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Well said catland!
but I can't quite explain it. I guess it's because of new member and new thoughts. But this is good, change is good even though most of us don't like it:p
I'm glad I've found a place that I can share my dogs (problems or not) and share everyone elses pets too! I've found some of the most wonderful people here & wouldn't trade it for the world!
Here it seems everyone is not out to judge you, they like you for who you are (or should I say like your pets for who they are;) )
I love when we can talk and people listen to others views without the "flaming" that others have talked about. We are all different, we have different views on things. Isn't this what life is all about? Just think how boring Pet Talk would be if we all talked about or liked the same things!
Thanks to our founders Karen & Paul:D
Well, I am a 'newer' member, having joined in September, I think, but a fairly regular poster. And, I am one of the ones that could be accused of being a flame thrower. I don't know what the old PT was like, and I like the format currently.
I would probably stick closer to the age limit, as I find some of the younger posters irresponsible at best. I don't like the blow by blow account of some of the more youthful posters. But, there are some youthful posters that I don't have any concerns with. So, I don't know how you make the judgment as to who is too young, and who isn't. I admit that youth isn't always the dictator. I can state with certainty that the one thing that peeves me to no end is someone with 5-10 posts to their name coming in and stirring up all kinds of trouble. I don't mean to imply that just because someone has a certain number of posts they have unfettered discretion, BUT, it is the same on the 'net as it is in real life, you gotta test the waters before you start screaming shark. ( I just made that phrase up!!).
But, on the other hand, I can say after getting to know some people, and I hope they won't be offended by me referencing them, cause I mean it in a complimentary way, like Popcorn and Floppsy, I have a different level of respect/admiration for them. Should I have had that initially? Sure. But, I now see things that I might disagree with, but, because I have some history with them, I am soooo much more tolerant, and able to 'listen' to their side. But, that does tie in to my statment that people with 5-10 or so posts should sit back and develop a relationship with the board before insulting half of it's members.
And, another thing, I think when I write as much as I did on this post, it should count as 10 posts, so I can catch up to Jen!!! :D
Well said Amy. I think I have been crankier then usual, and I also apoligize. Maybe it is "winter blues"? Hopefullt spring will be better for us all :)Quote:
Originally posted by wolf_Q
Yeah, this thread has me thinking about it.....it seems since the new year everyone's been even more angry....well, at least it seems that way to me.
I'll admit, I'm one of them that's been on the crabby side lately. I'm sorry. It's just that some people drive me crazy....and I'm sure I drive others crazy too! Anyway, I think we *all* need to start being more tolerant of eachother.
Let's make Pet Talk the *happy* place it normally is! :D
thanks to all those who complimented my signature and who sai di don't piss them off. glad i don't :D nobody gets me mad here unless they are posting under different names ect. nothing personal, it just aggravates me. :rolleyes:
sarah - i'm 15 :D i thought you were much older than 12! ;)
I mostly like how if we dont really like somthing and enough people feel the same way, paul or karen try and change it for us. I also love how the interact on here, because on all my oher message boards the moniters never reply.
lol @ how no one denied what i said. Guess i was correct. oh well.
This is my only pet peeve I guess. Like Randi says, some of them are very nice, but.....Quote:
Originally posted by Randi
Concerning changes, I'd like that signatures was limited to a certain size, many of them I find way too big, they take up so much space in some posts. Some of them are very nice, but still ...
I really like the "international" flavor we have here. I've been on other boards before, but this is the only one that has so many from other countries. To me, this is a good thing because it brings different ideas and different viewpoints for us to all think about. Sometimes these different viewpoints can cause tempers to fly, but I guess that is to be expected when the whole world is on edge.
It has been a long winter, which doesn't help the tempers any, and we've had a run of bad news and pet deaths here at PT which may be lending itself to the "negative" tone that is being mentioned. Maybe we could all just relax a little and not take every little comment so literally or so personally. Listen with an open mind and realize that just because someone has a different opinion, it's not necessarily wrong - it's just different. Another thing that might help is if you know you are having a bad day and are somewhat testy - don't post! Turn off your computer and go do something that makes you happy instead of taking your frustrations out here.
I have no idea what everyone is talking about with people signing in under different names and such, but the thing that really bothered me recently was when someone gave AdoreMyDog's thread about Minnion being sick a one star rating. That is just plain mean, and if there is someway to find out who did that, they should be banned from here.
Other than that, I love it here. Everytime I stop in I find something to smile at and something to brighten my day, and those posts/threads that have a negative flair I just ignore.
So let's all be happy....and bring on the newborn kitty pictures! ;) :D
KayAnn! You know that's not true! You are one of my best friends! :DQuote:
Originally posted by Kfamr
lol @ how no one denied what i said. Guess i was correct. oh well.
you don't count :pQuote:
Originally posted by wolf_Q
KayAnn! You know that's not true! You are one of my best friends! :D
I have never noticed people using more than one name.
Just about everyone is very nice on this board. One person rudely answered one of my posts without knowing all the facts. Thats what the ignore list is for.
It does bother me to see the bad spelling, on all boards not just this one. If I am not sure how to spell something, I look it up or use another word.
I love the PT.
I've never been down here on the general. I'm always over on the cat side.
Things I love are:
How it's divided into cats, dogs, pets, etc.
How the fire dogs come for special needs and condolences.
How concerned the people are for you and your pet.
What a wonderful job Karen and Paul do for us.
Things I don't love:
How anyone could right cruel things, without trying to mentor a new pet owner who may not know any better.
How sometimes people can get off topic.
How rudeness or fighting happens. (but this happens much less than I would imagine with 6000 people aboard)
How sometimes there are pictures of children or we are directed to links of their children with the pets.
What I love far out weighs the dislikes and find it no bother to move right over things I'm not interested in.
I always have a positive visit in PT. Although sad news can make me feel bad, that's part of being alive.
thanks to all
Well, I haven't been posting here too long, so I haven't noticed anything different.
Well, maybe just a little ... it seems that maybe people feel a little more free to speak their minds and give their opinions lately. And I think this is a good thing, as long as it is done assertively, not aggressively.
When I first started posting here, I wasn't sure if I was going to stick around or not ... simply because it seemed that unless your comment was sticky-sugary-saccarrin-sweet, you'd better not even think of typing it ... JMHO. Now it seems like people are realizing it's ok to say, "Hey, I disagree, and here is why ...." That's a good thing; it's how we learn and grow.
I agree!!! Some of the signatures are HUGE, and if you are poor and have an old, slow computer (like me!), they take FOREVER to load!Quote:
Concerning changes, I'd like that signatures was limited to a certain size, many of them I find way too big, they take up so much space in some posts. Some of them are very nice, but still ...
I personally don't have a problem at all with you or your posts, Kfamr. I wouldn't take this thread so personally, if I were you.Quote:
lol @ how no one denied what i said. Guess i was correct. oh well.
I don't understand. You are offended because someone posts a picture of their pet with their child? Surely I'm misunderstanding you?!Quote:
How sometimes there are pictures of children or we are directed to links of their children with the pets.
I think Rose meant she felt is might be a safety issue to post pics of your children with your pets. :)
Glad you helped to clarify that Cataholic. I personally love seeing pictures of children with pets. After all they are the next generation of furmommies and furdaddies and it makes me happy to see their lives being enriched this way and a love for animals being encouraged. :)Quote:
Originally posted by Cataholic
I think Rose meant she felt is might be a safety issue to post pics of your children with your pets. :)
Hey, I couldn'd have said it better!!Quote:
Originally posted by catland
I like some of the "new kids" - I wouldn't ever want Pet Talk to get too cliqueish with just the same group all the time. New people introduce us to new points of view, new locations and experiences and even religions and I'm ok with that. It's really fun to know that I'm chatting with people from all over the world
I also like hearing from our younger members. I enjoy their youthful exhuberance. Also, some of them occasionally have some serious problems and I feel like we're able to comfort them and help them.
My solution to Pettalkers that annoy me? I ignore them. I don't respond to their posts and don't even bother to open new threads started by them. This works for me. But hey, we're a community, there are always going to be personality conflicts - that's a part of life. Just as long as we keep our main focus - our love of our pets, then we all have common ground.
I also like what Randi said:
Also, it would be nice to have a search feature where you could search for where the members come from - it could be country or state, but I realise that it would have to be typed into the members profiles.
Karen & Paul, thanks for this super forum, it is part of my life now, a part i couldn't live without anymore!!!
I do not know how many of you take the time to surf the net. I have found that there are many other "cat-chat" forums to choose from. But I have not found one that is as kind, non- juidgemental, and helpful (and not to mention, busy) as these folks on Pet Talk. Considering the legalists and other trouble-makers, which can be spotted easily on most of the other forums, I'd say that we have been blessed with such a great bunch of folks on Pet Talk because I have seen a few posts from the know-it-all legalists. As long as we ignore them, they will leave of their own volition, because they soon find out that we are not interested in arguing with them. As far as allowing the younger members, they are all welcome, provided they do not argue with us "old folks". Of course there are those rare occasions when it is necessary to bar some from re-intering the forum. I believe that we had a case of this just recently.
Our moderators have their hands full and this is a credit to them, as they all have outside jobs, and then come home in the evenings and have to face the demands of this very active and popular forum.
I think the only thing I would change is how we place the smilies on our posts. I have not found a way to edit them into a post, although they can be taken out with ease. This may appear to be a minor thing, but us men have a more difficult time in presenting emotions to our posts, not like the girls, and therefore, I personally depend on them to help fix-up my messages. What I would like to see with the smilies, is that when it comes time to edit them into a post, (which I edit mine most of the time anyway) that we can insert an appropriate smilie without ereasing all message after it's position has been determined.
.......wayne
Wayne, you can always type them in by hand, you know! That's what I do since I hate having to interrupt my typing just to click one of the smileys.
I am fairly new so I don't know about any changes. I like the look of the site and it seems well maintained. I love the pet photos that people post, and pet, cat, dog of the day photos.
Trying this again. Yesterday the PT glitch blocked my soapbox. Here goes. :)
First, this is one of the most polite, well-run site I've visited. For the most part, we can have spirited debates about many hot issues without it degenerating into a flame war. I've been on sites where people got in flame wars about CAT FOOD. Get a grip!
Second is my take on Internet communication. We depend solely on the written word, without any other cues like inflection and body language. Emoticons help but only to a point.
Because of this "one-dimensional" communication, rules and conventions have been developed. I think the best one is the admonition against ALL CAPS.
Many folks use abbreviations (u r here, for example.) This is from text messaging from cell phone screens and is spilling over. Like any language shift, it becomes more acceptable as it becomes familiar. My tenth grade English teacher would not have approved! This does not imply illiteracy, but with that in mind...
Many people here have English as a second language and I applaud that you are here. Before someones goes and disrespects anyone's grammar, spelling, etc. they should try to go on a Dutch, Russian or Spanish web site and try to write in that language. :p
Well so much for that soap box. I'm just interested in how folks communicate in different media.
Ann, OK on the typing them in by hand. However, I have never seen a web-site that isn't set up so we can insert a smiley into our post.:) I would personally edit more of them into my posts if it could be done.
Also, about spelling, considering that some of us do not spell very well, perhaps they could learn more and also learn how to put their ideas on the forum better, by simply reading the various posts. I know that I am not the best speller on the fourm, but whenever I run across a word that doesn't look right after spelling it or not knowing how to spell it, I keep a dictionary next to my computer to help that problem.
.........wayne
Funny? No.
I, too, get aggravated when folks use abbreviations, incorrect spellings etc. that are so darn vague, that you cannot understand the thought. I am not talking about people using English as a second or third or fourth language. I am talking about the people too lazy to type a word correctly.
No wait, I am a poor speller and a fast typist and that is the worst combination. I wish this forum had spell check, but then, I would be adding incorrectly spelled words to "My Dictionary" on a moment to moment basis.
I think a happy medium would work for everyone. So that means, check your spelling as best you can, don't abbreviate as often as you can.....I am not talking about St. and Saint....it's the ones that make NO sense and it almost looks like the person had their hands one row over, on the keyboards.
So for all the "one row over folks", wake up and pay attention. We all have to read these posts or......................
Love,
Sas and her brat
;)
i don't have a problem with you or your posts. i did mention no one gets me angry in my post. oh well...:p i hope you don't not like me. lol, i didn't wanna say "like" that would sound weirdish ;)Quote:
lol @ how no one denied what i said. Guess i was correct. oh well.
I don't have a problem with your posts either, KayAnn! I actually don't have a problem with anyone's posts, well except if they say something cruel about animals...but I haven't seen that happen yet. :)
Oh, and anyone who has a problem with my (NEW) posts, I'm sorry I did something or said something that you did not approve of.
P.S. Yes I realize my siggy is too big...I'm trying to resize it.:)
Having met Karen and Paul, I know this site is most precious to them. I do believe they do a wonderful job in moderating and because of them and their hard work it has grown to be the premier pet site.
I don't come in and post as much as I'd like, but try to do the dotd and since so many people do the cotd, I try to post in the potd. There are so many people in here who love pets, I don't understand why more don't take a look and post in these forums.
Call me old fashioned, but everything in this site is geared towards pets and I don't believe politics should be included here.
If you are into politics there are many, many sites that are available. Perhaps this won't set well with some people, but didn't you all join because you love pets?
One of my pet peeves is this country being bashed, I have never, ever, heard anyone else bash another country besides the U.S. This is one reason that I have stayed away, I don't feel that has anything to do with pets.
I think most of the kids love their pets, just as us older people do and it's nice for them to learn how important pets are in our life, however there are a few who can be silly, and post silly topics.
The forum is really great, however I still can't figure out how to post pictures and gifs, and I probably never will, a little to complicated for this old lady, lol.
Being old fashioned I guess I do miss the ole sugar sweet posts of old, but there are a lot of wonderful new members too and I love reading about their pets. I would have to say this is a wonderful pet friendly site with wonderful friendly people. I have made a lot of great friends on here that I treasure.
Jackie, Perry and Miss Daisy
Dear Jackie, we miss you so here and would love to have you post more often. I rather like the sugary posts more than the policitical battles and religious battles we have here from time to time. I, too, feel as though there must be other places to air your feelings about major topics other than Pets. I will have to admit to having posted other topics, but I don't think they were so contraversial. I don't think this is the forum for hurt feelings and rudeness. Have I ever been rude, well, probably, but we are not perfect, are we?
So Jackie deary, please do stop back more often and share more fun stuff with us!
Sas and her brat!
I have only been around since October, but I have seen some changes. I felt the same way as Twisterdog, that all posts had to be sweet and positive, and sometimes that just isn't possible. Now I see too many rude remarks being made, and it makes me mad. I really think this winter has gotten to a lot of us--I know it has gotten to me, and even to my husband, who never gets depressed. A lot of us don't know everything that is going on in everyone else's lives either--it's very hard to judge emotion from a computer screen.
Anyway, I really despise people joining under more than one name just to spark an argument or stand up for someone--I think everyone who has mentioned that is talking about the same thread. That happened in a board I was on last year while planning my wedding, and I was in a particuarly stressed out time, and I typed for an hour about how immature they were--not that I'm the authority, but they never came back. I don't think we'll hear from the other ones again either, unless they feel the need to defend again. I also can't stand the abbreviations and words spelled wrong--that is just a personal preference--I have always picked apart everyone's spelling--even on aim I am constantly correcting my sister (and she does it on purpose)
Overall, I love this board. Although I have never met anyone in real life, I feel as though I have made some good friends, and I hope someday I do have the opportunity to meet you all.
Karen and Paul--thank you so much for such a wonderful community--keep up your hard work!!!!!
I have only been on PT for a few hours:rolleyes: And there (of course) have been no changes so far! I like it here. Everyone is so nice and friendly, plus the pets are adorible!:) :p ;)
To everyone, thank you for all the thanks!
Now, YOU are all what makes Pet Talk what it is.
I say that both to thank you all, and to remind you that while we moderate, you set the tone with every post! I never have a problem with honest disagreements, as long as they are all done respectfully. If anyone feels a thread is getting too angry, well, don't post in it, if you are angry yourself! Go skritch somebody's tummy, or rub a bunny nose, or in some way interact with the pets that bring you joy - and indeed brought you here. When your blood pressure is down, come back!
It has been a pretty sad, stressful time in the world out there, but here, we have our pets, and each other, in whom to find joy! :)
Wonderfully said Karen, and I could not agree with you more.Quote:
Originally posted by Karen
It has been a pretty sad, stressful time in the world out there, but here, we have our pets, and each other, in whom to find joy! :)
AMEN !!!!!!!!!!!
Karen , YOU are the best!! Thanks for thanking !!
PetTalk is such a special place. It is part of my life every day. All of you, young and old, furry or not, are part of my life, and I'm very glad! I hope that Karen and Paul, and all of the rest of you too, know that you make a difference!
So many good points have been made in this discussion. I believe that the "age" issue is really a "maturity" issue. So many of the younger contributors have learned and grown while here on PetTalk :cool: - and a few of the older contributors have acted shamefully immature :mad:.
Respect for each other is a key - We can continue to show our respect for each other by keeping grammar and language understandable, by keeping picture sizes modest, and by keeping replies aimed at the topic and not the individual.
I am proud to be part of this community - where people from around the world meet and share their passion for creatures of all kinds. Like any family, we have our troubles, but we are one great bunch!
Yeah, I agree. There have also been a few *disturbing* threads in the dog forum that I think really put me, and possibly some others, in a funk and a very angry mood.Quote:
Originally posted by lovemyshiba
I really think this winter has gotten to a lot of us--I know it has gotten to me, and even to my husband, who never gets depressed.
My comments about spelling and grammar were only directed towards native speakers. There are many English-as-second-language speakers here, and I have never had a problem understanding their posts. In fact, they always seem to me to be impeccable! I was referring to laziness. Especially a lack of punctuation and basic grammar.
Oh, and I agree with the all caps thing.
I agree with this. From what I have seen on the internet, ESL speakers (or typers, as it were) often use better grammar, punctuation and spelling than many native English speakers.Quote:
My comments about spelling and grammar were only directed towards native speakers. There are many English-as-second-language speakers here, and I have never had a problem understanding their posts. In fact, they always seem to me to be impeccable! I was referring to laziness. Especially a lack of punctuation and basic grammar.
The things that get me are typing "U R, prolly, 4" instead of "you are, probably, for", etc. I suppose it's cute the first time you do it, if you are eleven years old, but it gets old really, really fast. I also simply cannot bear to read a post that is 200 lines long, with no paragraphs. Yikes! :rolleyes:
Soledad, I don't think anyone disagrees with you about the folks with English as a second language. I didn't read it that way at all. Certainly, those who don't use English every day, have a much stronger excuse to have mistakes. Also, folks who cannot type are at a disadvantage as well. Regardless, the better the expression of thought, the easier it is to read and read quickly. Sometimes the spelling is so bad in some of the threads that I just close the thread and move on.
There is one more thing that sets me off here too. I get ticked off when someone creates a thread that sounds life threatening i.e. "Help, my dog is in trouble"....and it turns out to be something really lame. I will admit that most of the time it is coming from some who are young and needing attention, but it is crying wolf all the time. Now, after seeing the same attention getting, lame postings, I don't even open those threads when I see the author(s). Oh well, life is full of choices and some folks have chosen to get attention in their own little fashion! Pet Talk rules anyway!
That's all. I am all through. I feel much better now.
Sas
I just found out today how to add an image to a signature and was quite excited but after reading some of your comments about sigs being big, I guess I'll revise mine until such time that I can figure out how to make a picture really small! LOL
Being of "middle-age" I've learned that religion, politics and war are three subjects you just do NOT open up for debate on a forum like this. I'm not offended by it, I just don't bother reading or responding to them. Isn't that was MSN messenger is for??
And I must comment again that it amazes me how "like a family" we are. The caring and support that I see almost brings me to tears - I told you I was a sap! Many thanks to all who have shared your stories and pictures.
Luv
The only thing that I don't like, would have to be the negative comments, arguments and making fun...It makes me sad to hear things and be in situations like that :(
otherwise, everything is great :)
I don't know if this has been covered yet, but a change that
I would like to see is a limit to the number of threads posted
by the same person in one day. :rolleyes: Otherwise I think
Pet Talk is a great site. I do feel sometimes like we are all
extended "family". Paul & Karen have created a wonderful
site for all pet lovers.:D
As long as it's under 25k, that's fine. That's the limit we'd like people to stick to. So one 20k image is fine, but ten 9k images is not!Quote:
Originally posted by slick
I just found out today how to add an image to a signature and was quite excited but after reading some of your comments about sigs being big, I guess I'll revise mine until such time that I can figure out how to make a picture really small!