Yeah, just get it all over and done with as soon as you can, and then there will be no more games he can play. ;)
Hang in there mate.
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Yeah, just get it all over and done with as soon as you can, and then there will be no more games he can play. ;)
Hang in there mate.
Agree 100% with this :love:Quote:
Originally Posted by Marigold2
QOP,
Sorry you didn't get your stuff. YET...:(
Why do soon-to-be-former mates have to act like such d****bags? I think it's time to sic your lawyer on him again.
I now have a 4 day weekend and nothing but time since I won't be busy emptying a storage locker. I could bring them some cat toys that aren't used by Cali and Diego.Quote:
Originally Posted by Catty1
He just isn't ready to let go and move on is he? That is so childish. What a 1st class jerk!
If we lived close by I would come over and give you a hug. And a dinner, liquid to start. Something fresh and fruity with an umbrella.
That sounds good. Not sure about the umbrella tho, they always get stuck halfway down my throat no matter how much I chew them. :pQuote:
Originally Posted by Marigold2
Thank you Marigold. Sure could use that hug. And all this stress is really cutting into my eating. I get stressed I don't eat.
Wom, thanks for the laugh. Think I needed that more than anything. You're fabulous!
Thank you to all my friends here for your support.
Waiting to see now if I get the key Tuesday. As it's now mentioned in a Court Order I assume there will be problems if he does not provide it that are beyond just upsetting me and my lawyer.
You have to eat! Treat yourself to something yummy, okay? It's a new month, and things will start turning around for you, I just feel it!
And remember, you've been electronically adopted by the Peterson clan, so you can always count of me or Lady's Human - or even Jenn, Lady's Other Human, for a shoulder and a good strong hug. Jenn married in, but I'm sure she's capable of giving a Peterson-quality hug by now!
Thanks Karen. I did have a piece of no gluten chocolate spelt cake when I met Candace earlier today! It was very yummy.
And thank you to all of you being my adoptive family. Think I could coax Lady over to the couch with a dog cookie?
Coax Lady over to the couch? She's bribed easily. A cookie and a good scritch and you have a dog shawl. I take no responsibility for the black fuzz on your shirt, however.
Head on down to Thursday's, and she'd be yours for the promise of a belly rub - the cookie will just get her there faster!Quote:
Originally Posted by Queen of Poop
I hope you get the key tomorrow. My thoughts are with you.
Melissa
I am wondering if there will be a passing of the key tomorrow. I'm anticipating not and wondering what happens if that is the case.
THIS will happen!
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Or everything will go to trial and EVERYONE will hear what is in your affadavit. ;)
Got the key. 45 minutes before the noon deadline. Of course it is located out of town, in Okotoks. Not that far really, but enough to be very inconvenient for me. I have to have it emptied by month end.
I won't be getting my inch thick wooden cutting board - apparently it was broken in an accident?????
I also won't be getting the portrait of Sasha and I, reason given, he spent $2000 on those photos so I can't automatically have the one of me and my girl. Idiot! Hopefully my lawyer can demand this be mine. What does he need it for? I figure it's been destroyed.
So glad you at least got the key! Document everything, take pictures, etc. Any way you can contact the photographer and get a copy of the picture, even just an electronic copy?
How do you accidentally break an inch thick cutting board?
I'm so glad you got the key!!!
I hope all your stuff isn't broken but packed with some care. I hope you get the photo of you and Sasha.
Take care,
Melissa
Good luck with the stuff in the storage locker, Gayle. Shame the cutting board didnt fall from a great height on to his thick head!!:p
I'm sure a thick plank could be found and something could be arranged. ;):DQuote:
Shame the cutting board didnt fall from a great height on to his thick head!!
I will let you all know the condition of the rest of my things after I've seen them. Planning carefully so I don't fall into an ambush of any sort. Of course, will have camera in hand to detail what is found.
You have people going with you, I hope. Like - a police escort?
Prayers going out!
I would NOT go alone! You will probably need witnesses as to how you found things and how you left things when you are done. Do you know any policemen that could go with you off duty? You need to COVER YOUR BUTT! Take pictures of your car/truck when it is loaded to prove what you took as well as making a list of every item. Take a picture of the storage unit as when you are ready to leave to show what you left.... BUT you will need witnesses that the pictures are accurate!
I'd take as many witness's as I could every time I go.
I hope at least this phase, the opening of the storage unit, is less painful than going to the lake house, insofar as contents go anyway.....so very sad.....
Get a police officer to either go with you or meet you there. Not an off duty one. It's their job. Make sure someone else is with you as well. I know of several women who had the police meet them at their former residences whent they went to pick up their stuff, even if their former spouse was not supposed to be there. In a couple of cases, the person WAS still there and the police got them to vacate the premises. Call ahead of time and set something up. Get a friend or two to go with you each time you go. If you were here in Florida I would meet you there! Don't let him play games with you and don't think that he won't do something stupid or dangerous.
My former husband is considered a "mild mannered, likable man" by most people that know him, but when we were breaking up I made the mistake of getting in the car with him. He began driving recklessly and dangerously to frighten me saying that he didn't care if he lived or died. Thankfully we were close to our destination so I jumped out at the next light and walked the rest of the way. Be careful.
Gayle - what does he hope to accomplish by being an ass about everything? Does he think you'll back down and play dead? Why would he even want your things - other than to say he can do what he pleases and is more powerful than you. Is it an ego and power trip for him??? I just don't "get" guys like this! :eek: If he wants to be rid of you so damn bad, you'd think he would want you to get your things and get out of his life. Sounds like he still wants you under his thumb and to control you. Geeze.........
so sorry you are going through this. Hopefully your stuff is ok but if your ex is anything like mine then it could be wishful thinking.
I have been known to break them over my head :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Lady's Human
Your ex sounds like a first class jerk.
Your last words are absolutely right on the money, sadly.Quote:
Originally Posted by pomtzu
So my friend Anne and I went and found the place. Tried the code I was provided, no luck. Will call tomorrow and find out what the heck!! Anne is unavailable tomorrow as its her bday, so unless I can find someone else (unlikely) I will go again on Friday with Anne when she is available. So more waiting.
My take on this, is that he wants punish and hurt Gayle.Quote:
Originally Posted by pomtzu
Some guys are like that....if they can't have what they want, then they lay waste to it.
I hope you get your results come Friday, it's gone on long enough. I'm sorry he's making it so difficult for you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Queen of Poop
Thinking of you.
Wait, I'm confused. He said he wants to "be rid of you.." but he keeps playing this bullcrap game? Ugh. I don't think he gets that he is screwing himself over royally by being a jerk and playing these games with you and your things. Can he actually get in trouble for lying to you about these things or lying about the code. I just don't get what his problem is.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v7..._7624382_n.jpg
"Here, I gives you your stuff"
YAY!!!! i am glad that you are getting your stuff, and i am glad that you are not going alone. In my opinion hes a control freak and since he cant have you as his wife, hes trying other ways to control you, but kudos to you for standing up for yourself and saying enough! :) Good luck. Keep us posted.
That man is one sick puppy. This is almost over for you, Gayle - and you will come out just fine!:love::love:
I saw my stuff. I saw my stuff!!!!!!!!!!!!
Looks kind of like he went thru the house room by room and piled up all my stuff in storage. But I suspect that it was only done RECENTLY. As my 5 house plants were in storage, placed very near the back. I had to climb over stuff to get to them, but they're in my place now, they've had a much needed drink and I hope they recover.
Tomorrow Anne and I will try to organize it all and soon I will hire movers to move it into my storage locker where he will no longer have access.
I did also bring home with me the stuffed dog I had made at Build A Bear that is a Border Collie I had named Sasha. Amazing how something so small can make you feel so good.
Thanks Mikey! You are such an adorable dogger!!! KISSES for you!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Alysser
His kind likes to be in control. I was intimidated for years into doing what he wanted. I'm not doing that any more, I wasn't brainwashed enough I guess, so this was basically the last bit of control he had over me, my stuff. That's gone now. So really, there should be nothing else he can do to hurt me ever again. He's a horrible person and I don't wish him on anyone.
But it's over now!! It's all over now. Well, almost. On October 12 we will be officially divorced. The settlement agreement is mostly in place. The light at the end of the tunnel is getting closer and I'm pretty sure it's not a train any more!