I am very sorry for your loss. It is very painfull to say goodbye to a beloved furrkid.
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I am very sorry for your loss. It is very painfull to say goodbye to a beloved furrkid.
Randi, I couldn't sleep for some reason (3:30 AM here) and decided to check in to Pet Talk, only to find this sad news.
My heart breaks for you. I know how hard it is to say goodbye to a beloved kitty. I know you can never replace Fister, but I bet there are a million kittens that would love to have you for a meowmie. As time passes, maybe another kitten will wiggle it's way into your home.
It sounds as though Fister had a smooth trip to RB and is now pain free.
Gosh, it seems like just yesterday, we heard about this backyard kitty you thought about bringing into your home. And now.... he is gone....
Your loss has brought many of us back to a place that is nothing but tears and sadness. It is part of life, and yet we all hate to deal with it. I know someday I will go too. But animals have always had a special spot in our daily lives and of course, in our hearts. Fister will always have that special place in all our hearts.
Farewell dear orangie guy, Fister. Farewell. Go find John.
Love and hugs,
Sas and her campers :love::love::love::love:
Don't forget about the Paypal to help you pay for all of this. OK?
I'm sorry to hear that Fister has gone to Rainbow Bridge. My thoughts are with you, I know how much it hurts. Fister will be with you always. xx
Kate
I’m trying to keep level-headed, but is so hard! :( I have to deal with Fister’s cremation tomorrow. I have of course thought about this earlier and decided to have Fister cremated seperately and have him in an urn in my bedroom, if I can find one I like. ADA's, who they use probably have some to choose from, but what if I don’t like any of them. The other choice is to have him cremated with other cats, but I feel I can’t do that. My boy needs something special! :love:
Fister is still at the hospital, I could not make a decision right after and I wanted to talk about this with his own vet, I trust him. I have written a letter to him to ask if they can ring me tomorrow morning and perhaps give me advise or arrange the cremation, but I don’t really know what to do. The vets have visited the place and they liked the way they handled it. But perhaps I should let the hospital arrange it after all, so Fister doesn't have to be moved. I promised to call the hospital monday and tell them my decision. Wish I lived in house with a garden!
Thank you everyone of you for your kind wishes and support. It does help a little now that I feel so alone. :love:
Oh Randi, I was thinking of you all morning and my heart breaks for you at the thought how alone you must feel, now that your boy is gone... I know how empty my flat was when I lost Katz; before Luna moved in... It was hard to bear.
Having him cremated is a nice thought, and I totally understand that you do not want him cremated with other cats. I hope all is handled the way you wish, and that you will find a nice urn, perfect for your boy. You're right, he deserves that!
Randi - I believe that it's a good choice you made to have Fister cremated. I have done this with most of my RB cats and dogs, as I too plan to be cremated and take them all with me when I am scattered. They all had "private" cremations, as I wanted only their remains and not that of other pets. If you don't care for the vessel that they put him in, there are many places on line that you can purchase pet cremation urns - just Google it.
My heart still breaks knowing what you are going thru right now. You will find the strength to get thru it and move on (tho differently), in time. Fister will always be in your heart, and that can never be taken away from you.
Randi, all of my RB babies have been. cremated and are with me. I had and will have again a memory table with them all on it with a fav toy or collar of theirs and of course photos. It gives me peace to have them near.
Sending you a big hug. You are not alone.
Randi, I thought of you as soon as I woke this morning and have been throughout the day. I remember only too well how hard it is. http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v1...iles/Hugs2.gif
Bobby was the first pet whose ashes I was able to have at home with me and I am so glad he's here, it's a comfort. I believe it is possible to get all sorts of containers but he is in a sealed plain wooden box with a plaque engraved with his name on top and I am happy with that.
Keeping you in my heart and thoughts.
You, who has done this, I can imagine it feels comforting having your dear one near and I feel Fister should be at home with me. Since I don't have a house with garden, that must be the obvious choice.
Chris, I think I remember seeing the box you got for Bobby and that was very nice.
I just don't want some ghastly shiny container.
My neighbor also told about someone who makes jewelry where she puts part of the ashes inside, like a necklace, that also appeals to me in a way.
Will try to find something online to see what the choices are.
Randi - PT's own "Glacier" does this - memorial beads as they are called. She made a couple of pieces for me with some of Sparky's ashes. They are quite lovely, and I wear the heart shaped one just about every day.Quote:
Originally Posted by Randi
Randi, I am so sorry. I saw the post on Facebook and came straight to Cat Health. When I saw it was locked, my heart sank.
My sincerest condolences to you on your loss. :( Fister was such a handsome guy. Many hugs for you from across the miles.
Randi, I think having Fister's ashes will be comforting for you. Even if you don't know exactly what you'll do with the ashes, just having them will give you a chance to find the best idea later on. It's so hard to make clear choices when you're so sad. I have the ashes of all of my previous pets and the plan has always been to sprinkle them around a tree 'when' we find our forever home. But we keep moving so that hasn't happened. So I've been thinking about buying a potted plant or two that could be placed in a garden one day and will sprinke the ashes in there. Maybe you could find a beautiful plant and it could be indoors permanantly and have Fister's ashes be part of it and you can nurture it and watch it grow. And if you ever changed your residence and had a garden at some point, you could have the option of planting it outdoors or just continue on with it being an indoor plant.
Whatever you decide, I hope that it will help make him feel close so that you can heal. :love:
Thank you, Catty1- waiting to hear what you find out.Quote:
Originally Posted by Catty1
Randi, my sister has her cats' ashes. She found a pretty ceramic jar, with a lid, with cats on it. She put the tins from the veterinary hospital right in the jar, and put the lid back on. You'd never know what's in the jar unless you were to open it. She keeps a framed picture of the two of them next to the jar. Please do let us know what you find out about this.
Fister, sweet boy, I am sure you were met by many people at the Rainbow Bridge... John, Corinna, Phred, Terry... and all the RB pets too. I will see you in heaven, One Fine Day.
Edited to add-- here is Tamara's (Glacier) Etsy page. http://www.etsy.com/shop/bieyedbeading
Throughout the day I have felt so down. I also feel...nothing matters anymore. One of the worst things is that I could not spend a few days more with Fister at home - I would have given anything for that! I really had expected I could take home for a few days.
I sometimes doubt if I made the right decision to let him go, but both the vets at the hospital said it was right to let him go - he needed fluids continiously to be comfortable, and as time went by, he would suffer more, they said. I didn't want that. Fister's liver was in a bad way and there were other issues. I just wish Fister could have talked to me and told me what he wanted - although I know that in my heart.
Last week, I had a long and intense cuddle session with him, I'm glad for that. :love:
If it weren't for Fister, I would not have known Pet Talk.
Fister is now with his hero, John, and I know that Pjevs is there, too - and surely Phred is!
Randi, I think it's just natural that you're now doubting your decision... And yes, it's sad that you didn't have more time with him, a few more days at home to say good bye... But maybe these days would have meant more suffering for Fister, maybe the vets were right; it's always hard to tell. The cuddle session that you had last week, maybe that was his way to say good bye, to let you know how much he loves you. And now he's with John and Pjevs, and - I'm sure - with Phred, and I'm sure all them would tell you not to let this great emptiness fill your heart. I can understand you feel this way, but it will get better - some day....
Randi
I'd like to share my experience with you on what you might do regarding cremation at the end. I lost three of my four cats last year in four months..like you the thought of letting them go forever, without having part of them with me was something I couldnt let happen. Keeping them any way I could, was better than not at all...So they were cremated, one by one through arrangements my vet's office made. I had a choice of urns, they were tasteful and I havent seen anything then or since that suited me better. They came with a beautiful little ribbon, with a heart attached you could (if you wanted) have their names put on. They also came with a 'complimentary' plaster cast of their pawprints. I wanted a lock of fur from each, and I have bought a beautiful little trinket box, and I keep the locks, a picture of each, and three crystal hearts to remind me that they are always inside mine and that no one can ever take them away from me again..my little tribute to the many years of love and loyalty they gave me..it has given me comfort in time gone by, that I have them 'with me'.
I have them in a special place..where I can see them everyday..my plan is when my own time comes, I've made arrangements to take them with me..in whatever way I choose to handle that.
I went through a very bad time after that, I came close to feeling that life wasnt worthwhile for a period, nothing mattered, I couldnt even vocalize about them without losing control..but in time, and with the addition of Teddy and Coco..they became wonderful memories and and mine forever.
Make sure you think long and hard about what you can 'live' with..in these circumstances that you werent prepared for..you cannot un do them.
It's so difficult to think straight when you're grief stricken..but this is a forever decision..go with your heart.
Again my sincere sympathy..as difficult as it is..you made the best decision for Fister, in ending his pain, try not to second guess yourself..I felt that guilt as well, I know in my heart I had to do it, and questioned myself thousands of ways and times, but it doesnt help your healing.
Tess
Tess, I really appreciate what you have said in your posts. I will definitely think of that! It's getting late here and I'm exhausted, but hope we can talk more another day. :)
I'm so sorry for your losses. :(
And thank you, too, Kirsten!
Thank you Randi.Quote:
Originally Posted by Randi
Take care and Fister would want you to take good care of yourself, always.
Randi,
I have not visited this site in several years, and only today decided that I would change that. I am sorry that my first post is about this, but I remember you and Fister from my earlier days here (2001/ 2002) and wanted to offer my condolences too. Fister was a handsome boy and as lucky as you were to have him by your side, he was also lucky to have you!
Stay strong
I'm so sorry, Randi. :( I know how deeply such a loss hurts; I still think of K'Cee everyday and miss her dearly. My thoughts are with you and I pray your tears soon turn to smiles when you remember Fister. I bet he and Pjevs (I was always so fond of him, too!) are getting reacquainted while Phred and Jonza chat nearby.
I just saw this and my heart sank. I am so sorry. My heart and prayers go out to you. ((Hugs))
I really like that thought! :love:Quote:
Originally Posted by zippy-kat
And I know that My Michael Angel is there with a Huge Orange Angel contingent to welcome Fister to Our Awesome Animal Angels Army now touring the Czech Republic.They are dining in a castle tonight.
Fister is one of the most beloved Cats on Pet Talk and it is an honor to have known him.
He has his wings of silver and gold now and is starting his search for just the right place for his beloved Meeowmie and he to be together again in love.
One Fine Day:love:
I am very rarely on the cat side, but Randi, I truely am sorry for your loss of Fister. He was gorgeous and always one of my kitty favorite here. Rest in peace, handsome:love:
Randi I had a reply from the hospital. Can you PM me your real name as they need it to just make sure.
I'm so sorry I couldn't reply sooner! I couldn't log in on PT because I forgot my password and random question....
Thanks to Karen, I'm back now!
Dearest Randi, my tears were running fast when I saw the title of this topic....!
I've met Fister in purrson during our stay in Kopenhagen some years ago; I remember him as a beautiful and sweet cat, a bit shy, but oh so proud of "his" garden!!
He even let me pet him there, and yes, he stole my heart in a nick of time!!!
I feel so sorry you had to make this hard decision, but believe me, you did the best you could do for your sweetheart Fister!!
It must be hard too because Fister was also John's darling!! John was able to make the best stories about and with his dear cat; I was always looking forward to more stories...!
Take care my dear friend, I am thinking a lot about you now, and I send you tons of hugs (and my cats send lots of licks!!)
Rest in peace dear mister Fister!!!!!:love:
Thank you! I appreciate you care. :love:
It feels so empty here without my sweet handsome boy, but I've got to believe that Fister is with John now, and catching up with his other friends at the RB.
I'm so sorry about your precious Fister. It's never easy to provide that last kindness, but he's now without pain and making the rounds at the RB.:love:
Hello everyone:
Randi has already paid the bill for Fister. However, the hospital will refund her any donations that are made to them :love:.
They do not have PayPal and I don't know what form of payment they can accept. Perhaps money orders are ok, paid in a certain currency. Randi, does Denmark use the Euro?
Please PM me if you want to help and I will message you the information ASAP. (I'll post it here also).
Godspeed, sweet Fister.......
Thank you! I appreciate very much that some of you want to help with Fister's bill. :love:Sasvermont has offered to do the transaction, so any contributions should be transferred to her Paypal account and she will send it on. You can PM her for more info.
I have not heard from the hospital yet, they said they would ring me when I can come and get Fister back. I so miss him and I believe it will be a comfort to have him near me. I have got a wooden urn for him.
This is how I like to remember my two boys....
http://PetoftheDay.com/talk/attachme...7&d=1360315847
I will get in touch with Sasvermont. Thanks for the info, Randi.
What a sweet picture of your two beloved boys! Such wonderful, precious memories you must have.
Peace and comfort to you, dear Randi.
Love from Pat and cats :love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love:
What a beautiful picture! Randi, I hope you are doing OK. I just sent a message to Sasvermont, to get the information to help with Fister's vet bill. You are in my prayers dear lady.Quote:
Originally Posted by Randi
Oh dear. I'm so sorry to come here and read your sad news. Fister was a beautiful kitty and I really enjoyed hearing about him and his adventures. Hopefully they will bring you comfort and smiles as the days go by. Remember those wonderful times that you had together and the love that you shared. So very sad for your loss.
I just now saw this thread. I am so sorry for your loss; it is never easy. No doubt you loved Fister very much and he loved you back. Try not to second guess your decision to stop his discomfort. I'm not a medical person but I read this entire thread and saw his lab results. Even though the results were not in English, I could identify many of them and see how high and low many were. You did the right thing--the hard thing but it was right for Fister.
I had to make the decision in August 2012 to have my Luke cat put to sleep. I feel that I waited too long because I didnt want to let him go. Perhaps most of us second guess ourselves. I do understand your heartbreak and your missing him. My condolences to you.
Thank you! I suppose most of us will doubt if it was the right time to say goodbye, but hearing what the two different vets said, and my neighbor who is an almost a fully trained nurse, it seems it seems it was the right time, no matter how hard it was. :( If there are any of the numbers on the sheet you want me to translate, just say so.Quote:
Originally Posted by kaycountrygal
I'm sorry for your loss of Luke, and for your Sylvester the First, Sindy. I know now how hard it is. :(
Only the last two days, Fister didn't come up in my bed at night, but I put him during the day and we cuddled. I served him various treats while he was under the cupboard, and he stuck his head out to let me brush him a bit, also. :)
It's good to know that so many loved him and we can all go back and read the stories and see the pictures.
I have a video clip of Fister from the week before, but I can't seem to post it here.
oh Randi i am so very sorry, this brought tears to my eyes just reading about your love and devotion for fister,i know how heartbreaking it is , and nothing can make you feel better, but please know we are all with you in spirit and send our love and hugs at this very sad and difficult time,i am thinking of you,HUGS.RIP dear sweet Fister, ellie and ash are there to greet you sweet furbaby.:love::love:
My heart goes out to you. I've experienced that trip to the vet. With me, it was unexpected. Whether unexpected or not, it is never easy. You are feeling so much sorrow now. Go ahead and grieve. The sorrow lessens as time goes on but your love for Fister will never cease. Fister knows you did what you could and he loved you as you loved him.
Randi, I am so sorry that I didn't see this thread until now, I haven't had much free time to post on Pet Talk lately.
I'm so sorry to hear that your sweet orangie boy Fister has gone to the Rainbow Bridge.:(
I know he had a long and wonderful life with you, I always enjoyed seeing photos of him and hearing stories about him.
Sending hugs your way.:love:
I am just seeing this because unfortunately I had to come to cat memorial for my potter.
I am very sorry I know how much you loved fister. I can tell you that you made the right decision. I went through the same thing with gigi and because of that for months I doubted myself so decided to let potter spend his last time at home, I regret that now as I believe it is more humane to help them pass before they suffer.