I am so sorry to hear that your mother and you are going through so much. More prayers are going out for both of you.
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I am so sorry to hear that your mother and you are going through so much. More prayers are going out for both of you.
Richard, I'm so sorry to hear your mom is ill. :( I hope the treatment she gets will make her better! Parents can be so stubborn when it comes to going to hospital - I know first hand! Four days before John and I came back from a holiday in Spain, her doctor had told her she needed a blood transfusion, but she refused to get it before I was back.
Over that period, my sister wasn't much help, so I know there's a lot to deal with for you. I do hope you can count on your sister!
I don't know what Medical Power of Attorney is, but it's probably a good idea to get it signed.
I'm sending lots of positive thoughts to your mom - and to you. Hang in there, and do what you can!
(((hugs))) .... and headbumpies from Fister.
You and your mom are in my thoughts and prayers. Enjoy this time, you'll remember how close you become...later.
I did this back in 2001 with my dad. No matter how you think you've prepared, everything that hits you during this time is all such a shock. Just dealing with the mountains of paperwork is frightening.
Your Mother sounds exactly like mine was. NO doctors and just forget hospitals and actually, I think she lived longer because of it. If she ever took medicine they gave her to take, she would only take half of what she was suppose to take. Again, I think she was healthier and lived longer because of it!
When Mama was diagnosed with cancer, she flat refused any kind of treatment for it. She was 80 years old and said she would not survive surgery and she knew it. She also refused any treatment. We agreed with her although the doctors wanted us to have her declared incompetent and make her have the surgery. To us it was QUALITY verses quanity and what kind of quality would she have has cut all up in her already fragile shape... she just would not have survived the surgery, she was far to frail.. They told us she would only live a year but they didn't know her! She lived 17 more months and was up and around every single day, including the day she died.
This may sound terriably odd Richard, but some of our best times were while she was dying. I discussed things openly and frankly with her often about her condition, I held nothing back. I even told her when we went and made her "arrangements" and what they were and she was very pleased with what we arranged for her saying she has a great life and was ready to move on. We joked and laughed, kidded each other every day. I cleaned up her messy butt many times and LOVED doing it. To bathe her, I would get in the shower with her and we were like a couple of kids together in the shower, it was SO MUCH FUN! Those are priceless, treasured moments we shared and I do not regret one second of them. We were closer then than ever and created more than a lifetime of memories in those 17 months. I treasure every one of them.
Richard,
I am so sorry to hear about your Mom and understand very well the situation you are in and the emotions you feel. My own mother has Alzheimers and both my husband's parents' days are numbered (Parkinsons and simply old age).
It is an inevitable world we live in and when the time comes for our parents it is so tough. We second guess ourselves and feel emotions we didn't know existed.
Some very good advice I've been given is to spend as much quality time with your Mom while you can. It is heart-wrenching but very necessary - for her and for you. Don't forget to tell her you love her - that's all that really matters :love:
Take care of yourself and know there are many here who care.
Hugs, Betty
richard, i am so sorry to read about your moms' illness. our moms walk so heavy in our lives, that their footfalls echo for years. would your mom like some snail mail cards to open? hugs and hopes for good days, joyce
{quote}The last year has been a real test of who I am. It's been tough, but what doesn't kill you, makes you think you can live forever....I think!?!{end quote}
I know what you mean, Richard. This profound statement you made really hits close to home for me.
I just wanted to send more thoughts and prayers out to you. I'm sorry you're all having to go through this. Your Mom sounds like a great gal. {{{{{RICHARD, MOM, AND, FAMILY}}}}}
I'm sorry your mom is in poor health, Richard. Keeping both of you in my thoughts and Prayers.
Richard, I think us sending cards to her is a wonderful idea (as suggested a few posts up) You said she really enjoyed the Christmas cards. I'd love to make her one. And don't forget Hospice. They were a tremendous help to my friend when her mother was ill.
Everyone's sentiments are making me weepy. I don't know what I'll do if, or when, this time comes for me.
I am so very sorry to hear how ill your mom is. The two of you will be in my prayers.
Richard i am very sorry to read this, i hope PT can bring you some comfort in this worrying time for you, my thoughts are with you, HUGS.
Richard, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom.:( My thoughts and prayers are going out to the both of you. Please take care. (((HUGS)))
Richard, My prayers are with you and your Mother.
Cards would be a nice idea, and I have spoken to Richard. He thinks it best if we send the cards to his home address, so it gives him something to talk about when he brings them to his mom.
Anyone who wants to send her a card, PM me, and I'll send you his mother's name, and Richard's name and address.
Mine as well,Quote:
Originally Posted by jazzcat
Elyse
Richard, I know you are so close to your mother, so this has to be upsetting for you. I hope that she will remain comfortable and that every day will create a cherished memory for you both. Please know that she, and you, will be in our prayers.
Logan
I've been away for a couple days Richard, so sorry to hear this.
Big and gentle hugs to you and mom.
prayers on the way.
I had no idea that you mum was ill Richard. I will be withing you all the very best during this time. I hope that family can all be supportive for her.
Richard, I am sorry to hear about your mother. It is a terrible position to be in. I know you will stay strong, for her, for you, and for Ed.
I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.
I was also going to bring up sending a card. I think that will be a great joy for her, knowing that LOTS of people, who have never even met her, care. :)
I will make a special 3D-card for her:)
Richard, I am very sorry your mother is going through this. I am also sorry that you are the one who has to do most of the things that need to be done for her right now. I will keep both you and her in my prayers.
RICHARD, I'm sorry to hear about your mother's illness. Prayers going out your way that the going gets easier. Hang in there. You know we :love: you.
Just stopping in quickly to offer up more prayers and good thoughts. Richard, you and your family have been on my mind the whole time.
:love:
Richard, I'm so sorry to hear this. I pray for your mom and for strength for you!
Hugs,
Kim
Just wondering how things are going? take care Richard, we are all thinking of you and your mother.:love:
:love: Oh my Richard I just now read this.. So Sorry about your Mother.. I do send lots of Prayers & Huggss to the both of you.. God Bless
My Heart full of prayers and thoughts go out to you and yours.
Cancer hits close to home.
THanks again,
She is doing o.k., under the circumstances and is still very onery and outspoken.;)
THanks for all your prayers, thoughts and wishes.
PT, as always, really rocks.:)
"Doing OK" is good!Quote:
Originally Posted by RICHARD
Not to make lite of your Mom's situation, but MY Mom was often considered to be
"a bit ornery" - and she could certainly be "outspoken"! ;)
Her regular Caregivers learned quickly that when Mom made up her mind about something,
"change" was not an option.
MANY was the time we'd (Cinder, Smokey, and I) escort Mom out to the Overlook at the
FAR end of the Retirement Village complex ... admittedly a bit of a hike
for two Dawgs and a lil ole Lady with a walker ...
If another resident would pass and ask Mom how she was 'enjoying her walk' ...
Her frequent reply was "Oh, my son and the dogs MAKE me come out here
'cause I like it so much."
I always *hoped* the other Inmates understood what she meant.
So get used to it, Richard - being "Ornery and Outspoken" is a right the Moms have earned.
:)
Not sure about your mom, but when my dad is ornery and outspoken, it means he's feeling better, and more like himself, lol!Quote:
Originally Posted by RICHARD
More feel better vibes going out to your mom!
I'm sorry about your Mom. {{Hugs}}:love:
I'm sorry Richard, I just saw this. Lots of prayers on the way for your mom and you and the family. :love:
I am so sorry to hear of your mothers illness......prayers going out to you and your family.....
Thanks again for asking and sending your good thoughts out.
There have been so many things to think and worry about, it's nice to know that you are all out there and sending the good vibes out.
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Give all your loved ones a hug, for no reason at all, and remember that when you really feel down, you could be a lot 'downer'. ;)
Although things can look bad, sometimes a quick glance around will reinforce the idea that things could be worse.
Thanks again!
Here is the card I made for your mom. I hope she likes it:)
http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y144/berlut/card.jpg
Oh, Lut, that's beautiful!
Your card is really beautiful, Lut.
Sending more thoughts and prayers out to you and Mom, Richard.
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Originally Posted by Maya & Inka's mommy
Oh great.......I have a keyboard in my lap and have LES.....are you trying to kill me?;)
What a wonderful design....thanks!
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Good news,
The doc went to see her a few days ago. She's doing a bit better.
ALso, she has agreed to get her affairs in order. Whew!
I wish I could get rid of the BS between the family members....that's another thread....
Thanks!
Sending thoughts to you and your mom as well as the remainder of your family.
((HUGS)) from me and headbumpies from all the kitties.
Glad to hear things are looking up for your mom. :) I hope the progress continues.