What is the rudest question...

:p Only you would come up with that Richard..

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Originally Posted by RICHARD

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LOL,
The gal I was dating asked me (Remember, I am half Mexican...) "What do you eat on Thanksgiving"?

I kept a straight face and told her, "Tacos, burritos, rice and beans".

She had a stunned look on her face and I laughed like a drunken idiot and told her, "what do YOU think?"


I am still laughing.:):D

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It was 1970 and I had spent the last 5 years working for NASA or NASA contractors. I decided to get out of the Aerospace world that seemed to revolve around musical jobs to work for who ever had the contact for astronics support. I was always employed but it required changing companies to stay with the contract. I wanted a little more stability.

I had received a job with Reliance Electric out of Euclid Ohio. I was going through a 6 month training program there in Euclid. One evening I was in a local establishment having a drink and was talking to a local. From his response to my answer to his question I have to assume his world was only as big as his TV set.

He ask me where I was from, maybe because of my accent or maybe he was just curious. When I responded "Alabama" he said, "Reliance must really be getting hard up to start hiring people out of the south." I was so dumfounded by his little world response I was speechless.

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Originally Posted by RICHARD

I mean, do they ask people "Don't you have enough kids?" to the people who have a baseball team in tow?:rolleyes::eek:

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Maybe more like, "How can you live in a house with all those kids?" rather than dogs, cats or birds!!!! :rolleyes: :D

MY kids go to sleep when it gets dark and are quiet all night!
MY kids get put in a cage with a door for a time-out when they misbehave!
MY kids don't beg me for things whenever I go into a store.
MY kids love me unconditionally no matter what I look like, how much money I have or what kind of car I drive and do not expect to be driven by limosine to the school prom.

OK - 'nough said.

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Originally Posted by pomtzu

And I'll bet it's not the obvious!

I say fingernails.....:D

I know what you're thinking Mary - but I couldn't resist!

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LOL, you and RICHARD should team up. ;)

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Originally Posted by K9karen

When I was in my teens, I was climbing steps from the train to the street, and two handsome, white collar guys (you never know) asked me how long it took me to learn how to get my big fat ass moving up the steps.

Wha? 30+ years later, 30 pounds lighter, I'm still haunted. I can see it as if it was yesterday.

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Bad enough to say that anyhow but to a teenage girl yet? Deplorable! In my fantasy, you roundhoused both of them and down those steps they went.

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Originally Posted by Medusa

Bad enough to say that anyhow but to a teenage girl yet? Deplorable! In my fantasy, you roundhoused both of them and down those steps they went.

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Don't worry - they got theirs! No one can be so mean without getting a kick in the karma

The rudest question I've been asked and am still asked is -
Why are you at the doctor's so often-do you live there?

I cannot believe some of these questions people got asked, I really don't get how people can be so rude. :( Karen, I cannot believe anyone said that too you and to everyone else - the nerve..honestly. :rolleyes:

I remembered one from when I was in elementary school, I do not understand how I could forget something like this. This kid that sat across from me was always being a busy body with everyone. One day I did a little paragraph about how my brother was in Iraq at the time. I went back to my table after reading it and the dumb kid asked me flat out "Did he die?". Fine I know he was young - we all were though, I would have NEVER asked such a stupid question. He said it in such a mocking voice to. If he had died - WHICH he did not I would have said so, wouldn't I, genius? Secondly, that's not something you ask someone. :rolleyes: What an idiot.

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Originally Posted by AdoreMyDogs

.....When I was a young girl, I was about 12 .....sensetive, and this one perticular friend of my aunt was a horrible man. ...and this friend of my aunts said,....you're fat enough". It took a few seconds to comprehend what he said (no grown-up had ever used those ugly words with me before) and then I ran out of the house crying. I'm still traumatized by that. How could anyone be so ugly, especially to a sweet child?

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please oh please tell me your aunt threw him out of her house and her life. what a miserable waste of skin fro an adult to try to hurt a child. i am so sorry,

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Originally Posted by anna_66

It's got to be "Why are you so upset? It's just a dog" when Angus died.

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yeah, a few people said that to me too..:(

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Originally Posted by joycenalex

please oh please tell me your aunt threw him out of her house and her life. what a miserable waste of skin fro an adult to try to hurt a child. i am so sorry,

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My aunt is an amazing woman, she was as shocked as I was, and just as hurt by the man who said that to me. I missed her words to him because I ran outside and my mom ran out with me, but she kicked him out of her house and she has never spoken with him since.

He was at least 25 years older then me. There was no excuse for his words and I will never forget it. I wish people would be more careful when they speak to other people, especially children. I hope no one ever talks to my children like that.

Thanks. Yeah it still hurts. Words are weapons for sure.

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Originally Posted by Whisk_Luva

I've always thought that Quinn looks a lot like you..... he obviously has no idea what he is talking about....

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Thanks sweety :) Yeah she does resemble me quite a bit. She's a nice mix, looks like daddy and looks like me. My son looks more like me then he looks like daddy.

"How much did it cost?" or "Was it expensive?" from total strangers asking about our daughter's adoption. And not a question, but when they see our family with one Asian daughter, and 2 Caucasian children, we get a lot of "Oh, you adopted and then you got pregnant. That happens all the time!" Um, no, lots of people adopt and never have biological children.

Thanks, girls, for your compassionate responses. You know, some stupid, nitwit comments I shrug off, or at the most, fester for a short time. (too shocked to reply, then later wishing I had said something witty)

I was never skinny. I wore "mini skirts", but not as mini as some of my long legged friends. Yes, I carried weigh from the hips down no matter what I did. But the comments by those guys remained with me. I'm sure other people heard them. I was mortified and it ruined me for a long time, wondering what people aren't saying to my face.

I was so obssessed with my body around that time, I had 3 liposuctions, lost 30 pounds, excercise etc. I needed to rebuilt..rather FIND self esteem. Still working on it.

Anyway, Yes, I believe in karma too.

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Three questions immidiately come up here:

We have 2 adopted children now. after trying to get kids for at least 5 years, we've got the most rude questions on this matter!! Here are the worst 3:

1)Who's fault is it??
2)You need a picture??
3)Shall I show you how to do it??

The first one was asked by a psychologist who was interviewing us for the adoption procedure. I answered that this was none of his business, and that was a very unappropiate thing to ask!!

The 2nd & 3rd was asked by a "friend" to my hubby!! That person is NOT welcome here anymore!!!

I was asked why i have 5 cats & then the creep said to get rid of them. I told him to get rid of himself. Rude people exist everywhere. Oh...i was also asked why i never married & then the rude person asked "are you gay" ? Im not gay but its no ones beeswax what i do with my life.

I thought of 2 more. A long time ago there was this man that lived down the hall from me and we'd usually leave for work at the same time. He'd say hello as he passed me and I'd say hello back. One day he asked me "Do you work?". I told him yes and I thought that was strange. He made a comment that I didn't look like I was dressed for work. At my work I don't need to be dressed up. I can wear jeans and tennis shoes. I work in a dental lab and it's very dusty and dirty there. I guess he just assumes that everyone should dress professionaly if they work. I'm glad that he doesn't live in my building any more.

Another question I get a lot is "How many cats do you have?" When I tell them 5 many people are shocked and they probably think that I'm a crazy cat lady. One co-worker even said that my place probably smells because I have so many cats. I blew it off because she's rude to everyone at work.

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Originally Posted by krazyaboutkatz

Another question I get a lot is "How many cats do you have?" When I tell them 5 many people are shocked and they probably think that I'm a crazy cat lady.

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I rather enjoy the shock of telling folks that I share my home with 11 birds. . .although it is often followed by the question "Do you have any children?" and when I say no, I either get the question I posted before or a knowing smile. . .whatever. . .

I occasionally get someone who says, "I had a bird for a while but it [fill in the blank with] was too messy, was too noisy, was too much work, not nice and bit, didn't match the carpet, etc. I gave it away (or let it go :mad:). How do you deal with so many birds?'

To this I can answer, "My birds are "throw aways" and they are delightful creatures whose lives I saved from folks like you who did not stop to think before your brought another living creature into your home. I love each and every one of them and would never give any of them up." After which they do not question again and sometimes do not talk to me again. . . :D

Guess the truth hurts. . .

:o I just remembered two Very Rude Questions..

(1) Was from a Vet Clinic that I was thinking about using.. I was to have my Calitt spayed at 6 months so I ask the Desk Clerk about the place & ect for my baby to be spayed.. The Clerk ask Why Was I so Concerned Since I Just Had A Cat?? Oh I was so Mad :mad: && Stormed out of the place..

(2) Was from a Ex Vet.. When I adopted my Autumn which she is one eyed.. My Ex Vet Ask Why did I want to Adopt a Syclop (a one eyed monster)?? Again I was so Mad & just Beside myself.. Again he is my ExVet..

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Originally Posted by Laura's Babies

The perfect answer for that "why are you still single?"

WHY get married and make only one man happy.........?

I'd rather be single and make them ALL happy!


(that was my answer when I was young and out in the singles scene and it shut them up fast!)

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hahaha that's funny :p

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Originally Posted by Catherinedana

Maybe more like, "How can you live in a house with all those kids?" rather than dogs, cats or birds!!!! :rolleyes: :D

MY kids go to sleep when it gets dark and are quiet all night!
MY kids get put in a cage with a door for a time-out when they misbehave!
MY kids don't beg me for things whenever I go into a store.
MY kids love me unconditionally no matter what I look like, how much money I have or what kind of car I drive and do not expect to be driven by limosine to the school prom.

OK - 'nough said.

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Not trying to start a fight, really ... but I have to say I was a little surprised and disappointed by this post. This is a thread about the rude and hurtful things others have said to us, and IMO, this post is both of those things.

It is indeed rude and hurtful when someone says derogatory things about our dogs, cats, birds, etc. I can empathise with pet owners who do not have children, having to field rude questions about things that are none of their business. However, is it not exactly the same thing to ridicule and put down people who have children simply because you chose not to have them?

I don't own birds or cats, but I am interested in others' birds and cats, and happy for them because they have something they love. I wouldn't criticize you, or tell you all the reasons my dogs/children/snakes are better than your cats/rabbits/birds. Respect and empathy is a two-way street.

Just seems to be a case of the pot calling the kettle black. "It's rude when people say derogartory things about my birds/dogs/cats, but I feel no qualms about saying derogatory things about their children." :(

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Originally Posted by AdoreMyDogs

I've been asked the same question twice by this jerk in the mall here. It's one of those center kiosk (sp) things and the sales people are trying to sell their product. In this case it was these neck warmer wrap things. Anyway, I'm walking becide Quinn, and, not to toot my own horn or anything, but she's a stunning child. He looks at her, then looks at me, and then at her and gasps and says, "Oh my goodness, is she YOURS?" When I reply, "yes", he says (after looking at me then back at her, "WOW, she's gorgeous!". Yes I am aware she's a gorgeous child but Mister, I'm not a total hag. It's really insulting. That same man has said that same thing to me twice. I avoid that whole kiosk now. She is a pretty child, and I know I'm not a supermodel or anything, but I'm not a total hag and I am capable of producing a pretty child. GRRRR. It's so insulting. They way he says it, he's obviously surprised that such a pretty child is the product of me. I can't tell exactlly where he's from, but he has a strong accent (maybe Italian), so maybe in the country he's from, it's OK to be so rude.

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I had a very embarrassing moment around that exact phrase. At my 15th year college reunion a friend was there with her daughter. Not an extremely close friend; we were in a couple of the same classes, did some group presentations together, that sort of thing. And she was coming toward me with a small child - we greeted one another and she said, "And this is (child's name)." I responded, "Wow! Is she yours?" Meaning, what happened - the last time we saw one another you were single with no intention of ever marrying, and now here you are with a child, and not a baby but a child who is walking and talking and yes, that is a wedding band on your left hand, so I guess the plans to remain single went bye-bye! I spoke before I thought. It was extremely embarrassing. Now I am careful to greet friends' and former classmates' children by saying, "Hello, it is very nice to meet you, (child's name)."

And adoremydogs, I always enjoy seeing pictures of Quinn! :)

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Originally Posted by RICHARD

The gal I was dating asked me (Remember, I am half Mexican...) "What do you eat on Thanksgiving"?

I kept a straight face and told her, "Tacos, burritos, rice and beans".

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RICHARD, what time is Thanksgiving dinner at your house?

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Originally Posted by Twisterdog

Just seems to be a case of the pot calling the kettle black. "It's rude when people say derogartory things about my birds/dogs/cats, but I feel no qualms about saying derogatory things about their children." :(

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You are absolutely right. . .I finally got the chance to vent about all the years of getting questioned about my choice to be childless. Since I did not personally attack you and was responding to a blog by Richard, I would hope that you do not take it personally. I was attempting to make a joke of the issue (although a rather sarcastic one)>

This is a safe place to discuss and I allowed myself to feel safe enough to say what was on my mind, but will watch my words in future.

Cheers!
Cathy

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Originally Posted by cassiesmom

RICHARD, what time is Thanksgiving dinner at your house?

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All, as in all day.;)

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Here's a great 'neutral' answer to a question that some Rude Butthead asks.


Stop the conversation, but a look on your face like you are thinking then say,
"No one has ever asked me that, Let me get back to you with an answer."

Then move on.

You do not owe anyone the time of effort if they insult you like that.

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Originally Posted by RICHARD

All, as in all day.;)

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Here's a great 'neutral' answer to a question that some Rude Butthead asks.


Stop the conversation, but a look on your face like you are thinking then say,
"No one has ever asked me that, Let me get back to you with an answer."

Then move on.

You do not owe anyone the time of effort if they insult you like that.

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Usually, if someone asks me a question that's none of their business, I simply smile. If they then ask "Did you hear me?", I answer "Yes, I heard you. I'm ignoring you".

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Originally Posted by Medusa

Usually, if someone asks me a question that's none of their business, I simply smile. If they then ask "Did you hear me?", I answer "Yes, I heard you. I'm ignoring you".

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LOL,
That reminds me of the answer we used to use growing up.....
"who wants to know?":)

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Originally Posted by RICHARD

LOL,
That reminds me of the answer we used to use growing up.....
"who wants to know?":)

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The one I remember using in my younger day was: "Are you writing a book? If so, leave that chapter out." :p

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Originally Posted by Medusa

"Are those real?" :mad: I'll leave it to your imagination to figure out to what he was referring. :o

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Bahahaha me too, it does not bother me though lol.

I have a bit of a pot guts at the moment so i am waiting for someone to ask when the baby is due :o.

About 2 years ago, I lost a good del of weight. One of my co-workers asked,

"Now that you have lost weight, are you going to have babies?"

Huh?

Over 20 years ago, I liked to wear baggy peasant blouses, because they were cool (I had undiagnosed hyperthyroidism.) This jerk at work asked me more than once if I were pregnant. The 3rd time I told him the next time he harassed me we would have a visit with Human Resources. He shut his face after that.

The other one that sticks in my mind was when Smokey the Elder was diagnosed with cancer. When I shared this someone said, "So you're going to have her put to sleep?" I said, "Um...no. My pets are not disposable items." She apologized for her faux pas.

When hearing that I'm divorced the very first thing people would say is "Did he get married again?" To this day I cannot understand why anyone would ask such an insensitive, rude question! My responses varied between "Why do you ask?" "It's none of your d..n business!" and "He stays out of my personal life and I stay out of his. You need to do the same!" I found the last to be the most effective and started using it exclusively.

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Originally Posted by momcat

When hearing that I'm divorced the very first thing people would say is "Did he get married again?"

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Wow, I cannot imagine asking that question, or even wondering that! You've gotta wonder what goes on in some people's brains!

"Did he get married again?" "Why? Do you want his phone number?" :D

When I split with my first husband, a "friend" (male) from work said to me, "I can't believe that you left him. . .he's such a nice guy! I always liked him so much!"

To which I replied, "Well, he's single now so go get 'em!"

Guess I have a bit of an attitude. . .:rolleyes:

I too got a lot of ignorant statements/questions when my ex and I split:

"Wow - I always thought you were the perfect couple"....
Yup - looks can be deceiving.

"He's one of the nicest guys I've ever met".....
Sure - you didn't have to live with him.

"Who's idea was it to split up".....
At least we agreed on one thing.

"I saw him with another woman - is he going to marry her"....
Why don't you ask him, or her. If the answer is yes, convey your sympathies to the woman.

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Originally Posted by pomtzu

"He's one of the nicest guys I've ever met".....
Sure - you didn't have to live with him.

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AMEN!! He even had my mother fooled. . .but she never saw him staggering around drunk. :(

Yes, I know. . .too much information. . .

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Originally Posted by Catherinedana

Maybe more like, "How can you live in a house with all those kids?" rather than dogs, cats or birds!!!! :rolleyes: :D

MY kids go to sleep when it gets dark and are quiet all night!
MY kids get put in a cage with a door for a time-out when they misbehave!
MY kids don't beg me for things whenever I go into a store.
MY kids love me unconditionally no matter what I look like, how much money I have or what kind of car I drive and do not expect to be driven by limosine to the school prom.

OK - 'nough said.

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Oh I agree with you so much. I can hardly stand being around kids in my family, it's just the way I have always been. I am very uncomfortable around kids and certainly wouldn't want any of my own. I don't want to hurt any mother's feelings here but I am more attached to the four legged kids and always have been.

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Originally Posted by krazyaboutkatz

I thought of 2 more. A long time ago there was this man that lived down the hall from me and we'd usually leave for work at the same time. He'd say hello as he passed me and I'd say hello back. One day he asked me "Do you work?". I told him yes and I thought that was strange. He made a comment that I didn't look like I was dressed for work. At my work I don't need to be dressed up. I can wear jeans and tennis shoes. I work in a dental lab and it's very dusty and dirty there. I guess he just assumes that everyone should dress professionaly if they work. I'm glad that he doesn't live in my building any more.

Another question I get a lot is "How many cats do you have?" When I tell them 5 many people are shocked and they probably think that I'm a crazy cat lady. One co-worker even said that my place probably smells because I have so many cats. I blew it off because she's rude to everyone at work.

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I would've answered, after her saying your place must smell with all those cats...Well you will never find out since you will never be invited over :D

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Originally Posted by Catherinedana

AMEN!! He even had my mother fooled. . .but she never saw him staggering around drunk. :(

Yes, I know. . .too much information. . .

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I know what you're saying - my parents adored their son-in-law. They - like so many others - never saw his "other" side.