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Oh, but Staci, we aren't as interested in collecting all your personal data and preferences for our own financial gain like Facebook is! I rarely "like" anything on Facebook, as the less anonymous entities know about me, the better!Quote:
Originally Posted by shais_mom
Ya want the TRUCKS, too ?Quote:
Originally Posted by captain
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:confused::confused: ok.:confused::confused:Quote:
Originally Posted by Karen
I belong to another forum that is vbulletin based and while they don't have like or dislike they have an option to "THANK" the previous poster for their post. I kind of like that too.
That's a good idea......:DQuote:
Originally Posted by shais_mom
Couldn't agree more...printing it out and taking it to him has got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.Quote:
Originally Posted by pomtzu
Consider the source...........:eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by caseysmom
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Originally Posted by caseysmom
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Originally Posted by pomtzu
My feelings exactly. Why in the world would anyone want to print out something as cruel as that and start a war in the neighbourhood. Now that would be asking for big trouble IMO . I agree, if the guy is trying to turn his life around this would certainly be counter productive.
Leave it alone but do keep your eyes open and be careful at all times , if he causes no trouble then you should be fine. Learn a few karate chops in case he does decide to pull a fast one :D
I have to agree with Pomtzu leave well enough alone. The guy has to live with what he has done & sometimes people learn the hard way & turn their life around. Lets hope he is doing just that. I would still be cautious make sure you lock your doors, & windows, put in an alarm system if you can afford one ( I don't know what something like that would cost?) Make sure you have a contact tact person (someone you can call & they can be there for you if you need help) in case something would happen. Get to know your other neighbors too. Just be careful & play it safe. ;)
One of her cousins and her husband and kids lives like a mile away from her new house. That would be her closest contact person nearby.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bonny
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Originally Posted by caseysmom
WHAT on EARTH would that accomplish? Do you honestly think if he had ill intentions that your "threat" would SCARE him? and if he DID have ill intentions all that would do is put him on the defensive and likely make him angry.
YEAH great solution.
Leave well enough alone. He seems to be trying to keep his distance as far as no hand shaking and backing away from the door before you answer etc etc. He obviously thinks that you are already aware and he's on probation so it seems he's trying very hard to keep himself out of situations that could be misunderstood
As long as he leaves you alone then I would leave him alone. no need to start a war over it.
you know I always found it kind of funny that ANY thing classified as a sex crime is broadcast for the rest of your life but if you murder someone and don't get life in prison... no one KNOWS except your victims when you get out.
burglars.... robbery... assault (non sexual)... etc etc you aren't put on a list for everyone to know (as far as I know). only if you commit a sex crime. when all those people could do worse to you.
anyway... just leave him be unless he starts acting inappropriately but don't do what marigold suggested. that is the WORST thing you could do especially as a single female living alone.
Either a $100,000 video for America's Funniest. (stupid women gets pwned by reality)Quote:
Originally Posted by sparks19
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A rather unnecessary obituary.
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When confronted by a bear, the last thing one should do is poke it, unless you are prepared to kill the bear.
I don't like those lists. I don't like the mandatory classification or sentancing that goes along with it for some of the reasons listed already. I didn't read the conviction sheet, and even if I did, I doubt I would be able to positively comment on the charge and facts without reading MI's criminal code.
I think people should be smart, period. I would't invite an unknown male into my home, and probably wouldn't invite in unknown female into my home. I am talking about uninvited unknowns. If I called the roofer to give me a quote, that is different. I also wouldn't have children of parents that I didn't know into my home, either.
Our criminal justice system is set up so that once you have served your time, your debt to society is over. You are to have been rehabilitated. A second chance, a fresh start- whatever it is called. People that get these labels for the rest of their lives are subject to double jeopardy, in a way. They can't get a job, they are limited in where they live, the stigma follows them like no other crime. Heck, a murderer (not sexual) gets a fresher start than a sexual 'predator', someone that "raped" his girlfriend or wife.
I am in no way condoning ANY crime, and of course have a particular hate of crimes against children, women and animals. When you consider that most sexual predators or sexal crimes are those in which the victim and the accused shared a close relationship prior to the crime, I think random 'drive by' molestations are rare.
None of this means don't be smart. But, I would go about your business the same way you would with any 'stranger'.
I agree 100% with those of you who think that printing out any information and waving it in his face is a horrible idea.... it is! That will solve absolutely nothing. It will only make Kimmy look like the 'bad guy' who is stirring the pot in her neighborhood, and nothing short of that.
Staci, how funny that you mentioned about having a "like" button here in PT!! I was actually thinking that just yesterday, and then started looking for it.:rolleyes::p Noo, I don't spend much time on Facebook, now why would you think that?!:p
I deleted my comment on this thread. Yes I had a different opinion then most people here. However I based that on life experience as most of us do. We react to things that impact our lives and that is exactly what I did. I don't feel there was a need for people to ridicule me or my opinion a simple "I don't agree" would have been enough.
I was also informed that people on my ignore list made snarky comments
:rolleyes: that is why they are on my list and I do not comment on their threads or when I see them posting. I just go do other things. I had hoped it would be the same instead they seem to enjoy stiring the pot. Sad!
It would be nice to voice different opinons here but I find that becoming more and more difficult and it saddens me,
If you have informers, then why not just take "whoever" off ignore, and read it first hand??? :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally Posted by Marigold2
And if you don't "comment on their threads" or "when you see them posting", then they must not really be on ignore anyway, since you wouldn't be able to "see" them if they were. Gotcha.....:D
I don't have anyone on ignore, in spite of the fact that I was told by a certain member in a PM, to put her on ignore, at which time I responded back that I don't take orders from the likes of her. :mad:
Have a wonderful day..........
ETA - right back at ya' with:
And a simple "I deleted my comment on this thread", would have been enough. The rest was just stirring the pot. Sad.
Marigold...for ramanth to have a sheet of the offender's record and shaking it in his face would have stirred up sh** that was stirred up and settled long ago, in court. He is not alone, there is an older man there (his dad?).
Given his backing away from her etc, he is very aware of what to do and not to do...and he has the GPS bracelet. I think that's enough.
When the advice would put a dear pettalk friend in danger I will speak up...end of story.
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Originally Posted by Marigold2
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*Imagine* That, would ya?
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Just to say, you can still see if someone has posted when they are on ignore, you just can't see what they said... if you look on a thread they posted on, it will have the name of the poster and then a message underneath which says something like 'this person is on ignore' (and blocks out what they said).. I can't remember exactly what it says but you get the point. I think what Monica is getting at is if she saw a thread was started by someone she has on ignore, she wouldn't reply to it- and you CAN see the thread titles and who they are by etc even with the person on ignore.Quote:
Originally Posted by pomtzu
Whisk - I know that, but it wasn't my interpretation of what was written. Perhaps I was mistaken. :(
Pom- you weren't mistaken. It was one of those, "oops" moments by Marigold.
I can't imagine having some snitch (though I can guess who it is, LOL) tell me what someone I am supposedly on "ignore" with said. Talk about stirring the pot!
And, strangely enough, I, too, had someone demand I put them on ignore, and they would do the same. Think it was the same person?????
Ditto...think I listened to the demand:pQuote:
Originally Posted by Cataholic
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Originally Posted by Cataholic
Gee, I thought I was the only one who got the same demand to put them on ignore..I wonder who that leaves with permission to post. :eek: My response was much the same as Pom's. Thought maybe someone had appointed a new mayor to the forum with such a demand ;)
I hope no one felt offended when they learned they weren't the only one!!
I am not sure if you are refering to me as the snitch seeming I have tried to back up Monica a few times in previous threads, or the person who told you to put them on ignore or something (I don't really know what you are all talking about at the moment to be honest), but I thought I would just make sure I was not being accused of this because I had nothing to do with it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cataholic
WL, I am accusing you of nothing.
On a post where the person is on Ignore, there is a "view post" added so you can see the actual post without taking the person off Ignore.
off the rabbit track and back to the topic at hand....
I would just be normally cautious as you normally would with strangers, and don't encourage or initiate conversation if you get a 'creepy' feeling around the neighbors.
I live right across the street from a guy that's on one of those sex offender lists. I forget what the actual sentence is but it doesn't really affect me. He's rarely out and about when I am, and when he does happen by his conversations are fairly brief and he's on his way. Heck my hubby even sold a gun to him at one of our garage sales. :p We've been here almost 12 years. As long as he minds his own business, I'll do the same. There's another one down the road a bit but I've never met him so he's never been a problem or fear either.
If you feel uncomfortable with it, speak to your realator about disclosure about it. If that gets nowhere and you wish to pursue it you might make a consultation appt. with a lawyer to see if it's required by law to disclose that before a home sale.
after reading all the replies I have to sit down now b/c i'm dizzy.
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Phred
I had the SAME THOUGHT!
In all truthfulness - I was being facetious...:eek::pQuote:
Originally Posted by Cataholic
In all truthfulness, I nude that. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by pomtzu
I'm back from vacation and catching up.
Deep breathes everyone. :D
I'm not knocking on my neighbors door waving a flyer in his face. Not gonna happen. I am not about to stir s@%$. :)
When I got to the campground my dad asked me at dinner if I was gonna let the neighbor mow my lawn again. I replied, "About that..." and brought them up to speed.
Seeing as dad has met the guy (albiet briefly), he feels the guy is just trying to be neighborly but sides with me if I don't want the guy coming around anymore. Which I don't. More so because the guy is not insured or bonded to do yardwork and if he hurts himself on my property I could get screwed royally.
Mom suggested I have my cousin (Police Officer) stop by to visit me and see the house. Perhaps seeing a guy in uniform will keep the neighbor at bay.
I stopped by the house twice (once before vacation and today) and there were no veggies to be seen.
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Originally Posted by ramanth
I'm normally a skeptic about people I don't know, however in this case it's possible your neighbor is using someone else's garden to plant the veggies in. The only reason I suggest that is one of our few good neighbors wanted to plant some Roma Tomatoes for a few years and couldn't at his place. I offered him a space in our garden. He planted, picked, and tended his own section of the garden so I didn't have to mess with it. You could always ask where his veggies are if you're curious and just see what he says and how he acts about being questioned about it.
Catlady, I know the veggies are from his garden. I can see it in his backyard. He was planting it when my dad and I visited the property prior to buying and I've seen him picking the veggies when I was at the house cleaning. :)
I think she meant that they hadn't left any veggies for her. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Catlady711
kimmie - make sure you cousin comes in his cruiser! when are you moving?
Agreed. It sounds like a great plan to have your cousin come over with the patrol car and hang out in the front yard chit chatting with you (hopefully when the neighbor is home). Then later on if the neighbor asks what the police were doing there, you can just say "Oh, that's my cousin." That alone might make him think twice about trying anything.
Yep, I meant no veggies left for me on the porch while I've been away.
Mom was going to ask if Don would stop by in the cruiser. :) It'll be a few weeks before I move Staci. I want to get most, if not all, of the house painted before I move in.
....and better security around the windows. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by ramanth
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Originally Posted by shais_mom
Yeah I see that now. I guess I misunderstood the sentence. Sorry.:p