Unfortunately, fathers, being males, do not exactly understand the problems their little girls go through, so its hard for them to comprehend what their girls problem is when she doesn't listen or makes a fuss and tend to get angry at us themselves.

I personally think your dad had the right to get you off the phone. I'm not allowed to chat on the phone at night myself, and I respect my parent's wishes, because I know that as my parents, they know what's best for me, and sometimes we don't understand why, but with their lifelong experience, they know what's best for their children and care. I believe your father loves you as all parents do, and only tells you not to do things because he loves you and cares for you, and wants you to do what's best. When he asked you to get off the phone, I know its frustrating and hard when you're talking to someone, but next time, smile, and tell him, "Sure dad, just let me say goodbye." I sure hope he'll understand.

I turely disapprove greatly of you using the *f* word on your own father. I'm glad to hear you try your best not to use such words on your parents, but this is one particularily harsh word, and its very wrong to use on your parents. I for one, wouldn't even use this word for my enemy. So please, no matter how upset/bad you feel, please don't talk to your parents like that.

I think your father slapped you because he felt hurt, being cussed at by his very own daughter. He didn't do the right thing, but then you didn't do the right thing either. I suggest that you give your daddy a big hug and tell him you're sorry and that you'll try your best to listen to him more, and hopefully, your parents will change their attitude towards you as well, and become more loving and kind.

Remember, when you feel down, we're all here for you. Don't leave us. When you feel upset, we're here to hear you vent.

PCB, thank you so much..I understand what you're saying. :) That was very nicely said, as well. Thanks!!! :D
I'm under storm watch, and tornado warnign right now, though. So I tihnk I'm off for the day.
Bye bye everyone! Thanks SO much again!! :)
**hugs to all PTers**

New arrival? That's great news! Kepe us updated with that. And you were going to leave PT? What's wrong with you! :p

I hope you can get your parents to understand you better and talk with your mom about your dad. I know what you mean about the swearing. It'll slip out--still he had NO RIGHT to slap you like that.

I hope everything is getting better for you. :D Give Darlin an extra hug form me ;)

Turns out the 'tornado' was just a huge dust storm with a little rain. :rolleyes: City people these days...;)
Anyways..I got some new shoes, new clothes and no new puppy. I did however stop by the petshop, to check on the puppies. They had the most GORGEOUS Siberian I have EVER seen!
He was pure white, with an exception of one cream spot on the back of his right ear. He had these beautiful EMERALD eyes, and was a nice size. We took him out to play, and boy..he was a cuddler. Niot like a normal Sibe puppy. He chased the ball a few times, and then just layed down beside me, head on my knee and let me pet him. He was so sweet! :)

I've read through the whole thread and honestly can say I feel bad for you but know how it is to haev a dad who doesn't listen.

Good luck, I was depressed at the age of 12. I had no friends and my grandfather had just died so I was having a hard time and was depressed, not saying you are depressed. Just take care of yourself ok? And be carefull "abusive" people are scary.

Ash

Glad to hear you aren't leaving -- sounds like you need somewhere to go to vent! This place is just perfect! :D

About the father situation ... Think about it the other way around ... Imagine if you had a kid and they cussed on you and told you they hate you? A bit harsh I think .. BUT that didn't give your father the right to hit you - thats just wrong. I made my dad really mad at me a few times while growing up, but not once did he hit me. Just watch what you say next time - no matter how hard! It will only make things worse ..

Oh, gosh, that's horrible. I feel so bad:( I'm not sure what words to use. I'm glad you're staying, we all care so much about you.

I know how hard it is to be a teen (hey, I am one you know;)). I hate school (I just started a new one and don't really have many friends), but it's getting better because I have made some really great friends. My animals are practialy the only things that keep me going. Sometimes I just want to scream, and leave, but I don't have anywhere to go. Sometimes I want to die even, but then I cry it out and feel a little better.

Please PM me, IM me (my name is racinbarrels100 ) e-mail me, something, I would love to talk to you about 'stuff':)

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Don't say stuff like that ... I just hate to hear that . No matter how bad things get, in time things will eventually get twice as better :) Just keep dreaming of the day when you get to move out of your parents house and live on your own - I was so happy when that day came!

Thanks Scanty Nebula:) It's just that things are so hard for me with school and people. And my parents are divorced (pretty recently) and they hate eachother, and......:( I find myself crying more and more often.....

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I understand ... just keep in mind that it is only temporary. Who ever said life was easy? :o The important thing is to keep dreaming and planning a future for yourself :)

Foam--

I truly know how you feel. My parents are the same way sometimes and I also have wanted to die. Even when I see animals being mistreated I just want to leave this planet so I don't have to deal with seeing it or hearing about. I've had a bottle of asprin in my hand and a few times I've thought about it, but then Abby appears next to me and I change my mind. Just listen to me. Don't give up on anything. You're your own person and even though your dad has the right to tell you to do things, just hang out in your room and be your own person. Write in a journal or listen to music or something to take your mind off of things. Cry, whatever, but don't give up.

Hope ya have a better day... And remember, I'm here when you want to TALK to me... hint hint...

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My parents divorced what seems to be like just yesterday but was a year ago. It's hard, but all of us kids new it was going to happen soon. I'd love to talk to you about it as I know how you feel.


Ash

Well, I just got done reading the entire thread. I'm so glad that everyone was here for you in your time of need & that you decided to stay. We'd really miss you around here!
Take care of yourself girl!
Anna

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That's how I feel now. I hate being a teen, these are truly my hardest years of life:( I just want to leave sometimes(not PT;)). I think about dying, but I know I'd NEVER commit suicide. I just want to escape into my own world:p But then I think about Blueberry and what would happen if I was gone or whatever, and it makes me feel that life is worth living, and this will all be over soon. (hopefully) I just want to skip ahead maybe 8 years, and get out of school.

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Same here. I sometimes feel like I don't belong. That I'm different then everyone in my family (well, not you guys. ;)) Even when im feeling really depressed, Daisy will come up to me and lay in my lap. Right then I know I couldn't just leave her, shes what keeps me going through hard times.

Oh, BTW thanks for that chat yesterday...you really cheered me up. :)

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My parents divorced what seems to be like just yesterday but was a year ago. It's hard, but all of us kids new it was going to happen soon. I'd love to talk to you about it as I know how you feel.


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Thanks, Ash:) I'd also love to talk with you. My screen name for AIM is racinbarrels100

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No problem Julie. I think it cheered me up too:)

First off.
Foam, I am so sorry you are having a rough time. 12 doesn't last forever! You look like such a beautiful, strong, happy girl. Definatley talk to your mom or an aunt or someone. It certainly sounds like depression. And it might not hurt to visit your doctor. Just to talk.
Your father does not every need to hit you not even sometimes.
I believe in spanking but slapping is out of control. Yes he might have been hurt that you swore at him like that but retaliating by slapping you is immature and childlike. And certainly not an excuse. He might need anger management classes. And if he is convicted of child abuse he will get them. I never swore at my parents. I would not now either and I am almost 28 years old. If I ever ever ever used the "F bomb'' in front of my mom, hell hath no fury of what she would do. But if my dad ever ever ever would have hit me the way yours hit you, hell hath no fury either. Your mom should not be allowing this to continue, I wonder if he hits her too. ***don't answer that***
I certainly don't agree with threatening your parents with ' if you touch me I will call the cops' I think that is what is wrong with our society. Well at least part of it. The times I can remember getting spanked as a kid I certainly deserved it, but never ever ever was there a time that I was struck upside the head, slapped in the face, or hit with anything other than the designated paddle or yard stick.
Keep Darlin close to you. And hint to your mom that the way that your dad treats animals is also a sign of the way he treats people. I certainly am not accusing him of anything. Just an FYI.
My friend who I got Kylie off of gave her up b/c her now husband didn't like her and threw her across the room. :mad:
She totally disregarded everyone telling her that he was a known abuser and have been in jail for domestic violence. She went ahead and married him and I just hope and pray for her sake that he has changed like she thinks he has and isn't using her as a punching bag.
My dad and I have a very close relationship, I am a 'daddy's girl' no matter how old or big I get. It hurts me when I see things like this happening b/c I know how good it could be.
You are in my thoughts and prayers. Feel free to IM me or PM me if you need anything. :)

I haven't been on in a while, and I just caught up on this thread. I'm glad to hear everything seems to get better, and I will continue to keep you in my thoughts. I'm so glad you decided to stay here though--Pet Talk is so theraputic!!!!

As for those of you with the divorced parents, I went through it, almost 20 years ago, and it still feels like last year. It was horrible, with the custody battles and everything, and my mother trying to bribe my sister and I. I have a great relationship with my father and stepmother now, and wouldn't trade it for anything.
Feel free to pm me if you just need to vent about it--believe me, I do understand.