For some reason, this got me a bit upset...

What great motherly and friendly advice you have gotten, Britt! :) I had one boyfriend in my life, and that was Helen's dad. We started dating when we were 15. We never really saw anyone else. I think we both can look back and see how we limited ourselves and wish maybe that we had followed a different path. Half my life was spent with that boy/man, and what a rude awakening to be out there "available" again at 30 years old!!! I was scared to death.

So, I learned my lesson at an older age, than most, and I had a two year old, so my focus was on her. My point is that I have spent the last ten years of my life, "catching up" on the things I should have been doing when I was younger, focusing on the things I enjoyed and the things my daughter enjoyed. It took ten years to find the perfect person to fill a missing gap, that I didn't even know I was missing!

You follow your heart. You are a beautiful, strong girl. And one day, when the time is right, then the right guy will probably sweep you off your feet! But I'm telling you now, that waiting is NOT a big deal, and I can say that easily, because my daughter is now 12 years old, and if she got "asked out", I would adimately be saying NO!!!! :)

Logan

I went out with my first REAL boyfriend when I was in grade 8.

then we broke up around 3 months later.

Then I found anohter guy i liked more then the first, and went out with him in grade 9, that relationship lasted almost 6 months.

then we broke up because I was going to a different school and all this other crud..

Dont worrie about guys, they are all immature at your age.

I am in grade 11 and I have only had 2 boyfriends.

Wow, thanks everyone. :)

I decided I'm not gunna go to the movies with my friends. I was talking to my other friends, and they said it was mean for her to invite me to the movies on her double-date. And then the best friend of her b/f asked her if she wanted to "make out" at the movies...gross! I really think that's disgusting. Yuck yuck yuck! 13??? OK I'll quit my panic attack.

Anyways, thanks again for all the help. I think I have chosen the friends I will still hang out with, and those aren't the ones hugging & kissing in front of me. :)

{{{Hugs}}}

Hey Britt :D Hope my advice aint to late! But I just wanted to tell you, and I may not be the best person to tell you this since I'm probly the "ugliest" person in the school (j/k) I'm telling you, thinking yourself as pretty helps alot. I know that most people think of me as over weight and ugly. Now me, I think I'm pretty and I could do much better then those guys at my school who are to shallow to date me because I'm not skinny enough or because of what there friends think. Look for a guy who is goign to date you ebcause of you, not because of your pretty Brown hair or your other good features.

I just hope that you see how pretty you really are and I have seen you in person and I know how pretty you are. you just keep telling yourself how pretty you are and soon everyone else will think so to.

Ash

ps: Britt, don't date till your 16, guys are age are...well...we won't go into it...but wait.

Hi there Britt,
Another one with motherly advice here, but first i want to say after reading your threads i think u have something those others probably dont MATURITY, honestly for a girl of is it 14 u sound like you have a good sensible head on your shoulders.
I can understand at 14 , if all your friends are dating, u would feel left out, but as everyone else has said there is plenty time in your life for that.
I had my first boyfriend at 16, he was a red headed Canadian actually and he dumped me because i would not sleep with him, he was at least three years older than me, but i stuck to my guns, it hurt like hell because i thought i really loved him, wow did i have lots to learn.
I have a daughter who is going on 11 and she has formed a friendship with a boy of 14 who lives about 2 hrs away from us, he is my neices , husbands brother and was at their wedding, both my daughter and he were in the wedding party, i let them be friends, they text message each other and talk online, and they will c each other this weekend as we are going there, and play ps2 together, but no way will they ever date, besides she is more interested in playing Barbie dolls with her friends, maybe when they are older if they like each other still we shall see. i think its ok to nuture the friendship, but dating not even a thought.
We in nz always thought americans started dating far too young, and were so grown up looking for their ages, but now it seems its the same here in nz.
Now i have not seen your pics, but from what everyone says u are a looker, no matter what always believe you are beautiful inside and out ok.
Now take care and have FUN FUN FUN without those boys ok cheers

Thanks Ash, it's never too late for advice. :) I probably won't date until 16 or later, cause nobody's mature enough in my grade to handle a relationship the way I think it should be cherished as.

Carole, thanks for the advice. :) Maybe I am a *bit* mature for my age... ;)

Since everyone is already saying how pretty you are, lol, I'll say again that you are pretty, and tell you how I finally stopped seeing myself as ugly :)

Well, when I look around, I see alot of people who are prettier than me. But I think about how lucky I am that atleast I'm healthy, I'm at a good weight, other people like my hair even if I hate it.. , and I pick certain features that I like about myself :)

Try it, you are so pretty, I'm sure if you just think about how lucky you are, and that others think you are good looking, that you will see yourself as pretty too! :D You aren't overweight, you have great hair, a very pretty face; try and think of more things; You'll see ;)

And although I don't think you are too young to date, I believe that you are very right that a relationship can't be cherished until someone is more mature. I mean the guys of course ;)

I use to get teased alot when I was in high school & back in elementary school. Everyone use to call me gay & ugly, & alot more mean things because I only hung ot with guys, but never dated one.

Then I turned 16 & met a really nice guy that didn't know my past & liked me for who I was. I'm now 20 & will be 21 on aug 23 & I'm still with him.

So doen't rush into it no matter how mean the other kids r, mr right will pop up in the future.

Over here, no one has a bf. Its considered VERY bad to have one. Only few girls have one and everyone knows them as bad girls, and street girls. Its not encouraged culture here. Only some people have them, but very few. If someone saw someone hugging a boy here in public, that would be SOOOOOOOOOO gross and I think everyone would be disgusted and make fun of them. Ewwww Ewwww Ewwww Like you feel sad and left out not to have one, here, its the opposite. You would feel strange and left out if you did have one. :eek:

And if you are only 13, well, I can't even believe girls in America that are 13 think they are so grown up like your friends. Over here, even 18 is just a little girl. :eek: My little sister is almost 12 and she is just my little baby sister still. ;)

GOSH isn't interesting to read about different cultures, maybe we could learn a valuable lesson here to let children be just that children, they are growing up way too fast these days.

I am now 22 years old, and I have had 3 serious relationships and 2 guys that I dated a couple times. My first boyfriend I had when I was just 14, and I was with him for over a year. Despite some feelings on here, there was nothing "disgusting" or immoral or hormonal about it. He was my first love (I always will consider him to be my first love - I loved him with all the knowledge and experience I had at the time, and just because I was young it DOES NOT mean it wasn't real) and we had a very sweet relationship. Just because a 14 year old has a boyfriend it doesn't automatically mean that they are being irresponsible and having sex any time an adult isn't looking. I had other friends at the time who also had boyfriends. None of the relationships at that age were sexual. Yes, we were young, but we weren't stupid. I don't think it's right to say that *just* because you are a certain age, that makes you too young to date. It totally depends on maturity level and on the maturity level of the guy/girl you go out with.

Britt, if you don't feel like you are ready to date, don't let yourself be pressured into it. It sounds like you know that your self worth comes from within and not from how many guys find you "hot" so I think you have a good head on your shoulders. Good for you for standing up for what you believe :)

Nomilyn u raised some very good points, and i totally agree with u, depends on the teenager,as a mum of a young daughter, i will remember your words when she reaches that age and take everything into account if she should want to start dating at that age.

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Originally posted by carole
Nomilyn u raised some very good points, and i totally agree with u, depends on the teenager,as a mum of a young daughter, i will remember your words when she reaches that age and take everything into account if she should want to start dating at that age.

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Thanks :)